My new buckfuddy wants to explore a sub/dom relationship. I’ll be honest, it’s been a while since I’ve done it and wondered where to start. She’s obviously read the 50 Shades books. ??
I was thinking about some simple orders for her to fulfill (going comeback at work, having a play in the office loos etc).
Does anyone have any good suggestions of how to build up to a bedroom environment, which is where I’m much more comfortable. |
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How does she want to do things? What direction does she want to go in. S and m is sadism and masochism are you sure that's what you both want?
Google something like "tasks for subs" and see if there are any appealing ideas there. Also buy some non fiction books like Screw The Roses Send Me The Thorns and read them together. Don't be guided by 50 Shades |
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Research! Watch documentaries on real domming... 50 shades is not the real world, unless that's how u want 2 do it...
Make ur own rules, do wot u both consent 2
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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Reading books is fantastic, it captures the lifestyle in a nut shell. Unfortunately it only captures the shell, explanation is the only way to find out your level of play, that involves (if done rightly) a lot of sensual conversation.
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"I think a good start is a tweak on the bottom and when she says ‘ow!’ you can say ‘so what?’ and build it up from there. "
Succinct as usual Steve (smiles), every journey starts from a single step... just make sure it’s in the right direction.
Steve has an important point.
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"Thanks for the advice, folks. Sounds like it’s a combination of some online research (books, ‘tinterweb etc) and then jointly establishing some boundaries. "
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search the following terms..
1.Safe, Sane, consensual
2.Safewords (preferably use two)
3.Sub-drop
Have lots of fun xxx  |
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