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Mental health matters....

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi all, I myself suffer from eupd, I wondered how many of you have mental health issues?, Swinging is my disassociation, and works well for me.

Claire X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Long term depression here, Fab doesn't exactly help in that regard but it's also my main source of social interaction these days.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I have suffered depression in my time. Controlled now by mindfulness and anti-depressants, although the latter dims my libido sometimes.. Bit annoying.

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By *arkuss99Man over a year ago

leeds

"Long term depression here, Fab doesn't exactly help in that regard but it's also my main source of social interaction these days."

This.

" Controlled now by... anti-depressants, ... dims my libido sometimes.. Bit annoying."

And this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mines more for my depression and loneliness , coming on here sometimes is my main form of social interaction

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I myself have suffered from depression and found swinging dulled the sadness but its all fake concern waiting for when I felt better so we could play, then abuse when I declined.

Also poor sunny was accused of taking advantage of a vulnerable adult so we are very weary now and barly meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I hear you all, it's a double edged sword for me, but we all need a release right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We all suffer from mental health issues, it's a sliding scale and we move up and down at various times throughout our lives.

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By *ubbles88Man over a year ago

Southampton/Winchester

Anxiety and depression for me but ok medication and find being on here helps release

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By *edhead72Man over a year ago

Cheltenham and Ashby

True. We all have physical health and some times we’re a little under the weather be it a stomach or head ache. So we must have mental health. Currently standing in a ledge with an axe. I’m only human...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Diagnosed with CPTSD after a long abusive relationship.

I'm learning triggers etc, we both are.

Had a full on breakdown a few years ago. I'm all good for the main part but I do struggle with trying to work out what is "worth" stressing over if that makes sense. Like I can't tell if I'd have been reacting the same way to situations before the abuse or as a result of the abuse and it's effects. That fucks me off coz it's almost like I don't know myself at times as reactions can take me by surprise.

B is really understanding. It's tough though, as I feel guilty at times that he's almost like a Guinea pig as he's my first proper relationship since then.

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By *thena123Woman over a year ago

Swansea

Anxiety and panic attacks here...mild form of ocd as in rituals to keep my anxiety at bay!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never suffered from depression or anxiety but after living with someone for 14 years that suffered with both the biggest thing I can say help the most way regular exercise and eating somewhat healthy, something like squash is very good gets rid of a lot of aggression, anger and frustration

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Diagnosed with CPTSD after a long abusive relationship.

I'm learning triggers etc, we both are.

We are always in the process of evolving. Even without the abuse, you'd be a different person to the one 10/20/30 years. So stop worrying whether you react the way you do due to post or pre abuse, but learn who you are and accept yourself, then with talking therapies eg cbt, learn how to move forward.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Diagnosed with CPTSD after a long abusive relationship.

I'm learning triggers etc, we both are.

That's a very valid point. I don't know who I'd be without it happening and I am who I am.

Thank you, and lovely to see you back x

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By * F 2018Couple over a year ago

shropshire

Suffered with anxiety and depression for years antidepressants help and vit D for this time of year .find it so difficult ....the swinging side and fab help as a distraction being someone else if it makes sence and its nice to chat

Foxy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hope everyone is having a good day x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hope everyone is having a good day x"

We do too, if not please reach out for help. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Suffer PTSD. Have good days and bad. The bad days are the pits and can take a while to see the light but I get there with the help of my family x

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman over a year ago

Victoria, London

Hardly anyone doesn't. I am always suspicious of those that have never had any and mock those struggling.

I don't like mental illness, but most come out of it a better person and more understanding of others, so can't all be bad.

Things start ramping up towards the end of the year.

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By *erfumedpornovampireWoman over a year ago

Swindon

Anxiety and depression coupled with SAD right now. All I want to do is eat, get really baked and sleep until March but real life keeps interfering

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By *urvySub87Woman over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

Depression and anxiety, it's a difficult combination. I just take life one day at a time

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By *eadNLovingIt88Couple over a year ago

Colchester

Apollo (male) suffers from social anxiety, social depression, anxiety and depression.. this is helping him to get through it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think my only problem is other human beings

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think my only problem is other human beings"

This.

I was born in the wrong era. I can’t deal with humans of today. They’re too complicated to work out and be along side.

Not sure if that makes any sense....

It’s not a nice feeling.

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By *hrops56Man over a year ago

Telford

Anxiety and OCD but like most people i try to hide the anxiety and no one at work would know .OCD however is more difficult to hide.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Long term depression here, Fab doesn't exactly help in that regard but it's also my main source of social interaction these days."

Same, if I didn't chat on fab I could go days without speaking to someone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depression, anxiety, OCD an agoraphobia but right now due to therapy an help I'm better than I've ever been with my mental health issues

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By *mileTogether69Man over a year ago

Brighton

Hi Claire,

glad in " fab" you,ve found a distraction that works for you.

Brave of you to share with others to.

I ,ve suffered in past ,and yes have constant fear it will return.

I like so many was I denial for so long.

I suppose I,m similar as you in fab ,though not been member of fab long.Find that now accept fantasizing about naughtyness and occasional play helps .Though mainly it's the simple everyday interactions with others I value more now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hardly anyone doesn't. I am always suspicious of those that have never had any and mock those struggling.

I don't like mental illness, but most come out of it a better person and more understanding of others, so can't all be bad.

Things start ramping up towards the end of the year."

I think it can be damaging to romanticize mental illness. It doesn't always make someone a 'better person'- sometimes the pain and the damage done by others is so severe that the person experiencing it is like an animal caught in a trap, hurting and angry and confused. The only problem is that the trap is in their own mind and there is no way out.

I'm experiencing suicidal ideation at the moment and it doesn't make me a better person. It just means I am lashing out at everyone but I have nobody in my life to be there for me and help me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Apollo (male) suffers from social anxiety, social depression, anxiety and depression.. this is helping him to get through it"

I'm not sure social depression is a thing. Nothing came up when I Googled it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm spend my life constantly on the brink of something either epic, tradgic of both in equal measure. And the people closest to me usually make matters worse with their "advice" (read interfuckingfering)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Apollo (male) suffers from social anxiety, social depression, anxiety and depression.. this is helping him to get through it

I'm not sure social depression is a thing. Nothing came up when I Googled it."

Why google it? the brain is far more complex than google! as a suicidial ideation sufferer online stuff is just a plaster

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Apollo (male) suffers from social anxiety, social depression, anxiety and depression.. this is helping him to get through it

I'm not sure social depression is a thing. Nothing came up when I Googled it.

