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prompted by something bumpkin said...why do ppl start playing so late at clubs, i never understand it. It seems partially to do with drink, sadly, as people seem to need to get pissed to play...but surely that cant be the only reason?
last time i went to a club it opened at 8, but most ppl didnt start arriving till around 9, by 10 the playrooms were still empty...well until i went and say on a bed 
i understand socializing, but so many ppl seem to wait till the end of the night, being pissed and tired when i play doesnt appeal...so any thoughts on why this is so common? |
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over a year ago
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Some people have a long way to travel to clubs,have children to sort out before they go,get themselves ready ect
Then once to get there,time to relax chat and find out if you want to play with people
While drinking may have a part in it I don't think its the only reason
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ppl need dutch courage i guess. Like how they pull in normal club near end of night. Also its case of waiting for someone to go first. And men dont want to get in early for fear of looking desperate. |
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"Some people have a long way to travel to clubs,have children to sort out before they go,get themselves ready ect
Then once to get there,time to relax chat and find out if you want to play with people
While drinking may have a part in it I don't think its the only reason
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i underatnd about the chatting ect...but if you were going out for a normal(god i hate that word lol ) night with friends, say a meal or something u would still have stuff like babysitters ect to sort...
Its the fact that so much play seems to start after midnight i dont get, i mean thats normally when i am thinking of my bed...and not for sex |
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"ppl need dutch courage i guess. Like how they pull in normal club near end of night. Also its case of waiting for someone to go first. And men dont want to get in early for fear of looking desperate."
but women tend to start the play at clubs...i do think dutch courage has a lot to do with it |
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"also ppl want to get to know who's there that they're interested in fucking. Not a case of just fuck blind."
some ppl
But i have seen over and over again ppl come and start playing once i do...yes its a bit of a standing joke lol...but the getting to know ppl ect seems to stop mattering once they see someone else playing. |
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"ppl need dutch courage i guess. Like how they pull in normal club near end of night. Also its case of waiting for someone to go first. And men dont want to get in early for fear of looking desperate.
but women tend to start the play at clubs...i do think dutch courage has a lot to do with it"
well, i wish to feck a gal would come and start to play with me!! Lol. |
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"Some people have a long way to travel to clubs,have children to sort out before they go,get themselves ready ect
Then once to get there,time to relax chat and find out if you want to play with people
While drinking may have a part in it I don't think its the only reason
i underatnd about the chatting ect...but if you were going out for a normal(god i hate that word lol ) night with friends, say a meal or something u would still have stuff like babysitters ect to sort...
Its the fact that so much play seems to start after midnight i dont get, i mean thats normally when i am thinking of my bed...and not for sex"
If I was going out for a night out with friends I would'nt be travelling up to 2 hrs to see them like I would with some clubs or parties
Im a real night owl anyway and will happily play all night,so a late start does'nt bother me,but thats not got anything to do with needing dutch courage or being pissed,I don't drink loads when im playing and won't play with anyone thats d*unk  |
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I know what you mean, I must admit when I go to the clubs with my fella we don't usually get there til about half 9 but we generally are the ones to start the ball rolling!! |
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"also ppl want to get to know who's there that they're interested in fucking. Not a case of just fuck blind.
some ppl
But i have seen over and over again ppl come and start playing once i do...yes its a bit of a standing joke lol...but the getting to know ppl ect seems to stop mattering once they see someone else playing."
i guess its like being in a club and not wanting to be the first on dance floor! But once someone gets up its soon mobbed!  |
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"Some people have a long way to travel to clubs,have children to sort out before they go,get themselves ready ect
Then once to get there,time to relax chat and find out if you want to play with people
While drinking may have a part in it I don't think its the only reason
i underatnd about the chatting ect...but if you were going out for a normal(god i hate that word lol ) night with friends, say a meal or something u would still have stuff like babysitters ect to sort...
