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What to expect at a house party
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Morning all we have been invited to a few house parties but never gone due to not being free or just over thinking everything. We attend clubs so know what to expect now but what should we expect from house partys what do you wear etc  |
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It entirely depends on the hosts. I'd suggest you contact the people who invite you and ask how the evening will go. Some have social only spaces for instance but some don't and that can be awkward.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Expect it to be like any other house party but with less clothing and the likelihood of people getting naughty as the night goes on.
Seriously that what most are like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely it's the same as anything else, you do a little or as much as you want. Because you've been invited it doesnt mean there's a play only stipulation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They’re pretty similar to clubs in the fact there will be a common area for socialising and private rooms for naked socialising. Just at a smaller venue |
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You'd really have to ask the people hosting and have a good look at their party verifications. When we were starting out, I really did think they would be like Dante's inferno and to be fair, some of them have been. We always saved our downstairs soade for socialising and only had play upstairs when we held parties just to give anyone who was feeling nervous the chance for a neutral space. We have been invited to parties where the rules were that at s certain time, all the women had to get undressed, where front doors were locked at a certain time or where it was clear that there was an expectation of play...needless to say, they weren't for us but showed the value of asking the right questions when asking for an invitation or approached by hosts. I would say, generally avoid those asking for money unless they have amazing facilities to use and those where they are cagey about numbers and who is attending |
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
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They do vary.
We’ve held a couple and it’s always up to the people what they do or don’t get involved in.
We’ve also been to one where the hosts took our money and then never said a single word to us all night, no tour no introductions no mention of any rules/expectations etc. Needless to say we didn’t go back 
In contrast, my 40th birthday party involved a cooked dinner and breakfast, gift bags for everyone, a few ice breaker games and constant hosting and mingling to make sure everyone was ok. Choose wisely!
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We’ve just accepted our first house party invite. The hosts have been very nice to us with messaging and the guests list looks great. Won’t lie, we are slightly nervous as we have been when we first visited a club. At the end of the day though we will only do what we want and if we don’t like it we will jump out the window and run away quickly  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You'd really have to ask the people hosting and have a good look at their party verifications. When we were starting out, I really did think they would be like Dante's inferno and to be fair, some of them have been. We always saved our downstairs soade for socialising and only had play upstairs when we held parties just to give anyone who was feeling nervous the chance for a neutral space. We have been invited to parties where the rules were that at s certain time, all the women had to get undressed, where front doors were locked at a certain time or where it was clear that there was an expectation of play...needless to say, they weren't for us but showed the value of asking the right questions when asking for an invitation or approached by hosts. I would say, generally avoid those asking for money unless they have amazing facilities to use and those where they are cagey about numbers and who is attending"
That is some great info cheers so when you go to a party I take it you just walk in with you saying the door gets locked? |
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
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"We’ve just accepted our first house party invite. The hosts have been very nice to us with messaging and the guests list looks great. Won’t lie, we are slightly nervous as we have been when we first visited a club. At the end of the day though we will only do what we want and if we don’t like it we will jump out the window and run away quickly "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We’ve just accepted our first house party invite. The hosts have been very nice to us with messaging and the guests list looks great. Won’t lie, we are slightly nervous as we have been when we first visited a club. At the end of the day though we will only do what we want and if we don’t like it we will jump out the window and run away quickly "
That's how we would act I recon great profile guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Morning all we have been invited to a few house parties but never gone due to not being free or just over thinking everything. We attend clubs so know what to expect now but what should we expect from house partys what do you wear etc "
Usually only one toilet,so expect a queue |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Morning all we have been invited to a few house parties but never gone due to not being free or just over thinking everything. We attend clubs so know what to expect now but what should we expect from house partys what do you wear etc
Usually only one toilet,so expect a queue"
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
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"I really quite fancy attending my 1st house party I'm very a respectful guy.
Are they themed parties an like clubs is it dress down or stay clothed till any play starts? "
Everyone does it differently. Ours have usually just started with drinks and chatting, and then someone starts something off (or a game in he case of my 40th) which gets the naughty vibes starting and then you just go with it, as much as you want.
