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Men on Fab more immature?
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"I dont think it just fab or online, I do and have worked with lots of men that have that mentality, I thinks it's more a case of some not all people either never grow up or they get to an age where they're past caring, I do think that some of the adult content that's readily available online has played a part in the corrosion of manners and respect though." I can’t help but agree with you ... plus hiding behind a keyboard perhaps gives some the balls to say such ‘teenage’ thoughts rather than in the reality of face to face  | |||
"I dont think it just fab or online, I do and have worked with lots of men that have that mentality, I thinks it's more a case of some not all people either never grow up or they get to an age where they're past caring, I do think that some of the adult content that's readily available online has played a part in the corrosion of manners and respect though. I can’t help but agree with you ... plus hiding behind a keyboard perhaps gives some the balls to say such ‘teenage’ thoughts rather than in the reality of face to face "Ah yes, the safety blanket of the internet, I wonder how many actually talk to people like that in clubs and at socials | |||
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"I once saw a guy in his 50's on the forum here (on a swinger's site!) type "ewwwww" in response to a discussion of male bisexuality. (Clearly, he wasn't hiding anything!) We regularly get messages from guys in their 40s asking to pound my missus, cum inside her, wank over her, meet now and worse. I am seriously talking about guys on their 40s and 50s. Is it really this bad in the "real world," or does Fab just attract an unusual amount of man-boys? I've lost track of the times I've said, "Yes, you could have fucked her/us, but you cocked it up at the lost minute by being a complete twat!"" Who's getting old and losing their sense of humour, everyone has their preferences men and women alike oh and couples to, this place has an order in terms of popularity eg women rule, couples next because they allude to a woman then maybe trannies/cds then men at bottom of pile, some have a difficult journey here because of how they interact with others but nobody is better than the other person or has a right to abuse, if you don't enjoy the way a person reacts to your demands or wishes just move on, horses for coarses old bean    | |||
"Keyboard warriors no respect for anyone what so ever. Think it’s ok to crude and offensive in their private little bubble. If they spoke to someone like this in the real world, would probably be arrested or worse. There is unfortunately a community of people who do think this way in the real world. " You know I have been on here a long time , heats it all before but sometimes yes it can upset / shock / scare even how intimidating some can be I do wonder sometimes the effect messages like that can actually have on a newbie tho ? I have and still have 3 stalker guys that are relentless in their pursuit. New accounts all the time , tracking on fb with crude messages They choose to forget that there is a real world out there that i don’t want them part of | |||
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"Not just immature but completely fucking clueless hoe to present themselves or how to interact with a girl or couple. How on earth do half the guys in here ever get laid? Who would go near them " Honestly as a man I wonder the same. So many men on fab have no respect and no idea how to interact with people I have no idea how they get anywhere in real life. | |||
All i want is decent sex where i can try different positions including amazon amd lotus  | |||
"Yup that's the main reason why I am still a fab virgin after nearly 8 months being actively on here. Just keep attracting man boys with very off putting behaviour.
All i want is decent sex where i can try different positions including amazon amd lotus "hey you're gorgeous you will achieve it be patient  | |||
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"Not trying to justify anything here or point fingers, however I have a theory that a lot of men on here start out as decent guys and end up getting ignored because they are drowning in a sea of single males and then the frustration kicks in and they become part of the problem rather that the cure, add to that many people think this is a sex site and cant seem to understand that swinging is a lifestyle and a very sociable one at that it's not just about fucking strangers whenever you get the horn, I've been here before both as a single male and as half of a couple, I rarely send private messages to people and when I do it's usually about something relevant ie a forum post or an answer to a question on their status, 9 times out of ten it goes unread, and that's fine I know first hand how many crap messages couples receive and its difficult to wade through and find the nice guys, but my advice to all members of fab would be that amongst that sea of unread messages there will be some little jams just waiting for a reply, it may not be a lengthy immaculately thought out message but an initial little ice breaker that could lead to a fabulous friendship. As per usual just my humble opinion "Well said sir | |||
"Not trying to justify anything here or point fingers, however I have a theory that a lot of men on here start out as decent guys and end up getting ignored because they are drowning in a sea of single males and then the frustration kicks in and they become part of the problem rather that the cure, add to that many people think this is a sex site and cant seem to understand that swinging is a lifestyle and a very sociable one at that it's not just about fucking strangers whenever you get the horn, I've been here before both as a single male and as half of a couple, I rarely send private messages to people and when I do it's usually about something relevant ie a forum post or an answer to a question on their status, 9 times out of ten it goes unread, and that's fine I know first hand how many crap messages couples receive and its difficult to wade through and find the nice guys, but my advice to all members of fab would be that amongst that sea of unread messages there will be some little jams just waiting for a reply, it may not be a lengthy immaculately thought out message but an initial little ice breaker that could lead to a fabulous friendship. As per usual just my humble opinion
