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Let down again (by a single fem)
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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3 times in 2 weeks we have been let down by single ladies. All with pictures and photo and meet veris.
We are starting to think women are worse than the guys for this? |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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You think women are worse than men ? Why how many times in 2 weeks did men let you down ?
I think some ladies are time wasters, some men are time wasters and some couples are time wasters. Not sure which category is worst.
The common factor in your situation is you...maybe look at what you are doing. Did you speak on the phone or keep in regular contact with them etc.
Hope you have better luck next time |
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Unfortunately single ladies are the same as single guys, the fantasy sounds so good but the reality scares the crap out of them.
I mean, even some ladies are on fab for well over a year with no meet verifications, they just love to get lost in the fantasy of the "Oh I was so filthy". Bless them. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Define "let down" OP? And define "single ladies"?
Did they arrange to meet and not show up, and break contact completely? Or did they arrange to meet and provide advance warning they couldn't make it and provide a reasonable reason? One is potentially being let down, the other isn't
Similarly on my second point - do you know beyond doubt they were "single ladies" and not fantasist blokes using a female profile? Sadly there are profiles out there (with pictures and meet veris) that are exactly that and who get a kick out of interacting with couples and single guys and even arranging meets with them.
As others have said, there are people of all categories who will mess others around, so it is up to us as individuals to use due diligence and common sense to be as sure as we can be that those we interact with are as genuine as we hope they are, and the tools are there to do so. In over three years on here I've not experienced a single case of a no show or having my time wasted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately single ladies are the same as single guys, the fantasy sounds so good but the reality scares the crap out of them.
I mean, even some ladies are on fab for well over a year with no meet verifications, they just love to get lost in the fantasy of the "Oh I was so filthy". Bless them."
You don't have to meet to be on Fab, do you. And you don't know how many meets someone has had as part of a couple rather than when they're single. And you don't know how long they may have paused their single profile for whilst in those couples or simply taking a break before going back to being on here as a single. Weird that you gave such a specific situation given that there are so many possible explanations. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You think women are worse than men ? Why how many times in 2 weeks did men let you down ?
I think some ladies are time wasters, some men are time wasters and some couples are time wasters. Not sure which category is worst.
The common factor in your situation is you...maybe look at what you are doing. Did you speak on the phone or keep in regular contact with them etc.
Hope you have better luck next time "
Fair point - we don’t meet men - but don’t have the same issue with couples. We chatted via Fab, then chatted as a 3 via Kik to get to know each other better incl. likes, dislikes, checked how the lady would feel most comfortable meeting (social/club meet/private meet), offered to have a F to F chat on the phone/FaceTime, arranged a date...then been ignored when we’ve messaged close to the meet date  Don’t think we could’ve done anything else to make the lady feel 100% comfortable and excited to meet us?! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Define "let down" OP? And define "single ladies"?
Did they arrange to meet and not show up, and break contact completely? Or did they arrange to meet and provide advance warning they couldn't make it and provide a reasonable reason? One is potentially being let down, the other isn't
Similarly on my second point - do you know beyond doubt they were "single ladies" and not fantasist blokes using a female profile? Sadly there are profiles out there (with pictures and meet veris) that are exactly that and who get a kick out of interacting with couples and single guys and even arranging meets with them.
As others have said, there are people of all categories who will mess others around, so it is up to us as individuals to use due diligence and common sense to be as sure as we can be that those we interact with are as genuine as we hope they are, and the tools are there to do so. In over three years on here I've not experienced a single case of a no show or having my time wasted."
Let down = meet arranged and then ghosted close to the date, no explanation, no apology, left the chat
Single lady = single female profile, photo verified, meet verified, F to F phone chat offered, arranged, but not achieved 
In your three years, you’ve been fortunate to not have your time wasted or experience a ‘no show’. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Define "let down" OP? And define "single ladies"?
