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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Had loads messages from singles but clearly only wanting talk too nikki  find this cheeky and a complete p..s take if honest , do other couples experience this? Hugs nikki and mark ( you know - the male half  ) |
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Only occasionally. Most singles understand there are two of us, if they don't we just stop talking to them.
We do recognise that it can be difficult ensuring messages are addressed to both and to write them to show they come from both. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You might need to block single guys from messaging. You can then approach any that you like the look of.
Not always the singles tho, we get lots of messages from couples where the male does all the communicating and it becomes very clear who they’re really after. I’m very quick to remind them that we’re a couple and either Abby jumps in to remind them as well or I just cut the communication short.
Do you both join in when messaging? That usually helps.
Good luck OP!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had loads messages from singles but clearly only wanting talk too nikki find this cheeky and a complete p..s take if honest , do other couples experience this? Hugs nikki and mark ( you know - the male half )"
Yes definitely,
Some are completely ignorant and obviously think their just talking to the lovely wife 
And some I really don't know why their looking for a couple to meet at all!
Because they have very strict rules on male male contact, I mean let's be honest in threesome you are going to cross swords at some point
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"Had loads messages from singles but clearly only wanting talk too nikki find this cheeky and a complete p..s take if honest , do other couples experience this? Hugs nikki and mark ( you know - the male half )"
I was talking to a Cpl last week on here and it was the lady I was chatting to after 5 or 6 messages they got deleted and then got one off the lady it was the man that wanted to meet me and saying he was her. so its hard to work out who is who. and as for single men I just don't get messages they Cpl only |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
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"Had loads messages from singles but clearly only wanting talk too nikki find this cheeky and a complete p..s take if honest , do other couples experience this? Hugs nikki and mark ( you know - the male half )"
Well Nikki (it WAS the sexy Nikki posting this wasn't it or was it the other one).
Annnyway, I always ensure that I at least address both parties - by name if possible (often people do make it difficult by giving themselves a single consonant as a name or calling themselves Mr and Mrs or Him and Her, lol).
I usually put something in the message that acknowledges the existence of a couple like "would love to meet you both for a drink" or "Mark is a lucky fucker"). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Annnyway, I always ensure that I at least address both parties - by name if possible.
I usually put something in the message that acknowledges the existence of a couple like "would love to meet you both for a drink" or "Mark is a lucky fucker")."
I'm single and into couples, and this is exactly how I go about it. It's best to adreedd both together if you can  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just to balance it out, we also do receive some very nice and respectful messages from single guys, I personally think its mostly about the opening line of a message, for example the wrong way "great tits sapphire how are you today" ffs
The respectful way "hi both saw your profile thought I would message" or words to that effect,
No doubt we'll get to the sassy talk once we've established a rappor and for us that's fine
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is so rude. I want to meet couples - both - not just because I'm bi but because I find it an honour to be invited into their sex life and it's a social thing for all three involved. Basic manners. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ALL THE TIME its getting really hard to find genuine honest singles that can string more than 3 words together we have been toying with going over to the other side (SH) because fab is just not what it used to be anymore  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've had some where they will talk about me to the other half like Im a piece of meat to be traded. We've also had some where they will only address me and if he sends a message it will get ignored or the reply will be directed back at me.
We tend to just delete and block these ones.
I'm not crazy btw, I have a couples profile on here just tend to use this one more  |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
London |
"ALL THE TIME its getting really hard to find genuine honest singles that can string more than 3 words together we have been toying with going over to the other side (SH) because fab is just not what it used to be anymore "
Other side..?  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I can absolutely sympathise with this as I experienced it in the past. However, I will point out that if the profile pictures are all of the female half and the profile picture is the same, then perhaps I can understand why it would happen.
I'm not saying that it's right but if the couples profile is all about the woman and the male is just an after thought, then maybe that's a reasoning.
Personally, I think that your profile defines the interactions that you have. |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
London |
"We've had some where they will talk about me to the other half like Im a piece of meat to be traded. We've also had some where they will only address me and if he sends a message it will get ignored or the reply will be directed back at me.
We tend to just delete and block these ones.
I'm not crazy btw, I have a couples profile on here just tend to use this one more "
Lmfao. I was wondering.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've had some where they will talk about me to the other half like Im a piece of meat to be traded. We've also had some where they will only address me and if he sends a message it will get ignored or the reply will be directed back at me.
We tend to just delete and block these ones.
