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How many couples play separately?
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So I’m fairly new to actually swinging with my other half. We started going to clubs with a totally open mind. No rules. Just go have fun. We appear to enjoy separate at the moment but it does feel like we are in the minority. More often it seems couple tend to look for couples So question to the couples I guess. Do you or don’t you play separately? |
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When we're together at weekends, we play together. But during the week, we are both allowed to meet others on our own. It is though yet to happen for the Beast, as there is tons of single men around. Devil has her regular FWB who keeps her busy on weekdays. |
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We do both and mainly meet in clubs so the people we meet there dictate the way the night will go for us. Our preference is to play together with either singles or other couples but why not enjoy seperate fun too. |
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over a year ago
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I been married 13yrs and its only the last 2 weve started playing separately. Its rare we play together unless a couple appeal to us both. We discuss and tell each other everything and we have so much fun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My wife and I play separately. Mostly because she's successful at it so far and I'm not! 
But she does her thing, I (will) do mine.
Do you got to clubs? "
I haven't yet.....still on my 'To Do' list. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"It was never a plan. Just how it’s gone.
I always wonder if it’s difficult to find the right couple you are both happy with when playing with couples as well. I imagine we would never agree ha "
Yes it’s hard for all 4 to feel it , but it happens.
We only ever play together , same or preferred is separate rooms, generally don’t play in clubs. We just search UK wide or even world wide ! You’re not going to find many on your doorstep where all 4 are feeling the chemistry. But once you’ve found a few it’s good, in 8 months here we’ve probably found 3-4 couples we meet will see ongoing
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We haven’t but it’s part of C’s fantasy to send me off/ have someone around whilst she’s out or at work.
Then she gets to hear all about it or see pics etc. Or watch if the other person so desires.
Alas it’s not really that likely to happen. |
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"For us swinging is all about sharing the enjoyment and the excitement, so we wouldn't swing apart."
I play solo away from clubs but I was thinking more in a club environment. We always attend together but tend to play apart when there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For us swinging is all about sharing the enjoyment and the excitement, so we wouldn't swing apart.
I play solo away from clubs but I was thinking more in a club environment. We always attend together but tend to play apart when there. "
Maybe it’s a symptom of being new-ish to the scene? If you’re both fairly independent and confident people, I can see how you’d both have your own interests when it comes to exploring with others.
My wife has very different interests to me, hence her poly relationship where she plays separately and my mutually agreed freedom. |
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We only play together. Seeing each other enjoying other people is the excitement for us.
However, we are new to swinging so who knows how we will feel later down the line. We except that our desires may change.
Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We do but I only engage in very vanilla one to one sex with anyone else. Any kink or group play or anything else is only ever done with him there. At some point I expect we'll end up living together and then I won't any more. |
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"Mrs M has free reign, I only play with Mrs M .
Works for us  "
This is where we're at too, but I (fem) will only play with women. He gives me everything I need in the man department
We are still looking for a female for us both to share for a few hours though but we're new to this scene too, so let's see how it all pans out... Excited!  |
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We prefer to play as a couple, and we always stick together at clubs. We would also love to find a couple where there is mutual attraction, but alas, that is difficult, so we have also agreed for each other to go solo with select individuals outside the club environment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had my own profile since joining Fab so I could explore my bicuriosity, and through that I’ve a select few couples I occasionally play with who only want FFM, otherwise I use my profile to meet ladies. We’ve always looked for couples for the Mr to occasionally meet solo too, that’s happened recently for the first time and worked well. Reclaim sex is always hot! We mainly meet and play with others together though, so it’s all a balancing act! Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wife and I play separately and whilst totally understand it’s each to their own can’t think why people that are insecure even swing.
Not saying that all people who only play together are insecure. But some are - to the point that they will not even message separately, if your willing to let my wife fuck your husband but your too scared for them to share a coffee or a text message / same applies to me & your wife - why the he’ll are you swinging, work on your control issues first then come play! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are both, we play together when we have found a nice couple, we also want to play separately too, neither have got past the social meet yet because it's just not been the right person, mrs is finding it easier to chat to people, Mr finds it much harder due to the amount of other single men on here and the other dating apps, we are still working towards it tho |
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"Wife and I play separately and whilst totally understand it’s each to their own can’t think why people that are insecure even swing.
Not saying that all people who only play together are insecure. But some are - to the point that they will not even message separately, if your willing to let my wife fuck your husband but your too scared for them to share a coffee or a text message / same applies to me & your wife - why the he’ll are you swinging, work on your control issues first then come play! Lol "
Yeah I can understand that. We are pretty independent in that respect. |
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We only normally play with girls together but my fella has left us and gone downstairs all night so we can just 1-1 girl time I would also consider it the other way around but most of the time the girl wants us both, so maybe oneday |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"For us swinging is all about sharing the enjoyment and the excitement, so we wouldn't swing apart.
