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Swinging isn’t for single guys

By *oliath OP Man over a year ago

Ulverston

I’ve received lots of messages on here recently and been told to my face in clubs that there is no place for single guys in the world of swinging. Basically some people have the opinion that swinging requires you to be part of a couple that swaps therefore a single guy just shouldn’t be on here. Some messages are polite but others are down right nasty and insulting.

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

If you need to be part of a couple then I shouldn't be here either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I swing in clubs with my wife and have a local club we are regulars of. I sometimes attend as a single male when the wife is away working just to meet our friends. On my last visit I sat at the bar chatting all night and at the very end a guy who was with his shag told me I shouldnt be there as I'm not a swinger, he then gave me an abusive rant and basically said single men in clubs (aimed at me) disgust him as they just walk around perving and wanking. I laughed when the owner said to him he wasnt a swinger either then, he asked why he wasnt the owner said you and your partner only play with single girls and by your own logic you arent swapping, just sharing. He shut up and left.

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

We don’t play with single guys but many friends who do and don't have any issue with single guys in clubs but what is the difference between a single guy who identifies as a swinger and a normal single guy on tinder.

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By *actileGent69Man over a year ago

East Cheshire

The Mrs LOVES checking out single males in clubs and drags the odd one into a private room too

. It's incredibly difficult for single guys on here though, there are just too many of us. I rarely get any genuine interest at all even though I put in a huge amount of effort.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's amazing how many couples whinge about the existence of men and think swinging is only for couples... Until they want a unicorn

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By *hebritukCouple over a year ago

London

Strictly speaking, swinging is for married couples. But hey! It’s 2020 not the 50’s.

Things evolve.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We don’t play with single guys but many friends who do and don't have any issue with single guys in clubs but what is the difference between a single guy who identifies as a swinger and a normal single guy on tinder. "

Does tinder do group sex? I get your point and agree that singles technically aren't swingers in the traditional sense, but also that they have a place within the community. We have played with single men, single women and couples in clubs and I have personally played with hotwives. There are many dynamics and in my (and the wifes) opinion all are welcome to dive under the umbrella of swinging, it's just a name used to cover a very wide range of sexually enjoyable experiences.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We're yet to attend a club so not sure what goes on there but as fab goes singles are welcome. Not everyone is looking for them but there are lots who are.

Mrs

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

For me, I value the community aspects of swinging. I've made friends here, real friends. Random casual shagging isn't quite like that

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS over a year ago

Yorkshire

The real issue is more the plethora of single guys on this (and other) sites. Those who are there just for the thrill and masturbatory value.

Clearly swing can't just be about couples- I find it very hard to meet and play with couples as the dynamic can be...odd. I prefer to meet a single guy or three

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"A guy who was with his shag"

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"The real issue is more the plethora of single guys on this (and other) sites. Those who are there just for the thrill and masturbatory value.

Clearly swing can't just be about couples- I find it very hard to meet and play with couples as the dynamic can be...odd. I prefer to meet a single guy or three

I think it's just inconsiderate people who don't let us do our own thing, of all persuasions. There just happen to be more men

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

It is the single males that keeps this single lady smiling on Fab. If singles males did not go to clubs neither would i.x

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I’ve received lots of messages on here recently and been told to my face in clubs that there is no place for single guys in the world of swinging. Basically some people have the opinion that swinging requires you to be part of a couple that swaps therefore a single guy just shouldn’t be on here. Some messages are polite but others are down right nasty and insulting.

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!"

My thoughts? That's a loads of old bollocks

You swing away!

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As part of a couple who enjoy playing with single guys. You are definitely a massive part of the fun we have. My husband isn’t so keen on playing but his enjoyment comes from watching and joining in with me. So many different dynamics which work for different people. So room for all. I am sure lots of those couples who say single guys are not welcome would happily have a single female join them for fun.. just a thought...

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

Intrigued as to what you are saying that gets you a nasty and insulting message ?

Are you sure it's not a man pretending to be a couple that's sending them ?

I find I either get no reply from couples or a polite thanks for the message you're not our type kind of reply.

Yet to receive a nasty and insulting reply just because I'm single

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As part of a couple who enjoy playing with single guys. You are definitely a massive part of the fun we have. My husband isn’t so keen on playing but his enjoyment comes from watching and joining in with me. So many different dynamics which work for different people. So room for all. I am sure lots of those couples who say single guys are not welcome would happily have a single female join them for fun.. just a thought... "
exactly this, me and my gf used to play together and only searched for bi guys so I would say there's a place for everyone

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Intrigued as to what you are saying that gets you a nasty and insulting message ?

Are you sure it's not a man pretending to be a couple that's sending them ?

I find I either get no reply from couples or a polite thanks for the message you're not our type kind of reply.

Yet to receive a nasty and insulting reply just because I'm single "

Occasionally I get a nasty follow up to this effect because I deleted a message from a couple. I don't belong here and can't get a man anyway, blah blah.