I'm not crazy btw, I have a couples profile on here just tend to use this one more
Lmfao. I was wondering.... "
Well I may be a bit crazy haha! 
We don't use our couples profile for the forums, we tend to just stick with our singles ones because people know who we are then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can absolutely sympathise with this as I experienced it in the past. However, I will point out that if the profile pictures are all of the female half and the profile picture is the same, then perhaps I can understand why it would happen.
I'm not saying that it's right but if the couples profile is all about the woman and the male is just an after thought, then maybe that's a reasoning.
Personally, I think that your profile defines the interactions that you have. "
Our has more pics of me at the moment (that will change, just need to pin him down with a camera in hand) but it clearly states in the profile that we both read and respond to messages and we always make sure they know who they are talking to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We get this a lot (has several this week already and it’s only Monday).
Not really found there’s any point in blocking single males because (in our experience) they’ll go as far as setting up a couples profile to contact us, well, me, anyway. Just have to ignore them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We get it occasionally too. Most times we just remind them they're messaging a couple then block them. The odd time, if we're feeling mischievous, we'll let them go on saying you have a great body, your ass is amazing, I'd love to f**k you, etc then tell them they're actually talking to Mr. They tend to scarper after that 
Having said all that, for the most part guys do direct their messages to both of us. |
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"We get it occasionally too. Most times we just remind them they're messaging a couple then block them. The odd time, if we're feeling mischievous, we'll let them go on saying you have a great body, your ass is amazing, I'd love to f**k you, etc then tell them they're actually talking to Mr. They tend to scarper after that
Having said all that, for the most part guys do direct their messages to both of us."
You do have a nice cock though.  |
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We find it the same in the chat rooms. A single guy will PM and say hi and ask if male or female online. When reply male they just disappear. This only results in a block. Some single guys just ruin for all the good ones out there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had loads messages from singles but clearly only wanting talk too nikki find this cheeky and a complete p..s take if honest , do other couples experience this? Hugs nikki and mark ( you know - the male half )"
. Yeah we get all that too, annoying definitely but I just delete without a reply at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had loads messages from singles but clearly only wanting talk too nikki find this cheeky and a complete p..s take if honest , do other couples experience this? Hugs nikki and mark ( you know - the male half )"
We say on our profile,it's me grey that answers messages.sweet only chats with those we know and have met.
Still we get messages,ignoring what we say on profile,the result being an instant block
If they can't respect a few words on our profile,what respect should we expect if we were foolish enough to meet. |
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"Had loads messages from singles but clearly only wanting talk too nikki find this cheeky and a complete p..s take if honest , do other couples experience this? Hugs nikki and mark ( you know - the male half )"
MR here, i usually answer most messages, so if someones messaged say "id love to lick your feet and worship your toes" they usually get a reply of "Thanks for the offer, but no thanks i wear boots for work and that wouldnt be the best experience for either of us."
Usually amuses me. If its a compliment of the wife however i just say thanks ill pass it on. Timewasters wont message back once talking to male half |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happens all the time to us with men just thinking that they are messaging my wife when if they had bothered to read our profile they would know that I answer all messages and Carol just reply’s to ones she fancies.
So at three in the morning I get HEY NICE TITS so I have to point out that they are very hairy and more moobs than tits.
And Carol can chat away and I drop in a message that gets ignored so that’s a no fuckie lucky from us!!
Effort = sex = lots of fun!!!!
It’s not rocket science.
T |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
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"We seem to get a lot of messages the other way that address D (male half)
They usually say things like, id love a go on her, you’re a lucky guy do you want to share her.
Hello, I’m here too! "
Consider yourself lucky. That's rare. Lol |
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"I can absolutely sympathise with this as I experienced it in the past. However, I will point out that if the profile pictures are all of the female half and the profile picture is the same, then perhaps I can understand why it would happen.
I'm not saying that it's right but if the couples profile is all about the woman and the male is just an after thought, then maybe that's a reasoning.
Personally, I think that your profile defines the interactions that you have. "
I agree with this, when it’s just me online I tend to switch my avatar to suit that, if we are both active then we try to have a couples one up. This did lessen the amount of messages we received aiming only at Jo but by no means does it stop it!
Even on forum threads where I say “I’m in” the profile pic is of me and I sign it off from me (as I always do) I will still always get dm’s telling me how sexy my arse and tits are
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We get it occasionally too. Most times we just remind them they're messaging a couple then block them. The odd time, if we're feeling mischievous, we'll let them go on saying you have a great body, your ass is amazing, I'd love to f**k you, etc then tell them they're actually talking to Mr. They tend to scarper after that
Having said all that, for the most part guys do direct their messages to both of us.
