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Swinging site not dating site who agrees??
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I keep getting rather alot off messages from guys looking for cozy nights in with DVDs and meals out together getting to know each other and see where it leads ,..... Hmm that's a match .com message in my opinion lol
I'm not here for "dating" as such fair enough yes I hate getting messages saying wanna fuk! But I'd think here would be the last place I'd be looking for the love of my life lol
R any of you here for "dating" or do u agree it's a social fun swinging site?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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to be honest i dont see as going out for a meal and a drink with a guy off here to see if we get on as a date
To me a date is going out with someone you like more than just sex, the start of a realstionship, hopefully
Going out for a a pre shag meal is just that and id like to think im adult enough to go for a drink, or whatever, with someone off here and treat it for what it is |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
I have put on my profile that I am not looking for regular meets, which I hope would put off the soulmate brigade. I do still get messages from guys wanting relationships but not enough to peeve me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ive never had a message from a guy looking for a relationship, ive met a few guys who after meeting have gotten a little to close but ive never had a message from someone ive never met telling me they would like a relationship with me
i have had mail from men saying they'd like to take me out, but i dont see that as a date or them looking for more than sex, some guys just want to turn up fuck and leave while other prefer to make more of an evening of it, sometimes the build up makes it better  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"to be honest i dont see as going out for a meal and a drink with a guy off here to see if we get on as a date
To me a date is going out with someone you like more than just sex, the start of a realstionship, hopefully
Going out for a a pre shag meal is just that and id like to think im adult enough to go for a drink, or whatever, with someone off here and treat it for what it is"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee. |
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"i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee. "
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"to be honest i dont see as going out for a meal and a drink with a guy off here to see if we get on as a date
To me a date is going out with someone you like more than just sex, the start of a realstionship, hopefully
Going out for a a pre shag meal is just that and id like to think im adult enough to go for a drink, or whatever, with someone off here and treat it for what it is
+1 "
+2 I need to know someone before I meet for fun, everyone does things their own way and there is nothing wrong with that. |
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"i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee. "
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I don't meet for sex without a social meet first. The way I play can be extreme so it's imperative both of us are comfortable.
I've met playmates several times for drinks, dinner etc before getting down to it. Neither of us saw it as a date per se and our meet didn't include a trip to John Lewis to pick out soft furnishings.
People do things differently. |
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"i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee. "
That's understandable...if I were married and just wanted "straight" sex, I doubt I'd be sipping coffee in Starbucks getting to know someone either. |
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"I don't think many are actually looking for a 'soulmate'. Its just a different approach to 'fancy a fuck?'"
Hmm nah just had one today saying we cud get to know each other hopefully it cud become long term bla bla
I'm all down for social meets but jus think sum ppl r here looking for a relationship n to me personally it's the wrong site ,
Saying that if I met Sumone a few times n it happened to turn in to somethin then happy days but it's not what I thought here was about lol |
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I've had mail from men who say that they're looking to play but who knows it could become something more...
To which I respond that they're obviously not for me cos I'm not here to date. They then backtrack and suggest that thats what women want to hear  . which then gets a no thanks and a block! 
I do get guys complaining that by insisting on a coffee meet I'm only after dates... But as a single female I have to consider my personal safety - I don't have a 6ft bloke to accompany me on meets so I have to feel confident about being behind closed doors with a stranger. But some of my coffee meets have lasted all of ten mins before we scramble off to find somewhere to get naked together... |
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"I don't think many are actually looking for a 'soulmate'. Its just a different approach to 'fancy a fuck?'"
+1
On a variation on it, Men give love to get sex, women give sex to get love. Its as simple as that.
What i dont understand is the confusion about women not quite understanding what they want. Match.com is a relationship site and you wouldnt go there looking for a shag. Fab is a swingers site and we come here looking for a shag. There's big difference here, yet what some women seem to want is a little bit of relationship benefit to go in-line with the sex we sort and to be quite honest, i find that really very hard.
I dont see why i cant send any woman that caught my fancy on here asking her for a meet without her raising the 'pervert' card on my face, as if i'm too forward on my approach.
I just think women need to get their priority right really. Im sure there are loads of websites that have rooms for 'friends with benefit' because this is swingers site and we meant to message each other making out point clear if you fancy a shag. That should be it and not the confusion
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"Well, to be honest seems like as good a place to meet a soulmate as any. Wish I had more wanting to wine and dine!!!"