Why google it? the brain is far more complex than google! as a suicidial ideation sufferer online stuff is just a plaster

I wanted to understand what 'social depression' was, so I Googled it. Turns out it's not a separate thing to depression. Sometimes people like to educate themselves, you know, so they can better understand those around them.

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By *xtrafun4youMan over a year ago

Dunstable

"Long term depression here, Fab doesn't exactly help in that regard but it's also my main source of social interaction these days."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anxiety and depression coupled with SAD right now. All I want to do is eat, get really baked and sleep until March but real life keeps interfering

I can completely empathise with you (exept getting baked)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

EUPD here too. I'm currently on a DBT course. It's very hard work but really working for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *xtrafun4youMan over a year ago

Dunstable

3 days not gotten out of bed, and on meds

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Apollo (male) suffers from social anxiety, social depression, anxiety and depression.. this is helping him to get through it

I'm not sure social depression is a thing. Nothing came up when I Googled it.

Why google it? the brain is far more complex than google! as a suicidial ideation sufferer online stuff is just a plaster

Iv just read your status. I can't message you. Are you OK?

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By *elnkazCouple over a year ago

cheshire

Fab and clubs were my escape from my haze of depression. Strange to explain that feeling of me not being me when I was in club, but then had to go home and be me again.and the vicious circle started again. Because of that I practically lived in a club till I met Del,,, and my life changed. And we still go to club I still get bouts of depression but nowhere near as bad... there is light at the end of that depression tunnel.k

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the mental health services leant to stop crossing the T and dotting the I maybe they could help

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Apollo (male) suffers from social anxiety, social depression, anxiety and depression.. this is helping him to get through it

I'm not sure social depression is a thing. Nothing came up when I Googled it.

Why google it? the brain is far more complex than google! as a suicidial ideation sufferer online stuff is just a plaster

Yes but you questioned that it even existed. That wasn't needed or helpful. It's great to educate yourself but not post unhelpful comments. "

Empirically, it doesn't exist. I'm not saying the person doesn't have depression, and it's shitty that they do and I empathise. All I am saying is that diagnostically, 'social depression' isn't a separate sector of depression. I like to read about things because I am autistic and I find facts comforting, sorry if that offended anyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mental health definitely matters

Anyone struggling....your friends will be more than happy to chat with you about anything at all...they are friends...that’s what they do

Otherwise reach out on here....there are always people ready to help xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Apollo (male) suffers from social anxiety, social depression, anxiety and depression.. this is helping him to get through it

I'm not sure social depression is a thing. Nothing came up when I Googled it.

Why google it? the brain is far more complex than google! as a suicidial ideation sufferer online stuff is just a plaster

Yes but you questioned that it even existed. That wasn't needed or helpful. It's great to educate yourself but not post unhelpful comments.

That's totally understandable and why I deleted it. I could have worded that better.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Apollo (male) suffers from social anxiety, social depression, anxiety and depression.. this is helping him to get through it

I'm not sure social depression is a thing. Nothing came up when I Googled it.

Why google it? the brain is far more complex than google! as a suicidial ideation sufferer online stuff is just a plaster

Iv just read your status. I can't message you. Are you OK? "

Have lifted message ban.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Apollo (male) suffers from social anxiety, social depression, anxiety and depression.. this is helping him to get through it

I'm not sure social depression is a thing. Nothing came up when I Googled it.

Why google it? the brain is far more complex than google! as a suicidial ideation sufferer online stuff is just a plaster

Iv just read your status. I can't message you. Are you OK?

Have lifted message ban."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hey.

ASD here. Relatively well functioning.

But it has its downsides. Obviously.

I can shun mostly everything and everyone. And then feel lost. Fab is a useful link to other humans. But to be taken under extreme caution.

Oh and I have at least 3 personalities. Tricky.

Anyway. If anyone ever wants to say hi. Please do. I’m quite a good online chatter.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I learnt a long time ago to not take this place to seriously.

It can become all consuming and take over you're life.

It took a very good friend on here to make me see through the trees and wake me up to the fact no one matters.

Except yourself. So I take breaks from here and my social media foot print is very small.

No Facebook etc it's the devil's playground and only takes one negative comment for your world to come crashing down.

I don't look for meets so there is no pressure.

If something happens, so be it. If not doesn't matter.

Put yourself first if everything.

If others don't like that then they can do one. You don't need them hanging around.

Niki Lauda said famously ' I have no friends ' and this upset people.

He had to protect himself from people who wanted this money etc and this and that. He asked ' where is the 24hour friend I can call when I need someone, and to be honest I cannot think of one'.

You can find the video of this on YouTube.

And that's people in a Nutshell. most only want to know when they want something so protect yourself.

They are energy vampires and any secrets you give up they will stab you in the back with later.

So protect yourself. The people that are right for you will stay with you and look out for you.

You may think I'm harsh but life teaches you that kindness is a weakness and you will be taken advantage of.

Protect number 1.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

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By *nkedMilfWoman over a year ago

Colchester

"I think my only problem is other human beings

This.

I was born in the wrong era. I can’t deal with humans of today. They’re too complicated to work out and be along side.

Not sure if that makes any sense....

It’s not a nice feeling. "

Hahaha I'm always told that I was born in the wrong era, my mum is currently on a mission for me to find an older man as I've never got on with my generation.

I have an old soul, and I'm so ok with that

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"We all suffer from mental health issues, it's a sliding scale and we move up and down at various times throughout our lives. "

Spot on. The official statistics say one in four will have mental health issues, but I think it's exactly as you say it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat "

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen "

Totally agree, as someone who suffers with Lonliness , Somedays I don't see or talk to anyone physically , so aome days I come on here as it can be my only social interaction I get all day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen

Totally agree, as someone who suffers with Lonliness , Somedays I don't see or talk to anyone physically , so aome days I come on here as it can be my only social interaction I get all day "

Well then, it's great that you get involved in the forums. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen

Totally agree, as someone who suffers with Lonliness , Somedays I don't see or talk to anyone physically , so aome days I come on here as it can be my only social interaction I get all day

Well then, it's great that you get involved in the forums. X"

Yeah it is, I've spoke to some really nice people through here from all parts of the country x

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By *inkerbell67Woman over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

Ive had depression and anxiety all my life ,3 suicide attemps ive borderline personality disorder and now found out im autistic ,im lucky i share a house with 2 friends and they treat me like one of the family, something ive not really had and i know i can talk to them if im having a crisis..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen

Totally agree, as someone who suffers with Lonliness , Somedays I don't see or talk to anyone physically , so aome days I come on here as it can be my only social interaction I get all day

Well then, it's great that you get involved in the forums. X

Yeah it is, I've spoke to some really nice people through here from all parts of the country x"

Yes fab a great way of meeting and getting to know people you wouldn't normally have any contact with.

