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Real single guys to fake timewasters ratio
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.
I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.
What's been your experience with single guys ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Iv met mostly in clubs, but iv met for a social outside of the club... Iv had mixed experience, some don't look like their pics, most completely mis represent themselves! Sticking to club meets now, but I'm single not a couple. I'm sure there's some lovely gents around tho, just need to maybe have something regular with the genuine ones? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.
I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.
What's been your experience with single guys ?"
in the early days i had many single female no shows, ive refined what i want now    |
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"Its all been good, and apart from one guy who had to cancel because work ran over, everyone we've arranged to meet has been true to their word"
Yeah. I've had a couple of postponements but nothing that gives me concerns about meeting with single men  |
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It's not just single guys that let people down. I have had a couple message and get all excited and then ghost me at the last minute. It just means you need to filter them better or accept that it happens now and again. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
Lots of ghosting in the last couple of years. Generally going silent before the day of the arranged meet. I don't bother now. Happy to meet new people at clubs, parties and organised socials now. Trying to meet 1-1 is a waste of my time. |
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Men. Are shit.
Yes I'm a man and have an insight into this psychology...
I have so much of a problem filtering men who want an easy woman and men who want me, and those who think they want me in exchange.
Yeah, I am basically anal in lingerie.
But I'd have suspected that was a lot more popular than I'd thought...
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By *hfcMan
over a year ago
exeter |
"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.
I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcounand 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.
What's been your experience with single guys ?"
Why would they not turn up too meet someone that looks like you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve had the pleasure of meeting a lovely single gent! He’s polite, courteous and very attentive. However, we have had one single gent (our first) who became besotted with my wife and started stalking us and making fake FB profiles to start some rumours of me cheating on my wife. So yeah, you’ve just gotta take the good with the bad I’m afraid! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing but creeps. Now to consider single guys we will only play with guys from couples and we have to hear from her that it’s okay. It’s guys from swinging couples that are best behaved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.
I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.
What's been your experience with single guys ?"
100 contacts, 1 genuine perhaps - awful site! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.
I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.
What's been your experience with single guys ?
100 contacts, 1 genuine perhaps - awful site!"
Why are you here then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I very very rarely meet people cold from the site now. Most are people I’ve bumped into at clubs, socials or we have mutual friends. Of those I have arranged to meet just through messaging they are roughly 60/40 flakes (last minute cancellation) to people who turn up. Those who turn up are generally great fun. It’s a long time since I had a social that didn’t lead on to a further meet. But as MsGiveswood says, the percentage of flakes means that I generally see arranging meets with people through messaging as a huge waste of time. I have one night a week to play. I don’t want to spend it looking at my watch in a local Costa. |
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"Its all been good, and apart from one guy who had to cancel because work ran over, everyone we've arranged to meet has been true to their word"
Like you guys, we have never had a single guy let us down either.(Yet)....!!
Met some fantastic single guys, they shouldn't all be tarred with the same brush. |
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"Its all been good, and apart from one guy who had to cancel because work ran over, everyone we've arranged to meet has been true to their word
Like you guys, we have never had a single guy let us down either.(Yet)....!!
Met some fantastic single guys, they shouldn't all be tarred with the same brush."
Where did you go for the phot 11th August as that's not Norn Iron as there's no rain.  |
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Yes I've experienced fab let downs too. I've had men and women arrange to meet then ghost me/leave the site/fail to turn up and keep me hanging in general. Wouldn't like to put a ratio on it though. Also had some cracking meets too.... luckily!
Just don't get me started on the men off here that lie about their height (no we're not all the same size lying down)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had couples and women let me down also and I've come to accept that it's their perogative to change their minds whatever the reason be it cold feet or nerves.
I've had someone cancel on me last minute to meet someone they've played with before. Understandable but still counts as a let down.
And I've definitely had meets where the lady looked nothing like her pictures either. It's the same for all categories on this site. |
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"Jesus- I always turn up, I don't ghost anyone and my photos are recent.
Can't understand anyone doing anything different.
Oh they do believe me and the excuses they think of.....unreal !"
Oh I believe you- just don't understand them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a couple I was chatting too and seriously interested in the female. Lots of pictures exchanged and eventually arranged to meet in Liverpool. All going according to plan then at the time of the meet only the male turns up. Claims his partner is suddenly bedridden with illness. No warning, nothing even a couple of hours before to say ‘I’m under the weather but I’ll still meet if it’s ok?’ - nothing. He just turned up expecting to a) fuck me despite all of my interaction being with the ‘female’ of the ‘couple’ and b) Wolf would be ok with this!! Raging doesn’t even cut it. Not convinced there was a female.
Prior to that had a couple of no shows at clubs but that’s by the by. Don’t have an issue with that because there’s plenty of others to speak to.
