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"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human? " I totally agree with you on this one. If someone has taken the time to send a message then like you said, a short reply with thanks but no or something is good manners, something that some folks on here do not have | |||
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"Ok I don't always reply to messages Come and shoot me now! What I do try to do is reply to those that have taken a bit of thought,im not asking for epics or tons of flattery,or any of the usual cliche stuff,but I just feel that some messages are worth the effort to reply to and some arn't Ill generally check out the profile to get an idea of the person before I read the message too On the other hand if I like the look of someone I have no issues with sending them a message myself,in fact I prefer to do that,if they don't repsond then I don't give it a second thought "Seems perfectly reasonable to me xxx   | |||
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"..................... Goes to check his in box, could be a few....... Seconds "Dont see why you would be unsuccessfull...good profile...more verifs from diff people would be better but a lot better than majority xxx | |||
"Hi there could you take a look at my profile and maybe leave a comment as to how I could improve profile thanks" take the sydeney uni bit out as it dont mean anything legal wise, and show some pictures of yourself other than your nob, like face & body, let people see whats on offer if you want them to buy! | |||
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Dont see why you would be unsuccessfull...good profile...more verifs from diff people would be better but a lot better than majority xxx "Thank you........... Mwah | |||
"Hi there could you take a look at my profile and maybe leave a comment as to how I could improve profile thanks take the sydeney uni bit out as it dont mean anything legal wise, and show some pictures of yourself other than your nob, like face & body, let people see whats on offer if you want them to buy!" AGREED the warning has no legal bearing.... why people post it is beyong me x | |||
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" take the sydeney uni bit out as it dont mean anything legal wise, .... AGREED the warning has no legal bearing.... why people post it is beyong me x "They don't understand the internet/Law, and it looks like they know what they are doing | |||
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" take the sydeney uni bit out as it dont mean anything legal wise, .... AGREED the warning has no legal bearing.... why people post it is beyong me x
They don't understand the internet/Law, and it looks like they know what they are doing "If you VOLUNTARILY place personal written information and/or photographs on a PUBLIC website....you are entering the PUBLIC DOMAIN... therefore ANYONE (man next door/universitys/newspapers) can use this information in anyway they like and you CANNOT DO ANYTHING about it legally. You give up you LEGAL right to privacy when you post the information. MORALLY I believe you should have the right to privacy... but were talking LAW not morality. xxx | |||
"People ask for face picture without having one on their profile. It's difficult because who sends the first pic.Also many profiles with no photos whatsoever asking for face pictures " If they send the first message then they should send the photo. If we send a first message we include a photo and also have plenty showing of both of our bodies on our profile. L | |||
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"It must be a lot harder for women and couples to get through the constant stream of mail they get from us desperate single blokes. I know I get pissed off when I get the "how r u m8" or "nys cok" mails from blokes. Whilst I dont reply to those, I always reply to any where my profile has clearly been read. I try to go out of my way to personslise any introductory message I send, but isn't always that easy and I would imagine parts of it do come across a seemingly copy and pasted due to there only being a limited amount of ways that you can say the same thing each time. I tend to say "have a look at my profile" as its a far better way of selling myself than an ice breaking intro message. Whilst a thanks but no thanks reply would be far more polite than just a deletion, I just have to see it as a challenge and hope my profile makes me stand out from the crowd a little." Seems a good way to conduct yourself, checked your profile and its good generally but add some pics xxx chels | |||
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"Thanks Chels, I have my private pics that Im more than happy to send out on request, if I'm getting along with someone. Being so damn good looking though, if I were to make them public, I'd be swamped with messages! "lol listen to mr lover lover lol xxx | |||
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"Thanks Chels, I have my private pics that Im more than happy to send out on request, if I'm getting along with someone. Being so damn good looking though, if I were to make them public, I'd be swamped with messages!
lol listen to mr lover lover lol xxx"Just off to widen the doors........... | |||
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, but to get back to the OP, if someone's read my profile, I will respond with either a thanks but no thanks or a let's get to know each other better..... | |||
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"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human? " How arrogant are you! So, because some short, married, bi Dom from Inverness sends me a well crafted message saying he's coming to London next week and staying in a hotel near Hyde Park and would like some cbt I should write and say no thanks, when my profile clearly states no short, married, bi Doms not local to me and no hotels?!! Yeah...right!  | |||
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"Considering that most of the mail I get from single guys is at complete odds with my profile, I figure it far more simply. If they are too ignorant to read the profile, or so arrogant that they feel it does not apply to them, then usually I will simply delete their mail AND block them! Why the hell not? I do however reply to all mail relevant to my profile." Should have read to the end and save on typing.  Exactly my point exactly.
