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What do men get out of seeing their wifes play
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over a year ago
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Hi. I have been trying to explain to my wife why i love the idea of her being a hotwife and playing with other guys, and how horny it makes me. She says she cant understand how i enjoy sharing her.
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can I just say from a woman's point of view that unless you explain fully that sex is not the same as love in your opinion and make sure she knows exactly how much you love and value her she will never understand why you enjoy seeing her with another man. I would also say stop using the word sharing, you don't own her or her sexuality and if she wants to do this its because she has made the decision. You seem to be looking at it entirely from your own and other men's point of view, take a step back and try and look at it from her angle. Have you ensured she knows that she's enough for you, have you told her that your motive is as much about her enjoying herself as you (it is isn't it?)? Have you asked her what she might get out of it? |
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"can I just say from a woman's point of view that unless you explain fully that sex is not the same as love in your opinion and make sure she knows exactly how much you love and value her she will never understand why you enjoy seeing her with another man. I would also say stop using the word sharing, you don't own her or her sexuality and if she wants to do this its because she has made the decision. You seem to be looking at it entirely from your own and other men's point of view, take a step back and try and look at it from her angle. Have you ensured she knows that she's enough for you, have you told her that your motive is as much about her enjoying herself as you (it is isn't it?)? Have you asked her what she might get out of it?"
Nail on head, and if she doesn't like the sound of it because she doesn't understand it because to her it feels wrong, then she's hardly gonna enjoy it.
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"can I just say from a woman's point of view that unless you explain fully that sex is not the same as love in your opinion and make sure she knows exactly how much you love and value her she will never understand why you enjoy seeing her with another man. I would also say stop using the word sharing, you don't own her or her sexuality and if she wants to do this its because she has made the decision. You seem to be looking at it entirely from your own and other men's point of view, take a step back and try and look at it from her angle. Have you ensured she knows that she's enough for you, have you told her that your motive is as much about her enjoying herself as you (it is isn't it?)? Have you asked her what she might get out of it?"
Thank you for your comments. I agree sharing may have been the wrong choice of words. My motive is definitely about her enjoying herself. That is what i like the idea of, her enjoyment, not just to see her with another guy.
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"can I just say from a woman's point of view that unless you explain fully that sex is not the same as love in your opinion and make sure she knows exactly how much you love and value her she will never understand why you enjoy seeing her with another man. I would also say stop using the word sharing, you don't own her or her sexuality and if she wants to do this its because she has made the decision. You seem to be looking at it entirely from your own and other men's point of view, take a step back and try and look at it from her angle. Have you ensured she knows that she's enough for you, have you told her that your motive is as much about her enjoying herself as you (it is isn't it?)? Have you asked her what she might get out of it? Thank you for your comments. I agree sharing may have been the wrong choice of words. My motive is definitely about her enjoying herself. That is what i like the idea of, her enjoyment, not just to see her with another guy. "
Yes, but if she doesn't understand it, she'll find it confusing and there's every chance it would do more harm than good and end up creating questions and doubts in her own mind
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talked to my partner while we were playing in bed , asked her how she would feel if she had another guy layed the other side of her so she could have a cock in both her hands. and i would be nibbling her nipples while he could be licking her clit. she had an orgasm just talking about it. so was no problem making both our dreams come true, |
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"talked to my partner while we were playing in bed , asked her how she would feel if she had another guy layed the other side of her so she could have a cock in both her hands. and i would be nibbling her nipples while he could be licking her clit. she had an orgasm just talking about it. so was no problem making both our dreams come true, "
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"Hi. I have been trying to explain to my wife why i love the idea of her being a hotwife and playing with other guys, and how horny it makes me. She says she cant understand how i enjoy sharing her.
What do other husbands get out of it and how did you explain it to your wifes? "
With my ex she got so much more out of it we had a good sex life but sleeping with others just spiced it up more |
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"can I just say from a woman's point of view that unless you explain fully that sex is not the same as love in your opinion and make sure she knows exactly how much you love and value her she will never understand why you enjoy seeing her with another man. I would also say stop using the word sharing, you don't own her or her sexuality and if she wants to do this its because she has made the decision. You seem to be looking at it entirely from your own and other men's point of view, take a step back and try and look at it from her angle. Have you ensured she knows that she's enough for you, have you told her that your motive is as much about her enjoying herself as you (it is isn't it?)? Have you asked her what she might get out of it? Thank you for your comments. I agree sharing may have been the wrong choice of words. My motive is definitely about her enjoying herself. That is what i like the idea of, her enjoyment, not just to see her with another guy. "
ok but your original post made no mention of that and asked how you get her to understand why you would enjoy it. If your explaining to her in those terms she will misunderstand your motives just as I have.
I'm not here to judge you or your relationship, just trying to point out that you might be approaching things from the wrong angle |
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"can I just say from a woman's point of view that unless you explain fully that sex is not the same as love in your opinion and make sure she knows exactly how much you love and value her she will never understand why you enjoy seeing her with another man. I would also say stop using the word sharing, you don't own her or her sexuality and if she wants to do this its because she has made the decision. You seem to be looking at it entirely from your own and other men's point of view, take a step back and try and look at it from her angle. Have you ensured she knows that she's enough for you, have you told her that your motive is as much about her enjoying herself as you (it is isn't it?)? Have you asked her what she might get out of it?"
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"can I just say from a woman's point of view that unless you explain fully that sex is not the same as love in your opinion and make sure she knows exactly how much you love and value her she will never understand why you enjoy seeing her with another man. I would also say stop using the word sharing, you don't own her or her sexuality and if she wants to do this its because she has made the decision. You seem to be looking at it entirely from your own and other men's point of view, take a step back and try and look at it from her angle. Have you ensured she knows that she's enough for you, have you told her that your motive is as much about her enjoying herself as you (it is isn't it?)? Have you asked her what she might get out of it? Thank you for your comments. I agree sharing may have been the wrong choice of words. My motive is definitely about her enjoying herself. That is what i like the idea of, her enjoyment, not just to see her with another guy.
ok but your original post made no mention of that and asked how you get her to understand why you would enjoy it. If your explaining to her in those terms she will misunderstand your motives just as I have.
I'm not here to judge you or your relationship, just trying to point out that you might be approaching things from the wrong angle"
I am greatful for the comments. As you say, i may have not explained it very well. |
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"Hi. I have been trying to explain to my wife why i love the idea of her being a hotwife and playing with other guys, and how horny it makes me. She says she cant understand how i enjoy sharing her.
What do other husbands get out of it and how did you explain it to your wifes? "
Simply put...I get massively turned on and she gets to screwed! Afterwards we get loads of stuff to talk dirty about! |
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Absolutely agree it's the conversations afterwards that puts dynamite into the sexual relationship
The look on her face as she takes her first guy inside her as her husband encourages and totally approves xx |
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"Absolutely agree it's the conversations afterwards that puts dynamite into the sexual relationship
The look on her face as she takes her first guy inside her as her husband encourages and totally approves xx"
The first guy we met with gave her a cheeky slap while she was sucking him off, gold |
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