Its the fact that so much play seems to start after midnight i dont get, i mean thats normally when i am thinking of my bed...and not for sex
If I was going out for a night out with friends I would'nt be travelling up to 2 hrs to see them like I would with some clubs or parties
Im a real night owl anyway and will happily play all night,so a late start does'nt bother me,but thats not got anything to do with needing dutch courage or being pissed,I don't drink loads when im playing and won't play with anyone thats d*unk "
i see your point about travel, maybe its a north east thing...people are unlikely to have traveled for more than an hour tops, which is not that different for many to going to Newcastle for a night out. |
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"I know what you mean, I must admit when I go to the clubs with my fella we don't usually get there til about half 9 but we generally are the ones to start the ball rolling!! "
ohh thank god its not just me lol
So what do u think everyone else is waiting for?
btw love the avatar  |
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"also ppl want to get to know who's there that they're interested in fucking. Not a case of just fuck blind.
some ppl
But i have seen over and over again ppl come and start playing once i do...yes its a bit of a standing joke lol...but the getting to know ppl ect seems to stop mattering once they see someone else playing.
i guess its like being in a club and not wanting to be the first on dance floor! But once someone gets up its soon mobbed! "
mmmmmm mobbed |
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"also ppl want to get to know who's there that they're interested in fucking. Not a case of just fuck blind.
some ppl
But i have seen over and over again ppl come and start playing once i do...yes its a bit of a standing joke lol...but the getting to know ppl ect seems to stop mattering once they see someone else playing.
i guess its like being in a club and not wanting to be the first on dance floor! But once someone gets up its soon mobbed!
mmmmmm mobbed"
lol, the dance floor! Not the gals pussy! |
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"ppl need dutch courage i guess. Like how they pull in normal club near end of night. Also its case of waiting for someone to go first. And men dont want to get in early for fear of looking desperate.
but women tend to start the play at clubs...i do think dutch courage has a lot to do with it
well, i wish to feck a gal would come and start to play with me!! Lol. "
ohh i dont start to play with ppl...i have a new tactic...i find a hunky guy and ask him if he wants to go play... weirdly it works |
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"ppl need dutch courage i guess. Like how they pull in normal club near end of night. Also its case of waiting for someone to go first. And men dont want to get in early for fear of looking desperate.
but women tend to start the play at clubs...i do think dutch courage has a lot to do with it
well, i wish to feck a gal would come and start to play with me!! Lol.
ohh i dont start to play with ppl...i have a new tactic...i find a hunky guy and ask him if he wants to go play... weirdly it works "
that wouldnt work for me im afraid! Not into guys! |
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I think it has to do with getting warmed up....like an audience at a theatre...or to see a stand up comic....they have warm up acts to settle people in..... or am i on wrong track ? |
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"I think it has to do with getting warmed up....like an audience at a theatre...or to see a stand up comic....they have warm up acts to settle people in..... or am i on wrong track ? "
ohhh i see something there... |
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"I think it has to do with getting warmed up....like an audience at a theatre...or to see a stand up comic....they have warm up acts to settle people in..... or am i on wrong track ?
ohhh i see something there..."
oops...covers up lol xxx |
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"I think it has to do with getting warmed up....like an audience at a theatre...or to see a stand up comic....they have warm up acts to settle people in..... or am i on wrong track ?
ohhh i see something there...
oops...covers up lol xxx"
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"I think it has to do with getting warmed up....like an audience at a theatre...or to see a stand up comic....they have warm up acts to settle people in..... or am i on wrong track ?
ohhh i see something there...
oops...covers up lol xxx
don't you dare...those nipples fill my dreams "
 flattered and heres me on me own all night....footy widow |
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"ppl need dutch courage i guess. Like how they pull in normal club near end of night. Also its case of waiting for someone to go first. And men dont want to get in early for fear of looking desperate."
