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How many responses to ladies and couples get?
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Recently spoke to a couple at my local swingers club. They said they get hundreds of messages. and delete loads of them without even reading them.
Is this the case for all ladies and couples?
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over a year ago
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"Recently spoke to a couple at my local swingers club. They said they get hundreds of messages. and delete loads of them without even reading them.
Is this the case for all ladies and couples?
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For us it all depends on the message itself, you would be surprised how many guys copy and paste the exact same message over and over again.
Anyone that clearly hasn't bothered to read our profile we just delete the message. |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Recently spoke to a couple at my local swingers club. They said they get hundreds of messages. and delete loads of them without even reading them.
Is this the case for all ladies and couples?
For us it all depends on the message itself, you would be surprised how many guys copy and paste the exact same message over and over again.
Anyone that clearly hasn't bothered to read our profile we just delete the message. "
So what would a good response be? |
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"Recently spoke to a couple at my local swingers club. They said they get hundreds of messages. and delete loads of them without even reading them.
Is this the case for all ladies and couples?
For us it all depends on the message itself, you would be surprised how many guys copy and paste the exact same message over and over again.
Anyone that clearly hasn't bothered to read our profile we just delete the message.
So what would a good response be?"
A good message depends on what the individual wants, which you can tell by reading their profile. |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"... But yes, even on a quiet day (which for me is under 100 messages), I delete any clearly lazy message. "
Do you read them all before deleting them? I normally put: Hello {name} in the title/subject line, before putting more info in the main box. The wrong thing to do? |
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"... But yes, even on a quiet day (which for me is under 100 messages), I delete any clearly lazy message.
Do you read them all before deleting them? I normally put: Hello {name} in the title/subject line, before putting more info in the main box. The wrong thing to do?"
I do, yes. But not everyone will. |
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"Recently spoke to a couple at my local swingers club. They said they get hundreds of messages. and delete loads of them without even reading them.
Is this the case for all ladies and couples?
For us it all depends on the message itself, you would be surprised how many guys copy and paste the exact same message over and over again.
Anyone that clearly hasn't bothered to read our profile we just delete the message. "
We have the same problem, it’s annoying when people expect you to read their message without bothering to read your profile first !
We at lease say we’re not interested as it only takes a second to type. |
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"Not hundreds these days (was at the beginning), now more like 10 or so a day."
Same as this, more if we have popped a new vid or pic up. The ones that are deleted without response are mainly those that havent read the profile |
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I changed my filters ages ago.
Pretty much stopped all messages
But been playing a few forum games recently so took them down.
Apart from the forum PMs, I've deleted unread 115 so far today!
I'm in a different area, I'm not looking to meet, but I'm obviously popping up as 'fresh meat' on the locals radar! |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"our age probably reduces some of the messages thank goodness but do still get in the teens each day, some get deleted some get replied to it largely depends on the message tbh  "
What kind of message would be an automatic no?
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We used to reply to everyone. Takes 2 seconds to say 'no thanks' but then we'd get people arguing their case, insulting us and just being rude so we started to just ignore/delete.
Theres also only so many times you can type 'you didn't read the profile'. |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I changed my filters ages ago.
Pretty much stopped all messages
But been playing a few forum games recently so took them down.
Apart from the forum PMs, I've deleted unread 115 so far today!
I'm in a different area, I'm not looking to meet, but I'm obviously popping up as 'fresh meat' on the locals radar! "
Blimey - that's a lot. How many would you meet? |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"We used to reply to everyone. Takes 2 seconds to say 'no thanks' but then we'd get people arguing their case, insulting us and just being rude so we started to just ignore/delete.
Theres also only so many times you can type 'you didn't read the profile'. "
Yes, the couple I spoke to mentioned the abusive messages. What a weird head-space to be in if you feel the need to humiliate someone because they wouldn't give you what you wanted! |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"our age probably reduces some of the messages thank goodness but do still get in the teens each day, some get deleted some get replied to it largely depends on the message tbh "
Just checked your profile - Kitten looks in great shape. You're a lucky man. Do you get message from younger people, who like the idea of playing with an older couple?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In our experience most messages are complete rubbish (from all genders, it's not just a single male thing). It's not hard to pick something out of even the shortest profile to comment on, or comment on a pic, or something else from the profile to indicate that the sender is paying a bit of attention and not just spraying out messages in the hope of getting a hit. This won't guarantee a response but it will stand more chance than the standard 'hi, how are you' variety. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We used to reply to everyone. Takes 2 seconds to say 'no thanks' but then we'd get people arguing their case, insulting us and just being rude so we started to just ignore/delete.
