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A few musings I would love an opion
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Rejection... Take it on the chin dudes, I'm rejected a LOT, just have to carry on... Although see above steps perhaps be less rejection?
Club snobs, I cannot fathom why there's men on here that look down on women who choose to go to clubs. They are clean, safe, provide protection, private in some spaces... From a safety point of view its the best place to meet and potentially play! If either of you are unhappy or don't feel comfortable your in a safe space. On the subject of clubs, don't believe the hype, they arnt seedy, they arnt dirty (at least where I go) so perhaps try one and you may be generally more successful!
I sound ranty and many, I don't mean to. I have met some amazing people from fab, kept in touch with friends etc but have had my fair share of men that promise the world then fuck off never to be seen again (I know it's my own fault) just be honest from the start, respectful and generally a good person!
And theres way too many Christian grey wannabes on here!
Long may the great meets and conversations continue! Sending love to all xx
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"My opinion is that the things you describe are a useful filter for you. Single men get a lot of stick on here, the points you make are regularly mentioned yet nothing changes apparently. This leads me to believe that the guys you describe have their own reasons for running their profiles the way they do "Ahh there's some great single guys on here, not to discredit everyone at all... I'm all for flirting with singles but a tad more respect would be nice | |||
"My opinion is that the things you describe are a useful filter for you. Single men get a lot of stick on here, the points you make are regularly mentioned yet nothing changes apparently. This leads me to believe that the guys you describe have their own reasons for running their profiles the way they do
Ahh there's some great single guys on here, not to discredit everyone at all... I'm all for flirting with singles but a tad more respect would be nice "Yes, respect is a good thing | |||
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"There's a lot of sweeping generalisations in what you say OP although I don't deny some of it is true - as Nicecouple say the things you point out are regularly pointed out - the thing is though why worry about things you can't change? I've found over time it's better to worry about the things and people that DO interest you than waste energy on those that don't - there will ALWAYS be guys on here who do the things you say, just as there will ALWAYS be those that moan about them, so little point letting it bother you "Possibly more of a therapeutic rant for me this morning | |||
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I pissed myself laughing about the multitude of cock shots, it puts me off a guys profile straight away!
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"It’s too hard to get a conversation going on here Too many fast decisions made on the very superficial which is probably why so many men resort to blunt approaches. Be interesting to see the impact of only clothed photos being allowed on profiles. Very few profiles have anything that would lead to a conversation that was about a thing other than sex. " I don't feel it's superficial, you either are or arnt attracted to someone u can't force it, and sending very sexual first messages do not do any favours just makes people think they are a bit of a tit really. You could be the hottest man or woman on the planet, first message talking about what would do to me I'd delete it as its not wanted | |||
"It’s too hard to get a conversation going on here Too many fast decisions made on the very superficial which is probably why so many men resort to blunt approaches. Be interesting to see the impact of only clothed photos being allowed on profiles. Very few profiles have anything that would lead to a conversation that was about a thing other than sex. " That's possibly because those profile owners don't want a conversation about anything but sex. We have a line in our profile offering purely social meets just for chatting. How many people would you estimate have contacted us for that? | |||
"It’s too hard to get a conversation going on here Too many fast decisions made on the very superficial which is probably why so many men resort to blunt approaches. Be interesting to see the impact of only clothed photos being allowed on profiles. Very few profiles have anything that would lead to a conversation that was about a thing other than sex. I don't feel it's superficial, you either are or arnt attracted to someone u can't force it, and sending very sexual first messages do not do any favours just makes people think they are a bit of a tit really. You could be the hottest man or woman on the planet, first message talking about what would do to me I'd delete it as its not wanted " Maybe I’m odd but there are plenty I’ve met that I’ve been instantly attracted to and then put off and other that the attraction has grown as I got to know them | |||
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"Re the 150 cock pics. I spend my weekends making detailed life size plasticine replicas from those profiles, lovingly recreating every vein and wart, then sticking pins in them. Please keep up the self cock worship guys! I need new members to maim!" Best comment! | |||
"Wonder what fab would be like if single males weren’t allowed to send the first message...?" I imagine much quieter place with some very pissed off and frustrated people... I don't have a problem with people sending me a message, but at least say hello before requesting to stick your tongue in places | |||
"Wonder what fab would be like if single males weren’t allowed to send the first message...? I imagine much quieter place with some very pissed off and frustrated people... I don't have a problem with people sending me a message, but at least say hello before requesting to stick your tongue in places" Haha. I can’t believe people actually open a chat with a request like that. Maybe that’s what I’m getting wrong, haha | |||
"Wonder what fab would be like if single males weren’t allowed to send the first message...? I imagine much quieter place with some very pissed off and frustrated people... I don't have a problem with people sending me a message, but at least say hello before requesting to stick your tongue in places Haha. I can’t believe people actually open a chat with a request like that. Maybe that’s what I’m getting wrong, haha" Oh god. Please don't go to the dark side | |||
"Wonder what fab would be like if single males weren’t allowed to send the first message...? I imagine much quieter place with some very pissed off and frustrated people... I don't have a problem with people sending me a message, but at least say hello before requesting to stick your tongue in places Haha. I can’t believe people actually open a chat with a request like that. Maybe that’s what I’m getting wrong, haha Oh god. Please don't go to the dark side " Haha. Just giving tigress lily some more cocks to maim | |||
" Haha. I can’t believe people actually open a chat with a request like that. Maybe that’s what I’m getting wrong, haha" Sadly in my experience about half the first messages I receive are along those lines, usually accompanied by an unattractive dick pic. About 40% of messages are uninspiring "hi" "how you doing?" type or obviously a copy & paste job. So maybe 1 in 10 messages have potential. And of those about half clearly haven't read my profile & very quickly it becomes clear that they are looking for very different things. | |||
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