The saying that 'Woman really wanted a guy who wanted love more than sex didnt put a foot wrong, if you think that way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not actually looking for anything other than sex right now. But if I was looking for Mr Right then I would start here or on fetlife because my needs are rather outside normal relationship needs. Done the no sex route for too long (18 year relationship)... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone uses this for different reasons so please dont be judgemental!
As a single lady I would love to meet the man of my dreams but doubt I will on here, but hey you never know! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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my hubby doesnt mind me seeing men for sex but he doesnt like it when i get too friendly with someone, he knows i like a few of the men i meet a lot, but they arent proper friends, i just like them and like the sex. |
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"I don't think many are actually looking for a 'soulmate'. Its just a different approach to 'fancy a fuck?'
+1
On a variation on it, Men give love to get sex, women give sex to get love. Its as simple as that.
What i dont understand is the confusion about women not quite understanding what they want. Match.com is a relationship site and you wouldnt go there looking for a shag. Fab is a swingers site and we come here looking for a shag. There's big difference here, yet what some women seem to want is a little bit of relationship benefit to go in-line with the sex we sort and to be quite honest, i find that really very hard.
I dont see why i cant send any woman that caught my fancy on here asking her for a meet without her raising the 'pervert' card on my face, as if i'm too forward on my approach.
I just think women need to get their priority right really. Im sure there are loads of websites that have rooms for 'friends with benefit' because this is swingers site and we meant to message each other making out point clear if you fancy a shag. That should be it and not the confusion
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You appear to have totally ignored the fact that single female posters on this thread have stated that they are NOT looking for dates but for sex!!!
The ones who have found more were not looking for that and seem to have been surprised by it when it happened. |
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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago
Dundee/Angus/Blackpool |
"to be honest i dont see as going out for a meal and a drink with a guy off here to see if we get on as a date
To me a date is going out with someone you like more than just sex, the start of a realstionship, hopefully
Going out for a a pre shag meal is just that and id like to think im adult enough to go for a drink, or whatever, with someone off here and treat it for what it is
+1
+2 I need to know someone before I meet for fun, everyone does things their own way and there is nothing wrong with that."
Agree here also, i enjoy fun as the next person, but its also nice to meet up for coffee and chat first, thats how i am. Im looking for as my profile says Fun, Friendship and Frolics |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is most definitely a swinging site and not a dating site, however people should be able to meet as they wish, be that a social meet for a drink/meal first, or meet, fuck, leave.
Also, people have met and fallen in love through fabswingers even though they were not looking for it. Happened to us. |
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It's weird to see this - I've never offered to do a date type thing with anyone from here nor has anyone asked me! (unless you count an icebreaker drink before moving on...)
Is it really that common? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I found the love of my life on here. Wasnt intended to be that way but there you have it
I also met my hubby on here, thanks FAB "
IT WOULD SPOOK US BOTH FINDING A LONG TERM PARTNER ON A SITE BASED ON NSA SEX..sorry bout the caps x
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By * starr -Woman
over a year ago
Burton on Trent. |
i think its nice to get to know someone as it can help when having good sex, to know what they like/dislike, rather than just wham bam.and if the ones wanting love (me) happen to come across the love of their life then its all good rapport for the site isnt it? seems there are too many judgemental people on here.we all different and needs vary, people vary, i think this is a brilliant site for finding sex, people who dont like normal (vanilla) sex or have other likes that some folks find weird.just politely say no thanks to those who dont float ya boat or want more.manners dont cost owt and dont take long to say no thanks does it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is a swinging site and I'm not actively looking for anything other than fun with guys at clubs from here but never say never it could happen. There are couples on here that met on here.
I'm on dating sites and that is where I'm looking for a relationship but when do I bring up swinging? Lol |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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To some of the single men on here who like to sprout that this is a sex site! And therefore expect any female they contact to jump at the chance to have sex with them....get a grip and also get a fecking brain, this is not a sex site, it is not a dating site it is a site where hopefully two like minded (or 4 if 2 couples, seeing as it is a swingers site lol) BUT as a single female, my safety is paramount, I like to enjoy my meets, I like to have a conversation in between play, I like to relax and have a few drinks, I'm not a wham bam thank you mam, and the more connection you have the better sex you have! So to some of the men on this thread, I would have a bloody good look at what you have said and try and look at things from a female perspective!