You do have a nice cock though. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My experience this time on fab and on previous evidence there are too many fakers or bottlers who want a kick out of chatting without any intention of ever meeting. This makes it very frustrating for the genuine males. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When am massaging a couple I try to address them both as ya these two people your talking to, you might only be interested in the female half but still both need your attention |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My experience this time on fab and on previous evidence there are too many fakers or bottlers who want a kick out of chatting without any intention of ever meeting. This makes it very frustrating for the genuine males."
Deffo this ^^^^^^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a grandad early ask “can I fuck your wife?”
Said no thanks. Got the reply “your loss. You could have had this” and sent a picture of a withered up cock. Was such a sorry sight. Looked like a grey pork scratching. We have nothing in our page saying we meet men. In fact it’s the opposite. Hate to say it. Single men aren’t swingers on here. Just chancers. It’s the worst part of this site. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
On my couples profile yes, frequently gets singles addressing just me, on this profile as said above, male halves of couples trying to get a quick hook up if they are in my area, as well as singles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a grandad early ask “can I fuck your wife?”
Said no thanks. Got the reply “your loss. You could have had this” and sent a picture of a withered up cock. Was such a sorry sight. Looked like a grey pork scratching. We have nothing in our page saying we meet men. In fact it’s the opposite. Hate to say it. Single men aren’t swingers on here. Just chancers. It’s the worst part of this site. "
Exactly our sentiments its such a frickin shame |
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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Had a grandad early ask “can I fuck your wife?”
Said no thanks. Got the reply “your loss. You could have had this” and sent a picture of a withered up cock. Was such a sorry sight. Looked like a grey pork scratching. We have nothing in our page saying we meet men. In fact it’s the opposite. Hate to say it. Single men aren’t swingers on here. Just chancers. It’s the worst part of this site.
Exactly our sentiments its such a frickin shame "
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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago
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"Had loads messages from singles but clearly only wanting talk too nikki find this cheeky and a complete p..s take if honest , do other couples experience this? Hugs nikki and mark ( you know - the male half )"
Yes it happens to us alot, they message and completely ignore the fact that it's a couple they are messaging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a grandad early ask “can I fuck your wife?”
Said no thanks. Got the reply “your loss. You could have had this” and sent a picture of a withered up cock. Was such a sorry sight. Looked like a grey pork scratching. We have nothing in our page saying we meet men. In fact it’s the opposite. Hate to say it. Single men aren’t swingers on here. Just chancers. It’s the worst part of this site. "
Have to largely agree with this. I’ve had several guys who I considered friends who were engaging and chatty and fun to talk to suddenly change and become seedy with me. I make it clear from the off I don’t meet guys and never will, but will happily use the site to socialise with anyone I find interesting. Then BAM, couple of weeks down the line someone I’ve been having great banter with will just become disgusting and letchy. Then when I challenge them about it and say I’ve explained my position, I get told ‘I was just testing the waters’. This has happened a few times |
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Always speak to them as a couple or assume it's the male that is online (as in most instances it is) and talking to him in as a polite way as if it was the female.
Always be polite and friendly as i can be as no point being rude....all hear to have fun am i right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had loads messages from singles but clearly only wanting talk too nikki find this cheeky and a complete p..s take if honest , do other couples experience this? Hugs nikki and mark ( you know - the male half )"
We get them aswell but dont take it to heart as Ben dont have his pics up so its only bum they see
The experienced guys always message us as a couple then comment on my bum lol |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Would like to chat to decent single men but there’s just no way to filter out the rubbish and not enough hours in the day so the filters have to go on. It’s enough work just filtering out fake couples.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the time, we've now stopped answering those types of messages that are directed straight to the Mrs, it's just bloody rude and gets em nowhere, so I'm suprised why they do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m yet to meet a couple and reading this I get why couples are apprehensive re single males
The minority spoil it, I always address using the phrase plural as if I’m speaking to both all the time
Fingers crossed yet to get a couple meet |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I’m yet to meet a couple and reading this I get why couples are apprehensive re single males
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That and you’re profile pic
Maybe some women like that kind of pic ? It’s slightly better than a cock close up, but the majority or couples and women I know don’t like pics like that. I would think it’s attractive to certain types of guys though.