Ok.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have no problems with men being swingers, providing they act like swingers and not a fella just trying to get a shag. Swinging isn’t just about the sex it’s a lifestyle where being social is a huge part of it.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Thing is there is no single (pun unintended) definition of what a swinger is - the "only" definition that is valid is the one we each hold as to what it means to us as individuals.

The term swinger actually derives from the age of free love when more people started to move away from "one partner for life" traditional values to one of free love in the "swinging 60s" and only became associated with couples and "wife swapping" in the 70s, so by it's derivative term it can be applied to anyone.

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By *heLaserGuyMan over a year ago

Coventry

As alot of threads go, it's all down to preference, if you don't want to include single guys, then dont...simples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!"

Some couples will see it that way, but it very much depends on what a couple are looking for in the bedroom, we like single men and love mmf, in fact we are hoping to arrange a mmmf

there's no issue here.

People shouldn't be messageing you like that to express their opinions, I'm surprised it bothers them so much! Each to their own I suppose but if your not for them they should just pass you by,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Top tip for guys on here is. If the looking for box doesn’t say men, don’t bother contacting or winking. You are only wasting your own time. For couples like us, when we want a guy we would find one that fits us perfectly because men as so easy to find, you don’t have to have second best. So we just delete out of course. And most couples and women will do the same. Why have one that comes begging, when you can find one that looks good and has good verifications to back him up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people just like to tell others what to do and its usually couples spouting this claptrap. Strangely they don't often say the same about single females for a MFF.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Top tip for guys on here is. If the looking for box doesn’t say men, don’t bother contacting or winking. You are only wasting your own time. For couples like us, when we want a guy we would find one that fits us perfectly because men as so easy to find, you don’t have to have second best. So we just delete out of course. And most couples and women will do the same. Why have one that comes begging, when you can find one that looks good and has good verifications to back him up. "

.....but if you’ve blocked single men then they can’t message or wink you surely?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

.....but if you’ve blocked single men then they can’t message or wink you surely?"

Not blocked just unticked

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's amazing how many couples whinge about the existence of men and think swinging is only for couples... Until they want a unicorn

Was literally just thinking this !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's the difference between a single woman who identifies as a swinger and a single woman on tinder?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But will be honest. We don’t talk to single men in clubs as it’s not what we want most of the time. If they come and talk to us we will happily have a conversation but early on let them know play is off the cards.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This site and the majority of similar are only able to make the profits they do, owing to the voracious sexual appetites of.. Single men.. I am sure if they were suddenly removed from the equation, profitability would tumble..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!"
couples invented swinging so from the source side thats correct but its couples that require single men so as its developed single guys are the hub of swinging they also keep the clubs alive by virtue of the very sexist charging system

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By *ollee78Man over a year ago

HARROGATE

This thread is interesting and lots of advice.

I’m new to the single life and fab

Thanks for all the posts.

Starting to get how it works

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

" its couples that require single men"

This isn't always true

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By *assy_AttitudeWoman over a year ago

RHYL

I shouldn't be here either being a single lady.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When most clubs limit numbers to less than ten single men you can’t really say they would collapse without them.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"This thread is interesting and lots of advice.

I’m new to the single life and fab

Thanks for all the posts.

Starting to get how it works "

Good luck. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This thread is interesting and lots of advice.

I’m new to the single life and fab

Thanks for all the posts.

Starting to get how it works

Good luck. X"
he'll need it xxx

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By *razytimesinloveCouple over a year ago

SW Scotland

Not true at all, there is loads of couples alone that are looking for single guys, let alone females looking as well.

Understand your post isn’t about lack of interest, but it’s usually whenever a single guy doesn’t get any attention that the site is deemed pointless for them.

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By *inkycreamCouple over a year ago

manchester

Remember when you chucked your keys in a bowl, wondering how that worked for a single guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

poppycock

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No place for single guys, really?

I'll just get my coat and leave now then....

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By *oliath OP Man over a year ago

Ulverston

Some very interesting responses!

At the end of the day we all have our preferences and who can argue with that!

I do very well on here (way better than I ever expected!).....I’m polite and respectful and I can handle rejection with grace and I’m sure that helps

It’s the people who are rude that ruins it. Either just ignore, block or reply with a ‘no thanks’.....

Happy fabbing everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At a club not so long back and was chatting with this couple I knew and 2 other couples. 1 guy after 5 minutes of conversation said I was being disrespectful. When I asked why he said I wasn't following the rules. The rule that single guys can't talk to couples in clubs unless they are approached to do so. I've been swinging 3 years and never felt so insulated. Was quickly of the opinion though that I don't want to spend time with people like that so it was completely their loss.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"At a club not so long back and was chatting with this couple I knew and 2 other couples. 1 guy after 5 minutes of conversation said I was being disrespectful. When I asked why he said I wasn't following the rules. The rule that single guys can't talk to couples in clubs unless they are approached to do so. I've been swinging 3 years and never felt so insulated. Was quickly of the opinion though that I don't want to spend time with people like that so it was completely their loss."

Yikes!

You're a man, not a peasant addressing nobility!

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By *e Sing TooCouple over a year ago

Bristol

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!"

