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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ? |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ? "
I just don't get it either  |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ? "
Stay single then  |
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over a year ago
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ?
Stay single then "
Yeah! Because you can’t be in a relationship without letting Tom, Dick & Harry fuck your mrs can you  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ?
Stay single then "
Souns like a plan  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had the discussion with an ex...
Another bloke, hell no!
Another woman, yeah sure babe!
Of course, we both felt exactly the opposite so i let her go to dedicate myself to the swinging lifestyle 
I jest of course, for me...my partner is sacred ground only i can walk on.  |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ? "
When me and Mr first started on this journey I remember asking him the same “why would he not be jealous?” I mean he’s supposed to love me so surely if he’s not jealous about me fucking another man then he can’t really care? So we talked and he explained that he is jealous but also so very turned on and that’s what wins out in the end it’s like a little inner turmoil lol he also loves seeing me having fun and being happy  I’m probably not explaining it very well. However for me I could never watch him with another woman as I would be just jealous not turned on. This is just our take I’m sure everyone will have their own thoughts |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ?
When me and Mr first started on this journey I remember asking him the same “why would he not be jealous?” I mean he’s supposed to love me so surely if he’s not jealous about me fucking another man then he can’t really care? So we talked and he explained that he is jealous but also so very turned on and that’s what wins out in the end it’s like a little inner turmoil lol he also loves seeing me having fun and being happy I’m probably not explaining it very well. However for me I could never watch him with another woman as I would be just jealous not turned on. This is just our take I’m sure everyone will have their own thoughts "
His love is stronger than his jealousy xxx |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ?
When me and Mr first started on this journey I remember asking him the same “why would he not be jealous?” I mean he’s supposed to love me so surely if he’s not jealous about me fucking another man then he can’t really care? So we talked and he explained that he is jealous but also so very turned on and that’s what wins out in the end it’s like a little inner turmoil lol he also loves seeing me having fun and being happy I’m probably not explaining it very well. However for me I could never watch him with another woman as I would be just jealous not turned on. This is just our take I’m sure everyone will have their own thoughts
His love is stronger than his jealousy xxx"
I like to think so |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ?
When me and Mr first started on this journey I remember asking him the same “why would he not be jealous?” I mean he’s supposed to love me so surely if he’s not jealous about me fucking another man then he can’t really care? So we talked and he explained that he is jealous but also so very turned on and that’s what wins out in the end it’s like a little inner turmoil lol he also loves seeing me having fun and being happy I’m probably not explaining it very well. However for me I could never watch him with another woman as I would be just jealous not turned on. This is just our take I’m sure everyone will have their own thoughts "
I can respect this but in my mind its just playing with fire, what if that jealousy overtakes his kink & he runs up in the club shooting the whole orgy up.
Gang bang could make a man act like a gangbanger reeel qwik!   |
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As far as we are concerned love and sex are two separate things that just happen to intertwine when we are together.
Being a full swap couple didn't just happen over night for us either.It took a long time, a lot of discussion and boundary pushing about it.
Because of that, first time we saw each other with other people it went as expected. Turned us on rather than freaked us out.
Swinging is not for everyone but we love it and jealousy has never been a factor. |
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"As far as we are concerned love and sex are two separate things that just happen to intertwine when we are together.
Being a full swap couple didn't just happen over night for us either.It took a long time, a lot of discussion and boundary pushing about it.
Because of that, first time we saw each other with other people it went as expected. Turned us on rather than freaked us out.
Swinging is not for everyone but we love it and jealousy has never been a factor. "
A mutual understanding...i get this |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ?
When me and Mr first started on this journey I remember asking him the same “why would he not be jealous?” I mean he’s supposed to love me so surely if he’s not jealous about me fucking another man then he can’t really care? So we talked and he explained that he is jealous but also so very turned on and that’s what wins out in the end it’s like a little inner turmoil lol he also loves seeing me having fun and being happy I’m probably not explaining it very well. However for me I could never watch him with another woman as I would be just jealous not turned on. This is just our take I’m sure everyone will have their own thoughts
I can respect this but in my mind its just playing with fire, what if that jealousy overtakes his kink & he runs up in the club shooting the whole orgy up.
Gang bang could make a man act like a gangbanger reeel qwik! "
Doubtful lol worst case scenario he’d tell me to stop, I’d stop. We would then have a talk and if he felt that his jealousy was becoming a problem then that would be it we would stop meeting. At the end of the day our relationship is more important than meeting people on a swinging site |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ?
Stay single then
Yeah! Because you can’t be in a relationship without letting Tom, Dick & Harry fuck your mrs can you "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ?
When me and Mr first started on this journey I remember asking him the same “why would he not be jealous?” I mean he’s supposed to love me so surely if he’s not jealous about me fucking another man then he can’t really care? So we talked and he explained that he is jealous but also so very turned on and that’s what wins out in the end it’s like a little inner turmoil lol he also loves seeing me having fun and being happy I’m probably not explaining it very well. However for me I could never watch him with another woman as I would be just jealous not turned on. This is just our take I’m sure everyone will have their own thoughts
I can respect this but in my mind its just playing with fire, what if that jealousy overtakes his kink & he runs up in the club shooting the whole orgy up.
Gang bang could make a man act like a gangbanger reeel qwik!
Doubtful lol worst case scenario he’d tell me to stop, I’d stop. We would then have a talk and if he felt that his jealousy was becoming a problem then that would be it we would stop meeting. At the end of the day our relationship is more important than meeting people on a swinging site "
Just making sure we’re all aware of the risks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This made me laugh, but you're wanting to shag other mens wives? Haha.