I have been to Chams and an awful lot of people sit at the bar all night or in the smoking area and rarely leave either except for the toilet, so I think it has nothing to do with dutch courage |
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"ppl need dutch courage i guess. Like how they pull in normal club near end of night. Also its case of waiting for someone to go first. And men dont want to get in early for fear of looking desperate.
I have been to Chams and an awful lot of people sit at the bar all night or in the smoking area and rarely leave either except for the toilet, so I think it has nothing to do with dutch courage"
so what are they waiting for! |
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"I think it has to do with getting warmed up....like an audience at a theatre...or to see a stand up comic....they have warm up acts to settle people in..... or am i on wrong track ?
ohhh i see something there...
oops...covers up lol xxx
don't you dare...those nipples fill my dreams
flattered and heres me on me own all night....footy widow "
and heres me without a helicopter |
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"ppl need dutch courage i guess. Like how they pull in normal club near end of night. Also its case of waiting for someone to go first. And men dont want to get in early for fear of looking desperate.
I have been to Chams and an awful lot of people sit at the bar all night or in the smoking area and rarely leave either except for the toilet, so I think it has nothing to do with dutch courage"
ffs we could go to a pub if we wanted to do just that... lol
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"ppl need dutch courage i guess. Like how they pull in normal club near end of night. Also its case of waiting for someone to go first. And men dont want to get in early for fear of looking desperate.
I have been to Chams and an awful lot of people sit at the bar all night or in the smoking area and rarely leave either except for the toilet, so I think it has nothing to do with dutch courage
ffs we could go to a pub if we wanted to do just that... lol
Wolf
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pretty much my point...ok u chat, how long does it take to know u fancy someone...its a swinging club ffs, ask them if thay say no, no harm done, if they fancy it, go and play
What are ppl waiting for! |
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"ppl need dutch courage i guess. Like how they pull in normal club near end of night. Also its case of waiting for someone to go first. And men dont want to get in early for fear of looking desperate.
I have been to Chams and an awful lot of people sit at the bar all night or in the smoking area and rarely leave either except for the toilet, so I think it has nothing to do with dutch courage
ffs we could go to a pub if we wanted to do just that... lol
Wolf
pretty much my point...ok u chat, how long does it take to know u fancy someone...its a swinging club ffs, ask them if thay say no, no harm done, if they fancy it, go and play
What are ppl waiting for! "
yep we were talking about the 'how long' bit this afternoon...
Probably less than 10 seconds on inner gut instinct
then 2 mins on attention and eye contact, body language
and 5-10 mins on conversation?
At a meet I'll know in a couple of minutes whether I'm going to drag em off to show em my etchings or not, just a case of pleasantries for their sakes really first, and the subtle message from Dev that she's happy with em
At a club you know what you're there for... *shrugs*
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"ppl need dutch courage i guess. Like how they pull in normal club near end of night. Also its case of waiting for someone to go first. And men dont want to get in early for fear of looking desperate.
I have been to Chams and an awful lot of people sit at the bar all night or in the smoking area and rarely leave either except for the toilet, so I think it has nothing to do with dutch courage
ffs we could go to a pub if we wanted to do just that... lol
Wolf
pretty much my point...ok u chat, how long does it take to know u fancy someone...its a swinging club ffs, ask them if thay say no, no harm done, if they fancy it, go and play
What are ppl waiting for!
yep we were talking about the 'how long' bit this afternoon...
Probably less than 10 seconds on inner gut instinct
then 2 mins on attention and eye contact, body language
and 5-10 mins on conversation?
At a meet I'll know in a couple of minutes whether I'm going to drag em off to show em my etchings or not, just a case of pleasantries for their sakes really first, and the subtle message from Dev that she's happy with em
At a club you know what you're there for... *shrugs*
Wolf"
Are you me? 
so u know all this, unlike me you srent a cock slut with no standards o why do people wait to play so long...
i am afraid despite what honeypot said i do think that for most it appears to be the need for dutch courage. |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"And yet we always say to newbies - just go along and chat to people, see what goes on, no pressure to play....
there is no pressure..but if u fancy someone what is stopping u saying so?"
