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Do looks play a major role?
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So I've seen a few posts on here from single guys how they don't get any response and from single ladies and couples explaining they look for nice respectful people, so obviously on this site, looks and attraction play a part, but how much of a part do they play in your guys choice to chat, play and meet? As I saw a few posts that got me thinking about this as sury, there is only so much of nice and respectful without attractiveness? |
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over a year ago
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"So I've seen a few posts on here from single guys how they don't get any response and from single ladies and couples explaining they look for nice respectful people, so obviously on this site, looks and attraction play a part, but how much of a part do they play in your guys choice to chat, play and meet? As I saw a few posts that got me thinking about this as sury, there is only so much of nice and respectful without attractiveness?"
I'm sorry if she doesnt look like Scarlet Johansson then no chance  |
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For us so long as there is not a turn off physically then we can develop an attraction for a couple through conversation, equally the best looking couples can soon become unattractive to us if the chat doesn’t fit what we are looking for.
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I’d say it’s almost 100% attraction for most normal folk on here. Maybe desperation for the others? Harsh, but true. I’m not meaning purely looks either. Quality of pics, profile, and use of English can all count toward attraction. |
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"Attraction plays a huge part of a meet being successful. It can also lead to future meets and friendship.
We can’t be attracted to everyone but some people don’t seem to accept that. "
This is my exact attitude! I do get the feeling that there are way too many people that tell guys to be respectfull and nice to them in order to chat and they take it literally, just like you said, there needs to be a physical attraction or you wont be able to fully enjoy a meet |
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"sequentially
1 look
2 body including size of tool
3 ethnicity
4 age
5 Brian( if you have above 4 qualities 5th will be ignored  ) irony buy true "
Would Tom, Dick, or Harry pass muster if they had a brain?  |
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"sequentially
1 look
2 body including size of tool
3 ethnicity
4 age
5 Brian( if you have above 4 qualities 5th will be ignored ) irony buy true "
Gosh. You’re really narrowing your options if they have to be called Brian  |
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"I’d say it’s almost 100% attraction for most normal folk on here. Maybe desperation for the others? Harsh, but true. I’m not meaning purely looks either. Quality of pics, profile, and use of English can all count toward attraction. "
This.
Attraction is not about a six pack or large cock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"sequentially
1 look
2 body including size of tool
3 ethnicity
4 age
5 Brian( if you have above 4 qualities 5th will be ignored ) irony buy true
Would Tom, Dick, or Harry pass muster if they had a brain? "
Elusive standard fucking auto correct |
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Looks get you noticed, personality gets a meet, a good attitude will get you even further
Problem being, we both have to like the couple AND the couple has to like us too. Patience is key.
Ed & Lou x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Attraction plays a huge part of a meet being successful. It can also lead to future meets and friendship.
We can’t be attracted to everyone but some people don’t seem to accept that.
This is my exact attitude! I do get the feeling that there are way too many people that tell guys to be respectfull and nice to them in order to chat and they take it literally, just like you said, there needs to be a physical attraction or you wont be able to fully enjoy a meet"
there has to be an atrraction but there has to be respect both ways too and your not going to chat to someone if they are not nice ?? again both ways |
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See for me, looks gets you in the door, then its up you to make a connection and make sure both parties get along, now that opens another can of worms about what those 2 parties like or dislike and to me it also opens up that the amount of guys leaves women mote choices, therefor less likely to desl with what normally would be minor things, but again, different conversation |
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Success on fab is pretty much directly equal to success in "real life", a man that walks into a bar and all the women's heads turn will have more "luck" on fab than a man that walks into the same bar and all the women vomit into a bucket. OK a bit extreme lol but you know what I mean! Looks, athletic build, height and confidence are always going to be the main attributes. Intelligence and wit next. Oh, and a massive cock helps |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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"Looks get you noticed, personality gets a meet, a good attitude will get you even further
Problem being, we both have to like the couple AND the couple has to like us too. Patience is key.
Ed & Lou x"
Totally agree with you  |
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I’m not photogenic (my other half is a photographer and he says the same - he’s pretty much given up trying to get a decent photo of me  ). When I meet people they always say I look much better in real life.
That’s the thing with photos, you never really know. I’ve had messages from people and thought nah not for me, and then met them in clubs and really fancied (and played with) them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looks are not the be all and end all, nice people, nice personality who know how to have naughty fun with no hang ups or drama are more important to us, of course we have ever changing and evolving preferences... |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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Looks play no part in my decision as to whether I will play with someone. Maybe because I am not incredibly beautiful myself but some of the best sex I have had has been with not typically good looking people.
Plus good looking people are usually up their own arses, not something I find at all attractive.
Confidence, intelligence and a sense of humour will always make me moist  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Massive part.. No attraction.. No meeting
If you are as ugly as fuck you ain't getting any luck. "
I was told that by someone on here today, how unkind |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looks play no part in my decision as to whether I will play with someone. Maybe because I am not incredibly beautiful myself but some of the best sex I have had has been with not typically good looking people.
Plus good looking people are usually up their own arses, not something I find at all attractive.
Confidence, intelligence and a sense of humour will always make me moist "
I am with this Op
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"Looks play no part in my decision as to whether I will play with someone. Maybe because I am not incredibly beautiful myself but some of the best sex I have had has been with not typically good looking people.
Plus good looking people are usually up their own arses, not something I find at all attractive.