It's amazing watching us both have sex with others, unless you've tried it I suppose it could be hard to grasp for some. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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Never ! I’m usually giving 100% attention to a hot woman in another bed so barely notice unless she’s making a lot of noise . It’s only sex! Could never do the cuck thing , couldn’t bare the thought of her meeting a guy alone without me to protect her!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s not for me. Lots do though. As long as you’re both happy with it (same as anything) then that’s fine. If you’re doing it for someone else, which does happen, then it’s not fine. To me, the thought of watching the person you love fucking someone else would be my worst nightmare and I do find it hard to get my head around how people can get off on that. But life would be boring if we were all the same |
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I think it's quite amusing that this question is being asked on a site primarily designed for swingers. Couples who presumably have agreed they are ok with one or both of the couple having sex with others...... |
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"I think it's quite amusing that this question is being asked on a site primarily designed for swingers. Couples who presumably have agreed they are ok with one or both of the couple having sex with others...... "
I don’t as there’s hundreds of non swingers on here. |
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"I think it's quite amusing that this question is being asked on a site primarily designed for swingers. Couples who presumably have agreed they are ok with one or both of the couple having sex with others......
I don’t as there’s hundreds of non swingers on here. "
Not wishing to be facetious, but isn't that like me (straight/bicurious female) joining a site aimed at gay men? I understand the single people here to join as 3somes or more, to get involved with hotwifing etc, but I didn't expect to find people who were looking for "traditional" monogamous relationships, if I'm honest. It's not a problem at all, people are free to do as they please, but it has been a source of surprise that a swingers site is considered a potential place to meet a lifelong monogamous partner. And yes, I know its happened.
I don't wish ill on anyone and hope ev is here to have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Maybe some are looking for a relationship. I’m certainly not. I arrived here by googling bicurious not swinging. So maybe many others weren’t actually looking for a swinging site. I wouldn’t even say the majority of people on here are swingers either from what I’ve seen over the past few years. I think it’s great that there are people looking for a variety of different things on here. I’m probably the furthest from a swinger you can get but I’ve always enjoyed it here and found what I wanted a few times. |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ? "
Do you have a wife ? |
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"Maybe some are looking for a relationship. I’m certainly not. I arrived here by googling bicurious not swinging. So maybe many others weren’t actually looking for a swinging site. I wouldn’t even say the majority of people on here are swingers either from what I’ve seen over the past few years. I think it’s great that there are people looking for a variety of different things on here. I’m probably the furthest from a swinger you can get but I’ve always enjoyed it here and found what I wanted a few times. "
So long as you find what you want and have fun, go for it! As I said, I haven't got an issue with any type of person using the site, it just wasn't what I expected when we joined. We expected mainly swingers with singles looking to join couples. Perhaps naive? |
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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago
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Swinging.. It's a certain mindset... And I don't believe you can swing if you are a jealous type... And there is nothing wrong with that..
I enjoy watching my mister with other women.. I love to hear Him make them moan with pleasure.. I like to join in.. He loves to watch me getting fucked by another guy... We love sex.. We enjoy seeing each other turned on.. For us we same room swap only as as much of the turn on is watch g each other..
But its different when we make love.. That is something we don't share .. Yes sometimes we just fuck too.. But its sex with a different purpose...
I'm not doing a great job of explaining... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe some are looking for a relationship. I’m certainly not. I arrived here by googling bicurious not swinging. So maybe many others weren’t actually looking for a swinging site. I wouldn’t even say the majority of people on here are swingers either from what I’ve seen over the past few years. I think it’s great that there are people looking for a variety of different things on here. I’m probably the furthest from a swinger you can get but I’ve always enjoyed it here and found what I wanted a few times.
So long as you find what you want and have fun, go for it! As I said, I haven't got an issue with any type of person using the site, it just wasn't what I expected when we joined. We expected mainly swingers with singles looking to join couples. Perhaps naive? "
I did too when I saw the name. Then I did a few searches and looked at a few profiles and thought why not so I joined. I never ever even intended looking at or meeting any men until one day after about 6 months I thought I’d change the filters and have a little peek  . Never changed them back! |
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"Swinging.. It's a certain mindset... And I don't believe you can swing if you are a jealous type... And there is nothing wrong with that..
I enjoy watching my mister with other women.. I love to hear Him make them moan with pleasure.. I like to join in.. He loves to watch me getting fucked by another guy... We love sex.. We enjoy seeing each other turned on.. For us we same room swap only as as much of the turn on is watch g each other..
But its different when we make love.. That is something we don't share .. Yes sometimes we just fuck too.. But its sex with a different purpose...
I'm not doing a great job of explaining... "
Actually I think you are ..... |
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"Oh and also not confusing love with ownership.
Double ditto! "
I think you either get it or you don't. It's fine to not get it, as I said it's not for everyone and I don't like the "swinging relationships are superior" attitude. By the same token I don't like the attitude shown by some (not in this thread) that there's something wrong with your relationship if you do swing. |
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"Oh and also not confusing love with ownership.
Double ditto!
I think you either get it or you don't. It's fine to not get it, as I said it's not for everyone and I don't like the "swinging relationships are superior" attitude. By the same token I don't like the attitude shown by some (not in this thread) that there's something wrong with your relationship if you do swing. "
On the contrary, I believe only strong partnerships make good swinging relationships. |
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"Swinging.. It's a certain mindset... And I don't believe you can swing if you are a jealous type... And there is nothing wrong with that..
I enjoy watching my mister with other women.. I love to hear Him make them moan with pleasure.. I like to join in.. He loves to watch me getting fucked by another guy... We love sex.. We enjoy seeing each other turned on.. For us we same room swap only as as much of the turn on is watch g each other..
But its different when we make love.. That is something we don't share .. Yes sometimes we just fuck too.. But its sex with a different purpose...
I'm not doing a great job of explaining... "
you are and your spot on, there is no place for jealousy in swinging, and its about being solid in your relationship and own bodies too  |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ? "
No place at all for jealousy in swinging. It may depend how long you’ve been together. We enjoy seeing each other play with someone, but then we have been together since the Iron Lady was in power |
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"Oh and also not confusing love with ownership.
