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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm sorry if this has been asked 100 times before but how do I bring up the subject of swinging with her? Its more about her getting some than me at the moment |
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"Our sex life has become boring and awkward, I want her to have some excitement back. She's my wife of 17 years "
Ok. What does she want, do you know? Have you talked to her?
How about sitting down with her and asking if she'd like to talk about things then the two of you discuss the things you'd both like. Is that a possibility? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We never really talk about sex, I wish it was that easy. You are right but it's easier said than done. I wish someone would plant the seed in her it would make it easier to talk about it maybe |
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"We never really talk about sex, I wish it was that easy. You are right but it's easier said than done. I wish someone would plant the seed in her it would make it easier to talk about it maybe " I
Well, my opinion as a woman is that I think you should try and talk to her. Don't rely on someone else to plant the seed. Pluck up the courage to talk, start small maybe. How about making a special evening, open a bottle of wine and see if you can both open up a bit? Or what about doing one of those on line things , Google mojo upgrade.
If you hope to ever swing with her you really need to be able to talk to each other
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"What is Google mojo? I think if we manage to talk anything is possible with her. I don't want to fuck up what we have if she doesn't buy into it"
Search using "mojo upgrade"
How will you know if you don't talk about it? I'm not being rude but it's no good thinking you know something about her.
It is difficult to talk about these things and she might have no interest in swinging but if you help each other talk you might discover a whole new area of sex to enjoy with each other.
Lots of women enjoy intimacy it makes them feel safe and more inclined to explore. |
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"I know your right, it's just finding that moment "
I'm not judging or criticising you but invest a bit of time in your sexual relationship at home rather than on here. You never know if might pay dividends.
Good luck, I hope things improve for you both. |
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"Please don't judge me for being on here, I have never cheated on her in 18 years but I am missing something " I
I'm not. I said I wasn't. I don't think any of us are in a position to judge others negatively. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks so much I wish it was that easy, I try really hard believe me
Click on reply+quote under the post you're replying to, we'll know who you're talking to "
Oops sorry, see I'm new lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Please don't judge me for being on here, I have never cheated on her in 18 years but I am missing something I
I'm not. I said I wasn't. I don't think any of us are in a position to judge others negatively." sorry that wasn't meant for you x |
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"Thanks so much I wish it was that easy, I try really hard believe me
Click on reply+quote under the post you're replying to, we'll know who you're talking to
Oops sorry, see I'm new lol"
No problem .
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How do you think she would feel, you already being on here and asking strangers?
Perhaps you should get off here and talk to her about the “boredom “ as you put it, of your current sex life..... " believe me she is just as bored as I am |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If she's bored too she could bring the subject up. It doesn't always have to be the man.
" I really wish she would, I want her to get as much as she can from sex and she isn't at the moment |
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"If she's bored too she could bring the subject up. It doesn't always have to be the man.
I really wish she would, I want her to get as much as she can from sex and she isn't at the moment "
Well one of you had to say something .
When we were talking about starting swinging we used to get out of the house to do it. Even if it was just going for a walk, it was somehow easier when we were away from home. Could you do that, go for a drive, go out for the evening, something like that? |
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"If she's bored too she could bring the subject up. It doesn't always have to be the man.
I really wish she would, I want her to get as much as she can from sex and she isn't at the moment
Well one of you had to say something .
When we were talking about starting swinging we used to get out of the house to do it. Even if it was just going for a walk, it was somehow easier when we were away from home. Could you do that, go for a drive, go out for the evening, something like that?" yeah possibly we walk the dog together and do tend to talk more about other stuff |
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"If she's bored too she could bring the subject up. It doesn't always have to be the man.
I really wish she would, I want her to get as much as she can from sex and she isn't at the moment
Well one of you had to say something .
When we were talking about starting swinging we used to get out of the house to do it. Even if it was just going for a walk, it was somehow easier when we were away from home. Could you do that, go for a drive, go out for the evening, something like that?yeah possibly we walk the dog together and do tend to talk more about other stuff " I
There ya go then. Get the dog some earplugs so he can't hear lol and just take the plunge. |
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"If she's bored too she could bring the subject up. It doesn't always have to be the man.
I really wish she would, I want her to get as much as she can from sex and she isn't at the moment
Well one of you had to say something .
When we were talking about starting swinging we used to get out of the house to do it. Even if it was just going for a walk, it was somehow easier when we were away from home. Could you do that, go for a drive, go out for the evening, something like that?yeah possibly we walk the dog together and do tend to talk more about other stuff I
There ya go then. Get the dog some earplugs so he can't hear lol and just take the plunge. " maybe this weekend then, do I just come out and say do you want to go with another lad |
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"If she's bored too she could bring the subject up. It doesn't always have to be the man.
