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In an ideal world, what would you single guys want when looking to meet a couple? Are there specific things you want? Situations you look for? Things that put you off? I know this will vary but I am intrigued!
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"In an ideal world, what would you single guys want when looking to meet a couple? Are there specific things you want? Situations you look for? Things that put you off? I know this will vary but I am intrigued!
P.S. If your answer is "a pulse" please move along "
I look for real couples not 'fab' couples. I find being trusted to share somebody's life partner is very special, and a little bit taboo. It's a huge turn on for me. |
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"In an ideal world, what would you single guys want when looking to meet a couple? Are there specific things you want? Situations you look for? Things that put you off? I know this will vary but I am intrigued!
P.S. If your answer is "a pulse" please move along "
Friendliness and good banter would be an awesome start, silence and awkward pauses would spoil it for me |
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"In an ideal world, what would you single guys want when looking to meet a couple? Are there specific things you want? Situations you look for? Things that put you off? I know this will vary but I am intrigued!
P.S. If your answer is "a pulse" please move along
I look for real couples not 'fab' couples. I find being trusted to share somebody's life partner is very special, and a little bit taboo. It's a huge turn on for me."
This seems to be what many messages we get miss, he isnt my pimp, we need to trust them to join the amazing relationship we already have! |
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That there actually a couple and not just a guy posing as a couple is normally.a good start Haha
For me its confidence.both people in a couple nist be confident |
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"That there actually a couple and not just a guy posing as a couple is normally.a good start Haha
For me its confidence.both people in a couple nist be confident "
Yeah, the few spoiling it for the many I hope! I do a lot of the replying to messages and people are often surprised we both log in and chat.
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"In an ideal world, what would you single guys want when looking to meet a couple? Are there specific things you want? Situations you look for? Things that put you off? I know this will vary but I am intrigued!
P.S. If your answer is "a pulse" please move along
I look for real couples not 'fab' couples. I find being trusted to share somebody's life partner is very special, and a little bit taboo. It's a huge turn on for me.
This seems to be what many messages we get miss, he isnt my pimp, we need to trust them to join the amazing relationship we already have!"
I think it's because I also swing with my wife so I understand and know it from both sides. |
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I would like to borrow the wife for some naughty fun in and out of the bedroom for the day and to hold hands as we go out, we could also wine and dine and then later have sex, she would tell her hubby all about it when she got home with a nice wet creampied pussy mmmmm |
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"In an ideal world, what would you single guys want when looking to meet a couple? Are there specific things you want? Situations you look for? Things that put you off? I know this will vary but I am intrigued!
P.S. If your answer is "a pulse" please move along "
A couple with a similar interest ...
So I may be meeting a couple tonight the lady has beautiful little feet and wears the sexiest high heels apparently the guy enjoys watching his mrs with a guy who’s eager to please her  |
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"In an ideal world, what would you single guys want when looking to meet a couple? Are there specific things you want? Situations you look for? Things that put you off? I know this will vary but I am intrigued!
P.S. If your answer is "a pulse" please move along
A couple with a similar interest ...
So I may be meeting a couple tonight the lady has beautiful little feet and wears the sexiest high heels apparently the guy enjoys watching his mrs with a guy who’s eager to please her "
Haha, sounds very similar to us but I dont tend to mention the crazy small feet! |
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I look for compatible things a good laugh and relaxed atmosphere do like a chat first then go with the flow I'm happy if there having fun and something long term one night is ok but the more you meet the better it becomes then again I'm single so it's all imagination |
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"In an ideal world, what would you single guys want when looking to meet a couple? Are there specific things you want? Situations you look for? Things that put you off? I know this will vary but I am intrigued!
P.S. If your answer is "a pulse" please move along "
Conversations before conditions - that's what I look for. I am a relaxed, respectful man and have no problem with following rules/limits.
However, if all I see is a long list of NOs/DONTs, then it hardly tells me anything about them.
That said, I guess couples here come across enough time-wasters that they try to be explicit.
Personally, I would really love to just engage in knowing a couple. It's a huge turn on and has always been. And the plus side is that a secure couple means there is no drama...there is connection without complications...no one catches feelings, yet everyone has fun.
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The thing I look for in a couple is them being nice and polite and obviously hot to me,if I’m getting crap one word answers or no manners then I’m out on any meet couples or not.manners cost nothing but seem very rare on here unfortunately....or maybe I’m just old school in treating people with respect |
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I generally don't message couples, but if I did, that couple would have to be special for me to meet with them.
I'd have to be sure that the guy isn't bi or gay to start with. I'd probably need to feel equal to the man in terms of masculinity and intelligence. If the guy has a huge dick, I wouldn't meet. They'd have to be very chilled out and without any psychological issues too.
Thinking back to couple meets that I have had; one was a complete failure and embarrassing due to performance anxiety on my part, another, I got an inkling that the male of the couple was abusive and that she didn't actually want to do it, and another was good! |
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I like to be a part of the meet and not just a spare part / to make up numbers, though I do appreciate and respect boundaries - a voyeur role is fine for me as long as there is some engagement (and i don't mean physical interaction).