I too always respond to messages that match my profile or if they say I know I don't meet all you're asking but... | |||
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"We actually try to reply to mail, especially if you can tell they have read our profile and taken time to send a message we feel it's only manners. Although we usually delete one liners! "Hastily reappraises his " hi.... Nice arse pic, fancy a fook?" message........ Obviously where i been going wrong lmao | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human? How arrogant are you! So, because some short, married, bi Dom from Inverness sends me a well crafted message saying he's coming to London next week and staying in a hotel near Hyde Park and would like some cbt I should write and say no thanks, when my profile clearly states no short, married, bi Doms not local to me and no hotels?!! Yeah...right! "u should be flattered | |||
"Picture Location Profile That's the order people will decide if they want to take it further from an email. People who mention looks not important, personality is etc etc are a bit well...on the wrong site" Not for all of us. For me it's profile, location then picture. I'm looking for a local sub, what difference is the picture going to make if its a Dom from Edmonton. I rarely get to the pic stage. | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human? How arrogant are you! So, because some short, married, bi Dom from Inverness sends me a well crafted message saying he's coming to London next week and staying in a hotel near Hyde Park and would like some cbt I should write and say no thanks, when my profile clearly states no short, married, bi Doms not local to me and no hotels?!! Yeah...right! "I think you may be missing the point here. It has nothing to do with arrogance. It's basic human courtesy, especially if on your profile you are asking people to drop you a line. By doing so you're soliciting responses at the very least. And as responses aren't written by robots but by people, we can at least give them a little respect if they've taken the time to not copy and paste and send out a relevant message based on what they've read on a profile. Imagine a scenario where you have written something on your profile stating what you're looking for, and it matches what the person reading is into or connects in some way, and you also say something like ' get in touch if you're interested in so and so .. i won't bite' lol sort of thing. That comes across as friendly, light hearted and approachable etc so the person reading this thinks, ok this person sounds very friendly and my kind of person , I'll drop them a line. In other words i'm talking about a case where communication is encouraged.. ie if you're a single guy who likes so and so and live in so and so, get in touch .. So some of us you will make contact naturally.. I'm certainly not talking about cases where as people have previously mentioned, you have nothing in common with the profile, haven't read it, or used code words they asked you to in the subject , or you are over or under the age limit they've stated they are looking for etc.. In those cases delete and block can be justified imho. | |||
"We have had the same copy and paste email from the same guy atleast once a month since we've been a member. We was polite but declined his offer at the first email. Seems he forgot that and keeps sending them. Now we just delete as soon as it comes through. " lol, can totally understand that. it maybe worth blocking him too. | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human? How arrogant are you! So, because some short, married, bi Dom from Inverness sends me a well crafted message saying he's coming to London next week and staying in a hotel near Hyde Park and would like some cbt I should write and say no thanks, when my profile clearly states no short, married, bi Doms not local to me and no hotels?!! Yeah...right!
u should be flattered "I know your comment is tongue in cheek, however, misconception of many men on here I think, that's why we get these daily whining threads. I mean, how dare the desperate women on here not reply to one line cut and paste messages.  | |||
"Picture Location Profile That's the order people will decide if they want to take it further from an email. People who mention looks not important, personality is etc etc are a bit well...on the wrong site Not for all of us. For me it's profile, location then picture. I'm looking for a local sub, what difference is the picture going to make if its a Dom from Edmonton. I rarely get to the pic stage." 
I'd have to agree, its definitely personality over looks for me so, I'm far more likely to respond to the profile text than picture. | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guuys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human? How arrogant are you! So, because some short, married, bi Dom from Inverness sends me a well crafted message saying he's coming to London next week and staying in a hotel near Hyde Park and would like some cbt I should write and say no thanks, when my profile clearly states no short, married, bi Doms not local to me and no hotels?!! Yeah...right!