Nerves
Lack of self-confidence
Not knowing the 'etiquette'
Fear of rejection |
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Are you me?
so u know all this, unlike me you srent a cock slut with no standards o why do people wait to play so long...
i am afraid despite what honeypot said i do think that for most it appears to be the need for dutch courage."
D'you know what... it's so hard sometimes living with this all underneath the veneer of a disciplined and well-schooled Gentleman.
Hence... wolf (in sheeps clothing) pmsl
Plenty standards... innately good in fact (despite the slipped halo), just that the mischevous look I go for is pretty universal and so damn irresistable among you Girls
I've seen others get bladdered and I really don't think they ever enjoy fun that way. I'm the one on the s in the corner, chatting to and inwardly salivating over my next vic
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Like a couple of others I'm often the first to play. And sometimes, after a freshen up, a drink and a bit of predation the second to.play...
It gets frustrating waiting for the fun to start sometimes, if I wait till after midnight I go off the boil! 
I'm also often the last to.play too... |
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Like a couple of others I'm often the first to play. And sometimes, after a freshen up, a drink and a bit of predation the second to.play...
It gets frustrating waiting for the fun to start sometimes, if I wait till after midnight I go off the boil!
I'm also often the last to.play too... "
yup
So...are we just self confident, or very horny? |
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"I think it has to do with getting warmed up....like an audience at a theatre...or to see a stand up comic....they have warm up acts to settle people in..... or am i on wrong track ?
ohhh i see something there...
oops...covers up lol xxx
don't you dare...those nipples fill my dreams
flattered and heres me on me own all night....footy widow
and heres me without a helicopter"
Off all the lame excuses |
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"I think it has to do with getting warmed up....like an audience at a theatre...or to see a stand up comic....they have warm up acts to settle people in..... or am i on wrong track ?
ohhh i see something there...
oops...covers up lol xxx
don't you dare...those nipples fill my dreams
flattered and heres me on me own all night....footy widow
and heres me without a helicopter
Off all the lame excuses "
i know , im a right time waster me |
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"I think it has to do with getting warmed up....like an audience at a theatre...or to see a stand up comic....they have warm up acts to settle people in..... or am i on wrong track ?
ohhh i see something there...
oops...covers up lol xxx
don't you dare...those nipples fill my dreams
flattered and heres me on me own all night....footy widow
and heres me without a helicopter
Off all the lame excuses
i know , im a right time waster me "
MMMMMM been picking up on that vibe lol xxx |
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"I know what you mean, I must admit when I go to the clubs with my fella we don't usually get there til about half 9 but we generally are the ones to start the ball rolling!!
ohh thank god its not just me lol
So what do u think everyone else is waiting for?
btw love the avatar "
Thank you!!
I've no idea what they're waiting for, we don't play all night we do socialise as well but sometimes the playing is an icebreaker!!
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Swinging alone it does sometimes take me a while to pluck up the courage to talk to strangers. As much as I'd like to wait on all fours for all comers I just don't have the nerve. Takes me a while.
Once I get going however I can go for ages. I've been the last to leave my local club a fair few times now. |
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We visited a local club on friday night but as andy was working in the evening we had to choose one that didnt had a latest entry policy,we didnt get there till 11 pm, but still no one was using the playrooms, said a few hellos but soon got bored with that so took ourselves off n had the choice of playrooms, we wernt on our own for long but only the company of single guys,
Seems the couples were just wanting to sit around watching old porn films
Heres hoping that our fav club will keep its doors open for entry a little later and then we can go there instead lol |
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I do get the relaxing into the atmosphere and giving yourself time to find people you want to to play with.... I also think part of it is that no one wants to be the "first one" so to speak.. so people don't want to be the only one in a room by themselves......
