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Is it wrong to have a lover?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What do others think about individuals having a lover when married?

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By *abat40xWoman over a year ago

North Lincolnshire

"What do others think about individuals having a lover when married?"

Each to their own as long as no one gets hurt but I wouldn't personally

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By *hickennchipsWoman over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

Each to their own, who are we to judge?

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By *essie.Woman over a year ago

Serendipity

OP - These threads usually end badly. Some won’t care, others will act like you are the spawn of satan.

My own take on it is not my monkey, not my circus.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

If its consensual in the marriage then it's fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's just that I met a lady who is married. Her husband doesn't have sex with her. She says she needs sex and to be intimate. She wants a secret live to fulfill her needs.

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By *epsonWoman over a year ago

Biddulph

It is called adultery if not consensual with your wife. Adultery is adultery.

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By *ebjonnsonMan over a year ago

Maldon

The French get away with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your marriage, your choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is called adultery if not consensual with your wife. Adultery is adultery."

Maybe a cuck couple would be for you, where the wife plays but with husbands knowledge and consent.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"It's just that I met a lady who is married. Her husband doesn't have sex with her. She says she needs sex and to be intimate. She wants a secret live to fulfill her needs."

Nothing is ever as straightforward as it seems. Marriages run into difficulties and there are often faults on both sides. Personally I don't think looking for the answer outside of the relationship is a good idea but maybe the solution can't be found within it.

Tread warily, the word "intimacy" indicates to me that it isn't just sex being denied her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your marriage, your choice."

Doesn't the other person in the marriage get a choice? Marriage is a 2 person thing after all

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

"What do others think about individuals having a lover when married?"

if it's right for everyone involved, why not?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If all parties are in agreement... why not.

If they aren’t then ask the question, how would you feel if it was you that found out? Not judging, just stating.

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

"It's just that I met a lady who is married. Her husband doesn't have sex with her. She says she needs sex and to be intimate. She wants a secret live to fulfill her needs."

Have fun!

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By *uenevereWoman over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"What do others think about individuals having a lover when married?"

All long as all parties are happy, I see no problem with it.

I don't approve of cheating though... for many reasons.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"It's just that I met a lady who is married. Her husband doesn't have sex with her. She says she needs sex and to be intimate. She wants a secret live to fulfill her needs."

If you both know the boundaries then I say go for it.

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By *hloevtTV/TS over a year ago

norwich

Strange question on a swingers site !! Xx

Or this the difference between lover and Fuck friends ?

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By *etamourMan over a year ago

York

Polyamoury is the way forward in my mind.

I was fucking another man's wife only last weekend, don't see anything wrong with it.......That said he was at the other end of her getting a BJ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If every one is happy it's all good x

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By *erces LetiferMan over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Ethical, consensual non-monogamy... or not at all in my book.

There's nothing good to come from cheating, for anybody. Lies, shame, heartbreak... lack of trust, greater risk of STIs, it makes the whole of sexual landscape/interaction harder and less fun for everybody involved.

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By *isterPepperMan over a year ago

Central Swindon

This is a swinging site, so it should be taken as read that a good chunk of people here will be in a relationship.

However, without the knowledge of one or more partners is not swinging, it’s cheating.

However much you want to romanticise it as “having a lover”.

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