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First time at a club... tonight! Help
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By *rouble1998 OP Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Ok so I’m taking the plunge and going to a club for the first time ever tonight and I have a few questions for ladies...
What should I wear?
Also what should I wear on my feet?
Are there any unwritten rules? |
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over a year ago
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"Ok so I’m taking the plunge and going to a club for the first time ever tonight and I have a few questions for ladies...
What should I wear?
Also what should I wear on my feet?
Are there any unwritten rules?"
Depends what you’re looking for! If you want to play and get a lot of attention, wear something that shows off that bum 
I’m funny about my feet getting wet at a club because even the cleanest clubs can’t guarantee their wet areas are really clean, so I always wear flip flops or slip on shoes.
Don’t be afraid to say no to people and don’t allow yourself to get railroaded into doing something you’re not comfortable with.
Tell the staff that it’s your first club visit and they’ll look after you.
And have fun! |
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By *ill74Man
over a year ago
New forest area |
"Ok so I’m taking the plunge and going to a club for the first time ever tonight and I have a few questions for ladies...
What should I wear?
Also what should I wear on my feet?
Are there any unwritten rules?"
You are in charge. No means no. You choose what you want to do, and where. Possibly get chatting to some couples, and they will help guide you through the night.
And agreed, that is a lovely bum!
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"Ok so I’m taking the plunge and going to a club for the first time ever tonight and I have a few questions for ladies...
What should I wear?
Also what should I wear on my feet?
Are there any unwritten rules?
Depends what you’re looking for! If you want to play and get a lot of attention, wear something that shows off that bum
I’m funny about my feet getting wet at a club because even the cleanest clubs can’t guarantee their wet areas are really clean, so I always wear flip flops or slip on shoes.
Don’t be afraid to say no to people and don’t allow yourself to get railroaded into doing something you’re not comfortable with.
Tell the staff that it’s your first club visit and they’ll look after you.
And have fun! "
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By *andl76Couple
over a year ago
north east |
You’ll be fine ... your biggest problem might be too much attention! A nice position to be in though- you’ll have the pick of the party looking at your photos .
Always good advice to know what you want beforehand and absolutely don’t feel bad about saying that’s not for me tonight . Maybe another time . Enjoy |
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By *rouble1998 OP Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
"You’ll be fine ... your biggest problem might be too much attention! A nice position to be in though- you’ll have the pick of the party looking at your photos .
Always good advice to know what you want beforehand and absolutely don’t feel bad about saying that’s not for me tonight . Maybe another time . Enjoy "
Definitely good advice! I’ve given it quite a bit of thought but decided to bite the bullet tonight. I guess my main worry is getting to know some people, I’m mainly going for a good time!  |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
If it's a mixed night with single men (making an educated guess where you're going, and I don't know their calendar), you can expect to receive a lot of attention. Don't be scared of asserting yourself if they get too attentive. You're there for you, not them.
It's common to start out in normal going-out clothes (generally the sexier end of that range), then change into something more revealing. At some clubs that might extend to fully naked (some only allow that in the play areas). But it's up to you - the important thing is to feel comfortable and confident. You should have a locker to keep things in, so maybe take a few options and decide how daring you feel at the time.
A lot of women wear heels, and keep them on all night (only taking them off to play). I recommend bringing something sensible too, for going home at the end of the night.
Don't drink too much. You might like a little to help you relax, but this isn't like other kinds of nights out. You need to stay in control.
Have fun! You've got all the ingredients to make an unforgettable night. |
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By *rouble1998 OP Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
"If it's a mixed night with single men (making an educated guess where you're going, and I don't know their calendar), you can expect to receive a lot of attention. Don't be scared of asserting yourself if they get too attentive. You're there for you, not them.
It's common to start out in normal going-out clothes (generally the sexier end of that range), then change into something more revealing. At some clubs that might extend to fully naked (some only allow that in the play areas). But it's up to you - the important thing is to feel comfortable and confident. You should have a locker to keep things in, so maybe take a few options and decide how daring you feel at the time.
A lot of women wear heels, and keep them on all night (only taking them off to play). I recommend bringing something sensible too, for going home at the end of the night.
Don't drink too much. You might like a little to help you relax, but this isn't like other kinds of nights out. You need to stay in control.
Have fun! You've got all the ingredients to make an unforgettable night."
Hi, thanks for the advice. I am going to a mixed sex event but I’m going to go with a couple who I’ve met on here so they can hopefully show me the ropes.
I’m usually not shy about telling people no if I’m not into it. I’m just hoping that the single men will be respectful and not creepy because I hear that can sometimes be the case |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
Wear what you feel confident and sexy in but I’m sure once your there you won’t be thinking to much about what your wearing, perhaps take some sexy lingerie to dress down in if it’s a dress down club, have fun |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
"I’m just hoping that the single men will be respectful and not creepy because I hear that can sometimes be the case "
I can only say what the club I go to is like. Most men there are decent - they know their continued membership depends on people not complaining about them. But the other kind does exist, and you might have the misfortune to encounter one. Your couple will no doubt know the club and its regulars, and they'll be able to look after you. At least until you're comfortable enough to go off on your own.
A lot of single women go to clubs on their own and have a great time. I'm sure it won't take you long to settle in. |
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