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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . . |
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . ."
Perhaps it's a prehistoric view of women that's led you to that conclusion? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
Perhaps it's a prehistoric view of women that's led you to that conclusion?"
Sounds like it
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I have felt used but that was done to the fact that the man was a selfish prick. We discussed our wants and avoids - he said they were ok - then proceeded to take what he wanted and left me, well, in a bit of a mess and not in a good way. I dont think hes on here anymore |
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . ."
Define “used”.... do you feel used when a girl meets you to get off with the use of your cock/mouth/hands etc etc? I can’t speak for everyone else but for me if we are using terms like “used” then for me that works both ways I assure you!! |
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"By used I mean that it's not mutually appreciated. If it is then you've not got a problem. Happy Fabbing x"
But why do you assume that only the guys are getting something out of it?
Surely if anything the question should be asking if people feel used, regardless of gender? ...
I have a question for you. Do you use fab so you can “use” women? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Methinks the ladies doth protest too much but at least it's a reaction. Discuss . . . ."
Is there any point in a discussion if you dismiss the first 2 replies as protesting too much? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you're right. Do some people on here feel used by being on this site against their will. Is that better?"
Who on earth is here against their will?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you're right. Do some people on here feel used by being on this site against their will. Is that better?"
Ate people on here against their will??  |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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"I think you're right. Do some people on here feel used by being on this site against their will. Is that better?"
Eh? As in forced on here by a partner? I'm sure most are on here because they want to be.
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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"I think you're right. Do some people on here feel used by being on this site against their will. Is that better?"
I'm not sure I understand what you are asking. Your rephrased question is very different to the one in the first post. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . ."
The men I shag should feel used, they are just pieces of man meat. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks Slinky, that's very interesting point. On here you ought to have more control than random meetings in real life. Like a naturist beach - what you see is what you get |
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"Thanks Slinky, that's very interesting point. On here you ought to have more control than random meetings in real life. Like a naturist beach - what you see is what you get"
If you click reply + quote, it makes it easier to comprehend  |
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . ."
Still curious why you assume “most of the women on this site feel used” ... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks Slinky, that's very interesting point. On here you ought to have more control than random meetings in real life. Like a naturist beach - what you see is what you get
If you click reply + quote, it makes it easier to comprehend "
Thanks for the tip |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
Still curious why you assume “most of the women on this site feel used” ... "
And why only most of them OP? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
Still curious why you assume “most of the women on this site feel used” ... "
I just got to wondering how much coercion there is in couples' profiles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
Define “used”.... do you feel used when a girl meets you to get off with the use of your cock/mouth/hands etc etc? I can’t speak for everyone else but for me if we are using terms like “used” then for me that works both ways I assure you!! "
great comment i think the same as you x  |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
Still curious why you assume “most of the women on this site feel used” ...
I just got to wondering how much coercion there is in couples' profiles."
Why can't two people just want to enjoy a varied sex life together? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
Still curious why you assume “most of the women on this site feel used” ...
I just got to wondering how much coercion there is in couples' profiles.
Of course they can but I've found it's much less common than you'd imagine once you get to know people. It does work both ways of course.
Why can't two people just want to enjoy a varied sex life together?"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP I think you meant what you initially said, you think women feel used cos you think men are on here to use women and are now backtracking. "
I'm not a politician; I can adapt. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
Still curious why you assume “most of the women on this site feel used” ...
I just got to wondering how much coercion there is in couples' profiles.
Of course they can but I've found it's much less common than you'd imagine once you get to know people. It does work both ways of course.
Why can't two people just want to enjoy a varied sex life together?"
Every couple I've met have been here as equals. I don't know where you're coming up with this but it's nonsense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP I think you meant what you initially said, you think women feel used cos you think men are on here to use women and are now backtracking. "
To be honest given the subsequent 2 posts from him claiming that the women replying were protesting too much and then that he was laughing too much to reply so do I. And it seems quite contemptuous towards swingers |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
Still curious why you assume “most of the women on this site feel used” ...
I just got to wondering how much coercion there is in couples' profiles.
Of course they can but I've found it's much less common than you'd imagine once you get to know people. It does work both ways of course.
Why can't two people just want to enjoy a varied sex life together?