We’d only likely message guys with profile pics in nice clothes/suit , maybe underwear, face pics etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m yet to meet a couple and reading this I get why couples are apprehensive re single males
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That and you’re profile pic
Maybe some women like that kind of pic ? It’s slightly better than a cock close up, but the majority or couples and women I know don’t like pics like that. I would think it’s attractive to certain types of guys though.
We’d only likely message guys with profile pics in nice clothes/suit , maybe underwear, face pics etc "
Brilliant feedback I shall change it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had loads messages from singles but clearly only wanting talk too nikki find this cheeky and a complete p..s take if honest , do other couples experience this? Hugs nikki and mark ( you know - the male half )"
The fun is in sharing the experience with a couple, being extended that privilege |
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By *rotica xCouple
over a year ago
Chepstow/Portugal |
Yes! We are so offended from that, that we always ask the question, as I am a voyeur, would you be naughty with him while I watch and play with myself in between playing with all of us. I’d hate to be with anyone who doesn’t want to be with us both... big no no. |
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Offering money from single guys just seems desperate to me a million we'd understand and maybe go for it but 20 quid come on guys that is what is annoying from single males most take a no thankyou. others are definite stalkers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Offering money from single guys just seems desperate to me a million we'd understand and maybe go for it but 20 quid come on guys that is what is annoying from single males most take a no thankyou. others are definite stalkers "
So it's not about selling yourself,it's about negotiating a price |
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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago
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"I’m yet to meet a couple and reading this I get why couples are apprehensive re single males
The minority spoil it, I always address using the phrase plural as if I’m speaking to both all the
Fingers crossed yet to get a couple meet "
It's not the minority ruining it! It is the majority of single guys ruining it for the very few good ones out there in fab land. |
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I get this the other way, my profile states that I only meet couples where at least one is Bi.. or single ladies if they wish.
I state no single males, and what you get.... single males saying fancy a suck..
I tell them to read my profile to be polite.. then they wright back “so you don’t want a suck then” these are the people to stay well away from. I always respect when I send a message to a couple I address them both.. much prefer couples than singles tbh |
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"Had loads messages from singles but clearly only wanting talk too nikki find this cheeky and a complete p..s take if honest , do other couples experience this? Hugs nikki and mark ( you know - the male half )"
It happens all the time. Mind you it helps having a username that is shortened into a male name; They sometimes stop and think twice when they write in the chatroom 'Get your tits out Trev' |
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Scene 1. Setting, Our Inbox...
"HEY u are so fukkin hot, I want to fuck you u hard"
"Oh, awesome, thanks for the compliments! I've been working out a lot, very pleased with my pecs, but plenty more weights to lift still! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always ensure I address both if I'm messaging a couple (rare event).
However, some couples profiles only show the lady in pics. Is it surprising then that some single guys construct messages only addressing her?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a grandad early ask “can I fuck your wife?”
Said no thanks. Got the reply “your loss. You could have had this” and sent a picture of a withered up cock. Was such a sorry sight. Looked like a grey pork scratching. We have nothing in our page saying we meet men. In fact it’s the opposite. Hate to say it. Single men aren’t swingers on here. Just chancers. It’s the worst part of this site. "
I understand your frustration. Not all guys are the same though. Thank you. |
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"I always ensure I address both if I'm messaging a couple (rare event).
However, some couples profiles only show the lady in pics. Is it surprising then that some single guys construct messages only addressing her?
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I see your point, but no, it's still unacceptable by default. If the profile is heavily biased and written in the 1st person, then maybe thouigh. |
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"Had a grandad early ask “can I fuck your wife?”
Said no thanks. Got the reply “your loss. You could have had this” and sent a picture of a withered up cock. Was such a sorry sight. Looked like a grey pork scratching. We have nothing in our page saying we meet men."
"We have nothing in our page saying we meet men" yet your profile settings still let them message you? That's on you pal. Sure single guys are often utter crap, but so are many couples and many women. Stop whining and change your message filters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always ensure I address both if I'm messaging a couple (rare event).
However, some couples profiles only show the lady in pics. Is it surprising then that some single guys construct messages only addressing her?
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But it's still a couples profile
If guys only want to talk/message the ladies,then contact the single lady profiles.
Simple really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would always assume that if I message a couple the man would reply anyway ... Plus a lot of couples profiles state ... Not looking for single men . Should that not tell them something
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We get loads, but it proves they don't read profile as ours states male half on site only and wife only joins me at club, I don't mind them chatting to her at club as 99% of the time she will come as ask if she can play with them, the others are either ones she instantly attracted to or guys she has played with before |
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