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Any dominant women? Seems a rarity
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ve always had a thing for a dominant lady but seems they are few and far between! In fact I would say they are less then %10 of women actually are more dominant.
This is probably a natural thing where women see themselves submissive because a man is stronger physically |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yup just been my experience that women like it when a man takes control and takes the lead. I find the guys are always happy for me to be the one in control  "
Yes exactly we actually like you to take control now and then too often it’s us |
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"Yup just been my experience that women like it when a man takes control and takes the lead. I find the guys are always happy for me to be the one in control
Yes exactly we actually like you to take control now and then too often it’s us "
you speaking for all the men of fab ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yup just been my experience that women like it when a man takes control and takes the lead. I find the guys are always happy for me to be the one in control
Yes exactly we actually like you to take control now and then too often it’s us you speaking for all the men of fab ? "
Yes. |
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As a confident alpha female.. I find most men find me a little intimidating but I'm not Dominant. There are plenty of sexually assertive women on fab though and thats very different to being dominant |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm naturally dominate in that I will say and get what I want. I'm definitely not shy about it and I like to take control. One thing I never do is submit.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are plenty of dominant women... They do, however, tend not to respond well to "sub" men who have a list of demands. "
Someone who has a list of demands is not a sub, that’s just a desperate dan |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve always had a thing for a dominant lady but seems they are few and far between! In fact I would say they are less then %10 of women actually are more dominant.
This is probably a natural thing where women see themselves submissive because a man is stronger physically "
I have to disagree. Submission has more to do with mental strength. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’ve always had a thing for a dominant lady but seems they are few and far between! In fact I would say they are less then %10 of women actually are more dominant.
This is probably a natural thing where women see themselves submissive because a man is stronger physically
I have to disagree. Submission has more to do with mental strength. "
Yes Certainly the mental aspect is a huge part to it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yup just been my experience that women like it when a man takes control and takes the lead. I find the guys are always happy for me to be the one in control "
I find that in real life. Might have something to do with their mothers being strong women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a confident alpha female.. I find most men find me a little intimidating but I'm not Dominant. There are plenty of sexually assertive women on fab though and thats very different to being dominant "
Yes, this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are plenty of dominant women... They do, however, tend not to respond well to "sub" men who have a list of demands.
Someone who has a list of demands is not a sub, that’s just a desperate dan"
It maybe they have criteria rather than a list of demands. They simply know what they do and don't want. And criteria is the opposite to be being desperate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d describe myself as sexually confident rather than dominant. I tend to naturally take control in the bedroom and will be the hunter in social situations, clubs etc.
Maybe it’s just an age and experience thing.
I prefer my playmates to be the same too. Makes for feisty fun!
Miss V |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are plenty of dominant women... They do, however, tend not to respond well to "sub" men who have a list of demands.
Someone who has a list of demands is not a sub, that’s just a desperate dan
It maybe they have criteria rather than a list of demands. They simply know what they do and don't want. And criteria is the opposite to be being desperate. "
Maybe they have demands rather than a list of criteria. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yup just been my experience that women like it when a man takes control and takes the lead. "
You telling me there aren't any Dominate fems in London?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are plenty of dominant women... They do, however, tend not to respond well to "sub" men who have a list of demands.
Someone who has a list of demands is not a sub, that’s just a desperate dan
It maybe they have criteria rather than a list of demands. They simply know what they do and don't want. And criteria is the opposite to be being desperate.
Maybe they have demands rather than a list of criteria. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yup just been my experience that women like it when a man takes control and takes the lead.
You telling me there aren't any Dominate fems in London?
... OK "
Yea Iam hardly any, and the ones that are you have to pay |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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"I’ve always had a thing for a dominant lady but seems they are few and far between! In fact I would say they are less then %10 of women actually are more dominant.
This is probably a natural thing where women see themselves submissive because a man is stronger physically
I have to disagree. Submission has more to do with mental strength. "
Yes this. The beautiful power paradox .. in a sub/dom dynamic, male or female has alot of power. Power over the boundaries and often incredible mental and physical stamina.