I think you may be missing the point here.
It has nothing to do with arrogance. It's basic human courtesy, especially if on your profile you are asking people to drop you a line. By doing so you're soliciting responses at the very least. And as responses aren't written by robots but by people, we can at least give them a little respect if they've taken the time to not copy and paste and send out a relevant message based on what they've read on a profile.
Imagine a scenario where you have written something on your profile stating what you're looking for, and it matches what the person reading is into or connects in some way, and you also say something like ' get in touch if you're interested in so and so .. i won't bite' lol sort of thing.
That comes across as friendly, light hearted and approachable etc so the person reading this thinks, ok this person sounds very friendly and my kind of person , I'll drop them a line.
In other words i'm talking about a case where communication is encouraged.. ie if you're a single guy who likes so and so and live in so and so, get in touch ..
So some of us you will make contact naturally..
I'm certainly not talking about cases where as people have previously mentioned, you have nothing in common with the profile, haven't read it, or used code words they asked you to in the subject , or you are over or under the age limit they've stated they are looking for etc..
In those cases delete and block can be justified imho. "As I said in a further posting, if someone has obviously read my profile and tailored his message to me I always reply. I've just had a message from a couple with an avatar of his cock buried nut deep in her open pussy. I'm not bi or looking for couples so that's an instant delete. If people are so desperately lonely that they can answer every message regardless, I think that's rather sad. | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guuys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human? How arrogant are you! So, because some short, married, bi Dom from Inverness sends me a well crafted message saying he's coming to London next week and staying in a hotel near Hyde Park and would like some cbt I should write and say no thanks, when my profile clearly states no short, married, bi Doms not local to me and no hotels?!! Yeah...right!
I think you may be missing the point here.
It has nothing to do with arrogance. It's basic human courtesy, especially if on your profile you are asking people to drop you a line. By doing so you're soliciting responses at the very least. And as responses aren't written by robots but by people, we can at least give them a little respect if they've taken the time to not copy and paste and send out a relevant message based on what they've read on a profile.
Imagine a scenario where you have written something on your profile stating what you're looking for, and it matches what the person reading is into or connects in some way, and you also say something like ' get in touch if you're interested in so and so .. i won't bite' lol sort of thing.
That comes across as friendly, light hearted and approachable etc so the person reading this thinks, ok this person sounds very friendly and my kind of person , I'll drop them a line.
In other words i'm talking about a case where communication is encouraged.. ie if you're a single guy who likes so and so and live in so and so, get in touch ..
So some of us you will make contact naturally..
I'm certainly not talking about cases where as people have previously mentioned, you have nothing in common with the profile, haven't read it, or used code words they asked you to in the subject , or you are over or under the age limit they've stated they are looking for etc..
In those cases delete and block can be justified imho.
As I said in a further posting, if someone has obviously read my profile and tailored his message to me I always reply.
I've just had a message from a couple with an avatar of his cock buried nut deep in her open pussy. I'm not bi or looking for couples so that's an instant delete.
If people are so desperately lonely that they can answer every message regardless, I think that's rather sad."fair comment xx | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guuys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human? How arrogant are you! So, because some short, married, bi Dom from Inverness sends me a well crafted message saying he's coming to London next week and staying in a hotel near Hyde Park and would like some cbt I should write and say no thanks, when my profile clearly states no short, married, bi Doms not local to me and no hotels?!! Yeah...right!
I think you may be missing the point here.
It has nothing to do with arrogance. It's basic human courtesy, especially if on your profile you are asking people to drop you a line. By doing so you're soliciting responses at the very least. And as responses aren't written by robots but by people, we can at least give them a little respect if they've taken the time to not copy and paste and send out a relevant message based on what they've read on a profile.
Imagine a scenario where you have written something on your profile stating what you're looking for, and it matches what the person reading is into or connects in some way, and you also say something like ' get in touch if you're interested in so and so .. i won't bite' lol sort of thing.