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"Not trying to justify anything here or point fingers, however I have a theory that a lot of men on here start out as decent guys and end up getting ignored because they are drowning in a sea of single males and then the frustration kicks in and they become part of the problem rather that the cure, add to that many people think this is a sex site and cant seem to understand that swinging is a lifestyle and a very sociable one at that it's not just about fucking strangers whenever you get the horn, I've been here before both as a single male and as half of a couple, I rarely send private messages to people and when I do it's usually about something relevant ie a forum post or an answer to a question on their status, 9 times out of ten it goes unread, and that's fine I know first hand how many crap messages couples receive and its difficult to wade through and find the nice guys, but my advice to all members of fab would be that amongst that sea of unread messages there will be some little jams just waiting for a reply, it may not be a lengthy immaculately thought out message but an initial little ice breaker that could lead to a fabulous friendship. As per usual just my humble opinion "strawberry jams would go down well at minute | |||
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"Not trying to justify anything here or point fingers, however I have a theory that a lot of men on here start out as decent guys and end up getting ignored because they are drowning in a sea of single males and then the frustration kicks in and they become part of the problem rather that the cure, add to that many people think this is a sex site and cant seem to understand that swinging is a lifestyle and a very sociable one at that it's not just about fucking strangers whenever you get the horn, I've been here before both as a single male and as half of a couple, I rarely send private messages to people and when I do it's usually about something relevant ie a forum post or an answer to a question on their status, 9 times out of ten it goes unread, and that's fine I know first hand how many crap messages couples receive and its difficult to wade through and find the nice guys, but my advice to all members of fab would be that amongst that sea of unread messages there will be some little jams just waiting for a reply, it may not be a lengthy immaculately thought out message but an initial little ice breaker that could lead to a fabulous friendship. As per usual just my humble opinion
Well said sir
*doffs cap"I thirdsie this (silly immature word  ) and agree, also know I am guilty of this too. | |||
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"Not trying to justify anything here or point fingers, however I have a theory that a lot of men on here start out as decent guys and end up getting ignored because they are drowning in a sea of single males and then the frustration kicks in and they become part of the problem rather that the cure, add to that many people think this is a sex site and cant seem to understand that swinging is a lifestyle and a very sociable one at that it's not just about fucking strangers whenever you get the horn, I've been here before both as a single male and as half of a couple, I rarely send private messages to people and when I do it's usually about something relevant ie a forum post or an answer to a question on their status, 9 times out of ten it goes unread, and that's fine I know first hand how many crap messages couples receive and its difficult to wade through and find the nice guys, but my advice to all members of fab would be that amongst that sea of unread messages there will be some little jams just waiting for a reply, it may not be a lengthy immaculately thought out message but an initial little ice breaker that could lead to a fabulous friendship. As per usual just my humble opinion "Agreed However part of the problem of people thinking this is a sex site and not knowing, understanding or having the mindset of swinging is the sites own fault. Look at its business model, how it sells itself, how it makes money, who it’s target audience, how and where it advertises itself. Think about it’s Unique Selling Point, what it’s biggest audience is, who that mostly appeals to, and how It manipulates that audience in being a cash cow for the owners, Many are under the illusion the site is for swingers, it really isn’t, if it were there are many many easy fixes that would reduce time wasters, fakes, stalkers etc etc but to put that in place would make a massive dent in the profits. The site is a useful tool, but I think you have to see it for what it is, with the expectation of what it really about, not what it pretends to be about and it does work (to a degree), and therefore adjust your expectations of it. | |||
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"Not trying to justify anything here or point fingers, however I have a theory that a lot of men on here start out as decent guys and end up getting ignored because they are drowning in a sea of single males and then the frustration kicks in and they become part of the problem rather that the cure, add to that many people think this is a sex site and cant seem to understand that swinging is a lifestyle and a very sociable one at that it's not just about fucking strangers whenever you get the horn, I've been here before both as a single male and as half of a couple, I rarely send private messages to people and when I do it's usually about something relevant ie a forum post or an answer to a question on their status, 9 times out of ten it goes unread, and that's fine I know first hand how many crap messages couples receive and its difficult to wade through and find the nice guys, but my advice to all members of fab would be that amongst that sea of unread messages there will be some little jams just waiting for a reply, it may not be a lengthy immaculately thought out message but an initial little ice breaker that could lead to a fabulous friendship. As per usual just my humble opinion
Agreed
However part of the problem of people thinking this is a sex site and not knowing, understanding or having the mindset of swinging is the sites own fault.
Look at its business model, how it sells itself, how it makes money, who it’s target audience, how and where it advertises itself.
