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Is a blow job considered the same as having sex?
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"If it was someone I knew then yeah, I'd be fine just sucking their dick but I wouldn't just meet a guy to suck his cock. I get turned on doing it and I'd be pissed off if I didn't get fucked after "Fair comment  | |||
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"Ask Bill Clinton " ... or Hilary..... or Monika Lewinski | |||
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"Servicing?????? "Yea, I also thought that was a strange word to portray giving a blow job. | |||
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"If it was someone I knew then yeah, I'd be fine just sucking their dick but I wouldn't just meet a guy to suck his cock. I get turned on doing it and I'd be pissed off if I didn't get fucked after "This! X | |||
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"Servicing?????? "Yep we are all just free hookers ha | |||
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"Servicing??????
Yep we are all just free hookers ha "The bit I thought was weird was: " "And for them, it doesn’t present the same level of open surrender as does having sex, so they will much more willingly do it." " I prefer a partner to have sex with me because they actively love the shared experience, not because they surrender or show some sort of begrudging 'willingness' | |||
"Servicing??????
Yep we are all just free hookers ha
The bit I thought was weird was:
"And for them, it doesn’t present the same level of open surrender as does having sex, so they will much more willingly do it."
I prefer a partner to have sex with me because they actively love the shared experience, not because they surrender or show some sort of begrudging 'willingness'"Yes! It’s a very odd/old fashioned post. We women are clearly just having sex or sucking cock to please a man  | |||
"Personally I find giving a blowjob slightly more intimate than having sex" I was thinking this x | |||
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"To all the women out there, I would like to know your thoughts on this, is this a fair statement? "For a huge swath of women, sex and blow jobs are not the same thing. A lot of girls just don’t really see blow jobs in the same light as sexual intercourse. Yes, they are servicing you, but a lot of girls legitimately enjoy a good sucking session. And for them, it doesn’t present the same level of open surrender as does having sex, so they will much more willingly do it." I ask as I'm sure like most men on this site, I find it really difficult to find a couple or a woman who would happily give a good blow job to a guy (and vice versa if they want), finding soft swing partners seems just as hard as finding full swing partners when if the statement above is a fair comment to the majority, then it should be a bit easier to find women and couples who like to indulge in oral/soft swing. " Sorry if I'm confusing this lol are you asking about a woman just giving a bloke a bj and that's it end of ? | |||
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"Ask Bill Clinton "Asking him questions is fine.... Just don't accept a cigar I'f he offers you one ?? | |||
"To all the women out there, I would like to know your thoughts on this, is this a fair statement? "For a huge swath of women, sex and blow jobs are not the same thing. A lot of girls just don’t really see blow jobs in the same light as sexual intercourse. Yes, they are servicing you, but a lot of girls legitimately enjoy a good sucking session. And for them, it doesn’t present the same level of open surrender as does having sex, so they will much more willingly do it." I ask as I'm sure like most men on this site, I find it really difficult to find a couple or a woman who would happily give a good blow job to a guy (and vice versa if they want), finding soft swing partners seems just as hard as finding full swing partners when if the statement above is a fair comment to the majority, then it should be a bit easier to find women and couples who like to indulge in oral/soft swing. Sorry if I'm confusing this lol are you asking about a woman just giving a bloke a bj and that's it end of ? " Yes, he is. | |||