Have you considered going to an organised fab social? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ive had depression and anxiety all my life ,3 suicide attemps ive borderline personality disorder and now found out im autistic ,im lucky i share a house with 2 friends and they treat me like one of the family, something ive not really had and i know i can talk to them if im having a crisis.."

I find this interesting as I had the exact same thing (diagnosed with BPD then autism)

Did your autism diagnosis 'overwrite' your BPD diagnosis? My GP was keen to explain my behaviours through autism and was inclined to dismiss the previous BPD diagnosis, but I have some behaviours that are not linked to autism (or ADHD, depression or PTSD)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen

Totally agree, as someone who suffers with Lonliness , Somedays I don't see or talk to anyone physically , so aome days I come on here as it can be my only social interaction I get all day

Well then, it's great that you get involved in the forums. X

Yeah it is, I've spoke to some really nice people through here from all parts of the country x

Yes fab a great way of meeting and getting to know people you wouldn't normally have any contact with.

Have you considered going to an organised fab social? X"

I would really love to, however I am autistic and have some issue with social interaction , like not looking people in the eye, and my confidence is non existent. But other than that it's something I would consider as I've never done it before x

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

It's horrendous to think anyone should be lonely in this day and age, but it's also true to say you can be lonely in a crowd. On a lower level I've seen many single guys in clubs looking really uncomfortable as they have no one to even talk to, but on a much bigger level we have to keep an eye out for one another as human beings first and foremost. I'm lucky in that I have at least half a dozen other guys who I can pick up the phone to at any time if I'm struggling. It helps that we shared the same experiences a few years back, but is also the biggest comfort to know I won't feel stupid if I say I'm not ok at any given time. It doesn't matter what your issues are ladies and gents - if it's something troubling you then it's very real for you. Never, EVER just keep it all to yourself and suffer. Sometimes talking to a stranger is a good way to go and all it takes is to get the first word out. Big love peeps!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen

Totally agree, as someone who suffers with Lonliness , Somedays I don't see or talk to anyone physically , so aome days I come on here as it can be my only social interaction I get all day

Well then, it's great that you get involved in the forums. X

Yeah it is, I've spoke to some really nice people through here from all parts of the country x

Yes fab a great way of meeting and getting to know people you wouldn't normally have any contact with.

Have you considered going to an organised fab social? X

Same. We should form an autistic meet up, with no pressure for eye contact, where we can all stim with abandon and talk about our special interests

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By *uicylucy76Woman over a year ago

thornton cleveleys

I have pmdd.. diagnosed quite a few yrs ago.. doctor wanted to prescribe anti depressants that just made me sleepy which I can’t afford to do so I just have to live with the way I am, which is really hard at times, really hard. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen

Totally agree, as someone who suffers with Lonliness , Somedays I don't see or talk to anyone physically , so aome days I come on here as it can be my only social interaction I get all day

Well then, it's great that you get involved in the forums. X

Yeah it is, I've spoke to some really nice people through here from all parts of the country x

Yes fab a great way of meeting and getting to know people you wouldn't normally have any contact with.

Have you considered going to an organised fab social? X

Same. We should form an autistic meet up, with no pressure for eye contact, where we can all stim with abandon and talk about our special interests

It would be really to have a meet like this with no pressures of expectations , would be nice to feel comfortable around people who would understand about things

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By *xtrafun4youMan over a year ago

Dunstable

Ladies pm let’s talk

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By *oyo5053Man over a year ago

Bridgwater

I work in the mental health sector and suffer from mild PTSD...fall out from a previous destructive long term relationship. I would encourage everyone to find the courage to acknowledge when they believe they are experiencing mental health issues and to seek support, whether that is from a professional, a support group, a trusted friend or even through talking to the type of kind and empathetic people involved in this thread, as evident in this thread, you are not alone and there are people dealing with the same or similar issues as you who may have developed some great strategies that may also work for you. Best wishes to all x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have pmdd.. diagnosed quite a few yrs ago.. doctor wanted to prescribe anti depressants that just made me sleepy which I can’t afford to do so I just have to live with the way I am, which is really hard at times, really hard. X"

Not all anti depressants have the same reaction, it’s very much a try and see approach

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What is eupid?

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By * F 2018Couple over a year ago

shropshire

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen

Totally agree, as someone who suffers with Lonliness , Somedays I don't see or talk to anyone physically , so aome days I come on here as it can be my only social interaction I get all day "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen

Totally agree, as someone who suffers with Lonliness , Somedays I don't see or talk to anyone physically , so aome days I come on here as it can be my only social interaction I get all day

Well then, it's great that you get involved in the forums. X

Yeah it is, I've spoke to some really nice people through here from all parts of the country x

Yes fab a great way of meeting and getting to know people you wouldn't normally have any contact with.

Have you considered going to an organised fab social? X

Same. We should form an autistic meet up, with no pressure for eye contact, where we can all stim with abandon and talk about our special interests

Me too. I do attend socials but it's not always easy.

Do you know what, that does sound like a great idea. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is eupid?"

Eupd is emotionally unstable personality disorder

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen

Totally agree, as someone who suffers with Lonliness , Somedays I don't see or talk to anyone physically , so aome days I come on here as it can be my only social interaction I get all day

Well then, it's great that you get involved in the forums. X

Yeah it is, I've spoke to some really nice people through here from all parts of the country x

Yes fab a great way of meeting and getting to know people you wouldn't normally have any contact with.

Have you considered going to an organised fab social? X

Same. We should form an autistic meet up, with no pressure for eye contact, where we can all stim with abandon and talk about our special interests

Me too. I do attend socials but it's not always easy.

Do you know what, that does sound like a great idea. X"

Yeah I'd like that alot, sometimes big groups get overwhelming , but once I start chatting to people im okay ....its just that initial first meeting of people x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is eupid?

Eupd is emotionally unstable personality disorder "

Iv just copied and pasted this from the mind Website as it gives a good basic overview.

