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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So as some of you will have seen on my status, I get lots of offers from "straight" men who want to suck my dick.
Now before everyone says I can stop guy from messaging, why should I have to? I have some good friends on here, and doing so would affect them messaging me.
So my questions are
A- why say your straight when you're clearly bi,
B- why messaged someone when the profile says straight and not interested in men.
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"So as some of you will have seen on my status, I get lots of offers from "straight" men who want to suck my dick.
Now before everyone says I can stop guy from messaging, why should I have to? I have some good friends on here, and doing so would affect them messaging me.
So my questions are
A- why say your straight when you're clearly bi,
B- why messaged someone when the profile says straight and not interested in men.
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Why would it bother you so, is it stressing you out ? Ruining your day to day life ? Thinking you may give in ? |
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Because there is a huge amount of homophobia around these parts and a man with bi-curious / bisexual on his profile will be deemed disgusting by many women / couples. Isn't that just common knowledge? Am I missing something? |
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I think the fact you seem to have a rather impressive rock hard cock is part of the reason these guys are drawn to you.
In my experience lots of guys state straight on there profile instead of bi because they think it might put off potential female suitors.
Whilst plenty guys on FAB are simply fantasists and are here purely for wank fodder.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So as some of you will have seen on my status, I get lots of offers from "straight" men who want to suck my dick.
Now before everyone says I can stop guy from messaging, why should I have to? I have some good friends on here, and doing so would affect them messaging me.
So my questions are
A- why say your straight when you're clearly bi,
B- why messaged someone when the profile says straight and not interested in men.
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You can block single men and still talk to your male ‘friends’  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So as some of you will have seen on my status, I get lots of offers from "straight" men who want to suck my dick.
Now before everyone says I can stop guy from messaging, why should I have to? I have some good friends on here, and doing so would affect them messaging me.
So my questions are
A- why say your straight when you're clearly bi,
B- why messaged someone when the profile says straight and not interested in men.
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Yeah it’s really annoying!
Feel most sorry for the unsuspecting women/couples that don’t want to meet Bi guys that these ‘straight’ men are messaging after sucking cock
Basically a lot of guys on here have no respect for people’s preferences and will do or say whatever it takes to get a meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take it as a compliment and move on does it matter if you dont want them to suck you just delete the message.
Its flattering to be offered you dont need to accept it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are lots of guys who would not consider themselves gay but are nevertheless turned on by a cock. Does it really matter if no one is harmed? This is 2020 and not 1920! "
if you are turned on by cock you aint straight.....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are lots of guys who would not consider themselves gay but are nevertheless turned on by a cock. Does it really matter if no one is harmed? This is 2020 and not 1920! "
Definitely not gay but are bi. |
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I get loads of messages from "straight" men on here. A good percentage of them are also on fabguys too and listed as bi.
I won't meet anyone that is listed as straight because I don't like dishonesty but they always say one of two things "I am bi really but it puts women and couples off if I list myself as bi" or "I can't put myself as bi because I have friends on here" |
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Not that it should make difference in this day and age, but there’s a pretty big grey spectrum between 100% straight through 100% bisexual to 100% gay. Where each on finishes and another starts is up to each individual to decide. |
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It's your profile to use the way that you want to, as it is their own too, all subject to site rules.
Partly ops comment is about how people, or men in particular, understand and/or communicate their sexual orientation to others.
If someone has an interest that's 100% only for 1 thing, it can be hard for them to understand others who are not in the same 100% type of mindset.
Once you grasp that some other people will never be like you, you then have a choice - accept it or persist in wanting them to change. The latter isn't within your remit but you can certainly change how you live.
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
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"Not that it should make difference in this day and age, but there’s a pretty big grey spectrum between 100% straight through 100% bisexual to 100% gay. Where each on finishes and another starts is up to each individual to decide. "
Couldn’t agree more - well said! |
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"So as some of you will have seen on my status, I get lots of offers from "straight" men who want to suck my dick.
Now before everyone says I can stop guy from messaging, why should I have to? I have some good friends on here, and doing so would affect them messaging me.
So my questions are
A- why say your straight when you're clearly bi,
B- why messaged someone when the profile says straight and not interested in men.
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Starting a thread about sucking cock......
Having an update status about sucking cock.....
Methinks the lady doth protest too much.... |
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They say they are straight when they are really bi as either they are in denial or they wrongly think that they will do better on fab by lying about it.
They message you even though you have straight on your profile as they assume that you are lying about it like they are. |
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"I get loads of messages from "straight" men on here. A good percentage of them are also on fabguys too and listed as bi.
I won't meet anyone that is listed as straight because I don't like dishonesty but they always say one of two things "I am bi really but it puts women and couples off if I list myself as bi" or "I can't put myself as bi because I have friends on here" "
I agree, if someone is dishonest, saying straight, but meeting other men, however stunning they look when dressed as a lady, who knows what else they are lying about.
And if your friends would judge you for your sexual preferences, are they really your friends?
I'm so much happier having come out as bisexual to most of my real friends.
Not everyone, but then I don't discuss sex with all my friends. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Because there is a huge amount of homophobia around these parts and a man with bi-curious / bisexual on his profile will be deemed disgusting by many women / couples. Isn't that just common knowledge? Am I missing something?"
While I don't disagree that homophobia exists here, nor do I disagree that there is a long way to go before bisexual males are as accepted as bisexual women, I do think on the other side of the scale that the perception of the level of homophobia and the numbers that won't meet bisexual men is completely overplayed.