Try both and see
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"I’ve always had a thing for a dominant lady but seems they are few and far between! In fact I would say they are less then %10 of women actually are more dominant.
This is probably a natural thing where women see themselves submissive because a man is stronger physically "
OP you are possibly on the wrong website..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are plenty of dominant women... They do, however, tend not to respond well to "sub" men who have a list of demands.
Someone who has a list of demands is not a sub, that’s just a desperate dan
It maybe they have criteria rather than a list of demands. They simply know what they do and don't want. And criteria is the opposite to be being desperate.
Maybe they have demands rather than a list of criteria.
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Was poking fun at your comment, the guy said demands not criteria. If he said criteria I wouldn’t of said what I said. You can say maybe this maybe that to anything |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’ve always had a thing for a dominant lady but seems they are few and far between! In fact I would say they are less then %10 of women actually are more dominant.
This is probably a natural thing where women see themselves submissive because a man is stronger physically
OP you are possibly on the wrong website....."
Possibly you could enlighten me to the correct website then? |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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From talking to dommes and reading journal entries on FL a number of submissive men actually want to top from the bottom and I have heard that it inevitably becomes a battle of wills of what the submissive male wants and what the domme expects. As one domme memorably stated: pI am not a fantasy slot machine to satisfy sub desires.
The other fact to take into account is that there are large numbers of men claiming to be submissive out there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yup just been my experience that women like it when a man takes control and takes the lead.
You telling me there aren't any Dominate fems in London?
... OK
Yea Iam hardly any, and the ones that are you have to pay"
If you only want your botty smacking. You don't need a dominate to do that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are plenty of dominant women... They do, however, tend not to respond well to "sub" men who have a list of demands.
Someone who has a list of demands is not a sub, that’s just a desperate dan
It maybe they have criteria rather than a list of demands. They simply know what they do and don't want. And criteria is the opposite to be being desperate.
Maybe they have demands rather than a list of criteria.
Was poking fun at your comment, the guy said demands not criteria. If he said criteria I wouldn’t of said what I said. You can say maybe this maybe that to anything "
Yes, your comment was pathetic. I stated maybe for the simple reason I've known men to misinterpret criteria as demands. It's down to perspective. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are plenty of Dominant women. To meet a Dominatrix however is a very different proposition . First you need to be submissive and learn to submit .. There is a great deal more to it than bending over and waving your bum in the air .. Do you want to submit to her ? Its not always fun you know .. Although i will say its very fulfilling, if that is what you really want |
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"I’ve always had a thing for a dominant lady but seems they are few and far between! In fact I would say they are less then %10 of women actually are more dominant.
This is probably a natural thing where women see themselves submissive because a man is stronger physically
OP you are possibly on the wrong website.....
Possibly you could enlighten me to the correct website then? "
Begins with F and ends in Life
Best of luck on that particular cesspit..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yup just been my experience that women like it when a man takes control and takes the lead.
You telling me there aren't any Dominate fems in London?
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Yea Iam hardly any, and the ones that are you have to pay"
Aside from asking on here, what have you done to find your Domme? Presumably attended munches, ingratiated yourself in the local BDSM scene, attended workshops, seminars, displays, local meet and greets, attended kink oriented play nights, dungeons, kink events, LAM, fetish markets, BBB? And still no Domme? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Over the years I've found that "going looking" for a Domme isn't a particularly successful route - it tends to be more a natural progression when two like minds come together and realise they are on opposite sides of the same coin.
BDSM is such a multi-faceted dynamic that finding someone who matches how you see things is not as simple as both of you ticking the same "interests" boxes on a site like this.
It's more a case of a sub doesn't find a Domme, and a Domme doesn't find a sub, they find each other.
Since my mind was opened to my submissiveness 20 or so years ago, I've found 3 people who I've truly "felt" submissive to, and even then (timing and circumstance mostly) they've not progressed to a great deal.
So it's not easy, and not a simple case of "looking for a Domme" and one popping up, it's a case of finding the right Domme for you, and you being the right one for them.