Don’t ever arrange meets now, we just go to clubs and see what’s available. Use the site as a social tool. |
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"Jesus- I always turn up, I don't ghost anyone and my photos are recent.
Can't understand anyone doing anything different."
I've met for a social a guy that was a lot heavier than his pics, about 4 inches smaller and approx 15 yrs older than his prof stated. His reasoning I wouldn't have met him if he'd told the truth.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.
I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.
What's been your experience with single guys ?"
And single guys like me suffer as a result. We have to work to build trust. |
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"Its all been good, and apart from one guy who had to cancel because work ran over, everyone we've arranged to meet has been true to their word
Like you guys, we have never had a single guy let us down either.(Yet)....!!
Met some fantastic single guys, they shouldn't all be tarred with the same brush.
Where did you go for the phot 11th August as that's not Norn Iron as there's no rain. "
It definitely was taken in Northern Ireland! Lol
Was taken 10 Aug actually.
Was a hot night, that night  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had a couple I was chatting too and seriously interested in the female. Lots of pictures exchanged and eventually arranged to meet in Liverpool. All going according to plan then at the time of the meet only the male turns up. Claims his partner is suddenly bedridden with illness. No warning, nothing even a couple of hours before to say ‘I’m under the weather but I’ll still meet if it’s ok?’ - nothing. He just turned up expecting to a) fuck me despite all of my interaction being with the ‘female’ of the ‘couple’ and b) Wolf would be ok with this!! Raging doesn’t even cut it. Not convinced there was a female.
Prior to that had a couple of no shows at clubs but that’s by the by. Don’t have an issue with that because there’s plenty of others to speak to.
Don’t ever arrange meets now, we just go to clubs and see what’s available. Use the site as a social tool. "
I used to be reluctant to meet with couples for this very reason . Now I just make it really clear I'm coming for the woman, if the guy is Bi I make it doubly clear that I want no interaction with him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.
I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.
What's been your experience with single guys ?"
No experience with single guys but that ratio sounds about right for single women... and couples (mind you, they were probably all single men anyway, lol! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Nothing but creeps. Now to consider single guys we will only play with guys from couples and we have to hear from her that it’s okay. It’s guys from swinging couples that are best behaved. "
Not in my experience with some of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s hard to get any sort of reply on here. Guys get black balled cause of the time wasters
It means you have to try harder.
I’m sure there are some single guys on here that have success...."
i have success, I'm successful |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I very very rarely meet people cold from the site now. Most are people I’ve bumped into at clubs, socials or we have mutual friends. Of those I have arranged to meet just through messaging they are roughly 60/40 flakes (last minute cancellation) to people who turn up. Those who turn up are generally great fun. It’s a long time since I had a social that didn’t lead on to a further meet. But as MsGiveswood says, the percentage of flakes means that I generally see arranging meets with people through messaging as a huge waste of time. I have one night a week to play. I don’t want to spend it looking at my watch in a local Costa."
This is why I've started to host socials for singles and fwb's couples  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It works both ways, I've had plenty of women not turn up and then hide the account, dont get me wrong there is alot of genuine people out there but we(both genuine guys and girls) seem to get over shadowed by the fakes. Just gota keep shifting through the shit I suppose aha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I very very rarely meet people cold from the site now. Most are people I’ve bumped into at clubs, socials or we have mutual friends. Of those I have arranged to meet just through messaging they are roughly 60/40 flakes (last minute cancellation) to people who turn up. Those who turn up are generally great fun. It’s a long time since I had a social that didn’t lead on to a further meet. But as MsGiveswood says, the percentage of flakes means that I generally see arranging meets with people through messaging as a huge waste of time. I have one night a week to play. I don’t want to spend it looking at my watch in a local Costa.
This is why I've started to host socials for singles and fwb's couples "
Good call. I see complaints that there isn’t much swinging scene wise in Cornwall. |
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There's too many idiot males making it harder for us genuine guys - and not in a good way ... Tedious for all the people that 'get' what we're all here to experience. Guilt free hedonism with laughs and good times I always thought.. ?
I think name and shame on your profile is the only way to deal with a time waster/moron. As an 'anti' verification.
Happy Monday everyone, onwards! X |
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"There's too many idiot males making it harder for us genuine guys - and not in a good way ... Tedious for all the people that 'get' what we're all here to experience. Guilt free hedonism with laughs and good times I always thought.. ?
I think name and shame on your profile is the only way to deal with a time waster/moron. As an 'anti' verification.
Happy Monday everyone, onwards! X"
I think naming and shaming is against Fab rules. |
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We do prefer club meets but occasionally ring the changes and meet at ours, we've never had a no show yet, but plenty that are all talk and ghost nearer the time. It's just the luck of the draw unfortunately. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.