For some couples, like us, playing with a single guy is great fun and they welcome approaches as long as they are respectful. Don’t worry. There are enough of us around to keep you going forever.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!"
I agree. Swinging is swapping partners with other couples. That's the original swinging party. Singles on here are after free sex which isnt wrong but I dont call them swingers. Just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yikes!

You're a man, not a peasant addressing nobility!"

That's what I thought too. Guy was a tool.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We love playing with single guys. Especially bi ones!! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't worry Op, most couples have no problem with single men. It's a bit weird that you've received lots of messages to the contrary, as presumably you're only messaging with couples who say they're looking for single men.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

Gran Canaria

I think a lot of people both inside and more so outside the scene associate swinging with wife swapping.

This view is so commonly held that it is believed to be fact. But just because 80% of people believe something does not make it true. This is the case with swinging. But because most do believe it, it is hard to shift that belief.

There are also people who believe that the imbalance in male to females is the reason why they have less success.

Again this is a false belief. Those couples who enjoy single men are picking them because that is their preference. Therefore they were never attending just to meet other couples.

We don't look for single men on here, but on a night in a club if there is a single guy who has a charming attitude and is able to bring that seduction that bunny needs we would and have definitely involve him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Single guys are always welcome at ours,without you, we wouldn't be swinging

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yikes!

You're a man, not a peasant addressing nobility!

That's what I thought too. Guy was a tool."

I get similar except I'm a pretty precious dolly. Until I don't comply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" its couples that require single men

This isn't always true"
pic or its not true

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

I've had the pleasure of attending a few gangbangs.

I presume the wives and girlfriends were hiding in the other room, as it appeared to be apparently single men and a single woman.

Single men who only message single women aren't swingers.

Single men playing in groups, or with couples are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will probably catch a bit for this, but yes some couples really do have a high opinion of themselves, fair enough but you can't expect everyone to agree with you.

Used to love visiting our little club in brum and Fridays was our preferred night.

Way too many domestics on the verge of erupting on Saturdays, don't want no part of that.

What finished Saturdays for us was a guy who was part of a couple comes up sits next to me and very loudly starts taking the piss out of a group of ladies on the next table for being fat and making jokes about wanting a fat lady, his words...

Obviously never herd the ol' "Once you go fat" saying

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By *wistedTalesCouple over a year ago

RUNCORN

I think as long as the guys are respectful and go to the pace of whoever they are looking to meet, there is definitely a place for them... Obviously not every guy is right for the scene, they have to know and understand how to go about things, but I don't think there's "no place" for them. After all, some situations (or desires) require multiple guys present...

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By *eardsandboobsCouple over a year ago

north of lincoln

We mainly look for single guys when we visit clubs. But because we are both not always able to visit at the same time we both have varying outcomes when visiting as singles. Although generally there’s not an issue you do get the people that think they are better than you if they are in a couple. And I’ve had people say to me can’t you get yourself your own partner. But I think the general problem is that most couples want to find another woman , regardless if the woman’s in a couple or not.

Swinging these days is about having sex with females

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By *hatguyJoeMan over a year ago

Preston

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!"

I have had lots of swinging fun in clubs and private with genuine warm friendly couples. There are nice men and nice couples out there and it works.

I have also seen men act in an intimidating way with a sense of entitlement. In some clubs a lady or couple move and the appear to be the pied piper of Hamlyn with a line of single men following them everywhere without saying a word. I have also seen couples say they don’t want single guys to men in clubs yet they persist thinking that they are terminally unique. For these reasons I can understand why people get frustrated with “single men”

Sometimes people generalise and put all single blokes in the same pot. That’s just life. Persevere, treat people how the want to be treated and you will be welcomed by those who want to play with you is my mantra.

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By *orth_hantscplCouple over a year ago

camberley

We’re happy to meet single guys, single women and couples and any combination of the above. We do wonder how many single guys would come on here and meet other people with their partners, if they were willing obviously, we get the impression that many wouldn’t. Kind of puts us off a bit.

It does seem to have changed on here in the last few years.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple over a year ago

Hartlepool

Swinging is for anybody who wants to swing.

There's a lot of people on fab, and in clubs, that don't understand swinging and the difference between it and casual sex. Yes, mainly men. But not just men.

Some want to learn the difference, some don't care and just want to fuck. Again, not just men either.

But swinging is for anyone who wants to swing.

We like to meet men, women and couples. And some of the guys we know really do understand swinging, the scene and everything around it.

People saying it isn't for you are just rude and disrespectful.

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By *ocusMan over a year ago

Cambridge

In every fandom/hobby/interest group/whatever you want to call it you always get “gatekeepers” who think they know the “true way” and are “proper” fans/members/whatever.

Smile, nod politely and pass them by.

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By *hatguyJoeMan over a year ago

Preston

"In every fandom/hobby/interest group/whatever you want to call it you always get “gatekeepers” who think they know the “true way” and are “proper” fans/members/whatever.

Smile, nod politely and pass them by.

Well said. I could never be so eloquent.