Emotionally unstable personality disorder, EUPD, or Borderline Personality Disorder as it is also called, describes the problems you experience if you are emotionally unstable, anxiety-ridden and have a pattern of self-destructive behaviour. ... Many people with EUPD describe a feeling of emptiness and identity problems.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen

Totally agree, as someone who suffers with Lonliness , Somedays I don't see or talk to anyone physically , so aome days I come on here as it can be my only social interaction I get all day

Well then, it's great that you get involved in the forums. X

Yeah it is, I've spoke to some really nice people through here from all parts of the country x

Yes fab a great way of meeting and getting to know people you wouldn't normally have any contact with.

Have you considered going to an organised fab social? X

Same. We should form an autistic meet up, with no pressure for eye contact, where we can all stim with abandon and talk about our special interests

Me too. I do attend socials but it's not always easy.

Do you know what, that does sound like a great idea. X

Yeah I'd like that alot, sometimes big groups get overwhelming , but once I start chatting to people im okay ....its just that initial first meeting of people x"

Exactly this. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen

Totally agree, as someone who suffers with Lonliness , Somedays I don't see or talk to anyone physically , so aome days I come on here as it can be my only social interaction I get all day

Well then, it's great that you get involved in the forums. X

Yeah it is, I've spoke to some really nice people through here from all parts of the country x

Yes fab a great way of meeting and getting to know people you wouldn't normally have any contact with.

Have you considered going to an organised fab social? X

Same. We should form an autistic meet up, with no pressure for eye contact, where we can all stim with abandon and talk about our special interests

Me too. I do attend socials but it's not always easy.

Do you know what, that does sound like a great idea. X

Yeah I'd like that alot, sometimes big groups get overwhelming , but once I start chatting to people im okay ....its just that initial first meeting of people x

Exactly this. X"

Like I get so so many thoughts running through my head with an initial meet of someone I don't know, and then I come across awkward and people then just don't talk to me x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

Sb "

You are doing brilliantly and we think you are wonderful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen

Totally agree, as someone who suffers with Lonliness , Somedays I don't see or talk to anyone physically , so aome days I come on here as it can be my only social interaction I get all day

Well then, it's great that you get involved in the forums. X

Yeah it is, I've spoke to some really nice people through here from all parts of the country x

Yes fab a great way of meeting and getting to know people you wouldn't normally have any contact with.

Have you considered going to an organised fab social? X

Same. We should form an autistic meet up, with no pressure for eye contact, where we can all stim with abandon and talk about our special interests

Me too. I do attend socials but it's not always easy.

Do you know what, that does sound like a great idea. X

Yeah I'd like that alot, sometimes big groups get overwhelming , but once I start chatting to people im okay ....its just that initial first meeting of people x

Exactly this. X

Like I get so so many thoughts running through my head with an initial meet of someone I don't know, and then I come across awkward and people then just don't talk to me x"

Ohh I get that but Iv found people to be really accepting. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone ever just wants someone to talk to either daily or just a one off. I'm a great listener. Always up for a chat

I second that sometimes talking to a stranger helps you sort through your feelings an I'm always happy to listen

Totally agree, as someone who suffers with Lonliness , Somedays I don't see or talk to anyone physically , so aome days I come on here as it can be my only social interaction I get all day

Well then, it's great that you get involved in the forums. X

Yeah it is, I've spoke to some really nice people through here from all parts of the country x

Yes fab a great way of meeting and getting to know people you wouldn't normally have any contact with.

Have you considered going to an organised fab social? X

Same. We should form an autistic meet up, with no pressure for eye contact, where we can all stim with abandon and talk about our special interests

Me too. I do attend socials but it's not always easy.

Do you know what, that does sound like a great idea. X

Yeah I'd like that alot, sometimes big groups get overwhelming , but once I start chatting to people im okay ....its just that initial first meeting of people x

Exactly this. X

Like I get so so many thoughts running through my head with an initial meet of someone I don't know, and then I come across awkward and people then just don't talk to me x

Ohh I get that but Iv found people to be really accepting. X"

Maybe I just have not met the right people then x

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

Sb "

Please hang in there. You are SO important in what you do. Thank you for that!! Don't ignore your own needs though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

You are doing brilliantly and we think you are wonderful.

Thank you to you both, however I’m more positive but my bulimia is still there xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

Please hang in there. You are SO important in what you do. Thank you for that!! Don't ignore your own needs though. "

I’m doing well, my mental health is great, my eating is still irratic, my manager is great though

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

Please hang in there. You are SO important in what you do. Thank you for that!! Don't ignore your own needs though.

I’m doing well, my mental health is great, my eating is still irratic, my manager is great though

Genuinely pleased to hear it! Might sound false coming from a complete stranger, but an awful lot of us out there have huge respect for our health care professionals. We'd be lost without you. Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anxiety for me, masturbation sessions is a realese for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

You are doing brilliantly and we think you are wonderful.

Thank you to you both, however I’m more positive but my bulimia is still there xx"

Think about the language.

By calling it "my bulimia" you're claiming it.

Belonging to you, yours for all time.

It may not make much of a difference but try just calling it the bulimia. That way it isn't so much yours and yours for all time. If you have a stinking cold you call it a cold not my cold.

I know the 2 aren't comparable in the sense one goes on it's own and the other takes work, but I hope you get the jist

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

Please hang in there. You are SO important in what you do. Thank you for that!! Don't ignore your own needs though.

I’m doing well, my mental health is great, my eating is still irratic, my manager is great though

I rarely post my position to be fair

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

Please hang in there. You are SO important in what you do. Thank you for that!! Don't ignore your own needs though.

I’m doing well, my mental health is great, my eating is still irratic, my manager is great though

I rarely post my position to be fair "

That's understandable in lots of ways, but please accept the compliment. You are highly valued.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

You are doing brilliantly and we think you are wonderful.

Thank you to you both, however I’m more positive but my bulimia is still there xx

Think about the language.

By calling it "my bulimia" you're claiming it.

Belonging to you, yours for all time.

It may not make much of a difference but try just calling it the bulimia. That way it isn't so much yours and yours for all time. If you have a stinking cold you call it a cold not my cold.

I know the 2 aren't comparable in the sense one goes on it's own and the other takes work, but I hope you get the jist

My therapist says you have to 'claim it to tame it'

Think of mental illness like a big black beast of a dog (or other, less likeable creature)

You have to claim it as your own else it just runs amok, causing havoc. If you claim it, you can tame it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

Please hang in there. You are SO important in what you do. Thank you for that!! Don't ignore your own needs though.