I appreciate clear boundaries and an understanding of what is wanted and what part I should play, though not too scripted (as in a director constantly giving instructions).
In summary, free flow play within previously agreed boundaries where there is mutual enjoyment for all and everyone leaves smiling. |
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I look for couples whose company I enjoy outside of the bedroom, people who are warm, friendly, fun and smart and have a similar outlook to play, ie. it's about pleasure, and not ego.
Couples who enjoy sharing and the threesome dynamic and those who treat you as an equal.
When everyone is on the same page,
and there is trust and respect, the possibilities are endless as everyone can share their innermost desires freely and without inhibitions.
And of course, a couple I can laugh about it all with helps enormously. |
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People who I get along with that are good looking (don't need to be God and Goddess) that like me and how I look and preferably are bi but not necessary. |
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First and foremost that they're both on the same page and want the same things.
I get too many as couples where it's the guy who has a tgirl fantasy and the wife/gf is going along with it for the experience and you just know it's going to be all the guys wants being met and not hers.
I tend to be able to work this out quickly and there is no way that a meet will happen that way and if it did then the poor guy would get a shock as all my attention would be on her.
Communication is everything, 2nd comes a meeting of minds between all three of you and 3rd if you can make it that far, trust and hopefully a great ongoing friendship between you all. |
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Thank you so much all, I really appreciate all the replies.
It's been really interesting to see the responses and I hope we are ticking a number of those boxes, just need to look at why we are mainly attracting the wrong sort next! Fingers crossed if we keep being friendly, social and keep our sense of humour intact we might click with the right person soon |
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"Be clear what you as a couple want from the experience, open, honest fun with some friendly people.
Totally agree with this.!"
Have to agree. This has got to be the main thing |
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"Requirements:
1. Both Sexy and fit
2. Under 50
3. Both as keen as the other
4. Easy going and laid back
5. Verfications
That’s my list haha x "
We still need the verifications, planning a social soon as we can as I know this isnt helping us. We just need someone we want to meet and for things to work out! |
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"Requirements:
1. Both Sexy and fit
2. Under 50
3. Both as keen as the other
4. Easy going and laid back
5. Verfications
That’s my list haha x
We still need the verifications, planning a social soon as we can as I know this isnt helping us. We just need someone we want to meet and for things to work out!"
I think as you’re the couple you’ll get a lot of interest and your lack of verifications won’t hinder you. Just sift through the 100’s of messages till you find what you’re looking for and take it from there |
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"Thank you so much all, I really appreciate all the replies.
It's been really interesting to see the responses and I hope we are ticking a number of those boxes, just need to look at why we are mainly attracting the wrong sort next! Fingers crossed if we keep being friendly, social and keep our sense of humour intact we might click with the right person soon "
There probably is little you can do yourselves to separate out the wrong sorts as they will come to you no matter what.
I've seen profiles that say 'no dickheads' and the like but really, what dickhead is going to read that and put themselves in that category and choose not to message you anyway.
Keep doing what you're doing, be friendly and nice, be articulate and informative with some humour rolled in and eventually you'll find someone you gel with.
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I am incredibly open minded. I look for a couple who work together rather than just instructions to please her. I like to have a laugh and feel comfortable with being naked around another man half inch from your face. I prefer a three way connection. Does that answer your question? |
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"In an ideal world, what would you single guys want when looking to meet a couple? Are there specific things you want? Situations you look for? Things that put you off? I know this will vary but I am intrigued!
P.S. If your answer is "a pulse" please move along "
Online conservation with both M and F in the first instance - it often seems that it’s just the M conversing, even after a period of time.
A genuine interest in me as a person, other than solely requesting details of physical appearance.
Willingness to meet for a social in thr first instance - with no pressure on this initial meet for things to become sexual then and there. |
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"Requirements:
1. Both Sexy and fit
2. Under 50
3. Both as keen as the other
4. Easy going and laid back
5. Verfications
That’s my list haha x
We still need the verifications, planning a social soon as we can as I know this isnt helping us. We just need someone we want to meet and for things to work out!
I think as you’re the couple you’ll get a lot of interest and your lack of verifications won’t hinder you. Just sift through the 100’s of messages till you find what you’re looking for and take it from there "
Haha, in no way in the 100's for us but thank you! Still replying to all at the moment so it's not gone totally mad. |
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"Thank you so much all, I really appreciate all the replies.
It's been really interesting to see the responses and I hope we are ticking a number of those boxes, just need to look at why we are mainly attracting the wrong sort next! Fingers crossed if we keep being friendly, social and keep our sense of humour intact we might click with the right person soon
There probably is little you can do yourselves to separate out the wrong sorts as they will come to you no matter what.
I've seen profiles that say 'no dickheads' and the like but really, what dickhead is going to read that and put themselves in that category and choose not to message you anyway.
Keep doing what you're doing, be friendly and nice, be articulate and informative with some humour rolled in and eventually you'll find someone you gel with.