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By *otlovefun42Couple over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"Strictly speaking, swinging is for married couples. But hey! It’s 2020 not the 50’s.

Things evolve.

Yes we would go with that.

When I (Mr) first got involved in this lifestyle over 30 years ago I didn't identify as a "swinger"

It was only after I came back as a single guy after having a swinger partner for a year that I thought of myself as such.

As you say, strictly speaking a swinger is part of a couple that exchanges partners for sex. However the lifestyle has evolved considerably over the years (especially with the growth of the internet) and nowadays there are many couples (ourselves included) who actively seek single guys.

That doesn't mean to say that every single guy on here is automatically a swinger. There are plenty who just seem to think that this site (and others) is the embodiment of instashag, but there are others who take the lifestyle seriously and understand it is much more than just getting their cock wet. Those guys should be welcomed but the instashaggers can F.R.O. Unless we want an instashag of course

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is the single males that keeps this single lady smiling on Fab. If singles males did not go to clubs neither would i.x"

Same here.

I do wish some single men would think about their behaviour at clubs though. It spoils it for the guys that know how to behave and it’s what generates all the negative comments about single men

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By *weety321Woman over a year ago

nottingham

Times have changed.... it isn’t the 60’s no more!

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but that doesn’t mean it’s correct. I’ll talk to anyone in a club, if they are only there to fuck it’s a no from me. I like the social side of this as much as the fun times, people should be able to string a sentence together and make conversation. I’m here to enjoy myself without the whole relationship thing going on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never had an abusive message on here. But then I carefully read profiles so would never approach anyone who isn't looking for a man my age.

In fact, I rarely approach anyone! My meets have come from being approached and from conversations struck up in the forums.

That said, I've never been to a club. There's room for all though as clubs seem to have plenty of couples only nights which anyone objecting to single males can attend.

I sometimes wonder if these objections come mainly from male partners finding it hard to play because of the choice the ladies have? But I don't know.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"If you need to be part of a couple then I shouldn't be here either. "
I actually had someone tell me I need to get a partner as then I can be a proper swinger

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is the single males that keeps this single lady smiling on Fab. If singles males did not go to clubs neither would i.x

Same here.

I do wish some single men would think about their behaviour at clubs though. It spoils it for the guys that know how to behave and it’s what generates all the negative comments about single men "
still love your boots and your box is still a curiousity to me and I'm always well behaved

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By *oliath OP Man over a year ago

Ulverston

Most the nasty messages I receive are completely out of the blue! I’ve not messaged them so I’ve no idea why they bother to tell me the things they do!

A lot are saying I’ve too many verifications and as a single guy that’s not swinging....I’m a bit lost if I’m honest!

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"Most the nasty messages I receive are completely out of the blue! I’ve not messaged them so I’ve no idea why they bother to tell me the things they do!

A lot are saying I’ve too many verifications and as a single guy that’s not swinging....I’m a bit lost if I’m honest!

"
for me its more a mindset

There are singles on here that are just using it for NSA.. that's fine... there are also those that are clearly swinging mindset and there is a difference. For me when I have one I love to share my partner and see them having fun ... x

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By *irtySekretsCouple over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

As said above,

The world moves on and things change. In days gone past, Swinging was essentially underground. It was practiced by Married Couples discreetly and secretively. It was naughty. It was exclusive to Couples.

Fast forward to 2020. People are more open about Sex. It’s everywhere. Hetro Gay. Bi. Transgender. Teapot/Toaster. It’s not a taboo subject anymore.

Throw into the mix Sites like this. Instant access, 24/7, it’s no wonder the lines between Single Male Swingers and Entitled Chancers have become very blurred with those just wanting an Instashag with the only thought of blowing there load and not even considering what the other Woman/Couple would like out of a meet.

It’s a mindset thing.

Single Males can be involved in the Swinging World. They should be and encouraged.

Little Dwayne who gets in from Wetherspoons at 1am and then messages you wanting to “Do your Wife” is not a Swinger. They are just Twats.

Happy Swinging.

S&N xxxxxxxxx

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple over a year ago

Blackpool

We wouldn't be here if it wasn't for single men!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!"

Totally get what youre saying but it’s horses for courses - and only a small percentage of couples want a man to join them for horizontal fun.

If you’re trying to meet a woman, why not try Tinder or meet someone in the real world?

I’ve connected with people at clubs but not every time. I like to think I am an attractive, interesting person but I’m no Brad Pitt.

Swinging clubs are like real life - some people who frequent them are docks but vast majority are friendly, hilarious and great to talk to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

"I swing in clubs with my wife and have a local club we are regulars of. I sometimes attend as a single male when the wife is away working just to meet our friends. On my last visit I sat at the bar chatting all night and at the very end a guy who was with his shag told me I shouldnt be there as I'm not a swinger, he then gave me an abusive rant and basically said single men in clubs (aimed at me) disgust him as they just walk around perving and wanking. I laughed when the owner said to him he wasnt a swinger either then, he asked why he wasnt the owner said you and your partner only play with single girls and by your own logic you arent swapping, just sharing. He shut up and left."