I’m doing well, my mental health is great, my eating is still irratic, my manager is great though

I rarely post my position to be fair

That's understandable in lots of ways, but please accept the compliment. You are highly valued. "

Thank you I know that we are appreciated but in reality we aren’t!!!????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

You are doing brilliantly and we think you are wonderful.

Thank you to you both, however I’m more positive but my bulimia is still there xx

Think about the language.

By calling it "my bulimia" you're claiming it.

Belonging to you, yours for all time.

It may not make much of a difference but try just calling it the bulimia. That way it isn't so much yours and yours for all time. If you have a stinking cold you call it a cold not my cold.

I know the 2 aren't comparable in the sense one goes on it's own and the other takes work, but I hope you get the jist

My therapist says you have to 'claim it to tame it'

Think of mental illness like a big black beast of a dog (or other, less likeable creature)

You have to claim it as your own else it just runs amok, causing havoc. If you claim it, you can tame it.

See, I was of the teachings to take ownership of it for the now, but not to claim it yours forever. Like someone you know, an acquaintance. Someone you understand and recognise but not someone you need in your life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've suffered with depression for years which has over recent times led to anxiety - I can't look forward to something because anxiety and excitement are very similar emotions, except excitement doesn't have the "sting" in the tail. It unfortunately leads to detatchment, it's caused the end of at least two relationships but wraps the devestation in cotton wool. I refuse anti-depressants because I still want to "feel" (I've known people on them who don't give a shit about anything - a step too far) but neither do I want this forever. I can trace it back to the age of 8, and I'm sick and tired of it. Fab is great because you don't form emotional connections, but don't think it solves every problem. From every high you plummet to a low.

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By *eoeclipseWoman over a year ago

glasgow

Combined ADHD, can be really awkward at time because I cannot choose what to focus on, even when I really should...can happen at any time.

Recent studies have suggested trying to force focus actually makes it worse.

Flip side is hyper focus - when nothing else will distract me & you can learn/do loads in a relatively short space of time.

Hyperactive - this can be mentally, physically or both. Bouncing off the walls like a kid, talking so much you can't keep up (subjects flip frequently but have relation to the last) or my mind is buzzing around subjects or solving puzzles.

Many other bits too with emotion, impulse control etc.

Life long & day to day so it is part of me & will never leave. Coping strategies are a must.

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By *ill-Ian KissesCouple over a year ago

Somewhere over there

"Apollo (male) suffers from social anxiety, social depression, anxiety and depression.. this is helping him to get through it

I'm not sure social depression is a thing. Nothing came up when I Googled it."

Don’t Google health related things; use NHS Inform as more precise or use specific website such as SAMH. Or even a medical dictionary.

Millie

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By *ainyDaySunshineMan over a year ago

Ayrshire

We all suffer from Mental Health at some point in our lives.

Depression is one that has made me stronger once you learn to deal with it.

I would stress that online media and places like Fab can make it worse if you take things personally

The world can be rough. On here it can be testing but like anything in life there are some diamonds amongst the rest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *iscreet gent2018Man over a year ago

Newcastle

Sending love, strength and support to anyone struggling at this moment in time. I might not be able to help, but if you need an ear, drop me a line. You’re all beautiful people, never ever forget that.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

Please hang in there. You are SO important in what you do. Thank you for that!! Don't ignore your own needs though.

I’m doing well, my mental health is great, my eating is still irratic, my manager is great though

I rarely post my position to be fair

That's understandable in lots of ways, but please accept the compliment. You are highly valued.

Thank you I know that we are appreciated but in reality we aren’t!!!????"

You take a lot of stick from some patients and those above don't show it either I know. Problem is our society is very ready to complain, but rarely to easily say when things are good. Sad really. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest online is great and the fucking worst tool for mental health, fact!x

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By *honolanMan over a year ago

Leyton

I think it's simply fantastic that everyone here is being so open and authentic about their mental health problems! I myself struggle with self esteem issues so I really appreciate it when people help lift the stigma

Seriously, kudos to all you amazing people brave enough to share your troubles. It's positively heartwarming :D

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By *elloIntrigueMan over a year ago

North West UK

Been there with depression and anxiety, currently lots of positives going on. I still get those days when the negative voice tells me that I'm crap, but I'm in a pretty good place.

I am always willing to have a chinwag or offer support. I'm more aware of mental health than ever i was before.

Be kind to yourselves everyone.

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By *ot so newCouple over a year ago

limerick

Going through issues as we speak,,think everyone is

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"Going through issues as we speak,,think everyone is "

Talk! Hard to get started, but once you do it's a mighty relief.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Diagnosed with CPTSD after a long abusive relationship.

I'm learning triggers etc, we both are.

That's a very valid point. I don't know who I'd be without it happening and I am who I am.

Thank you, and lovely to see you back x

Thank you.

I have a personal philosophy:

You cannot change the past but you can change how it affects your future.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Depression and anxiety, it's a difficult combination. I just take life one day at a time "

And a common one.

If you are worrying about something, try to recognise it and acknowledge it. Ask yourself if it is something you can do about it immediately. If not then write it down on a to do list. If you can then do that something.

Some things take a while to sort out, so write it down, write down what was done but don't cross off on the to do list.

I believe many of us worry about things cos we have many things to do. The worrying keeps us focused on things and yet in itself stops the ability to do things. Let lists become your mind and work through them in an ordered fashion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think my only problem is other human beings"

Reminds me of daughter's t-shirt : I'm not prejudiced, I hate everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hardly anyone doesn't. I am always suspicious of those that have never had any and mock those struggling.

I don't like mental illness, but most come out of it a better person and more understanding of others, so can't all be bad.

Things start ramping up towards the end of the year.

I'm experiencing suicidal ideation at the moment and it doesn't make me a better person. It just means I am lashing out at everyone but I have nobody in my life to be there for me and help me. "

You have you! Quite often that's all any of us have. With depression it's YOU who has to do the work, others can only guide you. Be the best friend to yourself that you'd be to others - give yourself hugs, time and advice.

Try the charity Mind. Or the Samaritans if in crisis.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm spend my life constantly on the brink of something either epic, tradgic of both in equal measure. And the people closest to me usually make matters worse with their "advice" (read interfuckingfering)"

Sounds like your thought processes are a bit iffy. You don't have to listen to advice but simply acknowledge the people care enough to want to help. Help often doesn't come in the manner we feel we need/want but it comes from a good place.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"EUPD here too. I'm currently on a DBT course. It's very hard work but really working for me.