i think in a way if you want to play in a group situation it isn't any good if you are the only ones doing anything |
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"I do get the relaxing into the atmosphere and giving yourself time to find people you want to to play with.... I also think part of it is that no one wants to be the "first one" so to speak.. so people don't want to be the only one in a room by themselves......
i think in a way if you want to play in a group situation it isn't any good if you are the only ones doing anything"
but if everyone is waiting for someone else to start... |
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"I do get the relaxing into the atmosphere and giving yourself time to find people you want to to play with.... I also think part of it is that no one wants to be the "first one" so to speak.. so people don't want to be the only one in a room by themselves......
i think in a way if you want to play in a group situation it isn't any good if you are the only ones doing anything
but if everyone is waiting for someone else to start..."
Maybe should be a bell. 'BRRRIIINGGG. Right, everybody shag!' |
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"I do get the relaxing into the atmosphere and giving yourself time to find people you want to to play with.... I also think part of it is that no one wants to be the "first one" so to speak.. so people don't want to be the only one in a room by themselves......
i think in a way if you want to play in a group situation it isn't any good if you are the only ones doing anything
but if everyone is waiting for someone else to start...
Maybe should be a bell. 'BRRRIIINGGG. Right, everybody shag!'"
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I have noticed that on open nights (singles and couples) then play often starts earlier. And once someone starts it usually triggers others.
On couples night they seem to spend longer socialising and play starts much later. |
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"if i go to a club and noone is there i fancy and want to fuck i wont play simples "
yep i agree. i have gone to a club cross eyed with frustration and not found anyone to play with, or been turned down by the only (for me) possible - yes it does happen to single women! and then ended up just having a lovely social night chatting to people and having a dance and perhaps a watch of others.
but if i do want to play and find someone to play with then i'll be on that bed within minutes of arrival - why waste time?  |
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"And yet we always say to newbies - just go along and chat to people, see what goes on, no pressure to play....
there is no pressure..but if u fancy someone what is stopping u saying so?
Nerves
Lack of self-confidence
Not knowing the 'etiquette'
Fear of rejection"
Agree with all of the above |
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"if i go to a club and noone is there i fancy and want to fuck i wont play simples
yep i agree. i have gone to a club cross eyed with frustration and not found anyone to play with, or been turned down by the only (for me) possible - yes it does happen to single women! and then ended up just having a lovely social night chatting to people and having a dance and perhaps a watch of others.
but if i do want to play and find someone to play with then i'll be on that bed within minutes of arrival - why waste time? "
mine usualy starts in the jacuzzi |
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"if i go to a club and noone is there i fancy and want to fuck i wont play simples
yep i agree. i have gone to a club cross eyed with frustration and not found anyone to play with, or been turned down by the only (for me) possible - yes it does happen to single women! and then ended up just having a lovely social night chatting to people and having a dance and perhaps a watch of others.
but if i do want to play and find someone to play with then i'll be on that bed within minutes of arrival - why waste time?
mine usualy starts in the jacuzzi "
my skin doesn't like the jacuzzis 
when i arrive i do a sweep of the room before i get my first drink. i have been known to pounce and drag a man upstairs within five mins  |
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"if i go to a club and noone is there i fancy and want to fuck i wont play simples
yep i agree. i have gone to a club cross eyed with frustration and not found anyone to play with, or been turned down by the only (for me) possible - yes it does happen to single women! and then ended up just having a lovely social night chatting to people and having a dance and perhaps a watch of others.
but if i do want to play and find someone to play with then i'll be on that bed within minutes of arrival - why waste time?
mine usualy starts in the jacuzzi
my skin doesn't like the jacuzzis
when i arrive i do a sweep of the room before i get my first drink. i have been known to pounce and drag a man upstairs within five mins "
given that ive met you and with the stunning good looks im not surprised i bet they are happy with that x |
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I can't really say I've noticed this expect on couples nights.. but I don't go to play on these nights anyway...
Although when I've been at chams I normally get there for 8ish and fun is normally well in progress... But that's normally a party night.