Double ditto!
I think you either get it or you don't. It's fine to not get it, as I said it's not for everyone and I don't like the "swinging relationships are superior" attitude. By the same token I don't like the attitude shown by some (not in this thread) that there's something wrong with your relationship if you do swing.
On the contrary, I believe only strong partnerships make good swinging relationships. "
But a strong relationship can exist without swinging. |
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"Oh and also not confusing love with ownership.
Double ditto!
I think you either get it or you don't. It's fine to not get it, as I said it's not for everyone and I don't like the "swinging relationships are superior" attitude. By the same token I don't like the attitude shown by some (not in this thread) that there's something wrong with your relationship if you do swing.
On the contrary, I believe only strong partnerships make good swinging relationships.
But a strong relationship can exist without swinging. "
Read it again, you're agreeing with my last sentence...doh! 0/10 for comprehension  |
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We have a simple rule for our playtime. Same room and preferably mall together. Just love seeing Bunny pleasured and helping out.
It's not for everyone, but for us we have a great relationship and sex life and I love to share, safe in the knowledge that others are jealous that she's mine and always will be |
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"It's not everyone's cup of tea but I guarantee probably 90% of ppl I know who've tried it have never looked back. Trust also plays a massive part "
Oh I absolutely agree about trust, hubby is happy and will actively encourage me to have fun with any guy of my choosing but would not be happy if I started arranging meets or talking to guys without him knowing as that then falls into the cheating category. So yes absolute trust and good communication is essential |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ?
Stay single then
Yeah! Because you can’t be in a relationship without letting Tom, Dick & Harry fuck your mrs can you "
Not had any of them, crap swingers us  |
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"Oh and also not confusing love with ownership.
Double ditto!
I think you either get it or you don't. It's fine to not get it, as I said it's not for everyone and I don't like the "swinging relationships are superior" attitude. By the same token I don't like the attitude shown by some (not in this thread) that there's something wrong with your relationship if you do swing.
On the contrary, I believe only strong partnerships make good swinging relationships.
But a strong relationship can exist without swinging. "
Oh yes, of course it can. I don't doubt that at all. |
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"It's not everyone's cup of tea but I guarantee probably 90% of ppl I know who've tried it have never looked back. Trust also plays a massive part
Oh I absolutely agree about trust, hubby is happy and will actively encourage me to have fun with any guy of my choosing but would not be happy if I started arranging meets or talking to guys without him knowing as that then falls into the cheating category. So yes absolute trust and good communication is essential "
Couldn't agree more x |
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"Swinging.. It's a certain mindset... And I don't believe you can swing if you are a jealous type... And there is nothing wrong with that..
I enjoy watching my mister with other women.. I love to hear Him make them moan with pleasure.. I like to join in.. He loves to watch me getting fucked by another guy... We love sex.. We enjoy seeing each other turned on.. For us we same room swap only as as much of the turn on is watch g each other..
But its different when we make love.. That is something we don't share .. Yes sometimes we just fuck too.. But its sex with a different purpose...
I'm not doing a great job of explaining...
Actually I think you are ....."
Agreed 100%
Making love and fucking are 2 totally seperate things.
There's zero place for jealousy in swinging.
Also from a couples perspective there's no way we will share our sex life with a guy who has the "there's no way I'd ever share my wife / gf with another guy" attitude displayed a few times on this thread. We I'm sorry but then to us your not a swinger and your not what we are looking for. A few guys we considered meeting got canceled once they let there actual feelings about swinging known.
I agree about it been hard to find the actual swingers on this website at times.
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Never been in a long relationship since I started swinging but I would deffo be open to it. I love hearing about other peoples experiences and I dont think that would change with a bf/husband. As long as it was open but honest I would seriously consider a swinging relationship. I often find sex gets boring in relationships as I have very wild tastes depending on my mood. Not for everyone I know but that's my opinion on it. |
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"Oh and also not confusing love with ownership.
Double ditto!
I think you either get it or you don't. It's fine to not get it, as I said it's not for everyone and I don't like the "swinging relationships are superior" attitude. By the same token I don't like the attitude shown by some (not in this thread) that there's something wrong with your relationship if you do swing. "
Very true, the superior attitude's a bit ironic given that in vanilla world we're largely regarded as perverts! |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ? "
Why are you on a swingers site if you think like that?
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ?
Why are you on a swingers site if you think like that?
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He's looking for women only so he won't be meeting couples |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ?
Why are you on a swingers site if you think like that?
He's looking for women only so he won't be meeting couples "
Without wanting to start a big debate - is that swinging?
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"Oh and also not confusing love with ownership.
Double ditto!
I think you either get it or you don't. It's fine to not get it, as I said it's not for everyone and I don't like the "swinging relationships are superior" attitude. By the same token I don't like the attitude shown by some (not in this thread) that there's something wrong with your relationship if you do swing.
Very true, the superior attitude's a bit ironic given that in vanilla world we're largely regarded as perverts! "
Lol
Personally I think just all getting along and letting everyone do their thing is the best solution. Some of us have no issue watching our loved one enjoying sex with someone else, some do. There's room for all of us |
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Agree with pretty much everything the couples have said on this thread. To the single guys who don't get it and could never see themselves doing it, I can say that I used to be exactly like that myself; watch another guy fuck my wife, are you effin mad! No way! Then I met a beautiful sexy woman and we fell madly in love, then we dabbled with swinging clubs (because we're dirty fekkers), then one thing led to another, and now I don't just watch, I actively encourage. And I love it. We both do. And our sex at home is amazing and frequent So who knows, you too may experience a similar transformation one day. Never say never! |
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Both of us find the idea/suggestion of ownership utterly repugnant.
Love and physical sex are two entirely different things and if your head cant separate them, then may we suggest you dont start down the route as it will end in tears.
Remember you will never know what is actually going on in someone elses head. If you cant handle that concept dont start!