Best of luck to you both "
Thank you so much, really appreciate the genuine advice and sentiment, we will do our best! |
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"I am incredibly open minded. I look for a couple who work together rather than just instructions to please her. I like to have a laugh and feel comfortable with being naked around another man half inch from your face. I prefer a three way connection. Does that answer your question? "
Yes, it does help thank you, it's what we are hoping to find although as the F half I'm very comfortable with a man half an inch from my face... although would prefer closer still!  |
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Firstly, that the lady knows she is part of a couple on here and is a willing participant in the arrangements.
Also to be relaxed, fun, and able to hold an intelligent conversation.
Are my expectations to high? |
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"Firstly, that the lady knows she is part of a couple on here and is a willing participant in the arrangements.
Also to be relaxed, fun, and able to hold an intelligent conversation.
Are my expectations to high?"
Nope, I think we tick all those boxes and yet we dont seem the find the second paragraph in a single guy! Can only assume it is me letting the side down |
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"Isn't it a given? Surely you have to stimulate the lady's mind.
It's for everyone's enjoyment"
It is for us, it doesnt matter what someone looks like, if they cant hold a chat and a bit of banter I just cant find the common ground to want to take things further. Thankfully Mr totally understands! |
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"Isn't it a given? Surely you have to stimulate the lady's mind.
It's for everyone's enjoyment
It is for us, it doesnt matter what someone looks like, if they cant hold a chat and a bit of banter I just cant find the common ground to want to take things further. Thankfully Mr totally understands!"
100% agree |
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To be easy going, relaxed and just nice to be around.
Used to know a couple who were great, they were so friendly; the F was more of a FwB once things got going as we knew each other previously. Her husband used to like to hear about the sex we had, but I talking him into fucking her along with me once. |
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"In an ideal world, what would you single guys want when looking to meet a couple? Are there specific things you want? Situations you look for? Things that put you off? I know this will vary but I am intrigued!
P.S. If your answer is "a pulse" please move along "
A connection and understanding. Mutal comfort and trust. |
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For me it's, mutual: attraction, both mental and physical. Respect and time to get to know each other + a shared SOH. To used as an additional pick, but not treated like one. The understanding and honor of each others boundaries. Time to have relaxed unpresured fun.
But I am picky. |
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I wouldnt say picky!
It's so reassuring to know there are so many guys with similar thoughts to us and you are out there. I will keep sifting through and hope a couple with these kind of ideals will appear! |
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Being a single guy I look for a friendly profile a few verifies some interests listed some good pictures of you both together. I put notes on couples who delete messages without a polite reply so I know who is a time waster. |
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Physical attraction and a good personality. I can't have one without the other. On the personality side I factor in their spelling, punctuation and grammar, as well as hobbies and interests. I'm not being elitist but they've got to be on a similar educational and social level, otherwise how can you have an attraction with nothing in common? x |
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Personally I always want to feel that the couple themselves are totally secure in themselves and equally wanting a guy to join in. Too often one party is all ready to go and the other seems somewhat less keen.
Likewise I want to feel that there is some level of intellect there along with some sensitivity and compassion. Fucking brainless selfish folk isn’t my thing!!!
After that obviously physical attraction is important BUT only as much as a mental connection too.
Simply being another notch on someone’s bedpost doesn’t appeal. I’d have no sex than average/bad sex.
......and people say I’m picky!!??
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"Personally I always want to feel that the couple themselves are totally secure in themselves and equally wanting a guy to join in. Too often one party is all ready to go and the other seems somewhat less keen.
Likewise I want to feel that there is some level of intellect there along with some sensitivity and compassion. Fucking brainless selfish folk isn’t my thing!!!
After that obviously physical attraction is important BUT only as much as a mental connection too.
Simply being another notch on someone’s bedpost doesn’t appeal. I’d have no sex than average/bad sex.
......and people say I’m picky!!??
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Not all people, I think it's the right way to do it! I feel exactly the same |
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For me it’s essential to click with both....ultimately it’s about having as much fun as possible, and if both parties are happy then it’s game on...however if it’s not an equal balance then you will never have as much fun....because also I am the one to their two, I would be more flexible in their requests too. Need to find a couple soon |
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"Not all people, I think it's the right way to do it! I feel exactly the same
Glad to hear it MrandMrsBlueEyes
I just want to meet decent, friendly, trustworthy, filthy people!!!
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I'm sure the right one will come along! Hoping we can find the same |
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"In an ideal world, what would you single guys want when looking to meet a couple? Are there specific things you want? Situations you look for? Things that put you off? I know this will vary but I am intrigued!
P.S. If your answer is "a pulse" please move along "
I love it when its obvious the lady enjoys the attention of 2 guys giving her pleasure, and also the connection between them beforehand that its definitely something they both want. Hints of uncofortable on either part is not a turn on at all |
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"In an ideal world, what would you single guys want when looking to meet a couple? Are there specific things you want? Situations you look for? Things that put you off? I know this will vary but I am intrigued!
P.S. If your answer is "a pulse" please move along "
A chilled friendly outlook. A love of good conversation and a smily disposition. And a desire to leave inhibitons at the bedroom door, kick back and really share our desires and kinks |
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Fair point well made! I must check on Mr... 
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