Good on the owner, swinging is a lot of different things to a lot of different people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills. "

So very, very true. Well said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good on the owner, swinging is a lot of different things to a lot of different people. "

Buy that guy a drink

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you need to be part of a couple then I shouldn't be here either. "

Or me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll get my coat then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!"

Historically it's for couples. Nowadays there are different dynamics, swinging has evolved. So, as I'm sure you'll have been told, ignore those who are ignorant of how it has evolved.

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By *ocoTemptationMan over a year ago

london

I have my own definition of who a swinger is if they are single. If that person was to meet someone and fall in love would they be happy to continue the lifestyle if the partner was happy to do so or would they put a stop to it?

In my last loving relationship we used to swing from time to time more often than not with single males and I remember encountering one guy at a spa who said he'd never let his woman do this kind of thing. As far as I was concerned he was NOT a swinger and I killed the conversation we were having.

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By *otlovefun42Couple over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

Top post.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don’t care what other people think

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Strictly speaking, swinging is for married couples."

No it’s not, it’s a lifestyle that single people can partake in.

Google it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The problem for single men is 2 fold. 1 is that there such a high number of single men in comparison to couples as even higher compared to single ladies. 2 is that due to pushy men in clubs and on fab although in the minority give the rest a bad rep

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"It's amazing how many couples whinge about the existence of men and think swinging is only for couples... Until they want a unicorn

This

It can't just be inclusive to single women and not men

Everyone should be welcomed imo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We rarely - not never though - meet single guys but not because we do not think they should be part of the scene.

Firstly plenty on couples want an additional male, without single guys that's a tad difficult.

Secondly single women / other single men might want to meet men for sex without the issues that meeting randoms in a bar may create.

Thirdly sex clubs are exactly for that sex - not any kind of class politics.

Fourthly clubs need single males to make any kind of money - or charge couples similar prices to stay afloat.

Swinging isn't - we think - always about swapping, it's more about meeting like-minded people in an environment that's suitable to indulge.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think there are people who feel that swinging is a lifestyle choice. And as such, if you are married or have a partner who is unaware of you swinging, you shouldn't be on here. Basically because you are cheating and swinging is a very honest lifestyle. If you are a single guy, and you're playing with single females and couples, then I dont see the problem. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Doesn't make it law though.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Lucky escape for you then. They and the club sound horrible.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We rarely - not never though - meet single guys but not because we do not think they should be part of the scene.

Firstly plenty on couples want an additional male, without single guys that's a tad difficult.

Secondly single women / other single men might want to meet men for sex without the issues that meeting randoms in a bar may create.

Thirdly sex clubs are exactly for that sex - not any kind of class politics.

Fourthly clubs need single males to make any kind of money - or charge couples similar prices to stay afloat.

Swinging isn't - we think - always about swapping, it's more about meeting like-minded people in an environment that's suitable to indulge. "

This

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

In the non PC 'olden days' (50 years ago or so) swinging was called wife swapping, and for some people this couples only concept seems to have stuck. Now swinging is largely about nsa sex for fun, and anyone of any sex or sexual persuasion can enjoy that fun. We swing mainly in clubs, and without single (and in our case straight) men, or single women, we wouldn't have much fun at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!

Historically it's for couples. Nowadays there are different dynamics, swinging has evolved. So, as I'm sure you'll have been told, ignore those who are ignorant of how it has evolved. "
i said that earlier did you not notice woman?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me the term "Swinger" doesn't just mean couples swapping. It's all of it. From being in the club's to enjoying a perv and able to chat with like minded people etc.

Don't get me wrong, the last time we went to a club it was busy and mainly single men, but I would say they are not swingers. That said, some one once said he'd rather pay £20-£30 into a club and try his luck than pay £60 for a hooker.

Also, no one seems to have a problem with single women. A lot of single women are their for the same reason are they not? Even possibly to get laid, and only that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!"

I've never had a problem either on my own or with Scooby maybe your going to the wrong clubs. Mr

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By *ickinglover69Man over a year ago

Langley

Chatting last night at the social male get tarred with the same brush no need to specify here but I go with neo expectancy and had some experiences and nothing has happened. I don't walk around wanking but do expect me to introduce myself say and my name if we chat all's the better but if not that's ok too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s the caliber of single guys that we find lacking. All the nice ones have got partners, as you’d expect.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!

I responded to the OP before reading replies, so nerrrr.

It's simply great minds think alike

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!

I responded to the OP before reading replies, so nerrrr.

It's simply great minds think alike

"
i know isn't it great to have a mind like mine?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s the caliber of single guys that we find lacking. All the nice ones have got partners, as you’d expect. "

no over- generalising at all there..

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"It’s the caliber of single guys that we find lacking. All the nice ones have got partners, as you’d expect. "

Does that go for single women too?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So many love to fence off ‘their’ bit of Fab OP and tell others they are doing it wrong. I think it often comes from insecurity. Many of us enjoy single men, whether we have partners or not, and your 88 veris indicate you are managing to find a fair amount of fun.