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"It's never fails to amaze us the number of guys who would never share their wives, yet expect to fuck other people's wives.
Absolutely amazing."
To be fair most of the single guys responding are only looking to meet women. They haven't specified that they want other men's wives. |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ? "
It’s the difference between being a swinger and a chancer looking for a shag. Not everyone is a swinger on here. In fact loads are not. |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ?
It’s the difference between being a swinger and a chancer looking for a shag. Not everyone is a swinger on here. In fact loads are not. "
So are you saying you’re either a swinger or a chancer looking for a shag? Apologies if I read that wrong. |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ?
It’s the difference between being a swinger and a chancer looking for a shag. Not everyone is a swinger on here. In fact loads are not.
So are you saying you’re either a swinger or a chancer looking for a shag? Apologies if I read that wrong. "
What I’m saying is we separate sex between us and between others. Our sex is passionate and loving. With others it’s just sex. No emotion, no commitment. |
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"It's probably got something to do with mutually agreeing to swing and not confusing love with sex.
Swinging isn't for everyone and if you don't want to do it that's fine.
Ditto"
Maybe a crazy notion but I honestly feel like it’s something you’re born with. Like how you can’t choose your sexuality.
The prospect of having to have a Monogamous relationship makes me feel grim, which is the opposite of how the mono’s feel. What I do find it a bit ‘two faced’ is when people join but try talk those of us who love the genuine lifestyle down. A bit like going to India and complaining that you don’t like curry |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy"
So basically you are jealous then |
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"It's never fails to amaze us the number of guys who would never share their wives, yet expect to fuck other people's wives.
Absolutely amazing.
To be fair most of the single guys responding are only looking to meet women. They haven't specified that they want other men's wives."
Maybe we are just seeing a snapshot, but there seems lots who want to meet couples. Also a lot who want to fuck the wife in front of their husbands, especially young guys.
And also a lot of cheating married men who want to meet couples. We are guessing either the wife doesn't know, or they won't entertain the idea.
We guess there are quite a few married women on here as well, but we don't see them posting nearly as much as the men. |
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"Sex is not love and love is not sex."
That is an easy comment to be made when you are single.
It is of course 100% accurate in our opinion, but we personally think that comment carries a lot more weight when spoken by a married couple.
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ? "
I would be overjoyed if another man had sex with my wife. It would prove to her how sexy she is for starters and would made me smugger than an electric blanket. |
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"I think it's quite amusing that this question is being asked on a site primarily designed for swingers. Couples who presumably have agreed they are ok with one or both of the couple having sex with others...... "
Exactly the age old question if you don’t do this in some form are you swinging |
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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago
South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire |
On one fun night at Chameleons I watch the mrs take on three guys at once while I was with another woman. In total that night she had 8x guys.
Loved watching it and never got jealous at all. I had plenty of fun as well so I can’t grumble. The reclaim sex was great as well. |
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"Swinging.. It's a certain mindset... And I don't believe you can swing if you are a jealous type... And there is nothing wrong with that..
I enjoy watching my mister with other women.. I love to hear Him make them moan with pleasure.. I like to join in.. He loves to watch me getting fucked by another guy... We love sex.. We enjoy seeing each other turned on.. For us we same room swap only as as much of the turn on is watch g each other..
But its different when we make love.. That is something we don't share .. Yes sometimes we just fuck too.. But its sex with a different purpose...
I'm not doing a great job of explaining... "
You explain very well...its nice to be nice..nice to share ...we are not all the same on here ....and its not for everybody for a variety of reasons .. watching your partner having pleasure is a real turn on ..and funnily enough makes us even tighter as a couple ....works for us .. |
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"This made me laugh, but you're wanting to shag other mens wives? Haha.
It's amazing watching us both have sex with others, unless you've tried it I suppose it could be hard to grasp for some. "
This! We both enjoy partner swapping and watching each other have fun |
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But let me guess...you'd totally be fucking other women right? Because she's your possession but you're not into the controling jealous girls who hold you back?
How can you be on a swinger's site and not even understand swinging?
Like I get everyone plays different and that's fine but even the no swap people at least understand the scene.
Also find it hilarious you're looking for couples but not willing yourself. |
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If i had to share hubby with another woman i know i would 100% be jealous ,but he is bi and i find i enjoy sharing with another guy no jealousy just mutual pleasure and he in turn isnt jealous either he loves to watch me be pleasured and share me ,so works for us but deffo not for everyone ,we talked long and hard about it and if either wants to stop we will our relationship comes first ALWAYS ... |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
No jealousy at all from us, it’s just fun for both of us, we both enjoy sex and it’s just a little added addition now and again to our already amazing sex life. We love each other to the moon and back and know we will be together forever so no never felt jealousy |
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"No jealousy at all from us, it’s just fun for both of us, we both enjoy sex and it’s just a little added addition now and again to our already amazing sex life. We love each other to the moon and back and know we will be together forever so no never felt jealousy "
This exactly |
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"If i had to share hubby with another woman i know i would 100% be jealous ,but he is bi and i find i enjoy sharing with another guy no jealousy just mutual pleasure and he in turn isnt jealous either he loves to watch me be pleasured and share me ,so works for us but deffo not for everyone ,we talked long and hard about it and if either wants to stop we will our relationship comes first ALWAYS ... "
I feel the same about seeing hubby with another woman so I guess I’m just really lucky that he has no desire to explore that and that his turn on is watching me have fun He says it’s like watching his favourite porn star but we are exactly the same as you the minute one or both of us don’t want to do it anymore then we’ll stop. We would never put out relationship in jeapordy |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
I've never ever felt any jealousy for anyone or anything (maybe a little envious on a few occasions) - I've always felt in control of my life and happy with my lot and to see Niki enjoying another man is nothing less than a joy to behold - I love others pleasure so why would I be jealous of Niki's pleasure. |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ? "
Sex with others is a physical act and lust is the highest emotion. Sex with my husband is physical as well as emotional with love for each other. Once emotions aren't involved with others, it works. Also, it turns us both on seeing the other fuck someone else. Mrs x |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
I had my first foursome/wife swap just recently and it turned out quite well. Just being allowed to have sex with another woman, whilst my other half was being well and truly getting a good seeing to was a massive turn on for all involved.
