have been toying with the idea of trying to become a member here, I really want to try and get into the scene and have some fun!
I was involved in a fatal car crash a few years ago and as a result I have severe anxiety and PTSD... I have lost all confidence however I want to start getting that confidence back!
My main concern is that I’m a single guy and I would find it difficult to get a membership and find that person who would vouch for me on my first visit.
I moved to County Durham about 2 years ago and I still don’t know anyone (kind of sad) but my anxiety just stops me from taking that leap to socialise publicly, maybe socialising privately with people who stick to the golden rule “what happens at the club stays at the club” may help me gain that confidence.
Are there any couples, single males or females in here that can give me any advice? Happy to accept private messages if you wish to remain anonymous to everyone else, any help or tips or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Hope to hear from you soon |
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" have been toying with the idea of trying to become a member here, I really want to try and get into the scene and have some fun!
I was involved in a fatal car crash a few years ago and as a result I have severe anxiety and PTSD... I have lost all confidence however I want to start getting that confidence back!
My main concern is that I’m a single guy and I would find it difficult to get a membership and find that person who would vouch for me on my first visit.
I moved to County Durham about 2 years ago and I still don’t know anyone (kind of sad) but my anxiety just stops me from taking that leap to socialise publicly, maybe socialising privately with people who stick to the golden rule “what happens at the club stays at the club” may help me gain that confidence.
Are there any couples, single males or females in here that can give me any advice? Happy to accept private messages if you wish to remain anonymous to everyone else, any help or tips or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Hope to hear from you soon "
I have been on Fab for about 6 years over the last 10 years. I have always done ok for meets as i am honest, reliable and genuinley single and so can accomodate. Therefore i may be considered quite a confident male. Well i am as i enjoy the bull / cuck scene.
However, it’s taken me 10 years to go to a club. I attended MILF monday at Club F a few weeks ago. I can’t believe it’s taken me so long. I had a really enjoyable time. Everybody is kind and helpful.
My advice is comtact Club F Sue on here, take the olunge and just go. You’ll love it!! |
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You could try going on a sunday it's open throw the day/evening,I dont think you need a membership for your first visit to see if you like it(mite have to cheak that),its a relaxed atmosphere and you can get the feel of the place x |
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Yer nothing wrong with that, just dont fall into what a lot of single men do,fallow couples/single girls about with your dick in your hand, it can be off putting lol,the staff are great and will show you around and let you know the inn's and out's |
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No I genuinely want to get to know people and experience new things. Like I said I’m not overly interested in taking part at the start I think my anxiety would take over... so I think just chatting and using the Hot Tub, getting to know people and just watching to start would be my limits  ... also I would find following with my cock in my hand would make me feel a little weird lol |
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Weekdays at club F are very relaxed. Staff are super friendly and always try to make everyone feel comfortable. Everyone is scared on their first visit so you're not alone.
Once you've been a few times you will settle in. |
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Thankyou for the kind words , I’m currently at the gym trying to tone up so just seeking some sound advice and some body toning before I join but i am definitely thinking of joining after hearing everyone’s reviews and experiences |
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over a year ago
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"My main concern is that I’m a single guy and I would find it difficult to get a membership and find that person who would vouch for me on my first visit."
You don't need anyone to vouch for you. At least, I didn't when I joined. Just call the club the afternoon of your first visit to get your name on the list. Single men can join on Wednesdays and Fridays, and I believe Sundays as well (although the web site doesn't say that). You'll be calling first anyway, so they'll be able to tell you.
Normally Wednesdays are quieter, more social nights (but not without other activity!). Fridays are busier. I haven't been on Sundays as much as I'd like since they extended the hours, but that was always a good relaxed chill-out session.
December is different. There's a Christmas party this Friday, which is likely to be packed. If your anxiety is the kind that doesn't like crowds and noise, I would not recommend it as your introduction to club life.
Next week there's Curvy Club on Thursday - I don't know if new single men can join then, but it's a very friendly crowd and always a good night, so it's worth contacting the club to see. Wednesday might be a bit quieter than usual because of that, although there will be some very nice people there. I'm not sure when the last Sunday session of the year will be.
If you know how to behave yourself, you'll be fine. Do make an effort to talk to people in the bar, or spend some time in the hot tub and talk to people there (that's my social anxiety's happy place).
It's a good idea to plan on just socialising the first time (or on any visit). But you never know what will happen, so don't be scared of joining in if someone invites you. Let people know that you're new. Most of them will be happy to give you a bit of guidance. |
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"My main concern is that I’m a single guy and I would find it difficult to get a membership and find that person who would vouch for me on my first visit.