Here’s to the sexy, single, sociable men of fab!

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By *nnocentimesMan over a year ago

over there by that tree

"It’s the caliber of single guys that we find lacking. All the nice ones have got partners, as you’d expect. "

Some guys are pre-judged and dismissed as time wasters and fantasists and tbh that’s a fairly true assessment, the problem lies when there’s sweeping statements that state the above

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By *arry247Couple over a year ago

Wakefield

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!"

All that shows is the ignorance of some people as we mentioned in another thread -

“The practice of offering your wife to male visitors and the exchange of spouses for the night if the male visitor brought his wife with him is ancient, it goes back to the time of hunter gatherers such as the Ovahimba in Africa the Inuit of North America, the Yanomamo of South America etc. it was a way of expanding the gene pool.

The term swingers seems to come from around the 1950s when is just meant having a good time including having sex with singles and married couples.”

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!

I responded to the OP before reading replies, so nerrrr.

It's simply great minds think alike

i know isn't it great to have a mind like mine?

Ermmmm errrr.... Oh OK it's just simpler to say yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!

I responded to the OP before reading replies, so nerrrr.

It's simply great minds think alike

i know isn't it great to have a mind like mine?

Ermmmm errrr.... Oh OK it's just simpler to say yes

"
damn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!

All that shows is the ignorance of some people as we mentioned in another thread -

The term swingers seems to come from around the 1950s when is just meant having a good time including having sex with singles and married couples.” "

Weren't the 60s called swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s the caliber of single guys that we find lacking. All the nice ones have got partners, as you’d expect. "

By that do you mean all the good looking ones. As I'm actually a really nice guy and know tons of other good guys on the scene.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We actively seek out single guys in clubs! Vic loves a gangbang

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've heard that a lot.

If it's not for single men then it's not for single women either.

Let the 'purist' swinging couples fuck each other and let everyone else just have some fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No single guys. If you haven't got a woman to trade your not getting in mine. You should all be banned from fab. Your all pathetic, flaccid little no bodies. Go away to your horrible fapping existence. Of you can't please your woman at home you are not going to be able to do it here, are you? Someone scrape this vermin away from us.

Not really.

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By *nnocentimesMan over a year ago

over there by that tree

"No single guys. If you haven't got a woman to trade your not getting in mine. You should all be banned from fab. Your all pathetic, flaccid little no bodies. Go away to your horrible fapping existence. Of you can't please your woman at home you are not going to be able to do it here, are you? Someone scrape this vermin away from us.

Not really.

No need to be a dick! /s

Love that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not really.

No need to be a dick! /s

Love that

Great wind up. Almost bit lmao.

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan over a year ago

Yorkshire

I really don't understand the endless discussion about what "swinging" is, who qualifies, and the old favourite about Fab "not being Instashag". Basically lots of single guys, single women and couples like to have sex, in varying combinations. Some people in each of those groups like spontaneous NSA one-offs, others prefer a FWB type set up, some of each are in it mainly for the social factor. "Swinging" as a label seems pretty meaningless to me. It's often said that "swinging" is a lifestyle, but what the hell does that mean in reality? Casual sex isn't a lifestyle?

As for the "Instashag" quote, whilst nothing is guaranteed, how is a site that offers the ability for people to post meets for sex, to which others can potentially reply in a matter of minutes, not "Instashag"??

On a brighter note, I attended my first ever club event as a single guy lady night (only my second ever) and everybody was incredibly welcoming. Admittedly it was a small, very niche event, but I was pleasantly surprised.

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By *ollydoesWoman over a year ago

Shangri-La

When years back i had a couples profile with a fwb some couples had a problem with that, as in we were not a "real couple"

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!"

I have suffered similar negative responses from couples in clubs, which has put me off visiting any more as a single guy

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"I've heard that a lot.

If it's not for single men then it's not for single women either.

Let the 'purist' swinging couples fuck each other and let everyone else just have some fun

Get the bowl out for their car keys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s the caliber of single guys that we find lacking. All the nice ones have got partners, as you’d expect.

Some guys are pre-judged and dismissed as time wasters and fantasists and tbh that’s a fairly true assessment, the problem lies when there’s sweeping statements that state the above

We are yet to be proved wrong.

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan over a year ago

Yorkshire

"It’s the caliber of single guys that we find lacking. All the nice ones have got partners, as you’d expect.

Some guys are pre-judged and dismissed as time wasters and fantasists and tbh that’s a fairly true assessment, the problem lies when there’s sweeping statements that state the above

We are yet to be proved wrong. "

What, you've never met even one "nice" single guy? What determines "nice" in your book? Respectful? Attractive? Something else?

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By *hatterley64Couple over a year ago

Hertford

Horses for courses. As always it’s totally subjective.

But if they’re wasn’t any single guys at all, we certainly wouldn’t be on here or visiting clubs!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Our problem has come from a very bad club experienced where a gang were roaming like wolves and even following women to the toilet. Put us right off sadly. So now on all men for us will be from couples that can play alone.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"When years back i had a couples profile with a fwb some couples had a problem with that, as in we were not a "real couple""

Define a real couple, some fwb couples have better relationships than real couples.