Otherwise, you might as well just go down the route of going down your own red light district and paying for it, because I am certainly not here to just satisfy your needs!
Ok, rant over and deep breath |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is a swinging site and I'm not actively looking for anything other than fun with guys at clubs from here but never say never it could happen. There are couples on here that met on here.
I'm on dating sites and that is where I'm looking for a relationship but when do I bring up swinging? Lol "
I can't bring myself to date while I am meeting people on here. I don't know how I would explain it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To some of the single men on here who like to sprout that this is a sex site! And therefore expect any female they contact to jump at the chance to have sex with them....get a grip and also get a fecking brain, this is not a sex site, it is not a dating site it is a site where hopefully two like minded (or 4 if 2 couples, seeing as it is a swingers site lol) BUT as a single female, my safety is paramount, I like to enjoy my meets, I like to have a conversation in between play, I like to relax and have a few drinks, I'm not a wham bam thank you mam, and the more connection you have the better sex you have! So to some of the men on this thread, I would have a bloody good look at what you have said and try and look at things from a female perspective!
Otherwise, you might as well just go down the route of going down your own red light district and paying for it, because I am certainly not here to just satisfy your needs!
Ok, rant over and deep breath "
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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago
Dundee/Angus/Blackpool |
"To some of the single men on here who like to sprout that this is a sex site! And therefore expect any female they contact to jump at the chance to have sex with them....get a grip and also get a fecking brain, this is not a sex site, it is not a dating site it is a site where hopefully two like minded (or 4 if 2 couples, seeing as it is a swingers site lol) BUT as a single female, my safety is paramount, I like to enjoy my meets, I like to have a conversation in between play, I like to relax and have a few drinks, I'm not a wham bam thank you mam, and the more connection you have the better sex you have! So to some of the men on this thread, I would have a bloody good look at what you have said and try and look at things from a female perspective!
Otherwise, you might as well just go down the route of going down your own red light district and paying for it, because I am certainly not here to just satisfy your needs!
Ok, rant over and deep breath "
and also agree to Bbwssarah as well
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What i dont understand is the confusion about women not quite understanding what they want. Match.com is a relationship site and you wouldnt go there looking for a shag. Fab is a swingers site and we come here looking for a shag. There's big difference here, yet what some women seem to want is a little bit of relationship benefit to go in-line with the sex we sort and to be quite honest, i find that really very hard.
I dont see why i cant send any woman that caught my fancy on here asking her for a meet without her raising the 'pervert' card on my face, as if i'm too forward on my approach.
I just think women need to get their priority right really. Im sure there are loads of websites that have rooms for 'friends with benefit' because this is swingers site and we meant to message each other making out point clear if you fancy a shag. That should be it and not the confusion
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reading that post you seem to be under the illusion that its only women who after more than sex on here, when i can assure you its not, ive met a few guys who have fell for me and ive had to tell them its not what im after i have never done that to a man, infact the last place id want to meet a man for a relationship is on here if im going to be honest
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What i dont understand is the confusion about women not quite understanding what they want. Match.com is a relationship site and you wouldnt go there looking for a shag. Fab is a swingers site and we come here looking for a shag. There's big difference here, yet what some women seem to want is a little bit of relationship benefit to go in-line with the sex we sort and to be quite honest, i find that really very hard.
I dont see why i cant send any woman that caught my fancy on here asking her for a meet without her raising the 'pervert' card on my face, as if i'm too forward on my approach.
I just think women need to get their priority right really. Im sure there are loads of websites that have rooms for 'friends with benefit' because this is swingers site and we meant to message each other making out point clear if you fancy a shag. That should be it and not the confusion
reading that post you seem to be under the illusion that its only women who after more than sex on here, when i can assure you its not, ive met a few guys who have fell for me and ive had to tell them its not what im after i have never done that to a man, infact the last place id want to meet a man for a relationship is on here if im going to be honest
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I'm not under any illusion because as someone just mentioned on this thread that she want a '...better connection, to have good sex..'
Well, im not saying we shouldnt fancy the look of someone we want to have sex with neither am i insinuating you should be up for a wham bham than you mam kind of thing.
But what i'm saying is, there's no point in swinging atall, if we have to drag the Cock and Pussy business down to polishing it with 'better connection' because quite frankly, its that better connection that gets alot of people into trouble by getting sticky and getting emotionally attached to sex to the point you ended up falling in love or to better put it, lust.
