Personally, I prefer regular training and occasional tasks.
Most of us are too time poor to do or set lots of both.
I usually choose training that'll improve our time together...with occasional tasks for fun.
Throat training is always top of my training list...it takes daily effort and dedication and can be filmed as proof, which is sexy.
Fitness training too, as like my playthings fit, which helps motivate them too.
Then there's the odd fun task, like cumming a certain number of times or learning about something todo with bdsm. |
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"Hi all looking for more ideas on tasks to give my submissive girl we do live a bit of distance away but always looking for different task ideas so feel free to share "
my bf asks me to do pics while im out lets say im shopping then he makes me show my thong or strip off and finger my self in changing rooms |
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We dont do alot of tasks in all honesty, as said time plays a factor with fitting in around family life. If we do its usually finding something out, picking out things for Sir then to have a final say on, look for something for a next meet/scenario etc.
Our routinely done things are limited playing with set times to masturbate miss the time you miss out, orgasm with a command word while I'm out, at school run, shopping and so on. Videos sent of certain instructions to masturbate with, practicing deepthroat with whatever you choose, pics sent with certain underwear back view/front view. Told what to wear for the day/on a meet.
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"Cheers all for ideas "
Have you read 'The New Topping Book'? If not, I'd recommend it for all of our Dom predelictions.
The New Bottoming Book is a great read too.
I agree with the following, which is from a previous thread, written as advice to a sub.
'I would say the best thing to start with is talking, discuss what your ideas are, what things you would like to try and then when you agree on a subject, give it a go and see how it works. Honesty is very important, don’t say you like something just because you think you should and your Dom needs to do the same, no point you wanting hours of rope play if the very idea bores him.
With regards to subtle hints and nudges, I see no problem with the sub giving the Dom advice, for example “This sub has been naughty today sir, and deserves punishment”, yes that could be seen as topping from the bottom but he will know you want to play and he can then decide if you ‘deserve’ punishment. Hints/nudges when playing can be as simple as “Yes sir/no sir”, indicating if you are enjoying it or not. Of course if things become too much just use a safe word to stop and then, when you are feeling up to it, discuss what went wrong.
You both need to accept that not everything will work, you will both make mistakes and neither of you are perfect. While you are finding you feet and while he is learning to ‘read’ you, take it slow, experiment, and enjoy finding new things together.'
I think that Tasks and Play should be discussed to some degree, nobody's psychic and it's meant to be fun, right!
Hope that helps.
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