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!"
. I think clubs do appreciate us single guys and would probably still survive without us single guys even though they charge us single guys double what they do a couple after all in order to have a greedy girl night it helps to have enough guys to make it work.Yes it helps to have a partner to attend events but these days there are plenty of couples who pair up to get into a club , spa or party but are not in a relationship.At the end of the day swinging is what you make it and I believe there is something for everyone.

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By *nnocentimesMan over a year ago

over there by that tree

"It’s the caliber of single guys that we find lacking. All the nice ones have got partners, as you’d expect.

Some guys are pre-judged and dismissed as time wasters and fantasists and tbh that’s a fairly true assessment, the problem lies when there’s sweeping statements that state the above

We are yet to be proved wrong. "

Well in that case I’m willing to carry the weight of us decent single guys, in an epic battle for redemption or final damnation......

Coffee sometime?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"It’s the caliber of single guys that we find lacking. All the nice ones have got partners, as you’d expect.

Some guys are pre-judged and dismissed as time wasters and fantasists and tbh that’s a fairly true assessment, the problem lies when there’s sweeping statements that state the above

We are yet to be proved wrong. "

Then maybe the problem lies with you sometimes and not always the single guys?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s the caliber of single guys that we find lacking. All the nice ones have got partners, as you’d expect.

Some guys are pre-judged and dismissed as time wasters and fantasists and tbh that’s a fairly true assessment, the problem lies when there’s sweeping statements that state the above

We are yet to be proved wrong.

Then maybe the problem lies with you sometimes and not always the single guys?"

It’s working for us. Dynamics of couples works better for us.

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By *exybifemcoupleCouple over a year ago

Preston

Goliath - you are one of the nicest most respectful guys in a club we have ever met XX

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

I've never had a problem either on my own or with Scooby maybe your going to the wrong clubs. Mr "

How do you define the 'right club'?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong, Fab is lots of fun and a nice lady friend on here would be great but it’s not that simple.....BTW this isn’t a whinge post!

What are people’s thoughts? Us single guys definitely help subsidise the clubs but are we actually really welcome?

Theoretically, the same should apply to single ladies....but I’m sure it doesn’t!"

Aww Gol, I always talk to the single guys who are friendly in the clubs. I wouldn't go if they didn't visit

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By *rghYeTimbersMan over a year ago

Ipswich

Clubs are like any venue if they allow that sort of thing they will lose customers rapidly. Every night is different of course.

It also speaks volumes about the people, most swingers are there for the social side unfortunately some people don't get that.

The nice guys do tend to pair up or be invited along by single women so may appear to be in a couple but nice single men do exist.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was thinking about going to a club, but I think I'd feel awkward now.

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By *eddy and legsCouple over a year ago

the wetlands

swinger

/'sw???/

Learn to pronounce

noun

INFORMAL

a lively and fashionable person who goes to a lot of social events.

"one of the oldest swingers in town"

INFORMAL

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

"a twilight world of swingers and wife-swapping"

That said there are a lot of wankers here pretending to be single women ... ffs go buy yourselves a nice bra and pantie set from primark and fuck off

Theres also a fair few that havent enough of a personality to get a girlfriend but think they can come here and find a slut for a quick ride

And then there are quite a few gentlemen that for one reason or another don't want a full time relationship or maybe just cant afford another ex wife lol

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By *rghYeTimbersMan over a year ago

Ipswich

Try a social event or a greedy girls night, or just go to a club with a relaxed I'm just here for the atmosphere and a quiet night attitude.

I find just being myself going with no expectations works after a few visits. People get to know you that way.

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By *nnocentimesMan over a year ago

over there by that tree

"I find just being myself going with no expectations works after a few visits. People get to know you that way."

This is exactly the thing to do.... smile and chat and soon you’re the one being approached by singles and couples.

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By *rad110Man over a year ago

rayliegh

Everybody has to start somewhere

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

Swinging is what each person / couple chooses it to be.

There are no rules, rights or wrongs as we are all different.

It would be as boring as shit without single guys and girls.

Well those that get it at least.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never had a problem either on my own or with Scooby maybe your going to the wrong clubs. Mr

How do you define the 'right club'?"

Clubs that police the idiots and are full of respectful easy going people. I prefer No3 and quest myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think Swinging is for everyone. People need to leave there own opinions to themselves and just decline politely x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I saw a couples profile on here recently that said they considered single men to be parasites but they were happy to meet single women.

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

I've never had a problem either on my own or with Scooby maybe your going to the wrong clubs. Mr

How do you define the 'right club'?

Clubs that police the idiots and are full of respectful easy going people. I prefer No3 and quest myself. "

That’s interesting, as I’ve been to No.3 a few times, and experienced couples blanking me on more than one occasion. I have looked at trying Quest for the next time I’m staying in Leeds

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I saw a couples profile on here recently that said they considered single men to be parasites but they were happy to meet single women."