That comes across as friendly, light hearted and approachable etc so the person reading this thinks, ok this person sounds very friendly and my kind of person , I'll drop them a line.
In other words i'm talking about a case where communication is encouraged.. ie if you're a single guy who likes so and so and live in so and so, get in touch ..
So some of us you will make contact naturally..
I'm certainly not talking about cases where as people have previously mentioned, you have nothing in common with the profile, haven't read it, or used code words they asked you to in the subject , or you are over or under the age limit they've stated they are looking for etc..
In those cases delete and block can be justified imho.
As I said in a further posting, if someone has obviously read my profile and tailored his message to me I always reply.
I've just had a message from a couple with an avatar of his cock buried nut deep in her open pussy. I'm not bi or looking for couples so that's an instant delete.
If people are so desperately lonely that they can answer every message regardless, I think that's rather sad."you have to remember hes a bloke. he`ll be getting a handful of msgs if that | |||
"Ok I don't always reply to messages Come and shoot me now! What I do try to do is reply to those that have taken a bit of thought,im not asking for epics or tons of flattery,or any of the usual cliche stuff,but I just feel that some messages are worth the effort to reply to and some arn't Ill generally check out the profile to get an idea of the person before I read the message too On the other hand if I like the look of someone I have no issues with sending them a message myself,in fact I prefer to do that,if they don't repsond then I don't give it a second thought "Nods in agreement.....same here | |||
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"Ok, what about the flipside of this? You find what you believe is a potential playmate. You read their profile; your looking for the same things. You write them a message - you take your time. You reference specifics in their profile, you mention them by name (if they have one), you talk about yourself and where you possibly see that you may be a good fit. You attach a face pic or two. Maybe a full body shot. You spell-check and make sure its readable and with good grammar. You hit send. Its read within the hour. Five days later, still no reply. Nothing. Nada. Fuck all. You know what; after you've gone through the above process twenty or thirty times you actually start to wonder why you bother. It doesn't even meet the law of diminishing returns; because there are no returns at all. " Yeah been there, done that.......... It's all the fun of the fair | |||
"Ok, what about the flipside of this? You find what you believe is a potential playmate. You read their profile; your looking for the same things. You write them a message - you take your time. You reference specifics in their profile, you mention them by name (if they have one), you talk about yourself and where you possibly see that you may be a good fit. You attach a face pic or two. Maybe a full body shot. You spell-check and make sure its readable and with good grammar. You hit send. Its read within the hour. Five days later, still no reply. Nothing. Nada. Fuck all. You know what; after you've gone through the above process twenty or thirty times you actually start to wonder why you bother. It doesn't even meet the law of diminishing returns; because there are no returns at all. " But if you read your own profile, then virtually 99.9% of people on here make one of your "Top Ten Profile Mistakes" which is bound to put most people off the thought of replying! You even break mistake number 2 yourself...... Surely if you want a reply to a message (and this applies to all) then you should present yourself as approachable? | |||
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"Beware the cut and paste message that gets the cut and paste reply!
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"Ok, what about the flipside of this? You find what you believe is a potential playmate. You read their profile; your looking for the same things. You write them a message - you take your time. You reference specifics in their profile, you mention them by name (if they have one), you talk about yourself and where you possibly see that you may be a good fit. You attach a face pic or two. Maybe a full body shot. You spell-check and make sure its readable and with good grammar. You hit send. Its read within the hour. Five days later, still no reply. Nothing. Nada. Fuck all. You know what; after you've gone through the above process twenty or thirty times you actually start to wonder why you bother. It doesn't even meet the law of diminishing returns; because there are no returns at all. " must say your profile put me off straight away | |||
"Beware the cut and paste message that gets the cut and paste reply!