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"I do get the relaxing into the atmosphere and giving yourself time to find people you want to to play with.... I also think part of it is that no one wants to be the "first one" so to speak.. so people don't want to be the only one in a room by themselves......
i think in a way if you want to play in a group situation it isn't any good if you are the only ones doing anything
but if everyone is waiting for someone else to start...
Maybe should be a bell. 'BRRRIIINGGG. Right, everybody shag!'"
thats a thought!
Re the various comments about couples nights,i go more to party nights, but they are always quite couple heavy, so that might be part of it. |
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"if i go to a club and noone is there i fancy and want to fuck i wont play simples
yep i agree. i have gone to a club cross eyed with frustration and not found anyone to play with, or been turned down by the only (for me) possible - yes it does happen to single women! and then ended up just having a lovely social night chatting to people and having a dance and perhaps a watch of others.
but if i do want to play and find someone to play with then i'll be on that bed within minutes of arrival - why waste time?
mine usualy starts in the jacuzzi
my skin doesn't like the jacuzzis
when i arrive i do a sweep of the room before i get my first drink. i have been known to pounce and drag a man upstairs within five mins
given that ive met you and with the stunning good looks im not surprised i bet they are happy with that x"
aww shucks thanks honey
but i have been turned down, and i'm sure i will be again.
i do believe that pretty much all women, no matter how they look, can do the same. its about confidence, which can be far more attractive that facial features. confidence affects the posture and shows the body off to its best. and confident people take a no for what it is and move on - no doesn't make me less than i already am, its not a personal comment and it certainly shouldn't affect my self esteem or self worth. it can be simply that his fantasy for the night is to play with a blonde or someone older or younger - or perhaps he likes to make the first move!
so heads up, shoulders back, look for what you fancy and say 'hi, feel like playing?' |
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"ppl need dutch courage i guess. Like how they pull in normal club near end of night. Also its case of waiting for someone to go first. And men dont want to get in early for fear of looking desperate."
Nothing desperate about a bloke arriving early as it gives you a chance to have a chat too people so they get to know you and vice versa |
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"its the mawling and grabbing on certain nights that gets my goat."
I never get that and that's how I expect it.. but it never happens... Btw I only mean once I'm playing...
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"its the mawling and grabbing on certain nights that gets my goat.
I never get that and that's how I expect it.. but it never happens... Btw I only mean once I'm playing...
Cali "
happens alot of chams ona friday night, a gang on men all hang around and if action is happening they all tell each other and run to see |
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"its the mawling and grabbing on certain nights that gets my goat."
Some men are just animals, I have seen it for myself and they show no respect. On saying that their are probably some ladies like that out there too. |
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"its the mawling and grabbing on certain nights that gets my goat.
Some men are just animals, I have seen it for myself and they show no respect. On saying that their are probably some ladies like that out there too. "
trust me once ill be polite after that i will speak my mind and people know what im like x
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"its the mawling and grabbing on certain nights that gets my goat.
Some men are just animals, I have seen it for myself and they show no respect. On saying that their are probably some ladies like that out there too. "
And that's the behaviour which discourages some single ladies from going to clubs on those nights. Don't these guys realise they're only depriving themselves?  |
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We're always too busy chatting on, it gets to kick out time and we're like "shit, where's the time gone.... who fancies a shag?" It's the reason we usually stay over so we have extra time to do this. Mind we're never in bed until about 3am on a normal day so at midnight we're kind of at our peak! |
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I find some guys don't play straight away because once they've cum they're finished and it's the idea that someone better may come in.
If they go for the 1st offer they may miss out on the super model that just might walk through the door later. |
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"I find some guys don't play straight away because once they've cum they're finished and it's the idea that someone better may come in.
If they go for the 1st offer they may miss out on the super model that just might walk through the door later. "
But surely that's the beauty if playing early! Plenty of recovery time |
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"I find some guys don't play straight away because once they've cum they're finished and it's the idea that someone better may come in.
