Once you’ve gone past the point of no return of being involved in absolute filth with some people, can you still enjoy vanilla sex with someone who isn’t as dirty, or isn’t a fan of the aggressive throat grabbing etc?  |
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over a year ago
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No don't think you can.
When we started this journey 2 years ago we were initially turned on by being watched in clubs through Windows in locked rooms, then it progressed to open doors and then openly being watched on the beds.
We've now moved on to open bed 3somes, 4somes and even group play all in the open in clubs, and nothing now seems to phase us at all, so doubt we could. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hate to state the obvious but all human beings strive to better themselves (or at the least, try)..
Why would anyone want to return to normality after sampling a greater experience...? |
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Absolutely - all depends on the dynamic (hate that phrase), I’ve gone from hard impact dom play to soft passionate sensual sex.
In the immortal words of tenacious d :
You don't always have to fuck her hard
In fact sometimes that's not right to do
Sometimes you got to make some love
And fuckin' give her some smooches too |
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Yes of course it's still possible to have vanilla sex in a 1-1, and it's even enjoyable.
What I couldn't do it to have 1-1 vanilla sex with the same person for the rest of my natural.
Monogamy has gone for good. |
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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago
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"Absolutely - all depends on the dynamic (hate that phrase), I’ve gone from hard impact dom play to soft passionate sensual sex.
In the immortal words of tenacious d :
You don't always have to fuck her hard
In fact sometimes that's not right to do
Sometimes you got to make some love
And fuckin' give her some smooches too"
Definitely this, sometimes it's nice to have passionate sex but with the right guy at the right time. X |
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To me vanilla sex means non-swinging sex - ie in a relationship. In this scenario it's at least as much about the emotional as the physical.
Swinging, to me at least, is physical sex as a recreational pastime. Yes there may be some friendship involved but not the same deep emotional connection.
Two different things in my book. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Two different things in my book."
For some like us it's a lifestyle though, we love the clubs most weekends but don't always play, so no it isn't two different things for us at all. |
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Two different things in my book.
For some like us it's a lifestyle though, we love the clubs most weekends but don't always play, so no it isn't two different things for us at all. "
This is what I was trying to also understand. The dynamic of such  |
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"Yes, you can. Life is about so much more than limiting your choices"
Spot on. If you're not treating who you're with as an individual, rather than a list of boxes to tick then why are you having sex with them at all. (Obviously a bit different in a group play situation, but 1-1 focusing on them as an individual is paramount as we all like things done differently. |
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