Wolf
or the delete button "I've still got the stock answer polo 'generated' for us pmsl
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" But if you read your own profile, then virtually 99.9% of people on here make one of your "Top Ten Profile Mistakes" which is bound to put most people off the thought of replying! You even break mistake number 2 yourself...... Surely if you want a reply to a message (and this applies to all) then you should present yourself as approachable?" Funny, on my profile they are actually called "Top Ten Comedy Profile Mistakes" - the key word there being 'Comedy'! If your going to quote my profile, do it in full - They are there for a bit of amusement and fun. A appreciate comedy is subjective and if you don't find it funny, we probably wont get along - so I've saved you the embarrassment of a cut and paste message from me ! | |||
"Ok, what about the flipside of this? You find what you believe is a potential playmate. You read their profile; your looking for the same things. You write them a message - you take your time. You reference specifics in their profile, you mention them by name (if they have one), you talk about yourself and where you possibly see that you may be a good fit. You attach a face pic or two. Maybe a full body shot. You spell-check and make sure its readable and with good grammar. You hit send. Its read within the hour. Five days later, still no reply. Nothing. Nada. Fuck all. You know what; after you've gone through the above process twenty or thirty times you actually start to wonder why you bother. It doesn't even meet the law of diminishing returns; because there are no returns at all. must say your profile put me off straight away" Cool! Then you have no fear of me messing up your inbox | |||
" But if you read your own profile, then virtually 99.9% of people on here make one of your "Top Ten Profile Mistakes" which is bound to put most people off the thought of replying! You even break mistake number 2 yourself...... Surely if you want a reply to a message (and this applies to all) then you should present yourself as? approachable Funny, on my profile they are actually called "Top Ten Comedy Profile Mistakes" - the key word there being 'Comedy'! If your going to quote my profile, do it in full - They are there for a bit of amusement and fun. A appreciate comedy is subjective and if you don't find it funny, we probably wont get along - so I've saved you the embarrassment of a cut and paste message from me ! "As you say, comedy is subjective. I realise that you think you are hysterical.....others may find your humor offensive. The usual "trick" of putting a at the end of a message may possibly prevent a suspension by admin after some remarks, but it does not turn an insult into a joke! Perhaps if you were to try the other persons perspective? | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human? " Why do you need your rejection to be accompanied by a message? Why should i reply to you...do you reply to unsolicited junk mail that come through your door? If you find being here an effort, leave, swinging is meant to be fun. | |||
" But if you read your own profile, then virtually 99.9% of people on here make one of your "Top Ten Profile Mistakes" which is bound to put most people off the thought of replying! You even break mistake number 2 yourself...... Surely if you want a reply to a message (and this applies to all) then you should present yourself as? approachable Funny, on my profile they are actually called "Top Ten Comedy Profile Mistakes" - the key word there being 'Comedy'! If your going to quote my profile, do it in full - They are there for a bit of amusement and fun. A appreciate comedy is subjective and if you don't find it funny, we probably wont get along - so I've saved you the embarrassment of a cut and paste message from me !
As you say, comedy is subjective. I realise that you think you are hysterical.....others may find your humor offensive. The usual "trick" of putting a at the end of a message may possibly prevent a suspension by admin after some remarks, but it does not turn an insult into a joke! Perhaps if you were to try the other persons perspective?"*Tips hat, blows you a kiss and leaves the room* | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human? I totally agree with you on this one. If someone has taken the time to send a message then like you said, a short reply with thanks but no or something is good manners, something that some folks on here do not have" No, you believe a short reply is good manners. Do you reply to every credit card offer, charity appeal, take away leaflet that comes through your door? Time money and effort has been put into producing them, if you dont reply why not, ny your own standards you are being hypocritical, The far more important issue here is one of male entitlement though. The belief that because you have written you deserve a reply (this is not just directed at you, but the OP and all who complain) The lack of reply is your answer...a no, so why do you need a written reply.? i have concluded the only answer is that some cannot believe they have been rejected. A rude no would be fuck off ...not replying is simply a lack of interest. | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human? I totally agree with you on this one. If someone has taken the time to send a message then like you said, a short reply with thanks but no or something is good manners, something that some folks on here do not have No, you believe a short reply is good manners. Do you reply to every credit card offer, charity appeal, take away leaflet that comes through your door? Time money and effort has been put into producing them, if you dont reply why not, ny your own standards you are being hypocritical, The far more important issue here is one of male entitlement though. The belief that because you have written you deserve a reply (this is not just directed at you, but the OP and all who complain) The lack of reply is your answer...a no, so why do you need a written reply.? i have concluded the only answer is that some cannot