Every couple I've met have been here as equals. I don't know where you're coming up with this but it's nonsense. "
I'm sure you're not the only one to think so but at least it's got people thinking about it. Nighty night. x |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
Still curious why you assume “most of the women on this site feel used” ...
I just got to wondering how much coercion there is in couples' profiles.
Of course they can but I've found it's much less common than you'd imagine once you get to know people. It does work both ways of course.
Why can't two people just want to enjoy a varied sex life together?
Every couple I've met have been here as equals. I don't know where you're coming up with this but it's nonsense.
I'm sure you're not the only one to think so but at least it's got people thinking about it. Nighty night. x"
All its got people thinking is that you're abit odd. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP I think you meant what you initially said, you think women feel used cos you think men are on here to use women and are now backtracking.
To be honest given the subsequent 2 posts from him claiming that the women replying were protesting too much and then that he was laughing too much to reply so do I. And it seems quite contemptuous towards swingers "
It struck me as a sly attempt at slut shaming and I haven't seen anything to make me think any different so far. |
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"OP I think you meant what you initially said, you think women feel used cos you think men are on here to use women and are now backtracking.
To be honest given the subsequent 2 posts from him claiming that the women replying were protesting too much and then that he was laughing too much to reply so do I. And it seems quite contemptuous towards swingers "
Yup. |
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
Still curious why you assume “most of the women on this site feel used” ...
I just got to wondering how much coercion there is in couples' profiles.
Of course they can but I've found it's much less common than you'd imagine once you get to know people. It does work both ways of course.
Why can't two people just want to enjoy a varied sex life together?
Every couple I've met have been here as equals. I don't know where you're coming up with this but it's nonsense.
I'm sure you're not the only one to think so but at least it's got people thinking about it. Nighty night. x
All its got people thinking is that you're abit odd. "
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"OP I think you meant what you initially said, you think women feel used cos you think men are on here to use women and are now backtracking.
To be honest given the subsequent 2 posts from him claiming that the women replying were protesting too much and then that he was laughing too much to reply so do I. And it seems quite contemptuous towards swingers
It struck me as a sly attempt at slut shaming and I haven't seen anything to make me think any different so far. "
No shame here! |
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
The men I shag should feel used, they are just pieces of man meat."
The only way it should be!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP I think you meant what you initially said, you think women feel used cos you think men are on here to use women and are now backtracking.
To be honest given the subsequent 2 posts from him claiming that the women replying were protesting too much and then that he was laughing too much to reply so do I. And it seems quite contemptuous towards swingers
It struck me as a sly attempt at slut shaming and I haven't seen anything to make me think any different so far.
No shame here!"
Erm no none here either  |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
The men I shag should feel used, they are just pieces of man meat.
The only way it should be! "
You'll soon be one of my used and abused |
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"OP I think you meant what you initially said, you think women feel used cos you think men are on here to use women and are now backtracking.
To be honest given the subsequent 2 posts from him claiming that the women replying were protesting too much and then that he was laughing too much to reply so do I. And it seems quite contemptuous towards swingers
It struck me as a sly attempt at slut shaming and I haven't seen anything to make me think any different so far.
No shame here!
Erm no none here either "
Nor here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
The men I shag should feel used, they are just pieces of man meat.
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But then I, for one, would be willingly getting'used' by you |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
The men I shag should feel used, they are just pieces of man meat.
But then I, for one, would be willingly getting'used' by you"
See OP, we are strong, independent women using men for their dicks then discarding them by the wayside for the next randy harlot to take her turn! |
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
The men I shag should feel used, they are just pieces of man meat.
But then I, for one, would be willingly getting'used' by you
See OP, we are strong, independent women using men for their dicks then discarding them by the wayside for the next randy harlot to take her turn! "
Hahaha |
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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago
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"OP I think you meant what you initially said, you think women feel used cos you think men are on here to use women and are now backtracking.
To be honest given the subsequent 2 posts from him claiming that the women replying were protesting too much and then that he was laughing too much to reply so do I. And it seems quite contemptuous towards swingers
It struck me as a sly attempt at slut shaming and I haven't seen anything to make me think any different so far. "
I had it down as an attempt at white knighting but I'm not sure he even knows what his intentions were tbh  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Feel used if my gains were given out under false pretences.