Keep going.

One of my daughters has been down this route.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"3 days not gotten out of bed, and on meds"

It's a form of hibernation. When you're ready, go have a shower and acknowledge each step as an achievement (including the shower).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I learnt a long time ago to not take this place to seriously.

It can become all consuming and take over you're life.

It took a very good friend on here to make me see through the trees and wake me up to the fact no one matters.

Except yourself. So I take breaks from here and my social media foot print is very small.

No Facebook etc it's the devil's playground and only takes one negative comment for your world to come crashing down.

I don't look for meets so there is no pressure.

If something happens, so be it. If not doesn't matter.

Put yourself first if everything.

If others don't like that then they can do one. You don't need them hanging around.

Niki Lauda said famously ' I have no friends ' and this upset people.

He had to protect himself from people who wanted this money etc and this and that. He asked ' where is the 24hour friend I can call when I need someone, and to be honest I cannot think of one'.

You can find the video of this on YouTube.

And that's people in a Nutshell. most only want to know when they want something so protect yourself.

They are energy vampires and any secrets you give up they will stab you in the back with later.

So protect yourself. The people that are right for you will stay with you and look out for you.

You may think I'm harsh but life teaches you that kindness is a weakness and you will be taken advantage of.

Protect number 1."

I won't stop being kind. Perhaps that's cos I can now protect myself online and in reality. If I become vulnerable I simply withdraw.

It's about self awareness.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find this interesting as I had the exact same thing (diagnosed with BPD then autism)

Genetics and environment have a huge impact.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

You are doing brilliantly and we think you are wonderful.

Thank you to you both, however I’m more positive but my bulimia is still there xx

Think about the language.

By calling it "my bulimia" you're claiming it.

Belonging to you, yours for all time.

It may not make much of a difference but try just calling it the bulimia. That way it isn't so much yours and yours for all time. If you have a stinking cold you call it a cold not my cold.

I know the 2 aren't comparable in the sense one goes on it's own and the other takes work, but I hope you get the jist

Taking a different perspective, especially considering the poster is a health are professional, the owning of it could simply mean she understands the different states and stages people go through, hence her bulimia is unique to her.

I often voice "my enceph headaches" for example.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

Please hang in there. You are SO important in what you do. Thank you for that!! Don't ignore your own needs though.

I’m doing well, my mental health is great, my eating is still irratic, my manager is great though

I rarely post my position to be fair

That's understandable in lots of ways, but please accept the compliment. You are highly valued.

Thank you I know that we are appreciated but in reality we aren’t!!!????"

Politically we're not.

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By *ayspeedyMan over a year ago

nr wolverhampton

Was diagnosed with this a couple years ago along with borderline bipolar but it’s very manageable even if the drugs make me very sleepy the olanzapine makes me feel no emotion whatsoever so I guess that’s why this lifestyle suits me, I don’t have hang ups I just do what I do with no drama

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Apollo (male) suffers from social anxiety, social depression, anxiety and depression.. this is helping him to get through it

I'm not sure social depression is a thing. Nothing came up when I Googled it.

Don’t Google health related things; use NHS Inform as more precise or use specific website such as SAMH. Or even a medical dictionary.

Millie "

Google is fine for finding official websites such as NHS (that was called NHS choices), NICE (but not always non-medical user friendly) and charities such as MIND.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi all, hope today was a good day x

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

Had a tough few weeks but always believe things will resolve soon. Dealing with it when I can, but when I can't I just withdraw and accept how it is until I feel ready to take it on again. Works well for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I suffer in silence but i get by got to keep smiling

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have cptsd

I'm sure I have pnsd.. (Post narcissistic abuse too not recognised over here yet)

Domestic violence and abuse plus 5yrs or family court. Loss of child to social ex headworker. Threats to kill me police nothing

So cptsd.. Knowing triggers helps but I tell everyone I meet

Memory issues are the worse..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suffer in silence but i get by got to keep smiling "

Don't keep quiet. Here if you need

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have had issues since childhood. I have had absolutely horrendous experiences with the nhs mental health service; thus have nowhere really left to turn

Heigh ho, stay strong people!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Kooth.... helps younger folk

Mindfulness.. Can help

Headspace... Can help

All found via google

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Struggling at the moment. All I want to do is hide away from the world.

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By *rcadian110Couple over a year ago

Barnsley

Depression, ed and body dismorphia.

I'm lucky that I found my wife , Rhiannon. She's stunningly beautiful and it astounds me that she chose me. I know I'm an ugly guy but I'm a kind guy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Deep eh, I'm not taking it lately l lightly i have experience and think this is a bit blazee

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By *am62Woman over a year ago

Bristol

I lost my mum a year ago after I cared for her twenty four hours a day for many years, the loss is unbearable some days and I hardly know what to do with myself. Being the age I am I find it difficult to move on, you can almost become a recluse in your grief. The mind plays many tricks on you and you can almost sent it into over drive yourself with worrying and over thinking all kinds of rubbish. At time I've thought I'm going mad but it's all a natural process of grief, the anxiety and the depression the stress, you have to find your inner self and fight the battle with your thoughts, start asking yourself, why and laugh at yourself, for over thinking. We all have good days and bad days, but you can get better, after months of utter despair. When you get down to the nitty gritty of it all... IS THERE REALLY ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD WORTH WORRYING ABOUT.... NO.. GETTING ANXIOUS ABOUT.. NO... EVERYTHING SORTS ITSELF OUT IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER. I've set myself a goal that from January I will fight my demons, and restart my life again, after all that's what mum would have wanted, not to see me so unhappy, anxious and upset all the time.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS over a year ago

west here ford shire

Yeh had a bit of depression and anxiety three yrs ago

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"Kooth.... helps younger folk

Mindfulness.. Can help

Headspace... Can help

All found via google"

Head space is excellent!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Kooth.... helps younger folk

Mindfulness.. Can help

Headspace... Can help

All found via google

Head space is excellent!! "

Will give it a try, I like Quiet mind cafe also x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Struggling at the moment. All I want to do is hide away from the world. "

Don't hide, no need we're all friends here x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would anyone consider going to one of the Brighton socials with me?

We can chaperone and support eachother.

I have dual diagnoses already discussed in this thread that made make groups and eye contact difficult.

