Morning all well I'm wondering if anyone else as had similar happen as we have.
So we had spoken about a 3 some for some time always got put off then the mrs meets a new friend at work she was very out going from the start little bit flirty enjoyed a laugh and a joke and wasn't put off by my sexual puns and general flirtyness..they made a close bond over time i always cracked a joke of 2 about having the 2 of them then it finally happened it was great fun on a few different occasions. But then it turns out she got really strong feelings for me which I said from the start its strictly fun nothing more anyway as I say she got strong feelings and she said she wanted to br my partners equal wanted to be treated the same basically wanted me as her partner aswell and from then things went down hill and they are no longer friends not just because of what happened but it was the start to it.
As anyone else been in that situation as I feel abit bad that my fantasy ruined a good friendship ut then I think was that her intentions to be with me all along |
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We had fun with two of mrs’ friends and her other close friend was very annoyed she wasn’t invited back too (had gone home in taxi early)
You can’t plan what will happen after having fun, quite possible your third had this idea from the start ? |
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"We had fun with two of mrs’ friends and her other close friend was very annoyed she wasn’t invited back too (had gone home in taxi early)
You can’t plan what will happen after having fun, quite possible your third had this idea from the start ?"
My thoughts yeah |
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That's a reason that we would never play with our vanilla friends. Not worth the risk.
Better off staying to meeeting genuine swingers who understwnd the boundaries. It should only be 'sex'. No strong emotions should ever become involved. |
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I had a 3sum with my ex hubby and my best friend, he wasn't a swinger nor was I at the time but it all got very messy and he developed feelings for her!! Somethings are best left as fantasy, I would never do it with people I know now as its too awkward I feel
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"That's a reason that we would never play with our vanilla friends. Not worth the risk.
Better off staying to meeeting genuine swingers who understwnd the boundaries. It should only be 'sex'. No strong emotions should ever become involved."
Well I did try and put boundaries as that's what it all about and I thought she understood it but clearly not lol but you live n learn I suppose |
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"I had a 3sum with my ex hubby and my best friend, he wasn't a swinger nor was I at the time but it all got very messy and he developed feelings for her!! Somethings are best left as fantasy, I would never do it with people I know now as its too awkward I feel
Ms D "
Wont be making the same mistake again |
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"Never been in that situation but it's happened, it could have turned out differently but it didn't. The only thing you can do is not make the same mistake again."
Very true indeed and it wont happen again well not with someone that dont understand it's only fun anyway |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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Seems like you should all have communicated better before anything happened. If everyone's honest and clear on possible outcomes then it shouldn't have been a problem.
The exact same scenario happened with me and my ex wife's work friend, but we worked out we all wanted the same thing before anything happened - it ended up being a fantastic 12 months.
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"Seems like you should all have communicated better before anything happened. If everyone's honest and clear on possible outcomes then it shouldn't have been a problem.
The exact same scenario happened with me and my ex wife's work friend, but we worked out we all wanted the same thing before anything happened - it ended up being a fantastic 12 months.
K"
Honestly we thought we had made it clear and we set boundaries as we normally would but I suppose her feelings got the better of her |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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I suppose it proves it's impossible to be a friend as well as just a 'plaything' - even if she thought she could. Shame the way it ended, sounds like it could have been so much more.  |
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"Never been in that situation but it's happened, it could have turned out differently but it didn't. The only thing you can do is not make the same mistake again.
Very true indeed and it wont happen again well not with someone that dont understand it's only fun anyway "
People will say they understand when they don't, people will truly understand but find they develop feelings down the line. I've seen both happen. It's a risk you take with repeat meets with just one person or just one couple |
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"I had a 3sum with my ex hubby and my best friend, he wasn't a swinger nor was I at the time but it all got very messy and he developed feelings for her!! Somethings are best left as fantasy, I would never do it with people I know now as its too awkward I feel
Ms D
Wont be making the same mistake again "
Most definitely not I will be keeping it in fab world |
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By *tunna13Man
over a year ago
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I meet a couple and the next day after we had fun she messaged and come back for more fun on her own sayn her fella known and then she wouldn't leave me alone but they ended up splitting up was a bit scary haha |
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