As for my previous vanilla relationships, jealousy and infidelity are very dangerous to any hope of happiness and piece of mind.
Swinging for me every time! |
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"But let me guess...you'd totally be fucking other women right? Because she's your possession but you're not into the controling jealous girls who hold you back?
How can you be on a swinger's site and not even understand swinging?
Like I get everyone plays different and that's fine but even the no swap people at least understand the scene.
Also find it hilarious you're looking for couples but not willing yourself."
Why is it hilarious though? And to be honest I don’t fully understand the swinging scene but I’m here and have enjoyed my time here. We look for single ladies but neither of us are wanting to join a couple. So we’re looking for something we’re not willing to do ourselves. Is that hilarious? Surely it’s all about what you want and the other people involved. |
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"I personally think hypocrisy and swinging don’t fit well together."
That's the nail on the head!
A guy asking a couple to have the privilege of joining there sexual adventures but "wouldnt dream of letting a guy near his wife", by the very ature of his stand / opinion is looking down and in judgment of the very couple he wants to join. I'm sorry but that's hypocritical and they clearly arent swingers. As someone said they are chances looking for a shag not someone who embraces the swinging lifestyle.
Someone said some of the guys with this attitude are only looking for single women ok fine that's not swinging per say but if that works for both parties then great but a great deal of these guy's also want to meet couples, fuck there wives, meet hot wives, cuckold couples and so on that's the definition of hypocrisy ultimately.
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"I personally think hypocrisy and swinging don’t fit well together.
That's the nail on the head!
A guy asking a couple to have the privilege of joining there sexual adventures but "wouldnt dream of letting a guy near his wife", by the very ature of his stand / opinion is looking down and in judgment of the very couple he wants to join. I'm sorry but that's hypocritical and they clearly arent swingers. As someone said they are chances looking for a shag not someone who embraces the swinging lifestyle.
Someone said some of the guys with this attitude are only looking for single women ok fine that's not swinging per say but if that works for both parties then great but a great deal of these guy's also want to meet couples, fuck there wives, meet hot wives, cuckold couples and so on that's the definition of hypocrisy ultimately.
KJ x "
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over a year ago
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"I had the discussion with an ex...
Another bloke, hell no!
Another woman, yeah sure babe!
Of course, we both felt exactly the opposite so i let her go to dedicate myself to the swinging lifestyle
I jest of course, for me...my partner is sacred ground only i can walk on. "
Then you shouldn't be swinging at all.
Simple..
You should keep the whole sex part as sacred and not to indulge in any thing like that with strangers.
Sacred lol |
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Everybody feels jealousy.
It’s an emotion just like anger, happiness, sadness ...
Partly, it’s how we deal with emotion that defines us. How we learnt to deal with it.
Then it’s a case of trust and faith in your partner.
Without risk, there is no trust.
You have faith in your partner’s love for you, then you know it’s all good.
Hell of a lot more to it than that, but this is a big chunk I think.
I’ve also been drinking wine, so I may be wrong.
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"I personally think hypocrisy and swinging don’t fit well together.
That's the nail on the head!
A guy asking a couple to have the privilege of joining there sexual adventures but "wouldnt dream of letting a guy near his wife", by the very ature of his stand / opinion is looking down and in judgment of the very couple he wants to join. I'm sorry but that's hypocritical and they clearly arent swingers. As someone said they are chances looking for a shag not someone who embraces the swinging lifestyle.
Someone said some of the guys with this attitude are only looking for single women ok fine that's not swinging per say but if that works for both parties then great but a great deal of these guy's also want to meet couples, fuck there wives, meet hot wives, cuckold couples and so on that's the definition of hypocrisy ultimately.
KJ x "
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"I had the discussion with an ex...
Another bloke, hell no!
Another woman, yeah sure babe!
Of course, we both felt exactly the opposite so i let her go to dedicate myself to the swinging lifestyle
I jest of course, for me...my partner is sacred ground only i can walk on.
Then you shouldn't be swinging at all.
Simple..
You should keep the whole sex part as sacred and not to indulge in any thing like that with strangers.
Sacred lol "
Spot on. |
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"This made me laugh, but you're wanting to shag other mens wives? Haha.
It's amazing watching us both have sex with others, unless you've tried it I suppose it could be hard to grasp for some. "
Your comments are spot on! Some people want to have it all lol
To the comment about being ok if his girl played with another girl, I met a couple once who nearly separated because she fell in love with a girl they played so be careful and don't just fantasise lol
Also, there's a reason its called cuckold. Comes from the word cuckoo a bird which drops its eggs in another birds nest.... |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"This made me laugh, but you're wanting to shag other mens wives? Haha.
It's amazing watching us both have sex with others, unless you've tried it I suppose it could be hard to grasp for some.
Your comments are spot on! Some people want to have it all lol
To the comment about being ok if his girl played with another girl, I met a couple once who nearly separated because she fell in love with a girl they played so be careful and don't just fantasise lol
Also, there's a reason its called cuckold. Comes from the word cuckoo a bird which drops its eggs in another birds nest...."
What is the relevance of an egg? |
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"Im no way a jealous person but i dont think i could watch another man do my wife/partner or my wife/partner ride another guy
I know its a each to their own situation.
Has any couples done it then got jealous after ?
I would be overjoyed if another man had sex with my wife. It would prove to her how sexy she is for starters and would made me smugger than an electric blanket. "
This is how my husband has expressed his feelings too. I'm happy with that |
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"I had the discussion with an ex...