But I'm also articulate, intelligent, kind, caring and very experienced. Mmmm... Yup I am also a ridiculous amount of enthusiastic sexy fun too.

I want to make more fab friends and meet people but doing it alone makes me want to reach for the diazipam...

Pm me to talk more. Please! Let's be weird together and let everyone else feel uncomfortable for a change

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Those saying call samaraitons/mind kinda generic and not easy when you only have one mindset! from experience they have called police as they have duty of care.

Please don`t feel the need to hate! i love and respect the work they do but sometimes talking isn`t on the cards

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By *ot so newCouple over a year ago

limerick

After going through all the messages maybe it would be nice to have a go to forum for people to just message when ur feeling down,,this chat has shown so many people are in the same situation,,,a simple message to say hi guys I'm not good today,,,and I'm sure by all of us here we can try our best to make who ever is feeling down better, fabswingers is a swinging site but fuck we are all normal people with normal lives,,,just maybe kinker,,

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By *ot so newCouple over a year ago

limerick

Any people feeling down message us,could be either of us online ,if we are online together or separate feel free to have a chat if ur feeling down

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By *ill-Ian KissesCouple over a year ago

Somewhere over there

"Kooth.... helps younger folk

Mindfulness.. Can help

Headspace... Can help

All found via google"

If Google didn’t exist, what would you do? Something as simple as a walk in the sunshine or reading a book can help.

Someone said about not getting out of bed 3 days straight but another person said to celebrate when they achieved a shower/food as they’re big steps as well.

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By *ill-Ian KissesCouple over a year ago

Somewhere over there

"Diagnosed with CPTSD after a long abusive relationship.

I'm learning triggers etc, we both are.

That's a very valid point. I don't know who I'd be without it happening and I am who I am.

Thank you, and lovely to see you back x

Thank you.

I have a personal philosophy:

You cannot change the past but you can change how it affects your future. "

^ or as in the Lion King; the past can hurt, but either you run from it or learn from it!

(A bit of humour, not intended to downplay MH)

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By *ot so newCouple over a year ago

limerick

I've some really close friends that I can never talk to because it's awkward for me and them,but in saying that I've been able to chat to certain people I never thought I could, it is about how comfortable u are with talking with, its very hard to blurt out ur feelings with people u know x,at least here we can be honest

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple over a year ago

Fareham

I've read every post here with interest and empathy.

I can't even begin to talk about where my mental health is at right now - suffice to say I mentally torture myself every single day. You definitely wouldn't know what's lurking beneath the surface if you met me though - I'm all smiles. I guess you could say I lead a double life.

Emm x

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By *ot so newCouple over a year ago

limerick

I'm exactly the same, it's horrible isn't it, I totally understand,,feel free to get stuff off ur chest here, if it helps anyone having a little rant or just a chat with people who understand here than I think we can help each other through a bad patch

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By *reeneggsandsamMan over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

I developed intimacy issues after the death of a loved one. I also became very body conscious in the early days.

It's amazing how good sex makes us feel.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Any one ever needs to reach out, don't hesitate to message me.

I've spent many years in the darklands and know more than you'd imagine.

I don't get more than 4 hours sleep and am up till 2 most nights.

Talking is good.

No judging or shaming of any kind. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"IS THERE REALLY ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD WORTH WORRYING ABOUT.... NO.. GETTING ANXIOUS ABOUT.. NO... EVERYTHING SORTS ITSELF OUT IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER "

I'm sorry but this simply is not true.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Another lonely Christmas

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"IS THERE REALLY ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD WORTH WORRYING ABOUT.... NO.. GETTING ANXIOUS ABOUT.. NO... EVERYTHING SORTS ITSELF OUT IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER

I'm sorry but this simply is not true."

It's harsh when taken out of context of the lady's post and if this helps a person with their feelings then, yes it's true for them! Like thinking to oneself "there is always someone worse off than myself"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anxiety. Sertraline helps as did cbt. Sometimes it rears it ugly head. I ask myself at times " why me ?" I use to be so laid back...well I still am 99% of the time but that bloody 1% !!!!

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"Long term depression here, Fab doesn't exactly help in that regard but it's also my main source of social interaction these days."

I suffer with a few and swinging makes me feel more comfortable in my own skin compared to my normal life

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"Long term depression here, Fab doesn't exactly help in that regard but it's also my main source of social interaction these days.

I suffer with a few and swinging makes me feel more comfortable in my own skin compared to my normal life"

I suffer with depression, anxiety and ptsd

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There’s an awful lot of ptsd on here. Are you all diagnosed or self diagnosing?

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

im diagnosed

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm diagnosed cptsd, eupd and did x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anxiety. Sertraline helps as did cbt. Sometimes it rears it ugly head. I ask myself at times " why me ?" I use to be so laid back...well I still am 99% of the time but that bloody 1% !!!! "

I'm on sertraline too, double edged sword for me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There’s an awful lot of ptsd on here. Are you all diagnosed or self diagnosing?"

There's an awful lot of shitty things that happen to people, sadly this will never change.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Any one ever needs to reach out, don't hesitate to message me.

I've spent many years in the darklands and know more than you'd imagine.

I don't get more than 4 hours sleep and am up till 2 most nights.

Talking is good.

No judging or shaming of any kind. X "

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"After going through all the messages maybe it would be nice to have a go to forum for people to just message when ur feeling down,,this chat has shown so many people are in the same situation,,,a simple message to say hi guys I'm not good today,,,and I'm sure by all of us here we can try our best to make who ever is feeling down better, fabswingers is a swinging site but fuck we are all normal people with normal lives,,,just maybe kinker,,"

Agreed x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s an awful lot of ptsd on here. Are you all diagnosed or self diagnosing?

There's an awful lot of shitty things that happen to people, sadly this will never change."

That’s true, it doesn’t always lead to a diagnosis of ptsd though. Your dissociative identity diagnosis is also one of the rarest diagnoses.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm diagnosed cptsd, eupd and did x"

Had you one of these diagnoses before the other? They can all be considered to be co-morbid traits of eupd for instance.

I’m just curious.

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

I agree with that it would be nice having a message like that every so often or even someone asking if you’re ok I know to a lot it will annoy them but it’s good to know that someone cares I had that before but I lost it because I reverted back to pushing people away because I was so afraid of them finding out about my mental health

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

Agreed x"

Yep, there are several Facebook pages for ex. Service personnel that do exactly that - and it works very simply and effectively.