We would never lock a door and anyone would be free to go at any point but we’d hope that people would feel comfortable talking to us if they’ve got any issues with anyone etc as we’re very happy to sort out any probs. SSS has a lot of experience of large house parties and won’t take any crap!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We need to go to a couples house party, quite fancy the thought of that. just had a read of your profile and it's a great read lol
Awww thanks  "
Credit were it's due |
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"Morning all we have been invited to a few house parties but never gone due to not being free or just over thinking everything. We attend clubs so know what to expect now but what should we expect from house partys what do you wear etc "
From my memory, d*unken teenagers and people throwing up |
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"They do vary.
We’ve held a couple and it’s always up to the people what they do or don’t get involved in.
We’ve also been to one where the hosts took our money and then never said a single word to us all night, no tour no introductions no mention of any rules/expectations etc. Needless to say we didn’t go back
In contrast, my 40th birthday party involved a cooked dinner and breakfast, gift bags for everyone, a few ice breaker games and constant hosting and mingling to make sure everyone was ok. Choose wisely!
TB"
Money?
You paid to go to a house party?
Why?
No idea of an exact number, but we have been to way over 20 house parties, and never paid to attend any of them.  |
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The first and only house party we went to was odd from start to finish..
And the biggest problem was a few people, including one half of the hosting couple, that had had too much to drink.. We decided to leave after things got a bit much and the d*unk host was pulling our clothes begging us to stay. Safe to say we won't return there haha.
We would still consider a house party but would be a lot more thorough in checking the hosts and people attending before hand.
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
Lincoln |
"They do vary.
We’ve held a couple and it’s always up to the people what they do or don’t get involved in.
We’ve also been to one where the hosts took our money and then never said a single word to us all night, no tour no introductions no mention of any rules/expectations etc. Needless to say we didn’t go back
In contrast, my 40th birthday party involved a cooked dinner and breakfast, gift bags for everyone, a few ice breaker games and constant hosting and mingling to make sure everyone was ok. Choose wisely!
TB
Money?
You paid to go to a house party?
Why?
No idea of an exact number, but we have been to way over 20 house parties, and never paid to attend any of them. "
Because it was on and we thought we’d give it a try! Wouldn’t necessarily rule one out on the basis that it charged, maybe you’ve just been lucky with the ones you had to choose from ?! |
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"They do vary.
We’ve held a couple and it’s always up to the people what they do or don’t get involved in.
We’ve also been to one where the hosts took our money and then never said a single word to us all night, no tour no introductions no mention of any rules/expectations etc. Needless to say we didn’t go back
In contrast, my 40th birthday party involved a cooked dinner and breakfast, gift bags for everyone, a few ice breaker games and constant hosting and mingling to make sure everyone was ok. Choose wisely!
TB
Money?
You paid to go to a house party?
Why?
No idea of an exact number, but we have been to way over 20 house parties, and never paid to attend any of them.
Because it was on and we thought we’d give it a try! Wouldn’t necessarily rule one out on the basis that it charged, maybe you’ve just been lucky with the ones you had to choose from ?!"
No, not lucky, we still get invites to proper swinging parties now, none of which charge, so I guess maybe you just need to network more and find the genuine swingers who are in it for the fun, and not to make a profit lol? |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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I go to house parties fairly regularly and prefer not to go to clubs as they're cliquey. I love them I know the hosts and they typically get like minded people (couples and men) and it's all very relaxed. There are NEVER compulsions some people don't play at all but most are there for uninhibited sex and that's what happens LOL. I'll say at a party I'll typically know a third of the people while the rest are new
Message me if you need more info
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been to a few , all been lots of fun, but id always make sure I properly knew the hosts, for safety reasons. And as for playing some parties I've just socialised , had few drinks, made friends. And then some have lead to sex , but no pressure what so ever, enjoy the party and take it as it comes |
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I help organise couples bisexual parties. We start of chatting then go in to the hot tub to get acquainted the in to the lounge to play. It is all very relaxed no pressure and we tell people how it normally goes before the evening. |
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
Lincoln |
"They do vary.
We’ve held a couple and it’s always up to the people what they do or don’t get involved in.
We’ve also been to one where the hosts took our money and then never said a single word to us all night, no tour no introductions no mention of any rules/expectations etc. Needless to say we didn’t go back
In contrast, my 40th birthday party involved a cooked dinner and breakfast, gift bags for everyone, a few ice breaker games and constant hosting and mingling to make sure everyone was ok. Choose wisely!
TB
Money?
You paid to go to a house party?
Why?
No idea of an exact number, but we have been to way over 20 house parties, and never paid to attend any of them.