Confidence, intelligence and a sense of humour will always make me moist "
Sounds like I'm your kind of guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Plus good looking people are usually up their own arses
What a load of shit"
Agreed this is shite in fact it’s often the opposite, unconventionally looking people who have never really had attention from the opposite sex in the real world suddenly discover swinging and the new attention goes straight to there head and they become up their own arses.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This site is wholly looks based, no matter what any of the forums say. It’s the cold hard truth"
for the most part we dont see faces until really a decision has already been made, so not entirely true  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"This site is wholly looks based, no matter what any of the forums say. It’s the cold hard truthfor the most part we dont see faces until really a decision has already been made, so not entirely true "
I won't decide until I've seen a face pic and won't meet anyone who is at least a 7 |
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over a year ago
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"Ive spoke to attractive women in a swingers club, only to find ugly personalities which put me right off! "
exactly a beautiful face doesn't always equate to an attractive person |
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"for the most part we dont see faces until really a decision has already been made, so not entirely true "
eh no chance no face pic = no chat so therefore no decision no point in all that chit chat and then oh this is me and you want to grab the sick bag ??? both ways by the way |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This site is wholly looks based, no matter what any of the forums say. It’s the cold hard truth"
There's still loads of men here that will fuck any woman who opens her legs for him, regardless of looks. I know it's a male thing, like shagging the gross one at the end of the night, but I've never understood it and found it horribly desperate & disrespectful. |
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"Ive spoke to attractive women in a swingers club, only to find ugly personalities which put me right off! exactly a beautiful face doesn't always equate to an attractive person "
and totally agree to add to the looks they have to be a nice person too but unlike looks thats a hard one to suss sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sure we all have our own types, what I find attarcive
Might not be to the next lady and so on.
Yes there has to be a arraction but there is someone for everyone (thankfully) |
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"There's still loads of men here that will fuck any woman who opens her legs for him, regardless of looks. I know it's a male thing, like shagging the gross one at the end of the night, but I've never understood it and found it horribly desperate & disrespectful. "
and women ...its not just a guy thing |
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"Ive spoke to attractive women in a swingers club, only to find ugly personalities which put me right off! exactly a beautiful face doesn't always equate to an attractive person
and totally agree to add to the looks they have to be a nice person too but unlike looks thats a hard one to suss sometimes "
well it's not all about looks then lol |
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"Ive spoke to attractive women in a swingers club, only to find ugly personalities which put me right off! exactly a beautiful face doesn't always equate to an attractive person
and totally agree to add to the looks they have to be a nice person too but unlike looks thats a hard one to suss sometimes well it's not all about looks then lol "
well it is because looks come first so if you dont clear that hurdle then you dont get a lookin from the start ??? not rocket science |
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It's an essential part, so once that threshold is passed, it's about evaluation of the match levels, including personality and compatibility - picking those who are matched well overall.
Take it as a given that you single men will have to work hard to sell yourselves and it will take months to become established. It's not about needing phenomenal looks and personality - but you'll need to be perceived as attractive to each person you meet and initially communicating your personality via messages and your profile to a good extent.
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"For us so long as there is not a turn off physically then we can develop an attraction for a couple through conversation, equally the best looking couples can soon become unattractive to us if the chat doesn’t fit what we are looking for.
xx"
This totally - well said xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive spoke to attractive women in a swingers club, only to find ugly personalities which put me right off! exactly a beautiful face doesn't always equate to an attractive person
and totally agree to add to the looks they have to be a nice person too but unlike looks thats a hard one to suss sometimes well it's not all about looks then lol
well it is because looks come first so if you dont clear that hurdle then you dont get a lookin from the start ??? not rocket science "
ahhhh here maybe but this is an internet domain |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive spoke to attractive women in a swingers club, only to find ugly personalities which put me right off! exactly a beautiful face doesn't always equate to an attractive person
and totally agree to add to the looks they have to be a nice person too but unlike looks thats a hard one to suss sometimes well it's not all about looks then lol
well it is because looks come first so if you dont clear that hurdle then you dont get a lookin from the start ??? not rocket science ahhhh here maybe but this is an internet domain "
agree .... with that everything ive said on here is fab based ..if i was in a club then you get talking then personality can overtake looks a little i guess |
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"Ive spoke to attractive women in a swingers club, only to find ugly personalities which put me right off! exactly a beautiful face doesn't always equate to an attractive person
and totally agree to add to the looks they have to be a nice person too but unlike looks thats a hard one to suss sometimes well it's not all about looks then lol
well it is because looks come first so if you dont clear that hurdle then you dont get a lookin from the start ??? not rocket science ahhhh here maybe but this is an internet domain
agree .... with that everything ive said on here is fab based ..if i was in a club then you get talking then personality can overtake looks a little i guess"
exactly my point |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive spoke to attractive women in a swingers club, only to find ugly personalities which put me right off!
Ever spoken to an unattractive woman with an ugly personality?"
no but ive spoken to a personality with an ugly disposition |
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"Ive spoke to attractive women in a swingers club, only to find ugly personalities which put me right off!
Ever spoken to an unattractive woman with an ugly personality?"
no but when I speak to yous i think that yous have a great personality and its nothing but a bonus that yous are a good looking couple x |
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"Ive spoke to attractive women in a swingers club, only to find ugly personalities which put me right off!
Ever spoken to an unattractive woman with an ugly personality? no but when I speak to yous i think that yous have a great personality and its nothing but a bonus that yous are a good looking couple x"
Aw Jack thank you. The same applies to you |
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"Ive spoke to attractive women in a swingers club, only to find ugly personalities which put me right off!
Ever spoken to an unattractive woman with an ugly personality?no but ive spoken to a personality with an ugly disposition "
Yep, me too.
I just smile a bit when people say things like that about some attractive women as if all unattractive women have cracking personalities.  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Looks are important to me - in so far as I want to feel physically attracted to the person I fuck. If that's not there but they have a great personality we become friends and that's okay. |
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