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How to politely say not attracted?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is so awkward this situation, it is a reason I insist on face pics in their very first message. So I can politely ignore upfront rather than have initial contact with face pic coming after. Might make things easier for you if you take same approach  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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thank you but not for me/us but wish you look any effort to respond and say hello and no thanks at least considering amount of messages women/couples get its much appreciated |
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"When you’re chatting and someone sends you a face pic, what’s the nicest way to say you don’t find them attractive?"
I’ve learnt from the majority of women I’ve messaged...all you need to do is block and delete.
Why be polite and talk to someone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"just be honest, say they are not for you, they wont take offence"
They won't take offence? Sometimes they are so offended even u couldn't believe. They start make a questions, so who is attractive to you, what is your type, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"just be honest, say they are not for you, they wont take offence
They won't take offence? Sometimes they are so offended even u couldn't believe. They start make a questions, so who is attractive to you, what is your type, etc."
Yes! I get so much abusive. One guy messaged me 5 times, I politely declined him and got back that I was a ‘ugly nasty slag cunt’ nice one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Male half here. I learnt not to judge a book by it's cover long ago.
I for example would not have sex with someone I didn't find attractive but on one occasion I gave someone the benefit of the doubt because I found we got on in many other ways. The sex so happened to be the best I have ever experienced.
I usually am interested in slim girls but this girl was curvy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The problem with sending face pics with first message is for all we know there is every chance they are a pic collector. So our advice is go with your gut instinct. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you’re chatting and someone sends you a face pic, what’s the nicest way to say you don’t find them attractive?"
Fuck off minger.
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Kidding 
Thank you but no thanks.
Or, apologies but not my cup of tea. |
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"just be honest, say they are not for you, they wont take offence
They won't take offence? Sometimes they are so offended even u couldn't believe. They start make a questions, so who is attractive to you, what is your type, etc."
Oh tell me about it!
“Meet me and I’ll show you I’m your type”
“So what is your type?”
“Well you met him (one of my veris) and I’m better”
“You need to try every kind of guy”
“Meet me anyway”
“You never know til you try”
And on and on and on. Sometimes it’s just less stressful to not reply in the first place.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"just be honest, say they are not for you, they wont take offence
They won't take offence? Sometimes they are so offended even u couldn't believe. They start make a questions, so who is attractive to you, what is your type, etc.
Oh tell me about it!
“Meet me and I’ll show you I’m your type”
“So what is your type?”
“Well you met him (one of my veris) and I’m better”
“You need to try every kind of guy”
“Meet me anyway”
“You never know til you try”
And on and on and on. Sometimes it’s just less stressful to not reply in the first place.
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Just reeks of desperation - I do feel sorry for them but it also makes me kinda mad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you’re chatting and someone sends you a face pic, what’s the nicest way to say you don’t find them attractive?"
really sorry not for me.......... simples |
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"just be honest, say they are not for you, they wont take offence
They won't take offence? Sometimes they are so offended even u couldn't believe. They start make a questions, so who is attractive to you, what is your type, etc.
Oh tell me about it!
“Meet me and I’ll show you I’m your type”
“So what is your type?”
“Well you met him (one of my veris) and I’m better”
“You need to try every kind of guy”
“Meet me anyway”
“You never know til you try”
And on and on and on. Sometimes it’s just less stressful to not reply in the first place.
Just reeks of desperation - I do feel sorry for them but it also makes me kinda mad "
The one that really annoys me is “so what is your type?” Why, because you’re somehow magically turn into it? |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Just straight up, honest, kind and
Respectful eg ..
Thank you but no thank you.
Thanks for the pic, i hope its ok to say we are not suited. Best wishes.
Sorry but you're not what I'm looking for right now.
Thank you, I'm not attracted to you in a sexual way.
I'm not feeling to take it further with you. Wishing you well.
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"Just straight up, honest, kind and
Respectful eg ..
Thank you but no thank you.
Thanks for the pic, i hope its ok to say we are not suited. Best wishes.
Sorry but you're not what I'm looking for right now.
Thank you, I'm not attracted to you in a sexual way.
I'm not feeling to take it further with you. Wishing you well.
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Sound advice Id say... I find it is better than no reply because at least the other person knows where they stand |
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Sorry you're not my type doesn't work with most.
I've had a guy message me several times and create different accounts to ask me to change my mind :/
I mean sometimes it's not physical attraction, its the way someone acts and they can't get their head around why can't they "start fresh". |
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By *oomsMan
over a year ago
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That’s why it’s prob best to do ignore I reckon, some people think that if you reply yours trying to start a convo.
It’s subjective though obviously, if their approach was really nice, and they seem sound, obv a polite KB reply might be better. |
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"Sorry you're not my type doesn't work with most.
I've had a guy message me several times and create different accounts to ask me to change my mind :/
I mean sometimes it's not physical attraction, its the way someone acts and they can't get their head around why can't they "start fresh". "
This can be quite frustrating for a guy. As you say it can be looks or the vibe/connection just doesn't attract you. The latter is can sometimes be dependant on small initial factors as to how you came across. So there's often a feeling of 'I can change it'.
A guy has to learn that if a woman isn't attracted, for whatever reason, just move on. You might persist and build a connection or friendship but it will only ever be in the friendzone.
I personally prefer a 'thanks but not for me' which obviously means I don't find you attractive, rather than being ignored or worse engaging in some form of flirting and only revealing it as things get more real! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a firm and polite ‘no thanks’ seems to be the consensus of opinion followed by block and delete.
Thanks  xxx"
Honesty is key
... and you are welcome x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess the best question to ask is what sort of reply would you like OP?
I imagine it would be something like thanking you for contacting them but they not not want to take things further and wish you well on the site? There's no real need to give a reason as it just opens a can of worms. |
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A polite no thanks and hope you find what your looking for
When I've been turned down the replies have been similar to the above, to which i reply thanks for the message, no problem and good luck
No need to be nasty unless they keep pestering you then I would block them |
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"When you’re chatting and someone sends you a face pic, what’s the nicest way to say you don’t find them attractive?"
Thank you for sharing, I’m sorry to say that I won’t be interested to meet best of luck x x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep...after few messages I've got today I'll start block them straight away...I'm kind and understanding and just get abusive bullshit talking. Thx guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly policy, if we’re not attracted to someone we say “thank you for your interest in us but sorry to say there isn’t an attraction match , we wish you happy swinging “ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And it does my head in if anyone says “Good luck”. Fab isn’t about luck.
And it sounds like you’re desperate. “Oh my I do hope there’s a man that wants to shag me, Hope I get lucky  "
Happy fabbing is my go to. |
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