"To all the women out there, I would like to know your thoughts on this, is this a fair statement? "For a huge swath of women, sex and blow jobs are not the same thing. A lot of girls just don’t really see blow jobs in the same light as sexual intercourse. Yes, they are servicing you, but a lot of girls legitimately enjoy a good sucking session. And for them, it doesn’t present the same level of open surrender as does having sex, so they will much more willingly do it." I ask as I'm sure like most men on this site, I find it really difficult to find a couple or a woman who would happily give a good blow job to a guy (and vice versa if they want), finding soft swing partners seems just as hard as finding full swing partners when if the statement above is a fair comment to the majority, then it should be a bit easier to find women and couples who like to indulge in oral/soft swing. Sorry if I'm confusing this lol are you asking about a woman just giving a bloke a bj and that's it end of ? Yes, he is." Pfft be an instant block from me like his needs only I don't think so | |||
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"OP, PUAs are the worst, stop taking their advice. Women are not a commodity, trying to pressure a woman into giving a BJ because “it’s not sex” isn’t a good thing to do, and believe me when I say a woman who feels pressured into it is not going to find it “fun and enjoyable”. Women are all individuals, but PUA advice ignores that fact and provides a one size fits all approach. As you can see from the replies here we all have different views on this subject, so assuming every woman you meet will “willingly” “service” you if you say it’s not sex isn’t going to work." | |||
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" "[to] assuage a girl if she puts up any resistance by reiterating the fact that ‘it’s not sex’. And then they get a blow job. You’d be surprised at how effective that friendly reminder can truly be". " Gulp. The whole thing is pretty horrid, but that line in particular! And, no, not trying to virtue signal - just don't find having to 'persuade' anyone particularly sexy! I think the OP's latest status let's on where this post was going...!  | |||
" "[to] assuage a girl if she puts up any resistance by reiterating the fact that ‘it’s not sex’. And then they get a blow job. You’d be surprised at how effective that friendly reminder can truly be". Gulp. The whole thing is pretty horrid, but that line in particular! And, no, not trying to virtue signal - just don't find having to 'persuade' anyone particularly sexy! I think the OP's latest status let's on where this post was going...! "I know, it’s grim isn’t it - I find it a bit scary that there are so many men out there who think like that or who believe that this kind of technique is ok. I’ve never understood it myself, surely having to “persuade” someone is less fun! And I think you might be right there lol | |||
"To all the women out there, I would like to know your thoughts on this, is this a fair statement? "For a huge swath of women, sex and blow jobs are not the same thing. A lot of girls just don’t really see blow jobs in the same light as sexual intercourse. Yes, they are servicing you, but a lot of girls legitimately enjoy a good sucking session. And for them, it doesn’t present the same level of open surrender as does having sex, so they will much more willingly do it." I ask as I'm sure like most men on this site, I find it really difficult to find a couple or a woman who would happily give a good blow job to a guy (and vice versa if they want), finding soft swing partners seems just as hard as finding full swing partners when if the statement above is a fair comment to the majority, then it should be a bit easier to find women and couples who like to indulge in oral/soft swing. " Have you found lots who will give a bad blow job? | |||
"I enjoy giving Blow Jobs, I can get turned on just as much as the man does...Its not always about the sex! Touching has a lot to do with it for me,as does kissing,and watching the person your giving pleasure to....im sure as hell I could cum myself while giving a blow job with the right tweak of the nipples.... Sex is always a bonus.xxx" HERE! HERE! | |||
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" "[to] assuage a girl if she puts up any resistance by reiterating the fact that ‘it’s not sex’. And then they get a blow job. You’d be surprised at how effective that friendly reminder can truly be". Gulp. The whole thing is pretty horrid, but that line in particular! And, no, not trying to virtue signal - just don't find having to 'persuade' anyone particularly sexy! I think the OP's latest status let's on where this post was going...!
I know, it’s grim isn’t it - I find it a bit scary that there are so many men out there who think like that or who believe that this kind of technique is ok. I’ve never understood it myself, surely having to “persuade” someone is less fun!