Pof and OKcupid are different to match.com because they look after different levels of relationships. Swinging is equal to SEX- simples  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not under any illusion because as someone just mentioned on this thread that she want a '...better connection, to have good sex..'
Well, im not saying we shouldnt fancy the look of someone we want to have sex with neither am i insinuating you should be up for a wham bham than you mam kind of thing.
But what i'm saying is, there's no point in swinging atall, if we have to drag the Cock and Pussy business down to polishing it with 'better connection' because quite frankly, its that better connection that gets alot of people into trouble by getting sticky and getting emotionally attached to sex to the point("
And you were the type of person I was speaking about, how the hell can you have good sex with no connection of some sort? So if it is just plain old dirty sex you want with no pretences just pay somebody! Ok, I agree there sre people on here that want someone to just come into the room, shag them and then feck off but then there are others who don't do things that way, does not make either right or wrong, just defines how people do things, so if you do not agree just fecking wind it in!!! I just get so fecked off by these single guys who think they are entitled to sex just because they are on here!  |
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"And you were the type of person I was speaking about, how the hell can you have good sex with no connection of some sort? So if it is just plain old dirty sex you want with no pretences just pay somebody! Ok, I agree there sre people on here that want someone to just come into the room, shag them and then feck off but then there are others who don't do things that way, does not make either right or wrong, just defines how people do things, so if you do not agree just fecking wind it in!!! I just get so fecked off by these single guys who think they are entitled to sex just because they are on here! "
No, im not one of those single blokes who thinks they are entitled to sex just because they are on here. I have morale and respect people and not the pushy type. If i send you a message and i see you read it and not reply. Dont expect me to send another message asking why you dont fancy my cock pics. NEVER.
Its just that it would be nice to disintegrate sex from 'friends with benefit'.
I see fabswingers as a site you meet people for the sole mutual attraction on basis of sex. And as human, things could develop from there if you do decide to meet them again. So inretrospect, the initial 'sex' meet could then turn to 'connection' bit later. But for the sake our sanity, it would be nice to concentrate on the 'meet-up and go' first and not looking for some sort of comparison connection on first meet.
Hope you get my point though |
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You use fab how you want to use it.. When sex is involved feelings can become involved its how you use them feeling determins if you want it to go to the next level. love don't choose the place or the time or the people it just happens.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im not looking for it but if it happened and felt natural a right and we fitted together without any false effort then I would not shy away from it and would embrace it with arms wide open.
Mean time I will I spose just keep feckin there brains out and giving them multi P orgasm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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for me it depends on the situation, if im playing at a club or party i dont feel the need to get to know someone a little as in an environment like that if i like the look of you thats good enough as sex in clubs seem to be quick sessions and off to the next
however if im meeting someone on a more personal level i like to meet them for a drink and a chat and make sure i do like them, mainly for my own safty as in a club if a guy turns out to be pushy you have many people round you to help, when im on my own i dont have that i have to look out for myself, there for i do not feel it is unreasonable to expect a guy to meet me in a public place and have a drink and a chat so i can get to know him and build up some kind of connection and trust before i shut myself away in private with them and if people see that as a date (which some guys do as soon as you mention going for a drink) so be it theres plenty of guys who will respect what im after to worry about those who think i should just trust a stranger and fuck them
not everyone like to get to know people so they can suss out if your relationship material, sometimes its for other reasons |
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"Well, to be honest seems like as good a place to meet a soulmate as any. Wish I had more wanting to wine and dine!!!"
We were both happy being single .. and then we met on here ... it was supposed to be lets get together every few weeks .. but then cupid struck ! I now have the most honest and open relationship I could wish for a lover and best friend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My friend went to Co-op for a bag of spuds and ended up coming out with a Husband lol
I'm not looking for a relationship, but I can't just meet for sex without getting to know them a bit first. I have to be attracted to someone before they get into my knicks. So I always insist on meeting for a drink first to see how we get on. I wouldn't call it a date though. |
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"To some of the single men on here who like to sprout that this is a sex site! And therefore expect any female they contact to jump at the chance to have sex with them....get a grip and also get a fecking brain, this is not a sex site, it is not a dating site it is a site where hopefully two like minded (or 4 if 2 couples, seeing as it is a swingers site lol) BUT as a single female, my safety is paramount, I like to enjoy my meets, I like to have a conversation in between play, I like to relax and have a few drinks, I'm not a wham bam thank you mam, and the more connection you have the better sex you have! So to some of the men on this thread, I would have a bloody good look at what you have said and try and look at things from a female perspective!