believe they have been rejected. A rude no would be fuck off ...not replying is simply a lack of interest." What a f**king ray of sunshine | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human? I totally agree with you on this one. If someone has taken the time to send a message then like you said, a short reply with thanks but no or something is good manners, something that some folks on here do not have No, you believe a short reply is good manners. Do you reply to every credit card offer, charity appeal, take away leaflet that comes through your door? Time money and effort has been put into producing them, if you dont reply why not, ny your own standards you are being hypocritical, The far more important issue here is one of male entitlement though. The belief that because you have written you deserve a reply (this is not just directed at you, but the OP and all who complain) The lack of reply is your answer...a no, so why do you need a written reply.? i have concluded the only answer is that some cannot believe they have been rejected. A rude no would be fuck off ...not replying is simply a lack of interest. What a f**king ray of sunshine "Me i'm a fluffy bunny really | |||
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"Considering that most of the mail I get from single guys is at complete odds with my profile, I figure it far more simply. If they are too ignorant to read the profile, or so arrogant that they feel it does not apply to them, then usually I will simply delete their mail AND block them! Why the hell not? I do however reply to all mail relevant to my profile."  That's exactly what I do too.. with a little test for the hard of reading. It works, I can filter without even opening a mail | |||
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"Ok I don't always reply to messages Come and shoot me now! What I do try to do is reply to those that have taken a bit of thought,im not asking for epics or tons of flattery,or any of the usual cliche stuff,but I just feel that some messages are worth the effort to reply to and some arn't Ill generally check out the profile to get an idea of the person before I read the message too On the other hand if I like the look of someone I have no issues with sending them a message myself,in fact I prefer to do that,if they don't repsond then I don't give it a second thought
Seems perfectly reasonable to me xxx "Ditto here, we didn't sign a contract promising to respond to every mail we receive. And from our experience in the past of sending a polite no then getting bombarded with insulting why not's? we find it easier to just not respond. | |||
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You don't live near Caerbannog do you?"No, but i do know the flight speed of an african swallow | |||
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" Me i'm a fluffy bunny really
You don't live near Caerbannog do you?
No, but i do know the flight speed of an african swallow "Is that laden or unladen? | |||
"The day people on here realise they are not owed a reply, message, wink, meet, or shag from anybody will be a great day indeed." I think that day is already here. No one is OWED anything. I think we're all big enough and ugly enough to realise that, though having taken the time to read someone's profile ' which basically is them attempting to attract the attention of other people on the site, by showing themselves in a good a light as possible, whether it be with verifications, wit, or enticing pictures, and more often than not, this ' mission statement ' will also say what this person is looking for. I personally don't randomly target people. But Occasionally you'll find a profile which sounds right up your street. It's already quite difficult writing to a complete stranger you know very little about other than a few pics, possible verifications and a few lines which may show signs of a personality, so therefore having been reassured by the the other person's desire for people to get in touch etc , it can be a bit deflating to then see your carefully written message deleted, or as has also happened on occasions, find that you've also been blocked! Without having written anything offensive, or any of those ' fancy a fook' type comments which arguably warrants it. | |||
"The day people on here realise they are not owed a reply, message, wink, meet, or shag from anybody will be a great day indeed. I think that day is already here. No one is OWED anything. I think we're all big enough and ugly enough to realise that, though having taken the time to read someone's profile ' which basically is them attempting to attract the attention of other people on the site, by showing themselves in a good a light as possible, whether it be with verifications, wit, or enticing pictures, and more often than not, this ' mission statement ' will also say what this person is looking for. I personally don't randomly target people. But Occasionally you'll find a profile which sounds right up your street. It's already quite difficult writing to a complete stranger you know very little about other than a few pics, possible verifications and a few lines which may show signs of a personality, so therefore having been reassured by the the other person's desire for people to get in touch etc , it can be a bit deflating to then see your carefully written message deleted, or as has also happened on occasions, find that you've also been blocked! Without having written anything offensive, or any of those ' fancy a fook' type comments which arguably warrants it. " it sounds right up your street, doesnt mean you are up theirs, if you were they would reply | |||