For example.... if a lying mofo had come up with a load of bullshit to navigate a way to get the meet.
To make that into a bite sized chunk for you.....I don't meet cheating men.
If a man told me he was single when he wasn't and I gave him my time, vagina and made the bastard a cuppa, then yes, I would feel used.
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"Methinks the ladies doth protest too much but at least it's a reaction. Discuss . . . ."
Why do you believe that?
Overlaying your prejudice onto my response isn't the way to engage in any meaningful dialogue as it implies your mind was already made up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . ."
yes I agree with some of the reply’s ! I’ve stopped meeting for that very reason we are all adults and agree what we want from meets However doesn’t stop some guys making you feel like a piece of meat and thinking you haven’t got a brain because your on a sex site ! X |
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . ."
Totally when it's just all about them and their egoes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I feel used alot, especially when im only sent friends requests so they can see my pics. Its got nothing to do with knowing me because as soon as I add them they stop messaging. Ive now removed all my picks to see if when a man messages its because he wants to actually get to know me xx |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
Still curious why you assume “most of the women on this site feel used” ...
I just got to wondering how much coercion there is in couples' profiles."
Who coerced you to be on Fab? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To be honest I can see where the OP is coming from (& no I don't feel used btw) but outside of the forums (a tiny % of fab) men generally are trying to use ladies for their own fix. I don't except compliments on fab from any man that I haven't spent time conversing with due to them saying the same thing to every lady "to get in their knickers" so to speak, most men that have messaged me over the years are only interested in a hook up type sex n go thing, I'm not interested in sex without a good mental connection as find it mediocre at best whereas most men seem to be looking just for an instant sex fix to be honest ... so yes, generalising from my years on here men do want to primarily use the ladies!
He's just asking if we feel used, perhaps it would have been better if he'd worded it "how do the ladies of fab manage not to feel used?" |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"To be honest I can see where the OP is coming from (& no I don't feel used btw) but outside of the forums (a tiny % of fab) men generally are trying to use ladies for their own fix. I don't except compliments on fab from any man that I haven't spent time conversing with due to them saying the same thing to every lady "to get in their knickers" so to speak, most men that have messaged me over the years are only interested in a hook up type sex n go thing, I'm not interested in sex without a good mental connection as find it mediocre at best whereas most men seem to be looking just for an instant sex fix to be honest ... so yes, generalising from my years on here men do want to primarily use the ladies!
He's just asking if we feel used, perhaps it would have been better if he'd worded it "how do the ladies of fab manage not to feel used?" "
I don't feel used because I don't let people use me, the chancers are so easy to spot so I never get put in that position.
Plus, I'm kinda using the guys I fuck anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest I can see where the OP is coming from (& no I don't feel used btw) but outside of the forums (a tiny % of fab) men generally are trying to use ladies for their own fix. I don't except compliments on fab from any man that I haven't spent time conversing with due to them saying the same thing to every lady "to get in their knickers" so to speak, most men that have messaged me over the years are only interested in a hook up type sex n go thing, I'm not interested in sex without a good mental connection as find it mediocre at best whereas most men seem to be looking just for an instant sex fix to be honest ... so yes, generalising from my years on here men do want to primarily use the ladies!
He's just asking if we feel used, perhaps it would have been better if he'd worded it "how do the ladies of fab manage not to feel used?" "
Truth exists here in abundance |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . ."
That's how I want to feel.
Also keep in mind, we use them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . .
Delete your account and please never meet a woman your misogyny is quite appalling
Ms Icebreaker "
Please dont speak for all women! I like feeling uses. OP , o liked your question, so Mr woke icebreaker - Delete your account you misogynist MAN
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He's just asking if we feel used, perhaps it would have been better if he'd worded it "how do the ladies of fab manage not to feel used?" "
That's not quite true as he challenged me in response to his original post. |
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"I know that this is some people's idea of pleasure but don't most of the women on this site feel used? I'm as guilty as the next man but just wondered . . . ."
I have been doing this for years.
When I was single, (we still have requirements you know), I made sure I was treated right, dinner, or a bottle of wine, from the man, to show his appreciation, and that he’d turn up.
Now I have a partner, it’s easier because we just get on with out so much fuss. |
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