If they go for the 1st offer they may miss out on the super model that just might walk through the door later. "
I don't play at chams for the reason most guys don't actually want to cum... Ie want to have a bj, maybe fuck you.. but not till they cum.. and if they aren't going to cum, I'm certainly not going to play. So I think that towards the end people are more inclined to.
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"I think it has to do with getting warmed up....like an audience at a theatre...or to see a stand up comic....they have warm up acts to settle people in..... or am i on wrong track ?
ohhh i see something there...
oops...covers up lol xxx
don't you dare...those nipples fill my dreams
flattered and heres me on me own all night....footy widow "
What a waste footy widow christ almighty ...what you need is a long baby oil massage plenty of attention around those nipppples and spine and bum and inner thigh and....... |
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"I find some guys don't play straight away because once they've cum they're finished and it's the idea that someone better may come in.
If they go for the 1st offer they may miss out on the super model that just might walk through the door later.
I don't play at chams for the reason most guys don't actually want to cum... Ie want to have a bj, maybe fuck you.. but not till they cum.. and if they aren't going to cum, I'm certainly not going to play. So I think that towards the end people are more inclined to.
Cali "
Do you infer some sort off insult if the man does not cum ? It is a little diff for them...most men need a lil recovery time....maybe they want multiple partners...as often we women do xxx |
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"I find some guys don't play straight away because once they've cum they're finished and it's the idea that someone better may come in.
If they go for the 1st offer they may miss out on the super model that just might walk through the door later.
I don't play at chams for the reason most guys don't actually want to cum... Ie want to have a bj, maybe fuck you.. but not till they cum.. and if they aren't going to cum, I'm certainly not going to play. So I think that towards the end people are more inclined to.
Cali "
eh men not want to cum Cali im sure that with your charms its not possible for them to stop coming although a lot of guys granted just want to cum fart roll over and grab a beer unless there like me im a bit of an energiser bunny and lionel richy ALL NIGHT LONG |
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"I find some guys don't play straight away because once they've cum they're finished and it's the idea that someone better may come in.
If they go for the 1st offer they may miss out on the super model that just might walk through the door later.
I don't play at chams for the reason most guys don't actually want to cum... Ie want to have a bj, maybe fuck you.. but not till they cum.. and if they aren't going to cum, I'm certainly not going to play. So I think that towards the end people are more inclined to.
Cali
Do you infer some sort off insult if the man does not cum ? It is a little diff for them...most men need a lil recovery time....maybe they want multiple partners...as often we women do xxx "
All my regular play mates and master can cum, and carry on going.. So if a guy isn't going to cum for me I sure as hell won't waste my time entertaining him. I always thought most men could cum a few times... I just got lucky with men in my past I guess lol
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I actually said to a guy.. I love cum on my face, he said oh I'm not Cumming yet, as there are hours left.
So I just made my excuses and let him get from someone else..
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"i like a man to cum as well "
As do I and no doubt men like to make us women cum to, my point was...do u infer it as insulting ?? Also men have differing performances in the recovery stakes....often some never go soft...most reg a min or 2....some are one shot wonders xxx |
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"i like a man to cum as well
As do I and no doubt men like to make us women cum to, my point was...do u infer it as insulting ?? Also men have differing performances in the recovery stakes....often some never go soft...most reg a min or 2....some are one shot wonders xxx"
Not an insult just a waste of time for me.
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Personally i think that its insulting to the lady to say hey im not coming yet i mean as long as your not premature then why the problem any man should if he goes soft beable to perform again shortly afterwards myself i can come and stay hard and if they do have a problem then there is always the little blue pill and as long as they feel horny they should work |
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We like to talk to people before we jump into bed with them... usually having a chat can take up to an hour... we don't drink when we go to clubs, so its not that for us, but im sure it is for some.