Another bloke, hell no!
Another woman, yeah sure babe!
Of course, we both felt exactly the opposite so i let her go to dedicate myself to the swinging lifestyle
I jest of course, for me...my partner is sacred ground only i can walk on.
Then you shouldn't be swinging at all.
Simple..
You should keep the whole sex part as sacred and not to indulge in any thing like that with strangers.
Sacred lol
Spot on. "
I’m speaking from a single guy’s perspective & i’m not here for the swingers
Do you regard those you swing with as strangers then? |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"I had the discussion with an ex...
Another bloke, hell no!
Another woman, yeah sure babe!
Of course, we both felt exactly the opposite so i let her go to dedicate myself to the swinging lifestyle
I jest of course, for me...my partner is sacred ground only i can walk on.
Then you shouldn't be swinging at all.
Simple..
You should keep the whole sex part as sacred and not to indulge in any thing like that with strangers.
Sacred lol
Spot on.
I’m speaking from a single guy’s perspective & i’m not here for the swingers
Do you regard those you swing with as strangers then? "
Let me get this right, you’re not here for swingers on... what site? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had the discussion with an ex...
Another bloke, hell no!
Another woman, yeah sure babe!
Of course, we both felt exactly the opposite so i let her go to dedicate myself to the swinging lifestyle
I jest of course, for me...my partner is sacred ground only i can walk on.
Then you shouldn't be swinging at all.
Simple..
You should keep the whole sex part as sacred and not to indulge in any thing like that with strangers.
Sacred lol
Spot on.
I’m speaking from a single guy’s perspective & i’m not here for the swingers
Do you regard those you swing with as strangers then?
Let me get this right, you’re not here for swingers on... what site?"
The same site that’s not exclusive to swingers...it seems |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"I had the discussion with an ex...
Another bloke, hell no!
Another woman, yeah sure babe!
Of course, we both felt exactly the opposite so i let her go to dedicate myself to the swinging lifestyle
I jest of course, for me...my partner is sacred ground only i can walk on.
Then you shouldn't be swinging at all.
Simple..
You should keep the whole sex part as sacred and not to indulge in any thing like that with strangers.
Sacred lol
Spot on.
I’m speaking from a single guy’s perspective & i’m not here for the swingers
Do you regard those you swing with as strangers then?
Let me get this right, you’re not here for swingers on... what site?
The same site that’s not exclusive to swingers...it seems "
Okay, I need to sign up to auto traders, even though I have no interest in cars. |
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over a year ago
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"I had the discussion with an ex...
Another bloke, hell no!
Another woman, yeah sure babe!
Of course, we both felt exactly the opposite so i let her go to dedicate myself to the swinging lifestyle
I jest of course, for me...my partner is sacred ground only i can walk on.
Then you shouldn't be swinging at all.
Simple..
You should keep the whole sex part as sacred and not to indulge in any thing like that with strangers.
Sacred lol
Spot on.
I’m speaking from a single guy’s perspective & i’m not here for the swingers
Do you regard those you swing with as strangers then?
Let me get this right, you’re not here for swingers on... what site?
The same site that’s not exclusive to swingers...it seems
Okay, I need to sign up to auto traders, even though I have no interest in cars."
Considering swingers are meant to be so open, a lot don’t seem very welcoming! |
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"I had the discussion with an ex...
Another bloke, hell no!
Another woman, yeah sure babe!
Of course, we both felt exactly the opposite so i let her go to dedicate myself to the swinging lifestyle
I jest of course, for me...my partner is sacred ground only i can walk on.
Then you shouldn't be swinging at all.
Simple..
You should keep the whole sex part as sacred and not to indulge in any thing like that with strangers.
Sacred lol
Spot on.
I’m speaking from a single guy’s perspective & i’m not here for the swingers
Do you regard those you swing with as strangers then?
Let me get this right, you’re not here for swingers on... what site?
The same site that’s not exclusive to swingers...it seems
Okay, I need to sign up to auto traders, even though I have no interest in cars."
That’s the comparison you decided to run with? Sincerely hope you didn’t put much thought into that but thanks for the input (& the laugh!) |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"I had the discussion with an ex...
Another bloke, hell no!
Another woman, yeah sure babe!
Of course, we both felt exactly the opposite so i let her go to dedicate myself to the swinging lifestyle
I jest of course, for me...my partner is sacred ground only i can walk on.
Then you shouldn't be swinging at all.
Simple..
You should keep the whole sex part as sacred and not to indulge in any thing like that with strangers.
Sacred lol
Spot on.
I’m speaking from a single guy’s perspective & i’m not here for the swingers
Do you regard those you swing with as strangers then?
Let me get this right, you’re not here for swingers on... what site?
The same site that’s not exclusive to swingers...it seems
Okay, I need to sign up to auto traders, even though I have no interest in cars.
Considering swingers are meant to be so open, a lot don’t seem very welcoming!"
Totally agree, I’m thinking of changing the wife’s Ford Fiesta, anyone got a car to sell. |
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"I had the discussion with an ex...
Another bloke, hell no!
Another woman, yeah sure babe!
Of course, we both felt exactly the opposite so i let her go to dedicate myself to the swinging lifestyle
I jest of course, for me...my partner is sacred ground only i can walk on.
Then you shouldn't be swinging at all.
Simple..
You should keep the whole sex part as sacred and not to indulge in any thing like that with strangers.
Sacred lol
Spot on.
I’m speaking from a single guy’s perspective & i’m not here for the swingers
Do you regard those you swing with as strangers then?
Let me get this right, you’re not here for swingers on... what site?
The same site that’s not exclusive to swingers...it seems
Okay, I need to sign up to auto traders, even though I have no interest in cars.
Considering swingers are meant to be so open, a lot don’t seem very welcoming!
Totally agree, I’m thinking of changing the wife’s Ford Fiesta, anyone got a car to sell."