Of course "kink play" without a full D/s dynamic is an option, and easier to find - it's a question though of whether that fulfils what you are looking for or just scratches the itch at a fairly superficial level. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Over the years I've found that "going looking" for a Domme isn't a particularly successful route - it tends to be more a natural progression when two like minds come together and realise they are on opposite sides of the same coin.
BDSM is such a multi-faceted dynamic that finding someone who matches how you see things is not as simple as both of you ticking the same "interests" boxes on a site like this.
It's more a case of a sub doesn't find a Domme, and a Domme doesn't find a sub, they find each other.
Since my mind was opened to my submissiveness 20 or so years ago, I've found 3 people who I've truly "felt" submissive to, and even then (timing and circumstance mostly) they've not progressed to a great deal.
So it's not easy, and not a simple case of "looking for a Domme" and one popping up, it's a case of finding the right Domme for you, and you being the right one for them.
Of course "kink play" without a full D/s dynamic is an option, and easier to find - it's a question though of whether that fulfils what you are looking for or just scratches the itch at a fairly superficial level."
Very good summary |
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By *ouple 71Couple
over a year ago
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"As a confident alpha female.. I find most men find me a little intimidating but I'm not Dominant. There are plenty of sexually assertive women on fab though and thats very different to being dominant "
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I too would love to find a Dominant female for a female led relationship and they most certainly are out there.
My problem is i started at a young age visiting pro Dommes and would love to find a more less conventional Domme.
Id like to move away from leather/pvc clad Ladies and find the thought of submitting to a Lady in Jeans and trainers much more enticing at the moment which is why i look here instead of the previously mentioned site at the moment |
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"I’d describe myself as sexually confident rather than dominant. I tend to naturally take control in the bedroom and will be the hunter in social situations, clubs etc.
Maybe it’s just an age and experience thing.
I prefer my playmates to be the same too. Makes for feisty fun!
Miss V"
ohhh totally agree with looking for other naturally assertive guys. Feisty is good |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm naturally dominant. But I'm also lazy so occasionally I'm happy for someone else to take the lead so to speak. I get messages in abundance from men who would like me to dominate them, in my eyes it doesn't work like that and if there's a list of demands of any kind in the first few messages (I'm polite I usually reply) then I'll wave a cheery goodbye. Also if I do decide to indulge in a little Domme/ sub play its only ever after a lot of dialogue, I don't do sexting or indeed any kind of sexy talk I just want facts before a meet of this kind. I need to know the boundaries are in place and everyone is singing from the same hymn sheet.
Oh and manners. Some people are just ingnorant and rude..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’d describe myself as sexually confident rather than dominant. I tend to naturally take control in the bedroom and will be the hunter in social situations, clubs etc.
Maybe it’s just an age and experience thing.
I prefer my playmates to be the same too. Makes for feisty fun!
Miss V ohhh totally agree with looking for other naturally assertive guys. Feisty is good "
Feisty foursomes or moresomes are even better! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Submissive men do nothing for me...and I'm exhausted from my day job... So prefer to play sub myself... Although I don't think i am a regular sub from feedback i get lol |
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"Yup just been my experience that women like it when a man takes control and takes the lead.
You telling me there aren't any Dominate fems in London?
... OK
Yea Iam hardly any, and the ones that are you have to pay"
If you're good at something, never do it for free. |
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I met my last gf/Mistress by just being open with her as a female friend, of my interests when we where a little d*unk chatting one night. I focused on what interests she had and how i could maybe help. That resulted in us deciding to give it a go.
Importantly, it's not just in the bedroom, when we went out, i made all my usual efforts to be gentlemanly... but focused on doing it better. An example, I asked how i could make her cups of tea for her, as she loved tea. I wanted to make it just as she wanted... it was a little thing, but it was one of many big symbols to us that represented our roles and relationship dynamic. |
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"I’ve always had a thing for a dominant lady but seems they are few and far between! In fact I would say they are less then %10 of women actually are more dominant.
This is probably a natural thing where women see themselves submissive because a man is stronger physically "
You should try a brat. Best of both worlds in my humble opinion  |
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