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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Um it's difficult when there are no clubs in our area and private meets are hard to come by as well!!
Weve been to 2 different clubs and not had the best experience "
Yesterday was my first time ever in a club and i went both. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Club - wouldn’t ever use private rooms"
I'm usually disappointed when couples decide to use a private room, they could have done that at home.
Most times you have watched the approach, the "getting to know you" phase, the flirting and the foreplay and when they are about to play they close the door?!!!
It's like watching a PG13 movie 
Don't mind me, I'm a bit of a perv, I know they aren't there for my viewing pleasure  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Club - wouldn’t ever use private rooms
I'm usually disappointed when couples decide to use a private room, they could have done that at home.
Most times you have watched the approach, the "getting to know you" phase, the flirting and the foreplay and when they are about to play they close the door?!!!
It's like watching a PG13 movie
Don't mind me, I'm a bit of a perv, I know they aren't there for my viewing pleasure "
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Yes, a choice! Maybe it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but we love the communal experience. It just seems a bit sad to go and shut yourself in a little cupboard like we see in some places!
Yes, exactly - our bed at home is more comfortable - and we do like to be for your viewing pleasure! As long as you aren’t a wanking zombie! Appreciative comments are welcome  Does wonders for her self esteem! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Private meets all day long, you’ve established the boundaries beforehand, in clubs it’s like being at a school disco, people waiting for others to ask and awkward fumbles where people suddenly throw up ridiculous rules to the play |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course the risk with choosing a club for a single man is you jump through all the hurdles to get to know them, send the required 12.5 messages then turn up at the club only for the couple to meet another couple they've played with before and ignore or you the female meets a man whose satisfied her before and she chooses old and trusted over new |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Of course the risk with choosing a club for a single man is you jump through all the hurdles to get to know them, send the required 12.5 messages then turn up at the club only for the couple to meet another couple they've played with before and ignore or you the female meets a man whose satisfied her before and she chooses old and trusted over new "
The life of the single man is not an easy one! (But what is in the 0.5 message, I’m curious!!!???) |
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"Of course the risk with choosing a club for a single man is you jump through all the hurdles to get to know them, send the required 12.5 messages then turn up at the club only for the couple to meet another couple they've played with before and ignore or you the female meets a man whose satisfied her before and she chooses old and trusted over new "
Not if I'm around ( fem) more the better for me. My fella also ensures I'm offered to all those who are willing and able to get hard and fuck with a condom on. With the exception of my few no's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Of course the risk with choosing a club for a single man is you jump through all the hurdles to get to know them, send the required 12.5 messages then turn up at the club only for the couple to meet another couple they've played with before and ignore or you the female meets a man whose satisfied her before and she chooses old and trusted over new
The life of the single man is not an easy one! (But what is in the 0.5 message, I’m curious!!!???)"
Technicalky one can consider dabbing all their pictures and supporting them on forum posts as half a message right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Of course the risk with choosing a club for a single man is you jump through all the hurdles to get to know them, send the required 12.5 messages then turn up at the club only for the couple to meet another couple they've played with before and ignore or you the female meets a man whose satisfied her before and she chooses old and trusted over new
Not if I'm around ( fem) more the better for me. My fella also ensures I'm offered to all those who are willing and able to get hard and fuck with a condom on. With the exception of my few no's. "
Fair enough but I'd at least expect some one on one time with the lady if we've gone through all the trouble to arrange a meet. Turning up and joining a gangbang or MMF is quite like auditioning for a role and when you turn up for the job being told you're a backup. |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Club - wouldn’t ever use private rooms
I'm usually disappointed when couples decide to use a private room, they could have done that at home.
Most times you have watched the approach, the "getting to know you" phase, the flirting and the foreplay and when they are about to play they close the door?!!!
It's like watching a PG13 movie
Don't mind me, I'm a bit of a perv, I know they aren't there for my viewing pleasure
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Yes, a choice! Maybe it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but we love the communal experience. It just seems a bit sad to go and shut yourself in a little cupboard like we see in some places!
Yes, exactly - our bed at home is more comfortable - and we do like to be for your viewing pleasure! As long as you aren’t a wanking zombie! Appreciative comments are welcome Does wonders for her self esteem!"
It is a very diferent experience i agree with you home is more relaxed and pleasure feels better i can't really understand the point of someone be a wanking Zombie when can join and enjoy the full experience |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Of course the risk with choosing a club for a single man is you jump through all the hurdles to get to know them, send the required 12.5 messages then turn up at the club only for the couple to meet another couple they've played with before and ignore or you the female meets a man whose satisfied her before and she chooses old and trusted over new "
It’s a dog eats dog world |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Club - wouldn’t ever use private rooms
I'm usually disappointed when couples decide to use a private room, they could have done that at home.