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I thought this too - but I met my boyfriend in a swingers club. I was so nervous the first time we went back to the club together as I really didn't know how I'd handle it. In fact I found it really hot watching him with others. There is also something sexy about knowing other people want your partner.
It is really refreshing to be in a relationship where we can be open and honest about what we want and like. And one that allows me to still be the greedy girl I like to be.
I'd say it has made the relationship stronger. And we have waaaay more fun on our date nights than most... |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"I had the discussion with an ex...
Another bloke, hell no!
Another woman, yeah sure babe!
Of course, we both felt exactly the opposite so i let her go to dedicate myself to the swinging lifestyle
I jest of course, for me...my partner is sacred ground only i can walk on.
Then you shouldn't be swinging at all.
Simple..
You should keep the whole sex part as sacred and not to indulge in any thing like that with strangers.
Sacred lol
Spot on.
I’m speaking from a single guy’s perspective & i’m not here for the swingers
Do you regard those you swing with as strangers then?
Let me get this right, you’re not here for swingers on... what site?
The same site that’s not exclusive to swingers...it seems
Okay, I need to sign up to auto traders, even though I have no interest in cars.
Considering swingers are meant to be so open, a lot don’t seem very welcoming!
Totally agree, I’m thinking of changing the wife’s Ford Fiesta, anyone got a car to sell.
Let me get THIS right, you live ‘up there in the hills’ & you got your mrs driving around in a fiesta? "
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"I had the discussion with an ex...
Another bloke, hell no!
Another woman, yeah sure babe!
Of course, we both felt exactly the opposite so i let her go to dedicate myself to the swinging lifestyle
I jest of course, for me...my partner is sacred ground only i can walk on.
Then you shouldn't be swinging at all.
Simple..
You should keep the whole sex part as sacred and not to indulge in any thing like that with strangers.
Sacred lol
Spot on.
I’m speaking from a single guy’s perspective & i’m not here for the swingers
Do you regard those you swing with as strangers then?
Let me get this right, you’re not here for swingers on... what site?
The same site that’s not exclusive to swingers...it seems
Okay, I need to sign up to auto traders, even though I have no interest in cars.
Considering swingers are meant to be so open, a lot don’t seem very welcoming!
Totally agree, I’m thinking of changing the wife’s Ford Fiesta, anyone got a car to sell.
Let me get THIS right, you live ‘up there in the hills’ & you got your mrs driving around in a fiesta? "
Yup, she only uses the Landy to travel to work when it snows. Which is a lot at the moment. I’m a Yorkshire man, it doesn’t do a lot of miles to the gallon on a mile and a half drive. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"I don’t know if me and Mr fit the description of swingers as it’s only me that plays "
Ha ha, think we all see it differently, perhaps it just me, hate the predator feel to parts of the site.
Get a life, get a wife and join in.
You might be able to break though a few boundaries.
Not you bye the way.
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"I don’t know if me and Mr fit the description of swingers as it’s only me that plays
Ha ha, think we all see it differently, perhaps it just me, hate the predator feel to parts of the site.
Get a life, get a wife and join in.
You might be able to break though a few boundaries.
Not you bye the way.
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I know what you mean we often get messages directed to just myself which I find a wee bit disrespectful as although mr doesn’t play he’s still involved to a certain.extent, although tbf the guys we have met have been lovely and seemed to get the dynamic between us |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"I don’t know if me and Mr fit the description of swingers as it’s only me that plays
Ha ha, think we all see it differently, perhaps it just me, hate the predator feel to parts of the site.
Get a life, get a wife and join in.
You might be able to break though a few boundaries.
Not you bye the way.
I know what you mean we often get messages directed to just myself which I find a wee bit disrespectful as although mr doesn’t play he’s still involved to a certain.extent, although tbf the guys we have met have been lovely and seemed to get the dynamic between us "
Usually a few words give a persons personality away.
He, good on you, some know how to play. |
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Dont know why anyone would do this as monogamous relationships work so well. Comunication is key couples that swing communicate. Jealousy is based on a lack of trust in the strength of your relationship whether you swing or not. |
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"Dont know why anyone would do this as monogamous relationships work so well. Comunication is key couples that swing communicate. Jealousy is based on a lack of trust in the strength of your relationship whether you swing or not."
To be fair many monogamous relationships do work very well and of those that don't not many would be improved by swinging.
I think you're right about communication and in my opinion lack of effective communication from one or both partners is the cause of nearly all relationship problems. |
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I wouldn’t say I got jealous cos the only thing that makes me feel jealous is seeing someone driving a car I want. Motors are the only thing that make me think, fuck I wish I had that you lucky lucky bastard.
I get feelings of worthlessness and like I’m not good enough and then go and get a tattoo or have something pierced and take it straight out afterwards. |
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"I think you're right about communication and in my opinion lack of effective communication from one or both partners is the cause of nearly all relationship problems. "
Oh,how true.......!! Wish I had been better at communicating in my relationships. |
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"I think you're right about communication and in my opinion lack of effective communication from one or both partners is the cause of nearly all relationship problems.
Oh,how true.......!! Wish I had been better at communicating in my relationships."
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By *ee04Man
over a year ago
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As I’ve not read all posts, it boils down to your outlook me and my ex wife ice used to swing and as has been said, sex is not love and once you get passed that it’s simple.
After all this is a site for people who want to hook up for sex/rucking whatever you want to call it.
If your looking for love and a life partner there are a lot of other sites better suited for it. But your on here looking for sex? Which can be enjoyable and fun without the emotional baggage that goes into a relationship. |
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For us It's about being very objective, honest and open. Also, ensuring you're both completely on the same page with it and just having fun/sharing experiences together! |
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"I think you're right about communication and in my opinion lack of effective communication from one or both partners is the cause of nearly all relationship problems.
Oh,how true.......!! Wish I had been better at communicating in my relationships.