Think about it’s Unique Selling Point, what it’s biggest audience is, who that mostly appeals to, and how It manipulates that audience in being a cash cow for the owners,
Many are under the illusion the site is for swingers, it really isn’t, if it were there are many many easy fixes that would reduce time wasters, fakes, stalkers etc etc but to put that in place would make a massive dent in the profits.
The site is a useful tool, but I think you have to see it for what it is, with the expectation of what it really about, not what it pretends to be about and it does work (to a degree), and therefore adjust your expectations of it. "its an internet domain plain and simple it sells itself under the name of swinging but for most people guys mainly but many women to it purports to be a sex site it comes under the category 18 and over an adult only site but its just a meeting point and not of the like minded as many say, we are all after different things here and life is about sex, this is life we arrive here and leave here the same people we came as, we maybe have some good or bad experiences to look back on but its still our life, its a meeting point | |||
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There are a small number of genuine, decent, respectful male Fab members though, it's just sometimes difficult to find them amongst the others! | |||
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"Its not just Fab, I’d say online generally...lot’s of false advertising going on up in here though, across the board! I mean, do you really think i look like my picture after stuffing my face with Greek food? "Definately agree with the false advertising side of things, came back on here after leaving for a few months and ill ive found is add my snap so i can promote my only fans site. With regards to the ops original post, i think its just a sad state of society at the minute and us polite and respectable people are getting tarred with the same brush | |||
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"We think a lot of this kind of chat is people looking for something to wank to rather than being anyone with any intention of actually meeting. As a bit of an experiment we responded to these kind of messages for a while, we were quite polite in saying that we only meet single guys in clubs and how to meet us, then we'd get back a lot of very childish excuses about how they couldn't actually meet but would love to "chat" and have us send them photos. " I think you are prob right And I think there are some that get kicks trying to shock etc | |||
"On the flip side I’ve lost count of the number of chats I’ve had here along the lines of “you’re not my type you seem too ‘nice’”." This sounds like they're trying to flatter you in to not getting angry with them for turning you down tbh. | |||
"Not just immature but completely fucking clueless hoe to present themselves or how to interact with a girl or couple. How on earth do half the guys in here ever get laid? Who would go near them " Definitely this! It's no surprise that some of them are single. | |||
"Not just immature but completely fucking clueless hoe to present themselves or how to interact with a girl or couple. How on earth do half the guys in here ever get laid? Who would go near them " this.
The thing is behaviour like that makes things difficult for genuine authentic swingers on the site.
There are diamonds in the rough though, they may be far and few between but they are there. | |||
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"I once saw a guy in his 50's on the forum here (on a swinger's site!) type "ewwwww" in response to a discussion of male bisexuality. (Clearly, he wasn't hiding anything!) We regularly get messages from guys in their 40s asking to pound my missus, cum inside her, wank over her, meet now and worse. I am seriously talking about guys on their 40s and 50s. Is it really this bad in the "real world," or does Fab just attract an unusual amount of man-boys? I've lost track of the times I've said, "Yes, you could have fucked her/us, but you cocked it up at the lost minute by being a complete twat!"" This unfortunately is the mindset of many guys and I think in their little screwed up mind they think it's actually going get them somewhere they have a complete lack of respect for women and for that matter have little respect for anyone or anything | |||
"I once saw a guy in his 50's on the forum here (on a swinger's site!) type "ewwwww" in response to a discussion of male bisexuality. (Clearly, he wasn't hiding anything!) We regularly get messages from guys in their 40s asking to pound my missus, cum inside her, wank over her, meet now and worse. I am seriously talking about guys on their 40s and 50s. Is it really this bad in the "real world," or does Fab just attract an unusual amount of man-boys? I've lost track of the times I've said, "Yes, you could have fucked her/us, but you cocked it up at the lost minute by being a complete twat!" This unfortunately is the mindset of many guys and I think in their little screwed up mind they think it's actually going get them somewhere they have a complete lack of respect for women and for that matter have little respect for anyone or anything " Ha ha, including themselves. | |||
"I once saw a guy in his 50's on the forum here (on a swinger's site!) type "ewwwww" in response to a discussion of male bisexuality. (Clearly, he wasn't hiding anything!) We regularly get messages from guys in their 40s asking to pound my missus, cum inside her, wank over her, meet now and worse. I am seriously talking about guys on their 40s and 50s. Is it really this bad in the "real world," or does Fab just attract an unusual amount of man-boys? I've lost track of the times I've said, "Yes, you could have fucked her/us, but you cocked it up at the lost minute by being a complete twat!" This unfortunately is the mindset of many guys and I think in their little screwed up mind they think it's actually going get them somewhere they have a complete lack of respect for women and for that matter have little respect for anyone or anything Ha ha, including themselves." agreed | |||