Most times you have watched the approach, the "getting to know you" phase, the flirting and the foreplay and when they are about to play they close the door?!!!
It's like watching a PG13 movie
Don't mind me, I'm a bit of a perv, I know they aren't there for my viewing pleasure
Replying to 2 at once:
Yes, a choice! Maybe it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but we love the communal experience. It just seems a bit sad to go and shut yourself in a little cupboard like we see in some places!
Yes, exactly - our bed at home is more comfortable - and we do like to be for your viewing pleasure! As long as you aren’t a wanking zombie! Appreciative comments are welcome Does wonders for her self esteem!
It is a very diferent experience i agree with you home is more relaxed and pleasure feels better i can't really understand the point of someone be a wanking Zombie when can join and enjoy the full experience "
You can't quite join in without permission can you? And that is seldom given |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Club for us...but we've had some great private meets!"
I only had private meets , to me clubs are a very new experience.
Only went first time on friday and not better not worst just a totally different experience |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree it's pretty hit and miss with clubs, sometimes you can have a full house but the groups form a closed circle and only play with one another. Other times... Well those are the times we really hope for |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"I prefer a club setting, lots safer, even if you're meeting someone specific "
I agree is very save in clubs , never had problems in private always lovely people i have beem but when comes time someone want meet but are not comfortable to chat defenitly club is best option |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Of course the risk with choosing a club for a single man is you jump through all the hurdles to get to know them, send the required 12.5 messages then turn up at the club only for the couple to meet another couple they've played with before and ignore or you the female meets a man whose satisfied her before and she chooses old and trusted over new "
Well in your case i would sugest go always early to avoid that situation hapen . Tjey always tell me you need to come early because you never know how is the trafic , this is related to work place  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Of course the risk with choosing a club for a single man is you jump through all the hurdles to get to know them, send the required 12.5 messages then turn up at the club only for the couple to meet another couple they've played with before and ignore or you the female meets a man whose satisfied her before and she chooses old and trusted over new
Well in your case i would sugest go always early to avoid that situation hapen . Tjey always tell me you need to come early because you never know how is the trafic , this is related to work place "
Hasn't happened to me (yet), I prefer private meets when meeting for the first time. But I've certainly seen it happen to a few single males at clubs though. |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Club - wouldn’t ever use private rooms
I'm usually disappointed when couples decide to use a private room, they could have done that at home.
Most times you have watched the approach, the "getting to know you" phase, the flirting and the foreplay and when they are about to play they close the door?!!!
It's like watching a PG13 movie
Don't mind me, I'm a bit of a perv, I know they aren't there for my viewing pleasure
Replying to 2 at once:
Yes, a choice! Maybe it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but we love the communal experience. It just seems a bit sad to go and shut yourself in a little cupboard like we see in some places!
Yes, exactly - our bed at home is more comfortable - and we do like to be for your viewing pleasure! As long as you aren’t a wanking zombie! Appreciative comments are welcome Does wonders for her self esteem!
It is a very diferent experience i agree with you home is more relaxed and pleasure feels better i can't really understand the point of someone be a wanking Zombie when can join and enjoy the full experience
You can't quite join in without permission can you? And that is seldom given "
That is a golden rule right ? No means no .
Sometimes i can be invited i say yes but i always say no to the ones who not ask permission and they don't play the rules |
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"Of course the risk with choosing a club for a single man is you jump through all the hurdles to get to know them, send the required 12.5 messages then turn up at the club only for the couple to meet another couple they've played with before and ignore or you the female meets a man whose satisfied her before and she chooses old and trusted over new "
And don’t forget that moment in a play area (like in a gym); checking the last people to use it have wiped the zone down.........  |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"1st meet is always in clubs then after that don't mind. "
I been atending Pandora in Leeds this last days first time ever in a club on Thursday and i think now also it is the best option as you say for first meetings |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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If planned we prefer private, do the whole date type thing then retire for fun. No rush, no time limits etc.
Clubs for us are somewhere to go for a drink, chat & see what happens on the night. Obviously also ok if someone prefers a first meet in a club too.
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Private meets all day long, you’ve established the boundaries beforehand, in clubs it’s like being at a school disco, people waiting for others to ask and awkward fumbles where people suddenly throw up ridiculous rules to the play"
I think clubs really can offer a very enjoyable experience.