I play solo away from clubs but I was thinking more in a club environment. We always attend together but tend to play apart when there.
Maybe it’s a symptom of being new-ish to the scene? If you’re both fairly independent and confident people, I can see how you’d both have your own interests when it comes to exploring with others.
My wife has very different interests to me, hence her poly relationship where she plays separately and my mutually agreed freedom."
New-ish? Hardly. What a strange and misguided analysis. We are both very independent and confident, but happen to share the same interests in swinging and that is sharing, and being turned on by, each others enjoyment. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
It's amusing how a relatively straight forward thread is turning into a "we're real swingers because we're confident and independent" thread as if the "real swingers" have never heard of preferences and choice. |
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"It's amusing how a relatively straight forward thread is turning into a "we're real swingers because we're confident and independent" thread as if the "real swingers" have never heard of preferences and choice."
 Would never play separate as for us the enjoyment is watching each other and sharing ...The thought of doing it separately does nothing for us sexually has nothing to do with being insecure it’s just not our thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We play together but for our next meet we are hoping she will be left alone with the lucky guy for while, mr will either be in shower or go the shop ect then on return watch for abit and join in the fun, so there will be an element of seperate play  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I’m fairly new to actually swinging with my other half. We started going to clubs with a totally open mind. No rules. Just go have fun. We appear to enjoy separate at the moment but it does feel like we are in the minority. More often it seems couple tend to look for couples So question to the couples I guess. Do you or don’t you play separately? "
We don’t go to clubs so sorry if this is a little off point. When we meet couples we do like separate rooms once we get to know one another a little more. |
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By *E_13Couple
over a year ago
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We never do separate. I mean if we were at a house party with people we know we wouldn't object if the other started something not in view but half the fun for us is seeing the other person having fun. There's nothing hotter for me (mrs) as being fucked while watching him make someone scream |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's amusing how a relatively straight forward thread is turning into a "we're real swingers because we're confident and independent" thread as if the "real swingers" have never heard of preferences and choice."
I think there are a couple of issues here - preferences is one thing. We are all different and like different things.
But when what your preference is gets driven not by what you enjoy, but by jealously and lack of trust it comes down to a deeper problem, generally people in broken relationships trying to fix them by swinging - we have come across people who’s preferences are limiting, to start with then they grow as swingers & people that just shouldn’t be swinging in the first place - but that sook sorts itself out as they stop.
Nobody should criticise someone for their choice or preference, including your own partner and many unfortunately do exactly that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wifes allowed to but she wont, she doesnt want to "
But it’s nice that she has the freedom to if she wanted to & if the desire suddenly did arise in a situation to go hike with some guy after the works party she knows she can
Assume that arrangement is reciprocal and you also can if you want to?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I play and hubby sit home and waits for me "
I do enjoy the wife going out to play exactly like that - do you send him videos of your fun & play with him when you return?
I do love being the second guy of the evening - hehe |
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over a year ago
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"most woman who are part of an mf couple dont allow the male to meet a single lady alone. I know that."
Yeah we have come across that quite a lot too and find it to be very much double standards, lol |
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Not part of a swinging couple myself but I’d like to be eventually.
On Friday night/Saturday morning I met the Male of a couple with his wife’s permission. They rarely get to play with others together as they have a young family - and they rarely both fancy both parts of the same couple - so the solution they’ve come up with is to meet separately at times with the others approval (of course). It seems to work well for them!
In a way - as long as you have the trust and security it’s the best of both worlds isn’t it? A trusting, loving, long term relationship at home but both having the frisson, passion and excitement of meeting new/other people.
As long as that new person respects the relationship they’re enhancing - then it’s win win surely?
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" Not part of a swinging couple myself but I’d like to be eventually.
On Friday night/Saturday morning I met the Male of a couple with his wife’s permission. They rarely get to play with others together as they have a young family - and they rarely both fancy both parts of the same couple - so the solution they’ve come up with is to meet separately at times with the others approval (of course). It seems to work well for them!
In a way - as long as you have the trust and security it’s the best of both worlds isn’t it? A trusting, loving, long term relationship at home but both having the frisson, passion and excitement of meeting new/other people.
As long as that new person respects the relationship they’re enhancing - then it’s win win surely?
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Hit the nail on the head there! 100% |
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We play separately hence this singles profile, partner plays on her own from our couples profile as she finds it easier than having a single fem profile, do also play as a couple with other couples and fems but becoming quite rare nowadays |
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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago
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"So I’m fairly new to actually swinging with my other half. We started going to clubs with a totally open mind. No rules. Just go have fun. We appear to enjoy separate at the moment but it does feel like we are in the minority. More often it seems couple tend to look for couples So question to the couples I guess. Do you or don’t you play separately? "
We like to play separate as well. And I'm very aware my partner is more appealing then I am and I love to watch but other ladies seem to be afraid to approach him. |
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(Sorry wrong profile)
We play separately and together, when we find a couple of group that matches what we want at the time.