Because it was on and we thought we’d give it a try! Wouldn’t necessarily rule one out on the basis that it charged, maybe you’ve just been lucky with the ones you had to choose from ?!
No, not lucky, we still get invites to proper swinging parties now, none of which charge, so I guess maybe you just need to network more and find the genuine swingers who are in it for the fun, and not to make a profit lol?"
We’re more likely to host our own now though I think, although we do know of a few we could try.
Not always about a profit though, sometimes you have to hire somewhere so need costs covering. We don’t rule out someone trying to provide a service that has a bit of a cost involved, as long as they’re no obviously charging loads to try and make money out of it.
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We’re looking at organising a house party, but we’ll be hiring an air bnb (quite a large, nice house). There will be costs involved, and as some bedrooms are nicer/larger than others we don’t feel it would be fair to divide the costs equally among everyone invited. We were thinking of just leaving a jar out and asking for donations and hoping we recouped costs.
Has anyone who has organised a house party done anything similar? |
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"Never done anything like that but I think you might be putting the air b N b owner in a potentially difficult position
I don’t think we would be. X"
Fair enough. I don't know the law around renting properties out to someone who then effectively charges money for people to come and have sex. Although I suppose you could justifiably say its no different than a hotel |
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"Never done anything like that but I think you might be putting the air b N b owner in a potentially difficult position
I don’t think we would be. X
Fair enough. I don't know the law around renting properties out to someone who then effectively charges money for people to come and have sex. Although I suppose you could justifiably say its no different than a hotel "
That is exactly what wouldn’t be happening. No one would be getting charged, but making a contribution towards the rental (including us) and no one would be paying for sex. |
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"Never done anything like that but I think you might be putting the air b N b owner in a potentially difficult position
I don’t think we would be. X
Fair enough. I don't know the law around renting properties out to someone who then effectively charges money for people to come and have sex. Although I suppose you could justifiably say its no different than a hotel
That is exactly what wouldn’t be happening. No one would be getting charged, but making a contribution towards the rental (including us) and no one would be paying for sex. "
Yeah that seems reasonable. I'm not criticising, just thinking aloud really. It's no different to several couples renting the property together really. |
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By *4tCouple
over a year ago
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We have been to quite a few house parties, we always go with the expectation of having a good time and if we want to fuck a bonus. If not we wont, and have no issues with leaving if we feel its not for us. |
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"We’re looking at organising a house party, but we’ll be hiring an air bnb (quite a large, nice house). There will be costs involved, and as some bedrooms are nicer/larger than others we don’t feel it would be fair to divide the costs equally among everyone invited. We were thinking of just leaving a jar out and asking for donations and hoping we recouped costs.
Has anyone who has organised a house party done anything similar?"
We had a couples dinner party where we did the same thing, 4 couples, we all did a course and shared the costs of the air b and b. Not quite the same but it worked really well...awesome night too in a lovely city centre apartment... |
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Different people hold socials for people to meet , not our thing but each to there own .
We have been to specific parties , either strapon, bdsm or bi parties , all have the same sort of vibe , people into the things the party is for turn up and if you dont gell with them you dont play with them.most host ourselves included provide a safe space for things to happen but cant guarantee play.
We have the same rules play upstairs , social downstairs, all parties are no pressure and sometimes couples come where only one plays the other socialized. Most have initial meet first play stop for rest food and then second play then home apart from people satying over
Most people dress smart to start clean and fresh , we do say all to be at ours by a certain time only as people have babysitters ,
There is normally a couple who gets things started then normally everyone finds there space and preferred pairing and away you go , |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the response we have never full swapped only for girl on girl I suppose it's just like going to a club you kinda set out your boundaries within the chat. Hopefully we can start branching out more now and attend some private parties. Just need the invites lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has anyone been to a house party where they didn't know any of the other guests before? Is it the done thing to ask who else is attending? You wouldn't obviously for a vanilla party, not sure if a lifestyle party would be different.
The invite has come from a couple with a lovely profile, which in itself gives us some reassurance. |
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
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"Has anyone been to a house party where they didn't know any of the other guests before? Is it the done thing to ask who else is attending? You wouldn't obviously for a vanilla party, not sure if a lifestyle party would be different.
The invite has come from a couple with a lovely profile, which in itself gives us some reassurance. "
We like to know a guest list beforehand, as we don’t want it to be awkward or a waste of our time if theres clearly not going to be anyone we’re interested in. You can often get an idea from hosts and previous veris though I guess.
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