We have been known to start playing at 9 pm lol just the pair of us go to a bed and before you know it there are other people... but most of the time we like to socialise a little, dance a bit and relax.. for some that is a big part of the scene,,, just going out an socialising,,, with of course the potential for some fun sexy times... |
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"Personally i think that its insulting to the lady to say hey im not coming yet i mean as long as your not premature then why the problem any man should if he goes soft beable to perform again shortly afterwards myself i can come and stay hard and if they do have a problem then there is always the little blue pill and as long as they feel horny they should work "
there are little blue pills and also cock rings for men to enhance performance.....id not see it as insulting but id be dissapointed, but understanding as diff men have differing performances....and each man will be aware of his own performance potential in any situation xxx |
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"Personally i think that its insulting to the lady to say hey im not coming yet i mean as long as your not premature then why the problem any man should if he goes soft beable to perform again shortly afterwards myself i can come and stay hard and if they do have a problem then there is always the little blue pill and as long as they feel horny they should work "
My partner doesn't finish with anyone else without my say so, i don't see how its insulting to the lady your with to say your not gonna cum, if you want to keep going without cumming. |
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It's the old empty dancefloor syndrome. Always needs someone to start.
but it does depend if you are there meeting someone, or there looking around who's turned up...
a few times people have started the "chat up" as we are dressing to leave. other times it's us that are slow to start. |
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"Personally i think that its insulting to the lady to say hey im not coming yet i mean as long as your not premature then why the problem any man should if he goes soft beable to perform again shortly afterwards myself i can come and stay hard and if they do have a problem then there is always the little blue pill and as long as they feel horny they should work
My partner doesn't finish with anyone else without my say so, i don't see how its insulting to the lady your with to say your not gonna cum, if you want to keep going without cumming. "
as I said I don't find it insulting but I wouldn't bother playing with a guy who wasn't going to cover me or cum in my mouth lol... And to me I'd never expect master to play with someone and not cum... It would be pointless.
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"Personally i think that its insulting to the lady to say hey im not coming yet i mean as long as your not premature then why the problem any man should if he goes soft beable to perform again shortly afterwards myself i can come and stay hard and if they do have a problem then there is always the little blue pill and as long as they feel horny they should work
My partner doesn't finish with anyone else without my say so, i don't see how its insulting to the lady your with to say your not gonna cum, if you want to keep going without cumming. as I said I don't find it insulting but I wouldn't bother playing with a guy who wasn't going to cover me or cum in my mouth lol... And to me I'd never expect master to play with someone and not cum... It would be pointless.
Cali "
finishing on them is fine... just not in them... thats something we like to keep special ( mostly lol) |
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No point spending your evening waiting for something to happen. If you are horny, do sonething about it. Either ask someone or start yourself. A couple of times i've started having a wank on my own and within 5 mins had a nice pair of lips around my cock |
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"And yet we always say to newbies - just go along and chat to people, see what goes on, no pressure to play....
there is no pressure..but if u fancy someone what is stopping u saying so?
Nerves
Lack of self-confidence
Not knowing the 'etiquette'
Fear of rejection
Agree with all of the above"
All this, plus I'm usually oblivious to who wants to play with me. Have had it a couple of times where the guy I was with has asked why I didn't want to play with a couple we've been chatting to and I was totally clueless to the fact they wanted to play...guess that's a confidence thing too though x |
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If we any thing to go by,
we go to a club to meet other couples face to face and have a relaxing time.
If and 'if' we find some one we like and they like us then we will play regardless of the time.
not all of us turn up and want to be shagged by all and every one with in the first half hr |
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We find that it gets to a point where we are feeling less "lively" late in the evening...maybe our age but when we are ready, preferably with another couple,we will go to the couples room for some fun.If there isnt anyone who wants to play then we will go into the room and have fun ourselves.You cant ask every couple in the club before hand and more often than not other couples will come into the room and then the fun may..or may not..take a different turn
Everyones different...striking a balance we suppose. |
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