Ye olde double standards. As a single woman I'm guessing I must be a parasite as well by their reasoning. What a horrible thing to say.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

bedford

We are always open to playing with single guys in club, in fact we play with more singles than couples, we would like more couple fun but don't get much interest from couples in the club, so if wife sees a guy she likes or I bump into any interested fems we will either have thresome or solo play, sometimes a foursome with both single guy and the fem

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ideally,I suppose swinging is couple swapping .

Having said that,we as a couple that like to meet single guys,welcome the fact we can come here to fab to find those single guys to join us.

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By *r MarmiteMan over a year ago

Basildon

I’ve always found I am good at making friends in clubs, the main thing for me is just going out end enjoying the atmosphere, talking to like minded people and possibly having a bit of a flirt

If anything comes of it, then great, but the sexual side isn’t the be all and end all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never had anyone message to tell me single guys aren't swingers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I saw a couples profile on here recently that said they considered single men to be parasites but they were happy to meet single women.

Ye olde double standards. As a single woman I'm guessing I must be a parasite as well by their reasoning. What a horrible thing to say. "

It's not double standards

Yes it's rude and unnecessary to call single guys parasites,but if they don't want to meet guys,and they do ladies,then that's not double standards,that's merely stating what they are looking for

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By *ollydoesWoman over a year ago

Shangri-La

"When years back i had a couples profile with a fwb some couples had a problem with that, as in we were not a "real couple"

Define a real couple, some fwb couples have better relationships than real couples. "

I know right? We could of lied and pretended to be, but not my thing. And we would both chat to the others, together and alone. But hey ho...everyone gotta do whats right for them, and I wont always understand the reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never had anyone message to tell me single guys aren't swingers"

Guessing you are in the majority on this

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By *andomfodCouple over a year ago

walsall

I wonder if those same people are actively seeking out single ladies? Or if they'd say the same to them about not belonging?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I identify as a swinger as any realtionship I have ever had involved a partner who swings too. FOr me group sex is my preferred sexual experience and, as I'm currently single, this doesn't change. To me swinging is my lifestyle choice as a couple or as a single...it is when I feel free around likeminded, sexual people. I have no interest in meeting women off tindr etc

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"It's amazing how many couples whinge about the existence of men and think swinging is only for couples... Until they want a unicorn

This exactly....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The topic of this thread is fake news. Where are all these couples whinging about singles not being swingers? They're certainly not on this thread, as pretty much every post from a couple has been completely supportive of singles.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple over a year ago

My House

Single guys scratch the itch we sometimes have

Swingers, by definition, means what exactly? The swooping of partners? If that's the case, we're only swingers 30% if the time, the other 70% she's a greedy woman that needs feeding

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By *eddy and legsCouple over a year ago

the wetlands

"The topic of this thread is fake news. Where are all these couples whinging about singles not being swingers? They're certainly not on this thread, as pretty much every post from a couple has been completely supportive of singles."

But there is so much choice of single men the chosen few must be very special. Maybe the OP has nothing going for him ?

We get a "hows yous" regularly and it's an auto delete and block

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By *oliath OP Man over a year ago

Ulverston

All I can picture in my mind now is Donald Trump saying “fake nooooz”

It’s not fake I can assure you. I’ve had quite a few messages about this...alright they are the minority.....but it’s real.

I certainly don’t think single guys or girls for that matter aren’t swingers....I associate with the poly lifestyle and love meeting new ladies and couples but I totally understand and respect that some people aren’t interested in singles one bit.

I do agree that rude, pushy and inconsiderate guys (and girls!) aren’t welcome and we sometimes get tarred with the same brush but to receive random messages out of the blue just seems weird.....that’s why I asked the question on this thread.

It’s nice to see it’s not the general opinion!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve always found I am good at making friends in clubs, the main thing for me is just going out end enjoying the atmosphere, talking to like minded people and possibly having a bit of a flirt

If anything comes of it, then great, but the sexual side isn’t the be all and end all.

My attitude too x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve always found I am good at making friends in clubs, the main thing for me is just going out end enjoying the atmosphere, talking to like minded people and possibly having a bit of a flirt

If anything comes of it, then great, but the sexual side isn’t the be all and end all.

My attitude too x"
yes forget sex and war just love

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve always found I am good at making friends in clubs, the main thing for me is just going out end enjoying the atmosphere, talking to like minded people and possibly having a bit of a flirt

If anything comes of it, then great, but the sexual side isn’t the be all and end all.

My attitude too xyes forget sex and war just love

Lol

Hello.... again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve always found I am good at making friends in clubs, the main thing for me is just going out end enjoying the atmosphere, talking to like minded people and possibly having a bit of a flirt

If anything comes of it, then great, but the sexual side isn’t the be all and end all.

My attitude too xyes forget sex and war just love

Lol

Hello.... again

"
TNT will you blow my mind, are you explosive or are you a little cracker

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well played! He deserved that, sometimes the level of arrogance in the community astounds me.

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By *helroyCouple over a year ago

Skegness

We love singles guys