Yes there's rules what i believe they help keep a good atmosphere and respect . Theres rooms where you can let door open and give the permission to anyone who want join. Also is fair to say, the fact is a club the conection and chemestry still apply when comes to choose wich people to play with or other way arround when people will choose you or not to play with them |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Unless you're a single female, it's club only, not that people read it on our profile and still ask for social meets  "
I just started attending club few days ago and that changed my all perspective about meetings defenitly club , as single i do prefer and i never had any bad experience in private never,always met great people but club offer a great experience i haven't experienced before |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"If planned we prefer private, do the whole date type thing then retire for fun. No rush, no time limits etc.
Clubs for us are somewhere to go for a drink, chat & see what happens on the night. Obviously also ok if someone prefers a first meet in a club too.
S
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Yes the club always have open and close times what i agree with you in private there's no limit time most times .
Also agree the all date type experience is more intense people get know each other better but in club also is possible have a lovely and relaxed chat and meet great people and have a litle of that experience before retire for fun .
But of course both are diferent experiences |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
You could also put private parties into the mix. Just as much opportunity for group play as a club and everyone is an invited guest which can have an advantage . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my head , having sex in a club seems really exciting, but i think in reality I'd have a confidence crisis about how I looked to people viewing?? ... Or maybe I'd be more inspired to put on a show?
I like the idea of the dark room and being fucked by random people you can't see ... But then how do you know if they are clean... arrgghhh... My brain would be in overdrive i think 
So maybe private for now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Club - I can decide to just window shop and not actually participate. I also get get to watch other people play while I enjoy a drink "
There is that... Voyeur about a club but I love a good private massage |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Club - I can decide to just window shop and not actually participate. I also get get to watch other people play while I enjoy a drink
There is that... Voyeur about a club but I love a good private massage "
Who doesn't love a massage The club i go have a lovely massage room never tried but defenitly i will at some point |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"You could also put private parties into the mix. Just as much opportunity for group play as a club and everyone is an invited guest which can have an advantage . "
In private anything can hapen from meet to a party, i went private party and yes are great |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Usually a club for us but we want more private meets too  "
I been always in private and weeks ago in a meet friends they mention about clubs and if i have ever attended any .
They told me is a great experience and they recommend because also i was not too far from clubs .
Not saying one is better than other but because is so new to me, the all experience is so diferent and also great .
Of course i'm not given up from private club is a new experience |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"In my head , having sex in a club seems really exciting, but i think in reality I'd have a confidence crisis about how I looked to people viewing?? ... Or maybe I'd be more inspired to put on a show?
I like the idea of the dark room and being fucked by random people you can't see ... But then how do you know if they are clean... arrgghhh... My brain would be in overdrive i think
So maybe private for now "
Yes i agree with you can be a put of but the club i go always see very clean people , i do think the quality of the club and management they play a big role when comes cleanliness,the facilities and with the quality of the club there's really no excuse to someone do not have shower and do their personal hygiene before jump in no matter if dark room or any other tematic room . But i understand your concern is a concern of many including myself when comes to go to the dark room what is a room i never been |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"In my head , having sex in a club seems really exciting, but i think in reality I'd have a confidence crisis about how I looked to people viewing?? ... Or maybe I'd be more inspired to put on a show?
I like the idea of the dark room and being fucked by random people you can't see ... But then how do you know if they are clean... arrgghhh... My brain would be in overdrive i think
So maybe private for now "
Just adding to my comment before and answering to your question , i do believe you would be more inspired to put on show i have no doubt that wouldn't happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Iv wanted to attend a party for a while now but my nerves allways get the better of me. Never do I have that problem when it comes to a private meet... maybe one day me and a fab lady can attend together.wouldnt feel so nervous being with someone. As silly as it sounds. |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Iv wanted to attend a party for a while now but my nerves allways get the better of me. Never do I have that problem when it comes to a private meet... maybe one day me and a fab lady can attend together.wouldnt feel so nervous being with someone. As silly as it sounds."
Don't sounds silly , is not a easy step to everyone is understandable |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Iv wanted to attend a party for a while now but my nerves allways get the better of me. Never do I have that problem when it comes to a private meet... maybe one day me and a fab lady can attend together.wouldnt feel so nervous being with someone. As silly as it sounds.
Don't sounds silly , is not a easy step to everyone is understandable "
That's kind of you to say thankyou . I will one day that's for sure. Needs ticking of atleast. |
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By *nlivene OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Iv wanted to attend a party for a while now but my nerves allways get the better of me. Never do I have that problem when it comes to a private meet... maybe one day me and a fab lady can attend together.wouldnt feel so nervous being with someone. As silly as it sounds.
Don't sounds silly , is not a easy step to everyone is understandable
That's kind of you to say thankyou . I will one day that's for sure. Needs ticking of atleast."
You welcome .
One day you will attend and you will realize was not that dificult,and actually you really felt very comfortable.
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