And I think you might be right there lol"There was the guy who got sentenced for it recently wasn’t there. He had a YouTube channel showing him approaching women. It’s the whole don’t take no for an answer that really bothers me. “If she puts up any resistance”. Makes my skin crawl | |||
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"Because there was something about the tone of the quote that threw up some red flags, and because OP hasn’t responded to my question about where it came from, I googled it. Surprise surprise, it’s from a pick-up artist website. The full quote: “ To many women, sex is a big deal. If you really think about it, it’s a massive act of surrender and vulnerability to let herself be penetrated by another human being. Here’s the secret every man who wants to know how to get a blow job with any amount of consistency needs to know, though: for a huge swath of women, sex and blow jobs are not the same thing. A lot of girls just don’t really see blow jobs in the same light as sexual intercourse. Yes, they are servicing you, but a lot of girls legitimately enjoy a good sucking session. And for them, it doesn’t present the same level of open surrender as does having sex, so they will much more willingly do it. Some girls will even give a blow job without thinking twice about it. They’ll engage in the activity as if it were on the same level as making out. So if you want to put yourself in the position where you get a blow job more often than you currently do, then it’s important to stop building it up in your head. I’ve also known some individuals in the seduction industry to assuage a girl if she puts up any resistance by reiterating the fact that ‘it’s not sex’. And then they get a blow job. You’d be surprised at how effective that friendly reminder can truly be. So remember: it’s just a blow job. It’s not sex. It doesn’t make her a whore. It’s just fun and enjoyable.” OP, PUAs are the worst, stop taking their advice. Women are not a commodity, trying to pressure a woman into giving a BJ because “it’s not sex” isn’t a good thing to do, and believe me when I say a woman who feels pressured into it is not going to find it “fun and enjoyable”. Women are all individuals, but PUA advice ignores that fact and provides a one size fits all approach. As you can see from the replies here we all have different views on this subject, so assuming every woman you meet will “willingly” “service” you if you say it’s not sex isn’t going to work." Apologies for not responding earlier to where I read the quote, it was here https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-blow-job-any-girl-you-want-its-easy I agree with your comments, I was just wondering how women feel about soft swing as opposed to meeting a guy from FS for penetration. I was wondering if it would be easier to get these types of meets (and as others have said, yes it's a 2 way street so it's not all about servicing, terrible phrase, the guy). And yes, having full sex after would be great so also agree with these comments. | |||
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"To all the women out there, I would like to know your thoughts on this, is this a fair statement? "For a huge swath of women, sex and blow jobs are not the same thing. A lot of girls just don’t really see blow jobs in the same light as sexual intercourse. Yes, they are servicing you, but a lot of girls legitimately enjoy a good sucking session. And for them, it doesn’t present the same level of open surrender as does having sex, so they will much more willingly do it." I ask as I'm sure like most men on this site, I find it really difficult to find a couple or a woman who would happily give a good blow job to a guy (and vice versa if they want), finding soft swing partners seems just as hard as finding full swing partners when if the statement above is a fair comment to the majority, then it should be a bit easier to find women and couples who like to indulge in oral/soft swing. Have you found lots who will give a bad blow job?" No not at all. The blog which I read on the internet caught me by surprise so I thought I'd share it for debate. I often wondered are there couples or single women who would be more likely to meet a guy for soft swing as opposed to full sex. Some have said as a couple they invite a guy for soft swing but not for full sex as the husband or boyfriend would do that. | |||
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" "[to] assuage a girl if she puts up any resistance by reiterating the fact that ‘it’s not sex’. And then they get a blow job. You’d be surprised at how effective that friendly reminder can truly be". Gulp. The whole thing is pretty horrid, but that line in particular! And, no, not trying to virtue signal - just don't find having to 'persuade' anyone particularly sexy! I think the OP's latest status let's on where this post was going...!
I know, it’s grim isn’t it - I find it a bit scary that there are so many men out there who think like that or who believe that this kind of technique is ok. I’ve never understood it myself, surely having to “persuade” someone is less fun!
And I think you might be right there lol
There was the guy who got sentenced for it recently wasn’t there. He had a YouTube channel showing him approaching women.
It’s the whole don’t take no for an answer that really bothers me. “If she puts up any resistance”. Makes my skin crawl "I know...need to finish that sentence for them: "if she puts up any resistance...you don't have consent and are likely to be committing a sexual assault..." | |||
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" "[to] assuage a girl if she puts up any resistance by reiterating the fact that ‘it’s not sex’. And then they get a blow job. You’d be surprised at how effective that friendly reminder can truly be". Gulp. The whole thing is pretty horrid, but that line in particular! And, no, not trying to virtue signal - just don't find having to 'persuade' anyone particularly sexy! I think the OP's latest status let's on where this post was going...!
I know, it’s grim isn’t it - I find it a bit scary that there are so many men out there who think like that or who believe that this kind of technique is ok. I’ve never understood it myself, surely having to “persuade” someone is less fun!
And I think you might be right there lol"Yep, persuasion (or coercion, more accurately) is not my ideal foreplay!! | |||
"For me I find oral more intimate that sex. I wouldn’t meet a guy to just suck him off even though it turns me on doing it. But saying that, there is one guy that I will do it for as I know him and he uses his fingers in me as he knows I get a lot of pleasure out of that. I often see status updates from guys looking for a suck and go meet and it puts me off them instantly. Pleasure should be a two way thing " Thanks, that's really good to know and I agree with you 100% | |||
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