"The day people on here realise they are not owed a reply, message, wink, meet, or shag from anybody will be a great day indeed. I think that day is already here. No one is OWED anything. I think we're all big enough and ugly enough to realise that, though having taken the time to read someone's profile ' which basically is them attempting to attract the attention of other people on the site, by showing themselves in a good a light as possible, whether it be with verifications, wit, or enticing pictures, and more often than not, this ' mission statement ' will also say what this person is looking for. I personally don't randomly target people. But Occasionally you'll find a profile which sounds right up your street. It's already quite difficult writing to a complete stranger you know very little about other than a few pics, possible verifications and a few lines which may show signs of a personality, so therefore having been reassured by the the other person's desire for people to get in touch etc , it can be a bit deflating to then see your carefully written message deleted, or as has also happened on occasions, find that you've also been blocked! Without having written anything offensive, or any of those ' fancy a fook' type comments which arguably warrants it. it sounds right up your street, doesnt mean you are up theirs, if you were they would reply "That's the problem I feel. Too many assume because you appear to be what they're looking for, the feeling is mutual, leading to a misplaced sense of entitlement and whiney threads. | |||
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"The day people on here realise they are not owed a reply, message, wink, meet, or shag from anybody will be a great day indeed. I think that day is already here. No one is OWED anything." Yet your OP suggests that anyone who dares not to reply to messages is less than human to you. Seems to me you feel that you are owed something, even if it is a no thanks. Thats not the point of being here. | |||
"Generic cut and pasted messages are NOT complimentary and smacks to me off lazyness, they are easy to pick up on as well. However an individually written hello having read my profile will almost always get a responce. xxx "especially easy to pick up on if they have forgot to delete the previous recipient's name and add yours before sending...lol...have had that twice now. I used to have a guy message me every 3 or 4 weeks, exact same message( as still had the previous one in inbox) and each time I would send a polite thanks but no thanks message which he would read and delete until the next time...after about 5 times I just said look, nothing personal but just going to block you as you keep cut and paste messaging me every few weeks..this way you don't have to remember me saying no...lol | |||
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" Failing that try to understand that just because women on here are looking for sex it doesn't mean that they are looking for sex with you. "
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"Some men on here really don't get it. The reality is that while the vast majority of men sit here refreshing our PC's desperately hoping that they will get a new mailicon magically appear in the left hand corner of their screen, for most women, in the time that it would take to send a no thanks message reply they have probably received half a dozen dull and tedious messages that aren;t worth the effort of replying. I don't get that people can take offence to a message been deleted, if you are that sensitive how the hell do you function in the real world? Some of the posters on this thread seem to constantly whinge about how hard done by they are. If it;s that bad deleting your profile is surely the answer. Failing that try to understand that just because women on here are looking for sex it doesn't mean that they are looking for sex with you. " Now thats a man without a sense of entitlement... | |||
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"I always reply; too young, too far or just not interested. The problem with replying with no thanks, is that some argue the toss as I have had today from someone, nicely but really if he had read my profile and not just looked at the pictures, it would have saved both of us a lot of time "After reading this thread I decided the next message I received I'd try the "thanks but no thanks' approach. Got a message from a very short man. When I said thanks no thanks he asked why. I said my profile did say tall and he was much shorter than me. His response was we only had to fuck not date! I thanked him for confirming I was right to ignore people outwith my criteria...back to deleting. | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human? "if sending a mail is an effort, leave | |||
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"How can you tell if its a copy and paste message , or am I luck never to have received one?" I'd guess it's normally couples and women who get them. The ones I get tend to go:- Love your pics, nice profile (I only have one pic on display) stupidly detailed sexual fantasy that normally ends just before penetration... The same message every week. Sometimes while we are chatting too... | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human?
if sending a mail is an effort, leave "I'll leave when I want to leave, not when you tell me to. But thank you! Of course it's an effort. Everything we do involves effort to some degree. Words don't write themselves do they? lol | |||
"How can you tell if its a copy and paste message , or am I luck never to have received one? I'd guess it's normally couples and women who get them. The ones I get tend to go:- Love your pics, nice profile (I only have one pic on display) stupidly detailed sexual fantasy that normally ends just before penetration... The same message every week. Sometimes while we are chatting too..." That's funny! YOu clearly have a good sense of humour and a way of telling a story. Love it. | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human?
if sending a mail is an effort, leave "Anyone who thinks its effort to mail someone is probably wasting their time here. | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human?
if sending a mail is an effort, leave Anyone who thinks its effort to mail someone is probably wasting their time here. "See my answer above! | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human?
if sending a mail is an effort, leave
I'll leave when I want to leave, not when you tell me to. But thank you!