You don't need anyone to vouch for you. At least, I didn't when I joined. Just call the club the afternoon of your first visit to get your name on the list. Single men can join on Wednesdays and Fridays, and I believe Sundays as well (although the web site doesn't say that). You'll be calling first anyway, so they'll be able to tell you.
Normally Wednesdays are quieter, more social nights (but not without other activity!). Fridays are busier. I haven't been on Sundays as much as I'd like since they extended the hours, but that was always a good relaxed chill-out session.
December is different. There's a Christmas party this Friday, which is likely to be packed. If your anxiety is the kind that doesn't like crowds and noise, I would not recommend it as your introduction to club life.
Next week there's Curvy Club on Thursday - I don't know if new single men can join then, but it's a very friendly crowd and always a good night, so it's worth contacting the club to see. Wednesday might be a bit quieter than usual because of that, although there will be some very nice people there. I'm not sure when the last Sunday session of the year will be.
If you know how to behave yourself, you'll be fine. Do make an effort to talk to people in the bar, or spend some time in the hot tub and talk to people there (that's my social anxiety's happy place).
It's a good idea to plan on just socialising the first time (or on any visit). But you never know what will happen, so don't be scared of joining in if someone invites you. Let people know that you're new. Most of them will be happy to give you a bit of guidance."
Awesome really helpful advice there, if I was to join it would definitely be 2020 so the crowded xmas party wouldn’t be an issue. But definitely crowds is a big thing for my anxiety.
I want to play this right and not feel claustrophobic my first visit making me less inclined to return...
By no means am I saying I would feel anxious or claustrophobic due to others I’m 100% sure they will be accommodating and polite, show me the ropes etc but it’s my own personal battle I need to over come and find that courage to get myself over the line, socialising and meeting new people.
I’m really excited to meet new people and especially after all the positive feedback I’m getting from everyone, it’s really reassuring for me to know that I will be welcomed and made to feel comfortable, like I said it’s my own battle I need to win |
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Looks like a New Years resolution in the making here
Everyones advice on here is spot on and I would be saying the same to you.
I would also say its just as much about your attitude and how sociable you are not just how fit you are!  |
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You come across as a really lovely guy, I'm sure you'll do great. I have pretty bad issues with my mental health and find these things really difficult myself, but going to clubs is definitely a lot of fun!
I'd have offered to go with, if you weren't so far away  |
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"You come across as a really lovely guy, I'm sure you'll do great. I have pretty bad issues with my mental health and find these things really difficult myself, but going to clubs is definitely a lot of fun!
I'd have offered to go with, if you weren't so far away "
Please see your messages regarding this post ???? X |
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"Looks like a New Years resolution in the making here
Everyones advice on here is spot on and I would be saying the same to you.
I would also say its just as much about your attitude and how sociable you are not just how fit you are! "
Definitely wanting it to be a New Years resolution, at some point I will phone and get more details ??
Regarding “how fit I look” I think this is just another personal battle for me, I need to feel good in myself to be able to portray confidence and just be happy in social circles if that makes sense? |
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"Looks like a New Years resolution in the making here
Everyones advice on here is spot on and I would be saying the same to you.
I would also say its just as much about your attitude and how sociable you are not just how fit you are!
Definitely wanting it to be a New Years resolution, at some point I will phone and get more details ??
Regarding “how fit I look” I think this is just another personal battle for me, I need to feel good in myself to be able to portray confidence and just be happy in social circles if that makes sense? "
Yes I get that xxx see you in 2020 all being well |
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I think the chillout sundays maybe a good day to come and visit, its very chilled and with a lovely atmosphere as well and a good night for new & nervous to take the first step into this wonderful world of swinging xxx |
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"Looks like a New Years resolution in the making here
Everyones advice on here is spot on and I would be saying the same to you.
I would also say its just as much about your attitude and how sociable you are not just how fit you are!
100% at some point I will be there, look forward to meeting everyone . Also a question I have is about the HotTub, is it strictly swimwear only or can u be nude?
Definitely wanting it to be a New Years resolution, at some point I will phone and get more details ??
Regarding “how fit I look” I think this is just another personal battle for me, I need to feel good in myself to be able to portray confidence and just be happy in social circles if that makes sense?
Yes I get that xxx see you in 2020 all being well "
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By *JohnMan
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"Also a question I have is about the HotTub, is it strictly swimwear only or can u be nude?"
Most people go naked in the hot tub, but it's not necessary. No one's going to mind either way. |
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"Also a question I have is about the HotTub, is it strictly swimwear only or can u be nude?
Most people go naked in the hot tub, but it's not necessary. No one's going to mind either way."
???? Thankyou I will bare this in mind |
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