I really wish she would, I want her to get as much as she can from sex and she isn't at the moment
Well one of you had to say something .
When we were talking about starting swinging we used to get out of the house to do it. Even if it was just going for a walk, it was somehow easier when we were away from home. Could you do that, go for a drive, go out for the evening, something like that?yeah possibly we walk the dog together and do tend to talk more about other stuff I
There ya go then. Get the dog some earplugs so he can't hear lol and just take the plunge. maybe this weekend then, do I just come out and say do you want to go with another lad"
Noooooo.
I don't know your wife obviously but I suggest that you say something along the lines of tell her how much you think of her and you know that just lately things have got a bit samey in the bedroom (emphasise that it isn't her fault) and ask if she'd like to try discussing fantasies. Say you won't judge her fantasies and ask her not to judge you're then hopefully you can start talking. She might never want to swing and if she doesn't you'll have to live with that but what have you got to lose by exploring other fantasies?.
Also be affectionate without leading to sex, prove that you love her for her. Suggesting swinging can make partners feel they aren't enough for you.
Anyway, good luck and never, ever tell your wife you've been talking about her on here or taking advice from another woman. |
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"If she's bored too she could bring the subject up. It doesn't always have to be the man.
I really wish she would, I want her to get as much as she can from sex and she isn't at the moment
Well one of you had to say something .
When we were talking about starting swinging we used to get out of the house to do it. Even if it was just going for a walk, it was somehow easier when we were away from home. Could you do that, go for a drive, go out for the evening, something like that?yeah possibly we walk the dog together and do tend to talk more about other stuff I
There ya go then. Get the dog some earplugs so he can't hear lol and just take the plunge. maybe this weekend then, do I just come out and say do you want to go with another lad
Noooooo.
I don't know your wife obviously but I suggest that you say something along the lines of tell her how much you think of her and you know that just lately things have got a bit samey in the bedroom (emphasise that it isn't her fault) and ask if she'd like to try discussing fantasies. Say you won't judge her fantasies and ask her not to judge you're then hopefully you can start talking. She might never want to swing and if she doesn't you'll have to live with that but what have you got to lose by exploring other fantasies?.
Also be affectionate without leading to sex, prove that you love her for her. Suggesting swinging can make partners feel they aren't enough for you.
Anyway, good luck and never, ever tell your wife you've been talking about her on here or taking advice from another woman. " Aw thanks so much for the advice I have no intention of pressurising her and I do love her more than anything. Id love her to feel desired by other guys too. I won't tell her about this don't worry x |
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This is how we ended up on here:-
Mrs loves her chick flicks and feminist programmes when a she come a cross a drama show called "You me and her". Long story short, it's about a couple who fall for a woman and want a thrupple relationship which got us talking about ideas on the subject. I asked her thoughts about the idea of threesome, 4some and alsorts.
Honesty, trust, open-mindedness and a shit load of talking is deffo needed with heaps of respect towards each other all goes hand in hand.
Good luck op.. |
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"If she's bored too she could bring the subject up. It doesn't always have to be the man.
I really wish she would, I want her to get as much as she can from sex and she isn't at the moment
Well one of you had to say something .
When we were talking about starting swinging we used to get out of the house to do it. Even if it was just going for a walk, it was somehow easier when we were away from home. Could you do that, go for a drive, go out for the evening, something like that?yeah possibly we walk the dog together and do tend to talk more about other stuff I
There ya go then. Get the dog some earplugs so he can't hear lol and just take the plunge. maybe this weekend then, do I just come out and say do you want to go with another lad
Noooooo.
I don't know your wife obviously but I suggest that you say something along the lines of tell her how much you think of her and you know that just lately things have got a bit samey in the bedroom (emphasise that it isn't her fault) and ask if she'd like to try discussing fantasies. Say you won't judge her fantasies and ask her not to judge you're then hopefully you can start talking. She might never want to swing and if she doesn't you'll have to live with that but what have you got to lose by exploring other fantasies?.
Also be affectionate without leading to sex, prove that you love her for her. Suggesting swinging can make partners feel they aren't enough for you.
Anyway, good luck and never, ever tell your wife you've been talking about her on here or taking advice from another woman. Aw thanks so much for the advice I have no intention of pressurising her and I do love her more than anything. Id love her to feel desired by other guys too. I won't tell her about this don't worry x"
I'm not worried if you tell her lol. It's just you shouldn't .
I'd also advise that you at least hide your account and concentrate on putting thing right at home. All the time there's a distraction a piece of you won't be present. |
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