Otherwise, you might as well just go down the route of going down your own red light district and paying for it, because I am certainly not here to just satisfy your needs!
Ok, rant over and deep breath "
I'm noticing that some posters seem to have taken it upon themselves over several threads to dictate how people go about their business.
Everyone has different ways of doing things. The arrogance of some is totally outstanding.
Do what YOU want and have the common courtesy to allow us to conduct our activities as we see fit.  |
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By *lexaWoman
over a year ago
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I aggree 100% that this isn't a dating site. Some guys want to wine and dine which is all very nice but it's not what I'm looking for. Short and sweet works for me and I've met plenty of lovely guys along the way. x |
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over a year ago
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"To some of the single men on here who like to sprout that this is a sex site! And therefore expect any female they contact to jump at the chance to have sex with them....get a grip and also get a fecking brain, this is not a sex site, it is not a dating site it is a site where hopefully two like minded (or 4 if 2 couples, seeing as it is a swingers site lol) BUT as a single female, my safety is paramount, I like to enjoy my meets, I like to have a conversation in between play, I like to relax and have a few drinks, I'm not a wham bam thank you mam, and the more connection you have the better sex you have! So to some of the men on this thread, I would have a bloody good look at what you have said and try and look at things from a female perspective!
Otherwise, you might as well just go down the route of going down your own red light district and paying for it, because I am certainly not here to just satisfy your needs!
Ok, rant over and deep breath
I'm noticing that some posters seem to have taken it upon themselves over several threads to dictate how people go about their business.
Everyone has different ways of doing things. The arrogance of some is totally outstanding.
Do what YOU want and have the common courtesy to allow us to conduct our activities as we see fit. "
Agreed
Cant say farer than that then can ya lol specialy if you may have trouble saying your Fs and your Ts |
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"To some of the single men on here who like to sprout that this is a sex site! And therefore expect any female they contact to jump at the chance to have sex with them....get a grip and also get a fecking brain, this is not a sex site, it is not a dating site it is a site where hopefully two like minded (or 4 if 2 couples, seeing as it is a swingers site lol) BUT as a single female, my safety is paramount, I like to enjoy my meets, I like to have a conversation in between play, I like to relax and have a few drinks, I'm not a wham bam thank you mam, and the more connection you have the better sex you have! So to some of the men on this thread, I would have a bloody good look at what you have said and try and look at things from a female perspective!
Otherwise, you might as well just go down the route of going down your own red light district and paying for it, because I am certainly not here to just satisfy your needs!
Ok, rant over and deep breath
I'm noticing that some posters seem to have taken it upon themselves over several threads to dictate how people go about their business.
Everyone has different ways of doing things. The arrogance of some is totally outstanding.
Do what YOU want and have the common courtesy to allow us to conduct our activities as we see fit.
Agreed
Cant say farer than that then can ya lol specialy if you may have trouble saying your Fs and your Ts "
we use this site as we want to use it.... |
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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago
belfast |
"i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee. "
Thought it was just us.Thank you 4 saying it there. |
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I don't see any harm in it. There are a lot of singles on here and most people who are serious on here enjoy the social side as much as the sex side. If that leads to a relationship then that's great for them
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"I keep getting rather alot off messages from guys looking for cozy nights in with DVDs and meals out together getting to know each other and see where it leads ,..... Hmm that's a match .com message in my opinion lol
I'm not here for "dating" as such fair enough yes I hate getting messages saying wanna fuk! But I'd think here would be the last place I'd be looking for the love of my life lol
R any of you here for "dating" or do u agree it's a social fun swinging site? "
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"i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee. "
Have you ever thought.... a lot of guys say this sort of thing because so many women say it's what they want on their profile.
Try replying with "No but I fancy a shag" and see how many insist that's not what they are looking for and it's a meal first or the deal is off. |
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there is no way if I was meeting a guy on my own that I would just go straight to their place or a hotel. We would have to meet in a public place for coffee or a pub. That's why I just go to clubs. |
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"i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee.
Have you ever thought.... a lot of guys say this sort of thing because so many women say it's what they want on their profile.