Did they arrange to meet and not show up, and break contact completely? Or did they arrange to meet and provide advance warning they couldn't make it and provide a reasonable reason? One is potentially being let down, the other isn't
Similarly on my second point - do you know beyond doubt they were "single ladies" and not fantasist blokes using a female profile? Sadly there are profiles out there (with pictures and meet veris) that are exactly that and who get a kick out of interacting with couples and single guys and even arranging meets with them.
As others have said, there are people of all categories who will mess others around, so it is up to us as individuals to use due diligence and common sense to be as sure as we can be that those we interact with are as genuine as we hope they are, and the tools are there to do so. In over three years on here I've not experienced a single case of a no show or having my time wasted.
Let down = meet arranged and then ghosted close to the date, no explanation, no apology, left the chat
Single lady = single female profile, photo verified, meet verified, F to F phone chat offered, arranged, but not achieved
In your three years, you’ve been fortunate to not have your time wasted or experience a ‘no show’."
"F to F phone chat offered" is the key here - was it accepted and carried out? If not then I suspect you may well have fallen foul of a bloke pretending to be a woman - and sadly it *is* possible for fake profiles of that type to be verified in the way you describe.
I also don't consider myself "fortunate" as in having been lucky - I just use the tools available along with a healthy dose of common sense, and spending time getting to know people before arranging to meet and it's not failed me
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Define "let down" OP? And define "single ladies"?
Did they arrange to meet and not show up, and break contact completely? Or did they arrange to meet and provide advance warning they couldn't make it and provide a reasonable reason? One is potentially being let down, the other isn't
Similarly on my second point - do you know beyond doubt they were "single ladies" and not fantasist blokes using a female profile? Sadly there are profiles out there (with pictures and meet veris) that are exactly that and who get a kick out of interacting with couples and single guys and even arranging meets with them.
As others have said, there are people of all categories who will mess others around, so it is up to us as individuals to use due diligence and common sense to be as sure as we can be that those we interact with are as genuine as we hope they are, and the tools are there to do so. In over three years on here I've not experienced a single case of a no show or having my time wasted.
Let down = meet arranged and then ghosted close to the date, no explanation, no apology, left the chat
Single lady = single female profile, photo verified, meet verified, F to F phone chat offered, arranged, but not achieved
In your three years, you’ve been fortunate to not have your time wasted or experience a ‘no show’.
"F to F phone chat offered" is the key here - was it accepted and carried out? If not then I suspect you may well have fallen foul of a bloke pretending to be a woman - and sadly it *is* possible for fake profiles of that type to be verified in the way you describe.
I also don't consider myself "fortunate" as in having been lucky - I just use the tools available along with a healthy dose of common sense, and spending time getting to know people before arranging to meet and it's not failed me
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Thanks. We’ll make sure we use common sense next time. |
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"Unfortunately single ladies are the same as single guys, the fantasy sounds so good but the reality scares the crap out of them.
I mean, even some ladies are on fab for well over a year with no meet verifications, they just love to get lost in the fantasy of the "Oh I was so filthy". Bless them.
You don't have to meet to be on Fab, do you. And you don't know how many meets someone has had as part of a couple rather than when they're single. And you don't know how long they may have paused their single profile for whilst in those couples or simply taking a break before going back to being on here as a single. Weird that you gave such a specific situation given that there are so many possible explanations. "
Sorry, I didn't realise I was being specific. I was just making a factual point.
I don't see the reasons you give as being explanations, I see them as excuses.
This is a swingers site for people to swing. Unfortunately many singletons of both sexes use it just for the forums to express themselves sexually without coming out from behind their cloak of anonymity. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’ve a meet arranged for tomorrow night. I’d be very surprised if it actually happens. That’s Fab.
I’d did actually happen lol. "
Aww we like happy endings (in every respect lol) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You think women are worse than men ? Why how many times in 2 weeks did men let you down ?
I think some ladies are time wasters, some men are time wasters and some couples are time wasters. Not sure which category is worst.
The common factor in your situation is you...maybe look at what you are doing. Did you speak on the phone or keep in regular contact with them etc.
Hope you have better luck next time "
Simply as a result of the vast number of males compared to other categories, men will be doing more letting down. Can't be any other way. |
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