I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me? |
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"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?"
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"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?
Does his wife/girlfriend know he's on here?"
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"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?
Does his wife/girlfriend know he's on here?
No"
Then I'd steer clear. No matter how much you like the guy, imagine how his wife would feel- and how horrible it would be if it were your husband cheating behind your back... It's just not worth it in my opinion, aside from just being a crappy thing to do, there's also the drama it could cause you if she found out. |
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"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?"
It's him that's in the wrong not you x |
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"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?"
block him........... deliver us not unto temptation for mine is the lord    |
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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago
so near and yet so far.... |
"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?"
Meet him to see if there are vibes otherwise you’ll always wonder what if... |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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Stick to your principles OP. Like me, he'll struggle to find someone willing to meet him due to his marital status but, also like me, he will find someone eventually and you dont have to compromise you your standards.
There's also lots of truely single guys on here so you'll not be without a potential meet for long.
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"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?
Does his wife/girlfriend know he's on here?
No
Then I'd steer clear. No matter how much you like the guy, imagine how his wife would feel- and how horrible it would be if it were your husband cheating behind your back... It's just not worth it in my opinion, aside from just being a crappy thing to do, there's also the drama it could cause you if she found out."
Also, if he's willing to lie to his wife and go behind her back, he's probably got no problems lying about other things. STI status, stealthing, whatever.
I wouldn't trust the guy as far as you could throw him. |
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"what is your gut instinct telling you to do
Meet him for a social and sèe how it goes. Lifes too short for regrets. Is this wrong?"
In my opinion he’s probably saying the right things to you to get into your knickers behind his poor wife/ gfs back .... |
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What you need to do OP
Is this
Take a piece of paper, and write a note to yourself
" this man will lie to me, manipulate me, stand me up, piss me about, disrespect me, expect me to meet him at a moments notice"
Oh and " bore the crap out of me telling me about his boring wife, her shoe collection, and controlling tendencies"
Then ask yourself. Is that ok? |
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"What you need to do OP
Is this
Take a piece of paper, and write a note to yourself
" this man will lie to me, manipulate me, stand me up, piss on me, disrespect me, expect me to meet him at a moments notice"
Oh and " bore the crap out of me telling me about his boring wife, her shoe collection, and controlling tendencies"
Then ask yourself. Is that ok?"
Why would he piss on you ? |
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"What you need to do OP
Is this
Take a piece of paper, and write a note to yourself
" this man will lie to me, manipulate me, stand me up, piss on me, disrespect me, expect me to meet him at a moments notice"
Oh and " bore the crap out of me telling me about his boring wife, her shoe collection, and controlling tendencies"
Then ask yourself. Is that ok?
Why would he piss on you ? "
water sports?? |
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"What you need to do OP
Is this
Take a piece of paper, and write a note to yourself
" this man will lie to me, manipulate me, stand me up, piss on me, disrespect me, expect me to meet him at a moments notice"
Oh and " bore the crap out of me telling me about his boring wife, her shoe collection, and controlling tendencies"
Then ask yourself. Is that ok?
Why would he piss on you ? "
Because his wife wont let him
It would mess up her hair |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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He is married and he lives close by. It's not even like you have the safety of distance if his wife should find out. It's up to you, like you said, you don't want regrets, but you might regret meeting him if drama follows. Or even just a guilty conscience. |
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"The fact your on here asking for advice and not just going ahead tells me you have your own doubts ..  "
I dont have doubts. I want to meet him. He looks lovely and i want to meet him face to face. Not many men have this effect on me but the minute i saw him i thought " wow". I dont fall in love now. Thats not what i am here for. |
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As others have said, he is the one who is cheating... You are obviously party to that, but unless you are after a 'relationship' with him, you might just be helping him stay in a sexless marriage for whatever reason he has decided that he needs to...
I was cheated on by my ex-husband but it wasn't just about sex, it was emotional... BIG difference in my book.
At the end of the day, only you can decide. Good luck with your decision.
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"The fact your on here asking for advice and not just going ahead tells me you have your own doubts ..
I dont have doubts. I want to meet him. He looks lovely and i want to meet him face to face. Not many men have this effect on me but the minute i saw him i thought " wow". I dont fall in love now. Thats not what i am here for. "
Fair enough ,but id say meet in person and your gut will lead you ,but living close to you could blow up in your face be careful its YOUR choice after all .. |
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If you are already planning to forget your policy of not meeting marrieds, then you are very keen on this guy. If you meet you will probably get even keener...and that down that road lies an affair and a pile of hurt (for you, even if his wife doesn't find out). |
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"The fact your on here asking for advice and not just going ahead tells me you have your own doubts ..
I dont have doubts. I want to meet him. He looks lovely and i want to meet him face to face. Not many men have this effect on me but the minute i saw him i thought " wow". I dont fall in love now. Thats not what i am here for. Fair enough ,but id say meet in person and your gut will lead you ,but living close to you could blow up in your face be careful its YOUR choice after all .."
10 miles away. Not too close |
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"The fact your on here asking for advice and not just going ahead tells me you have your own doubts ..
I dont have doubts. I want to meet him. He looks lovely and i want to meet him face to face. Not many men have this effect on me but the minute i saw him i thought " wow". I dont fall in love now. Thats not what i am here for. Fair enough ,but id say meet in person and your gut will lead you ,but living close to you could blow up in your face be careful its YOUR choice after all ..
10 miles away. Not too close"
Are you after a relationship or fun. If it’s fun yes or if it’s not say no
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"what is your gut instinct telling you to do
Meet him for a social and sèe how it goes. Lifes too short for regrets. Is this wrong?"
Not wrong. You're not responsible for anybody else's life choices but your own. |
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"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?
Does his wife/girlfriend know he's on here?
No"
I'd steer clear last thing you'd want is a bat shit mental Mrs turning up to confront you
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OP, from your responses so far it seems like you've made up your mind already. I'm just wondering what exactly is it that you're hoping for here? Do you feel guilty and if enough people say they'd meet a married guy will that make you feel better about it?
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"The fact your on here asking for advice and not just going ahead tells me you have your own doubts ..
I dont have doubts. I want to meet him. He looks lovely and i want to meet him face to face. Not many men have this effect on me but the minute i saw him i thought " wow". I dont fall in love now. Thats not what i am here for. Fair enough ,but id say meet in person and your gut will lead you ,but living close to you could blow up in your face be careful its YOUR choice after all ..
10 miles away. Not too close
Are you after a relationship or fun. If it’s fun yes or if it’s not say no
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I am here for fun encounters. I am no bunny boiler |
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Personally I have no issue meeting married people if I can be sure they are here with their partners knowledge and consent. I wouldn't meet anyone behind their partners back though. It's against what I believe in and I don't want to get caught up in the fall out if they get found out. |
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Haven't read the replies but only you can decide if you want to put yourself in the position of him only being available to message when the wife isn't around. Of you being his last priority. Of having issues of when to meet, where to meet, can he do overnights. Think about all your queries then ask the questions but also remember he will probably tell you he can meet weekends and loads of over nights but it could end up not being the case. This is my own experiences.
However given all that If you still want him meet for a social and see how you go |
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