In my experience the number that won't meet bisexual men is actually in the minority rather than being *many* - the majority either aren't in the slightest bit bothered either way, or actively seek us.
The perception that the majority won't meet us comes initially from the fact that people tend to advertise they won't (to try and deter messages) which is more noticeable, and then the myth is perpetuated by those bisexual men who either can't get meets and use that as a reason, or by those "Fab straight" men that believe it and hide their sexuality and then approach other men anyway.
As an openly bisexual man I've only experienced what I would call real homophobia on here a handful of times in three years, and it's certainly had no impact on my ability to meet people. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just for the record I always respond to people with a polite no thanks I'm straight.
I normally get that followed up by something like I'm discreet, or the last guy was straight as well.
As for changing my profile I don't feel I should have to, I just think that people should read profiles and respect people's wished when they say they're not interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gay and bi men make me cringe on here, proper show up begging for straight men and worse, actually thinking they are getting a real one.
On the other hand if they send a polite discrete message seeing if a man who has straight does meet men too (in other words discretely) then fine.
But to message a male on basis they are straight and thinking you can turn them, what a show up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Gay and bi men make me cringe on here, proper show up begging for straight men and worse, actually thinking they are getting a real one.
On the other hand if they send a polite discrete message seeing if a man who has straight does meet men too (in other words discretely) then fine.
But to message a male on basis they are straight and thinking you can turn them, what a show up "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because there is a huge amount of homophobia around these parts and a man with bi-curious / bisexual on his profile will be deemed disgusting by many women / couples. Isn't that just common knowledge? Am I missing something?"
Absolutely this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Why would it bother you so, is it stressing you out ? Ruining your day to day life ? Thinking you may give in ?"
Speaking for ourselves and it might be the same for the original poster, but it is about "Honesty" or indeed lack of it!!!!!
If you can not be Honest in your profile, then surely you should not be trusted in real life?
That is our tuppence worth. |
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So my questions are
A- why say your straight when you're clearly bi,
B- why messaged someone when the profile says straight and not interested in men.
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It's obvious OP.
You are too damn irresistible.
Take it as a compliment.
(no, I didn't send OP any messages..even if I did, I won't admit it).
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Much of this is very sad!
What has happened to good old honesty?
We have had a few successful social meets and many not so successful because of dishonesty!
With us they are always found out and they will get absolutely no where! |
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"Because there is a huge amount of homophobia around these parts and a man with bi-curious / bisexual on his profile will be deemed disgusting by many women / couples. Isn't that just common knowledge? Am I missing something?
While I don't disagree that homophobia exists here, nor do I disagree that there is a long way to go before bisexual males are as accepted as bisexual women, I do think on the other side of the scale that the perception of the level of homophobia and the numbers that won't meet bisexual men is completely overplayed.
In my experience the number that won't meet bisexual men is actually in the minority rather than being *many* - the majority either aren't in the slightest bit bothered either way, or actively seek us.
The perception that the majority won't meet us comes initially from the fact that people tend to advertise they won't (to try and deter messages) which is more noticeable, and then the myth is perpetuated by those bisexual men who either can't get meets and use that as a reason, or by those "Fab straight" men that believe it and hide their sexuality and then approach other men anyway.
As an openly bisexual man I've only experienced what I would call real homophobia on here a handful of times in three years, and it's certainly had no impact on my ability to meet people."
Never had a problem with homophobia, and I'm just as likely to be rejected / not what the other people are looking for because of my age, build, beard or whatever |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because there is a huge amount of homophobia around these parts and a man with bi-curious / bisexual on his profile will be deemed disgusting by many women / couples. Isn't that just common knowledge? Am I missing something?
While I don't disagree that homophobia exists here, nor do I disagree that there is a long way to go before bisexual males are as accepted as bisexual women, I do think on the other side of the scale that the perception of the level of homophobia and the numbers that won't meet bisexual men is completely overplayed.
In my experience the number that won't meet bisexual men is actually in the minority rather than being *many* - the majority either aren't in the slightest bit bothered either way, or actively seek us.
The perception that the majority won't meet us comes initially from the fact that people tend to advertise they won't (to try and deter messages) which is more noticeable, and then the myth is perpetuated by those bisexual men who either can't get meets and use that as a reason, or by those "Fab straight" men that believe it and hide their sexuality and then approach other men anyway.
As an openly bisexual man I've only experienced what I would call real homophobia on here a handful of times in three years, and it's certainly had no impact on my ability to meet people."
Great post which is totally backed up by your verifications  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So as some of you will have seen on my status, I get lots of offers from "straight" men who want to suck my dick.
Now before everyone says I can stop guy from messaging, why should I have to? I have some good friends on here, and doing so would affect them messaging me.
So my questions are
A- why say your straight when you're clearly bi,
B- why messaged someone when the profile says straight and not interested in men.
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must be something about Northampton Men, dude I get it constantly so I have blocked males for awhile. Like you say shouldn't have to. |
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"Much of this is very sad!
What has happened to good old honesty?
We have had a few successful social meets and many not so successful because of dishonesty!
With us they are always found out and they will get absolutely no where! "
Honesty upon sexual orientation doesn't give everybody the answers that they want. Lies about some things are clear lies.
But, as I and others have detailed, not everyones sexuality is as clear cut and fixed as it is for many others. Bisexuality is also an incredibly varied range of interest. You'll find swingers who don't ever find the same gender attractive but who enjoy some same gender gay sex. Obviously that type of sexual interest is different to how gay or straight people typically are 'wired'. And occasional once off trying something, which they may find not to their taste, also is questionable if their sexual orientation has shifted 1 bit. |
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