We are both bi, but Sara doesn't have sex with women as she's in chastity (she does offer oral).
MJ enjoys both men & ladies so sometimes we have different needs. |
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"most woman who are part of an mf couple dont allow the male to meet a single lady alone. I know that."
Not me. He can do as he wishes with whoever he wishes with my full blessing. I know it’s me he loves and will always come home too |
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By *ipster8Man
over a year ago
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"So I’m fairly new to actually swinging with my other half. We started going to clubs with a totally open mind. No rules. Just go have fun. We appear to enjoy separate at the moment but it does feel like we are in the minority. More often it seems couple tend to look for couples So question to the couples I guess. Do you or don’t you play separately?
We like to play separate as well. And I'm very aware my partner is more appealing then I am and I love to watch but other ladies seem to be afraid to approach him. "
You are a very appealing lady.  |
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We always used to play together, same room then had a seperate room meet and discovered not having to find 4 way chemistry is so much simpler and fun. Still amazing when you do find that but not so easy. |
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"We always used to play together, same room then had a seperate room meet and discovered not having to find 4 way chemistry is so much simpler and fun. Still amazing when you do find that but not so easy."
We haven’t played together. But by coincidence we played in separate private rooms next to one another. That was interesting hearing each other x |
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over a year ago
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"most woman who are part of an mf couple dont allow the male to meet a single lady alone. I know that.
Yeah we have come across that quite a lot too and find it to be very much double standards, lol "
yep it does happen a lot where wife can play with other men but hubby cant play with other women.the times i have been told no or blocked even, when i have asked if their man can play with me.lol |
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"most woman who are part of an mf couple dont allow the male to meet a single lady alone. I know that.
Yeah we have come across that quite a lot too and find it to be very much double standards, lol yep it does happen a lot where wife can play with other men but hubby cant play with other women.the times i have been told no or blocked even, when i have asked if their man can play with me.lol"
I've seen that happen so many times. Seems so unfair to me! |
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"most woman who are part of an mf couple dont allow the male to meet a single lady alone. I know that.
Yeah we have come across that quite a lot too and find it to be very much double standards, lol "
Its nothing to do with double standards. Its a well known fact that men are psychologically more visual than women so whereas many men will enjoy seeing their partner in their own live porn show, not as many women will enjoy watching their man with someone else. Its whatever works for that couple so maybe not be so judgey? |
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"So I’m fairly new to actually swinging with my other half. We started going to clubs with a totally open mind. No rules. Just go have fun. We appear to enjoy separate at the moment but it does feel like we are in the minority. More often it seems couple tend to look for couples So question to the couples I guess. Do you or don’t you play separately? "
We play separately, we never play together. We have separate profiles. Our fetishes clash too much and there is no middle ground so it seemed the easiest thing to do. |
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"most woman who are part of an mf couple dont allow the male to meet a single lady alone. I know that.
Yeah we have come across that quite a lot too and find it to be very much double standards, lol
Its nothing to do with double standards. Its a well known fact that men are psychologically more visual than women so whereas many men will enjoy seeing their partner in their own live porn show, not as many women will enjoy watching their man with someone else. Its whatever works for that couple so maybe not be so judgey?"
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We play separately and together.
Brumcouple172, cosmic_girl and _pace_cowboy_brum
It works for us due to kids limiting play.
We enjoy getting off on the other having fun and then coming back to each other though. Meets are filmed and we tell each other all the details as we "catch up" lol
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over a year ago
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Prefer meets together but he has met couples and TV/TS on his own as more his thing. Love it when he tells me about it though. Even got him to FaceTime me once when I was at work and he met a beautiful T Girl |
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Yes we meet separately but mainly Mrs meets a guy and sends photos etc.
We also meet as a couple, just depends what takes out fancy at that time and who is available as we are quite last minute |
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over a year ago
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"Not me. He can do as he wishes with whoever he wishes with my full blessing. I know it’s me he loves and will always come home too "
Love this! So rare to see to see a situation like mine, it means a lot to see other people discuss and ‘publicise’ it. |
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"Not me. He can do as he wishes with whoever he wishes with my full blessing. I know it’s me he loves and will always come home too
Love this! So rare to see to see a situation like mine, it means a lot to see other people discuss and ‘publicise’ it. "
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By *egin551Couple
over a year ago
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We play together and separately, I (Mrs) have most of the fun on my own, either whilst my husband is at work, shopping or just out for the day.
We play mostly together at clubs and parties.
Communication and trust is essential
Have a great night xx |
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