Theres also only so many times you can type 'you didn't read the profile'. "
This is our experience too. Being reported for turning down single males was getting exhausting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Humour in a message is always welcomed by us as we look for people with a good sense of humour.
Completely ignoring the fact we are a couple and directing messages just to Larissa also puts us off. Photos showing a dick next to a chocolate bar is also very off-putting and has stopped me buying Mars bar's for life.
Also men who feel the need to tell is they are a heavy cummer.
Ugh.
For us messages should show you've read our profile, have a similar interest in what we are looking for, while being polite and respectful. Then we reply  |
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"I changed my filters ages ago.
Pretty much stopped all messages
But been playing a few forum games recently so took them down.
Apart from the forum PMs, I've deleted unread 115 so far today!
I'm in a different area, I'm not looking to meet, but I'm obviously popping up as 'fresh meat' on the locals radar!
Blimey - that's a lot. How many would you meet?"
None.
As I said, I'm not looking to meet.
I'm here visiting family, catching up with a few friends.
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We get a handful of messages a week now but then again we are not seeking single men and if they’ve read the profile ( yes I know it’s a big if ) they will have noticed that we are only meeting at chameleons at the moment so that puts plenty of people off. |
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Most messages we receive it's evident they haven't read our profile. The majority will then claim to have read it even though we know they haven't. If they are copy and paste or something along the lines of "nice pics"/want to meet now/I'd love to fuck the Mrs" it will either be an automatic delete or may just have some fun winding them up.
If there's so little effort with a message why would we think anything more would be any different? |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Humour in a message is always welcomed by us as we look for people with a good sense of humour.
Completely ignoring the fact we are a couple and directing messages just to Larissa also puts us off. Photos showing a dick next to a chocolate bar is also very off-putting and has stopped me buying Mars bar's for life.
Also men who feel the need to tell is they are a heavy cummer.
Ugh.
For us messages should show you've read our profile, have a similar interest in what we are looking for, while being polite and respectful. Then we reply "
Just so you know - my penis comparison confectionery of choice would be a Curly Wurly| |
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"Recently spoke to a couple at my local swingers club. They said they get hundreds of messages. and delete loads of them without even reading them.
Is this the case for all ladies and couples?
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We get very few, and we have no filters. But it says on our profile that we are mostly only meeting socially, so perhaps people do read. We respond to every message that is more than just a single sentence. But as we get so few that’s no real hardship. |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Recently spoke to a couple at my local swingers club. They said they get hundreds of messages. and delete loads of them without even reading them.
Is this the case for all ladies and couples?
We get very few, and we have no filters. But it says on our profile that we are mostly only meeting socially, so perhaps people do read. We respond to every message that is more than just a single sentence. But as we get so few that’s no real hardship. "
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I always reply to localish guys or ones who have written a nice message or if they're hot. I delete without reading the rest every month or so. They're usually miles away or something.
Nothing worse than a full inbox. |
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"Recently spoke to a couple at my local swingers club. They said they get hundreds of messages. and delete loads of them without even reading them.
Is this the case for all ladies and couples?
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Ah dont worry, people have to make themselves feel better and important one way or another. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I keep my filters tight so I don't get a load a day. I get between 10 and 20 new messages a day and then there's the people I chat to who I message as well. I answer most of mine a lot of the time even if it's just to say no. I don't answer the ones that cheat through my filters or are rude. I think it's a numbers thing for most people tho. There are only so many you can answer in a day and keep other chats going. |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
When my filters are wide open, yes I receive a lot of messages. But I don’t see the point as they are mainly from people I am not interested in. I found much more success sending out my own messages. Not everyone was interested but it worked better. Who wants 100s of messages a day? |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"When my filters are wide open, yes I receive a lot of messages. But I don’t see the point as they are mainly from people I am not interested in. I found much more success sending out my own messages. Not everyone was interested but it worked better. Who wants 100s of messages a day? "
So no. I don’t get that many each day. Only from people I have normally met at the moment. |
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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago
Bury/Bolton |
Unless we have a meet posted we probably get 3-5 a week, it goes up if we post a meet, significantly so.
