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By *eneralP OP Man
over a year ago
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Hello all,
A little advice needed, my partner and I have begun discussing our desires to play out some D/s play.
I’m looking for literature and sites etc then can give some further reading. Yes, the Google is awash with sites but sorting the wheat from the chaff is not easy.
I am looking for examples of potential rules to be set that will help the creative juices flow. Sorry to ask a potentially obvious question to so many...
And finally; I am not active on here, she doesn’t know but I’m not actively looking, or looking at all. We will eventually be here together at some point. Because we’re both perverts. So don’t give me the usual “does she know hassle”  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Try a book called Screw the roses, send me the thorns.
That's a good place to start."
This and SM101 is good too.
Is also worth looking up some BDSM questionnaires - the type where you rate different activities 1-5 in order of interest - if you complete one each independently and then get together to compare notes, it will help give you an idea of shared interests, boundaries, limits etc and that in turn may well inform your overall dynamic  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My advice to you both is to first try and understand a rough idea of where you are heading and what you both want out of the dynamic. The only people that matter are you and having some level of understanding before you start clouding the water with information overload is, in my opinion, a good idea. Try writing a letter to each other and write down what you want for yourself and what you want to give to the other. Remember a D/s relationship is reciprocal. |
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"Hello all,
A little advice needed, my partner and I have begun discussing our desires to play out some D/s play.
I’m looking for literature and sites etc then can give some further reading. Yes, the Google is awash with sites but sorting the wheat from the chaff is not easy.
I am looking for examples of potential rules to be set that will help the creative juices flow. Sorry to ask a potentially obvious question to so many...
And finally; I am not active on here, she doesn’t know but I’m not actively looking, or looking at all. We will eventually be here together at some point. Because we’re both perverts. So don’t give me the usual “does she know hassle” "
If you need others to set your rules it won't work
Talk to each other, work out what you both want, honestly, for reading there are 10000 bdsm blogs out there, start with the first you find, discuss it, no one else can tell you what kind of D/s works for you, then read another, and another. I could tell you who I like, but there is no one twue way
Practically find your local kink groups, go to some muches, meet people,learn how to be safe.
Oh and ritually burn 50 shades of shite - that's an actual legal obligation for anyone exploring bdsm.
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