I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.
What's been your experience with single guys ?"
20 no shows!!! I would call them all MORON'S.
I would just recommend finding a single guy from a club as it beats the fakes and no shows and maybe find a regular one or few you could rely on. Hope to see you around sometime. Have a good evening both of you and stay naughty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh joy it's hard enough being a single man even harder being older and the fakes doesn't make any easier for people like me. I post chat on cam and honest can I get a meet not a bat in hells chance |
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"ratio of fakes"
So back to the original question this is our experience....
We use kik to comunicate as we feel its quicker and we can have a ...ahem...3 way conversation.
Last year we spoke to 150 single guys from Fab on kik. Maybe 10 of those we said thanks but no thanks. A further 20 turned into a social. The rest ghosted us when we started to move towards a date for a social so by my maths that make the ratio of single guys time wasters/dreamers/fakes around the 80% mark.
I think that the amount of Fake accounts is actually quite small and is mainly centered around a couples profile that only the male half knows about.
A single guys profile cant really be fake (unless the pics arnt his) as he is a single guy with a profile - boom!
But.... you can be a single guy and be a dreamer. It is these guys that let the side down. Fake is the wrong term. A dreamer could be a genuine single guy that thinks a threesome or moresome sounds like a great idea but when reality hits and a real meet is on the cards they bottle it. This goes for the guys that have a single profile but are actually married/with partner. and the same applies as above but with the added guilt that he would be cheating.
FYI we have never had any guy say "sorry, your not for me!" they just poof into thin air because the reality is much scarier than the dream.
Just my own thoughts on it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ratio of fakes
So back to the original question this is our experience....
We use kik to comunicate as we feel its quicker and we can have a ...ahem...3 way conversation.
Last year we spoke to 150 single guys from Fab on kik. Maybe 10 of those we said thanks but no thanks. A further 20 turned into a social. The rest ghosted us when we started to move towards a date for a social so by my maths that make the ratio of single guys time wasters/dreamers/fakes around the 80% mark.
I think that the amount of Fake accounts is actually quite small and is mainly centered around a couples profile that only the male half knows about.
A single guys profile cant really be fake (unless the pics arnt his) as he is a single guy with a profile - boom!
But.... you can be a single guy and be a dreamer. It is these guys that let the side down. Fake is the wrong term. A dreamer could be a genuine single guy that thinks a threesome or moresome sounds like a great idea but when reality hits and a real meet is on the cards they bottle it. This goes for the guys that have a single profile but are actually married/with partner. and the same applies as above but with the added guilt that he would be cheating.
FYI we have never had any guy say "sorry, your not for me!" they just poof into thin air because the reality is much scarier than the dream.
Just my own thoughts on it.
Dempsey "
To be honest your percentage of time wasters does actually include the "Sorry you're not for me" group. Men think they'll get a bad rep if they tell a woman or couple they aren't interested.
Yes it's been said that guys on fab would typically message any woman, it's an ego thing, some just want to get some sort of result after the sheer number of rejections.
Actually going through with it however is another matter.
I agree there are dreamers on here though as I've seen some absolutely gorgeous couples being let down also. |
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over a year ago
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"Nah. We don’t meet men from here. But was just nice to receive something polite "
At least you read it, my current pet peeve are unread messages. You take the time to read a profile and write up a message only for it to sit there unread for weeks. I get that they might have checked my profile and decided a message from me isn't what they want but geez at least delete it |
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Hell of a lot of time wasters. So we plan all meets in club unless they wiling to meet me first for a social, and that they can accom at home, so far that has only been one from this site, saying that the ones we have met at club over half are married, so we just go by how we feel on the night |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I very very rarely meet people cold from the site now. Most are people I’ve bumped into at clubs, socials or we have mutual friends. Of those I have arranged to meet just through messaging they are roughly 60/40 flakes (last minute cancellation) to people who turn up. Those who turn up are generally great fun. It’s a long time since I had a social that didn’t lead on to a further meet. But as MsGiveswood says, the percentage of flakes means that I generally see arranging meets with people through messaging as a huge waste of time. I have one night a week to play. I don’t want to spend it looking at my watch in a local Costa.
This is why I've started to host socials for singles and fwb's couples
Good call. I see complaints that there isn’t much swinging scene wise in Cornwall."
Generally speaking most socials are couple and single females only too. |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.
I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.
What's been your experience with single guys ?"
Sadly there is a very high chance of a no show.
Myself I would love to meet you as your pictures are what I like. |
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"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.
I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.
What's been your experience with single guys ?
Sadly there is a very high chance of a no show.
Myself I would love to meet you as your pictures are what I like. "
No shows definitely wreck things for the rest of us - there's no getting away from it. |
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