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By *ust looking 24TV/TS over a year ago

Oldham

Ptsd through saving in milatary also ansiaty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sertraline is like a placebo! hence the big pharmacies make billions from illnes! as the doc says meds are only a plaster overe a bigger issue! true words if you accept it! if you don`t i guess you are that circle of meds,i need them, meds lol

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By *ust looking 24TV/TS over a year ago

Oldham

Sertraline are horrible and don't help council in is ok but doesn't solve the problem all together

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sertraline is like a placebo! hence the big pharmacies make billions from illnes! as the doc says meds are only a plaster overe a bigger issue! true words if you accept it! if you don`t i guess you are that circle of meds,i need them, meds lol"

Sometimes the issue is one that cannot be resolved, removed or treated.

My issues were triggered by my daughter's illness, her attempting to commit suicide on several occasions. I caught her trying to hang her self twice. She was then sectioned, a few months later developed non epileptic seizures. In the mean time my mum died unexpectedly.

My daughter still has all these issues, she cannot walk at the moment due to her NEAD, has severe autism amongst other things.

No amount of CBT or councilling helps or will resolve this. Sertraline is the one thing that keeps me from falling apart so I can care for my daughter.

A placebo or a plaster it is not to me and many others I suspect.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tend to agree with this. Any time that I’ve been placed upon them, I just continuously get worse. I reckon that ssris are similar to the mindfulness teachings, if you believe it to work - it will. Meanwhile, those in dire straights get worse and struck off, for not thanking them for said placebo, and giving the form of “counselling” you can receive from your hairdresser.

Psychiatrists - don’t get me started on them either lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been on antidepressants for about 20 years now. Fab allows me to chat and not feel so alone. I've made some really good friends.

(OP..I'm claire too!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's difficult that the prescribed needs aren't helping you. I hope you can talk that through with a qualified practitioner who can help try something else.

Please try not to discourage others from taking their meds.. It could be dangerous. Especially in the first few weeks of taking them when it feels side effects will never settle and your bloods haven't settled down to a maintenance dose yet. It may be that these meds are helping in ways people are unaware of and simply not taking them will, in many cases, cause a strong rebound effect where symptoms can return but really powerfully.

If people have issues with meds, please please talk to your prescribing practitioner.

G xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sertraline is the worst. My GP prescribed for me after the breakdown of my last relationship. I did my research and asked around about side effects etc yet it would be my luck that I'd get side effects that no one had!

Hasn't helped my moods at tall but my jaw is strong af from my teeth chattering/grinding in my sleep

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By * F 2018Couple over a year ago

shropshire

Anxiety and depression with ocd it nice to know there are others out there.. at the time though you feel isolated and cant put your head in order hate this time of year to as the dark days make it worse....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is absolute rubbish..my depression is cause by a physical chemical imbalance...so no amount of talking or therapy will make any difference

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I,ve had 19 sessions of cbt lol what is rubbish? maybe question my meds are so freely handed out! as a human i can only help my own sanity! end of! don`t rely on nhs to save your mind1

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've suffered with depression and anxiety on and off for the last 15 years. Im on citalopram 20mg just came off 40mg. I have some really good days and I also some really bad days! I've been known to shut myself off for a couple or 3 days at a time in the past and just hide, but thankfully they are very rare now days.

Fab is brilliant in some ways when it's the really good days but when it's the bad days sometimes it only takes something silly like someone to just delete a message and not even say thanks for your message but your not for me type of thing that can make you question yourself, and then that leads to bad thoughts about yourself. Hope that makes some sense

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Firstly I applaud the bravery to speak openly about mental health,

It took me a year to come to terms with my personal issues, I lost my mum out of the blue aged 51 to sudden death syndrome, 3 days later i lost my son.

Then followed a spiralling pitfall of clinical depression, already previously diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, I ensued onto several months of self harm, attempted suicide, sectioned under the mental health act, only now a couple months later I'm coming to terms with my condition and my needs,

Fair play for speaking up, gives people like me the courage to do the same x

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"Firstly I applaud the bravery to speak openly about mental health,

It took me a year to come to terms with my personal issues, I lost my mum out of the blue aged 51 to sudden death syndrome, 3 days later i lost my son.

Fair play for speaking up, gives people like me the courage to do the same x"

Really sorry to read of your loss. Anyone would struggle with that. Finding a direction to channel your energies and efforts is imperative,something that continues to give meaning to their lives. I've used the spirit of friends and family lost to drive forward with new ambitions and its a huge help. I feel their presence as I take each step.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Firstly I applaud the bravery to speak openly about mental health,

It took me a year to come to terms with my personal issues, I lost my mum out of the blue aged 51 to sudden death syndrome, 3 days later i lost my son.

Fair play for speaking up, gives people like me the courage to do the same x"

Speaking up? we are all human! no matter what medium we choose! shame theres not more support on here! it`s sometimes the destructive reason some end up here! we have to take control ourselves and yes sounds hard! but meds are just there temp, good things come to anyone that can turn a fucked up situation into 1 positive! ive met so many beautiful homeless peeps when iv`e been low that have chatted to me i have respect for anyone and everyone feeling shit in life! just walk outside of you comfort zone and talk to a random human! maybe they are not feeling great! x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ll admit that I’m a mental health nurse but suffer with bulimia and depression.

Please hang in there. You are SO important in what you do. Thank you for that!! Don't ignore your own needs though.

I’m doing well, my mental health is great, my eating is still irratic, my manager is great though

To be fair my bulimia has taken a dip since I was assaulted a month ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have had depression and low self esteem most of my adult life.

I work full time and I am single but I still look around on here and think to myself other people don't worry half as much as you do about being seen on a swingers site.

I have 15 photos but only 1 is set to public so how I expect women and couples to be interested from 1 photo is beyond me.

I am literally my own worst enemy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes the issue is one that cannot be resolved, removed or treated.

My daughter still has all these issues, she cannot walk at the moment due to her NEAD, has severe autism amongst other things.

No amount of CBT or councilling helps or will resolve this. Sertraline is the one thing that keeps me from falling apart so I can care for my daughter.

A placebo or a plaster it is not to me and many others I suspect."

Sorry to hear of your pain in this life, i document my issues with meds and research, i take everything with a pinch of salt! meds are openly given with no other questions or referals! which raised a question to me! why? yes meds can help! i agree but are they the answer within a 10 minute meet?

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