We have filters set and have been here long enough to have used the block button to narrow down those locally who we have identified as definitely not of interest.
We still delete most messages, but we do reply to everyone who has taken the time to read our profile and verify they are a match to what we're looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We can go a couple of weeks without any messages. We tend to get more when we have put up a status or posted in the forums. Rarely have they read our profile so we often just delete |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like most people, we get a few a day. If the profile is hidden, as it usually is, we get none. If it's showing we get probably 3 or 4. We have really good filters on as well, which helps to out the chancers - have to be a site supporter, have to have public photos, etc. |
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By *anmol OP Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Like most people, we get a few a day. If the profile is hidden, as it usually is, we get none. If it's showing we get probably 3 or 4. We have really good filters on as well, which helps to out the chancers - have to be a site supporter, have to have public photos, etc. "
Yes, I have seen the site supporter message. What's the significance. Why is that important for some people? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be fair I have put a lot of effort into messages and been ignored so tend not to anymore and then had a nice chat with someone from a simple hello!
I go with short and sweet and a hope for the best.
I have a feeling most messages are deleted immediately by single ladies and I could imagine the ladies are bombarded so completely understand.
Won’t stop me from having a look and trying to make contact in future though ??
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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago
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"Like most people, we get a few a day. If the profile is hidden, as it usually is, we get none. If it's showing we get probably 3 or 4. We have really good filters on as well, which helps to out the chancers - have to be a site supporter, have to have public photos, etc.
Yes, I have seen the site supporter message. What's the significance. Why is that important for some people?"
It's an additional filter that reduces the amount of messages from those who tend to go unlos on a regular basis then return next time they are looking for a cheap thrill. |
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We get a couple a week. Polite ones that actually show they are interested in us (as opposed to carpet-bombing messages) get a polite reply. Messages which make no mention of our names or anything about us personally get deleted. If they could say exactly the same thing word-for-word to somebody else then we're not interested. |
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"our age probably reduces some of the messages thank goodness but do still get in the teens each day, some get deleted some get replied to it largely depends on the message tbh
What kind of message would be an automatic no?
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one where it is obvious profile not even beeen glanced through  |
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I mainly have my filters off at the moment as I’m also hoping to use the site to find something more than sex, so I don’t want to block single guys so that the few who might be looking for similar can get through.
This actually makes the site really difficult to use for casual meets- I would usually be able to focus on a few decent chats but I find it hard with the filters off and new messages coming through. I reckon I’m going to have to rethink my strategy and I really don’t know how women manage to use the site without having filters on. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I use filters so my mail is manageable
On our couple profile we have single men blocked as we don't want to meet them ,that cuts down a lot of mail.As does the fact I am straight and many couples specifically seek bi fems or couples with a bi fem. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"our age probably reduces some of the messages thank goodness but do still get in the teens each day, some get deleted some get replied to it largely depends on the message tbh
What kind of message would be an automatic no?
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Any asking if i'm free now
Or asking wuu2?or wuin2
I like most women check a profile before deciding to reply |
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By *arkbaneMan
over a year ago
East leeds |
"We used to reply to everyone. Takes 2 seconds to say 'no thanks' but then we'd get people arguing their case, insulting us and just being rude so we started to just ignore/delete.
Theres also only so many times you can type 'you didn't read the profile'. "
Just block them ?? |
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over a year ago
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"...Yes, I have seen the site supporter message. What's the significance. Why is that important for some people?"
I figure if someone won't spend a few quid on a paid m_mbership they probably aren't all that serious about the lifestyle and are just chancers, and dipping in to "see what happens". (Note to the toe dippers: nothing will happen - this lifestyle takes effort and time.  It also eliminates those that sign up again and again after they get blocked under another profile name. |
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