Try replying with "No but I fancy a shag" and see how many insist that's not what they are looking for and it's a meal first or the deal is off."
But... I _like_ a good chinky.... |
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So if going out for a meal and a drink and seeing how you get on first is not the sort of thing folk should be asking to do on a swinging site and is a match.com thing.... what is it when couples meeting other couples do it? Is that not deemed appropriate behaviour by you? |
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"Everyone uses this for different reasons so please dont be judgemental!
As a single lady I would love to meet the man of my dreams but doubt I will on here, but hey you never know! "
I used to think that way, I met wolf on a swinging site, (not this one) and he is my knight in shining armour.. or should I say... wolf in sheeps clothing... lol... we are very happy together and will be for evermore..
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"Dear OP
So if going out for a meal and a drink and seeing how you get on first is not the sort of thing folk should be asking to do on a swinging site and is a match.com thing.... what is it when couples meeting other couples do it? Is that not deemed appropriate behaviour by you?"
*Scratches in sofa for shrapnel to whisk you off to McDonalds & Wetherspoons as we speak. |
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"Dear OP
So if going out for a meal and a drink and seeing how you get on first is not the sort of thing folk should be asking to do on a swinging site and is a match.com thing.... what is it when couples meeting other couples do it? Is that not deemed appropriate behaviour by you?"
ahh but us couples just clutter up a site designed for singles to meet singles...i mean thats what swinging is isnt it? |
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"i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee.
Have you ever thought.... a lot of guys say this sort of thing because so many women say it's what they want on their profile.
Try replying with "No but I fancy a shag" and see how many insist that's not what they are looking for and it's a meal first or the deal is off."
Very true, Men tend to have been forced to believe all women want to be treated as a princess, that they want to be respected, cherished and held.
To a point I imagine generally this is true, but men aren't often told women like more than that.
If I was to offer such a thing, I wouldn't mean it as a date per se, but as a way to show I'm respectful and so on. |
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surely this site is to use as you wish
if someone on here is single and they want to get into a swinging relationship a swinging site is the idea place to look for a partner
So long as they are honest about what they are looking for if people want to find a relationship on here whats it got to do with anyone else? |
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"surely this site is to use as you wish
if someone on here is single and they want to get into a swinging relationship a swinging site is the idea place to look for a partner
So long as they are honest about what they are looking for if people want to find a relationship on here whats it got to do with anyone else?"
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"surely this site is to use as you wish
if someone on here is single and they want to get into a swinging relationship a swinging site is the idea place to look for a partner
So long as they are honest about what they are looking for if people want to find a relationship on here whats it got to do with anyone else? "
Yeah that makes sense |
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"Not here for dating, at all - this is the last place I'd think of for that kind of thing lol"
nor am i, but all because its not what im looking for does not mean i dont think other should
if people want to date on here thats upto them, but i think the main thing is what some call dating others dont, some have stated they dont want to go for a drink with people off here cause its not a dating site where as i dont see meeting someone on here for a drink as a date |
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"I keep getting rather alot off messages from guys looking for cozy nights in with DVDs and meals out together getting to know each other and see where it leads ,..... Hmm that's a match .com message in my opinion lol
I'm not here for "dating" as such fair enough yes I hate getting messages saying wanna fuk! But I'd think here would be the last place I'd be looking for the love of my life lol
R any of you here for "dating" or do u agree it's a social fun swinging site? "
Yes, I agree. I's a fun 'social' swinging site. It's not a dating site. So if I arrange to meet a guy for a drink to 'see where it leads' it's a 'social' time to see if I would want to invite them into my home for an evening of shagging... this of course works both ways, the guy might decide he can't stand my company.
So not so much a 'date' as an interview of sorts.
As to meeting the love of yer life, if I was looking to find that, then finding it here would be a bonus wouldn't it? |
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From a male POV, I understand why some men on here want to differentiate themselves as softer and maybe more respectful of women. Perhaps they feel shouted out by well hung men who seem to meet loads of women and treat 'em mean.
HOWEVER, this is a site for consenting adults who are capable of reading and understanding the possibilities that life throws at you. So be true to yourself, grap the rope and enjoy the swing.
"surely this site is to use as you wish
if someone on here is single and they want to get into a swinging relationship a swinging site is the idea place to look for a partner
So long as they are honest about what they are looking for if people want to find a relationship on here whats it got to do with anyone else?"
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