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over a year ago
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No not anal you dirty minded lot.
Autism, I am on the spectrum, I have Aspergers as it used to be known.
I think I manage to come across fairly neuro-typical on here because of the nature of being online means conversations are slower and I have time to formulate my responses.
However real life situations are a different matter, my social inadequacies become glaringly obvious, (struggling to make conversation). Which is a huge hinderance when most women want good conversations or even worse, banter. I’m struggling, anyone any ideas? |
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Sounds like a tough position. I don't have any great suggestions but being up front about it probably gets a bit of leeway. And whilst banter can be important I think a lot of people value other personality aspects just as much, just may take a bit more time and luck to find the right people |
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"No not anal you dirty minded lot.
Autism, I am on the spectrum, I have Aspergers as it used to be known.
I think I manage to come across fairly neuro-typical on here because of the nature of being online means conversations are slower and I have time to formulate my responses.
However real life situations are a different matter, my social inadequacies become glaringly obvious, (struggling to make conversation). Which is a huge hinderance when most women want good conversations or even worse, banter. I’m struggling, anyone any ideas?"
Without giving too much away, we TOTALLY get it. It is possible to find the right person/people, we are testament to that. It's hard to give advice because what works for one person isn't another's cup of tea. Maybe try to arrange a small social in a place you are comfortable/confident. Maybe share your interests and see if anyone fancies a board game or table top game session, for example. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just be yourself and tell any potential meets your situation which may explain your shyness,most people in this world are tolerant and nice and it won’t matter to them....I’ve a autistic daughter so I know |
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"No not anal you dirty minded lot.
Autism, I am on the spectrum, I have Aspergers as it used to be known.
I think I manage to come across fairly neuro-typical on here because of the nature of being online means conversations are slower and I have time to formulate my responses.
However real life situations are a different matter, my social inadequacies become glaringly obvious, (struggling to make conversation). Which is a huge hinderance when most women want good conversations or even worse, banter. I’m struggling, anyone any ideas?
Without giving too much away, we TOTALLY get it. It is possible to find the right person/people, we are testament to that. It's hard to give advice because what works for one person isn't another's cup of tea. Maybe try to arrange a small social in a place you are comfortable/confident. Maybe share your interests and see if anyone fancies a board game or table top game session, for example. "
Slightly off topic but love a good board game! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Your not alone I'm recently diagnosed as autistic
Be honest with the people you talk to if they don't get that you are wired differently they ain't worth your time |
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"Your not alone I'm recently diagnosed as autistic
Be honest with the people you talk to if they don't get that you are wired differently they ain't worth your time"
Thanks, unfortunately I find most people can understand it and be polite but don’t want to have to deal with it. Too much of an effort I suppose compared to other neuro-typicals |
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