It takes two, might not have been all you "
Thanks for that... Made me think...
In my last relationship she was always quick to point out how good she was at "communication" and how poor I was... |
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We have had the couple experiences and being able to look over you shoulder while your getting pleasure and seeing the mrs with someone else moaning and enjoying her self is such a big turn on even afterwards you end up jumping on each other because your both so horny,
We have started separate meets mrs had a few socials with diffrent people but they didnt go any further recently so has met someone and had 2 socials then had a hotel meet last week,
Unfortunately I havent gained any speed with mine after months of trying on here and diffrent apps I just keep hitting brick walls so I have given up haha
With the separate its completely diffrent, she came home after a few hours and we spoke, "we did this this and this" no detail and very brief I could see how happy she was and how horny she was which made me horny as hell and because she was late in and up early for work the next day I didnt even get to jump on her so I was a bit frustrated haha,
From the single meets I dont feel like I'm getting the enjoyment out of it I could like the couples because I'm fully involved in them, mrs feels uncomfortable talking in detail about what happened and because they talk not on here I dont get to see the flirty and dirty chats and that's the part I enjoy out of it, I like seeing what's going on and knowing details that's the biggest turn on for me,
I'm enjoying shes having the fun and has the excitement and it turns me on at how turned on she is so I'm not jealous in the slightest, I just feel like I'm not getting nothing out of this situation,
Have another couple had this before? |
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"We have had the couple experiences and being able to look over you shoulder while your getting pleasure and seeing the mrs with someone else moaning and enjoying her self is such a big turn on even afterwards you end up jumping on each other because your both so horny,
We have started separate meets mrs had a few socials with diffrent people but they didnt go any further recently so has met someone and had 2 socials then had a hotel meet last week,
Unfortunately I havent gained any speed with mine after months of trying on here and diffrent apps I just keep hitting brick walls so I have given up haha
With the separate its completely diffrent, she came home after a few hours and we spoke, "we did this this and this" no detail and very brief I could see how happy she was and how horny she was which made me horny as hell and because she was late in and up early for work the next day I didnt even get to jump on her so I was a bit frustrated haha,
From the single meets I dont feel like I'm getting the enjoyment out of it I could like the couples because I'm fully involved in them, mrs feels uncomfortable talking in detail about what happened and because they talk not on here I dont get to see the flirty and dirty chats and that's the part I enjoy out of it, I like seeing what's going on and knowing details that's the biggest turn on for me,
I'm enjoying shes having the fun and has the excitement and it turns me on at how turned on she is so I'm not jealous in the slightest, I just feel like I'm not getting nothing out of this situation,
Have another couple had this before?"
We like many other couples only play together. If we want 1 on 1 sex we have the best ever with each other. The whole reason we swing is to experience sex acts that are impossible between just a man and a women 1 on 1. Thressomes, foursomes, orgies etc that are experiences that me and my wife share together.
I know some couples decide to play seperately and respect if thsts what does it for you but as they guy you have to accept your wife can have 5 cocks every night if she so chose where (without clubs, social events and private parties) as a husband playing alone you have joined the competitive category of been a single / solo male therefore your gonna need a lot of hard work / effort to get 5 meets in a whole year. The imbalance is huge.
I've spoken to many husband's who have become disappointed, upset, even jealous that they as a solo male find it very very hard to find a single meet with a female or even a couple whilst their wife can find a meet every night of the week if she wanted to.
KJ x
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To be brutally honest for us swinging is about finding like minded people with whom to share experiences with. The attitude of the op and some others on this thread is exactly why we only meet couples or proven bi singles. We believe that you shouldn't ask others to do things you wouldn't. |
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"We have had the couple experiences and being able to look over you shoulder while your getting pleasure and seeing the mrs with someone else moaning and enjoying her self is such a big turn on even afterwards you end up jumping on each other because your both so horny,
We have started separate meets mrs had a few socials with diffrent people but they didnt go any further recently so has met someone and had 2 socials then had a hotel meet last week,
Unfortunately I havent gained any speed with mine after months of trying on here and diffrent apps I just keep hitting brick walls so I have given up haha
With the separate its completely diffrent, she came home after a few hours and we spoke, "we did this this and this" no detail and very brief I could see how happy she was and how horny she was which made me horny as hell and because she was late in and up early for work the next day I didnt even get to jump on her so I was a bit frustrated haha,
From the single meets I dont feel like I'm getting the enjoyment out of it I could like the couples because I'm fully involved in them, mrs feels uncomfortable talking in detail about what happened and because they talk not on here I dont get to see the flirty and dirty chats and that's the part I enjoy out of it, I like seeing what's going on and knowing details that's the biggest turn on for me,
I'm enjoying shes having the fun and has the excitement and it turns me on at how turned on she is so I'm not jealous in the slightest, I just feel like I'm not getting nothing out of this situation,
Have another couple had this before?
We like many other couples only play together. If we want 1 on 1 sex we have the best ever with each other. The whole reason we swing is to experience sex acts that are impossible between just a man and a women 1 on 1. Thressomes, foursomes, orgies etc that are experiences that me and my wife share together.
I know some couples decide to play seperately and respect if thsts what does it for you but as they guy you have to accept your wife can have 5 cocks every night if she so chose where (without clubs, social events and private parties) as a husband playing alone you have joined the competitive category of been a single / solo male therefore your gonna need a lot of hard work / effort to get 5 meets in a whole year. The imbalance is huge.
I've spoken to many husband's who have become disappointed, upset, even jealous that they as a solo male find it very very hard to find a single meet with a female or even a couple whilst their wife can find a meet every night of the week if she wanted to.
KJ x
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Oh I understand the competition as a solo male in this world its unbelievable, I understand it's far easier for women to get what they want, I can say stop at anytime and she will so that doesnt bother me I enjoy how happy and horny it all makes her so it is worth it in that way |
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