Of course it's an effort. Everything we do involves effort to some degree. Words don't write themselves do they? lol"mine do, i think and the words magically appear on the screen...dont get arsey... 
Of course everything we do is an effort, but you are complaining about the effort u put into messages. | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human?
if sending a mail is an effort, leave
I'll leave when I want to leave, not when you tell me to. But thank you!
Of course it's an effort. Everything we do involves effort to some degree. Words don't write themselves do they? lol
mine do, i think and the words magically appear on the screen...dont get arsey...
Of course everything we do is an effort, but you are complaining about the effort u put into messages."haha i can assure you I'm far from getting arsey. I'm very relaxed with my cup of fresh coffee thank you very much, lol. I'm not complaining about making an effort, i'm talking about the fact that having ticked superficially every box of what you're looking for, against what someone else is apparently looking for, and you make contact with said person, who happens for instance to be online at the time of sending your carefully written message, it can be a bit deflating to then see your message deleted and in some cases your profile blocked! Anyone with a rational mind can understand this surely? | |||
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"Cut and paste does have the distinct advantage of saving time, effort & energy when mass mailing the entire database. As a professional marketing consultant to many multinational corporations I shall share with all you singletons the cummeister's "inside track, get laid for definite" showcase e-mail: "Hi hw r u? Red ur profil n fought that as Im 3 tom n had a sac of balls full of cum I might share sum wiv u. Im well fit but cant send foty. I av a nyc ck. That was told me by polis n prob officer. If u r 3 can we shag @ yrs? Cant meet mine as mum is in." Yes indeed, for only a small honorarium introductory fee of $99.99 the bedroom secrets of the world's most successful swingers can be yours. Hilarious!!! lol but probably true, lol. " | |||
"It's a chicken and egg situation, but I'm guessing that reason so many people copy and paste when contacting potentially suitable people on this site,is because of the many ignorant people who delete mail without so much as a polite no thank you. I say this, because although I don't contact people very often, there have been numerous times when having read someone's profile, and been attracted by what i've read or seen, I have taken the time to write an introductory email, only to see this mail deleted without an acknowledgement. I'm sure i'm not alone in having this happen to me, so I can fully understand why some guys might not be inclined to make an effort. Surely the least the person receiving a mail can do is say sorry not my type, no longer looking or whatever? Or is that being too human? " could someone enlighten a technophobic brickie.still dragging the misses into my cave.what is copy.n paste.? | |||
"could someone enlighten a technophobic brickie.still dragging the misses into my cave.what is copy.n paste.?" use mouse, left-click hold drag and select text. Right click on highlighted text, click copy on menu displayed. Start new message, right click again. Click paste. The last lot of text has now magically been displayed. Et voila, you can now message people far faster than before! And maybe get pissed off that even more people are ignoring your messages, causing you to start a thread like this | |||
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"I would have to agree that there are too few on here that do reply a thanks but no thanks. Also if you've put a hell of lot of effort into you copied message and then tweeked it to suit the person or persons your intending to send it to where's the harm.. far enough if you're C/P'ing fancy a F**K TONIGHT DARLIN. But those who do put A lot of effort into what they write and may not be the fastest typers in the world(started this monday..lol) it would be a very long exercise write everyone free style as it were, more so the amount of messages single guys have to write.. Surly, it's about what and how it's written more that the process of how you sent it? First time poster, but been Fabbing for years.. Happy swinging Funstuff Xx " Thanks very much for your contribution and happy fabbing. | |||
"Considering that most of the mail I get from single guys is at complete odds with my profile, I figure it far more simply. If they are too ignorant to read the profile, or so arrogant that they feel it does not apply to them, then usually I will simply delete their mail AND block them! Why the hell not?" | |||
