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So, last post of the evening, again, for curiositys sake, do any of you lovely couples or ladies ever message guys first or do you like to wait to be contacted? Can't say I've ever recieved a message first, would love to be messaged first, but I get theres a huge selection on here, would love to know if any of you even have to be proactive with the amount of guys that are on here! |
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I kmow it sounds like I'm begging or asking for it on this, I'm not, I am genuinly just curious but I do appreciate any advice and stuff, with the amount of single guys that are on the forums that seen to be struggling got my mind going with all sorts of thoughts so figured I'd get into the forums! |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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I sometimes message people after comments on the forum. Very rarely message someone because I have searched through profiles of local guys . Most gents I meet are at clubs. So much easier and quicker than by messaging.
Have you tried club's ? Plenty around the North West and Midlands. |
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"I sometimes message people after comments on the forum. Very rarely message someone because I have searched through profiles of local guys . Most gents I meet are at clubs. So much easier and quicker than by messaging.
Have you tried club's ? Plenty around the North West and Midlands. "
I havn't, most of the clubs that are local enough to justify me going too cost about £50 including memberships, and I can't lie, I am shit scared of going alone haha! I was close to going to quest a few times but I can be a tad bit shy in bar/clubs |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"So, last post of the evening, again, for curiositys sake, do any of you lovely couples or ladies ever message guys first or do you like to wait to be contacted? Can't say I've ever recieved a message first, would love to be messaged first, but I get theres a huge selection on here, would love to know if any of you even have to be proactive with the amount of guys that are on here!"
Yep, I wink and message first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive been on here 8 months and had my first first contact from a couple last night and am only in contact with 2 single ladies who ive made contact with first with so far.
The couple apologised to me and said that if they dont reply right away its because they have an inbox full of hundreds of requests from single guys and that she (from the couple) wanted to pick someone out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m a hunter outer.. I usually have men blocked. I wink a fair amount and message first. My winks are often ignored, lol.
Men’s shock at being messaged first cheers me up no end, even if it never goes anywhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m a hunter outer.. I usually have men blocked. I wink a fair amount and message first. My winks are often ignored, lol.
Men’s shock at being messaged first cheers me up no end, even if it never goes anywhere."
Haha - shocked was an understatement and ive been grinning from ear to ear all day  |
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"I’m a hunter outer.. I usually have men blocked. I wink a fair amount and message first. My winks are often ignored, lol.
Men’s shock at being messaged first cheers me up no end, even if it never goes anywhere."
I can imagine it's quite a trest for the fellas! Lol |
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Well as a new guy I’d say since joining the forums on Monday I’ve had far more messages and engaging conversation with potential meets and some probably to far for either of us to consider a in the flesh meet but wouldn’t rule anything out, now before I found the forums or should I say before I could comment ( waiting the 7 days fab required ) I was actually giving up with the site. Just be yourself and you’ve received plenty of positive comments so I’m sure the messages will come, personally I wouldn’t want loads of pointless inboxes just ones that stand out and are of a similar mind set to you. Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first meet came from a couple messaging me first. Ended up being a great night with great company. Others I have messaged, some we still chat and others decline. It's just the way it goes, same as if in clubs. It is easier in clubs as people at least know your genuine and and can chat face to face. It's always good as a single guy to get a message as they can be rare on here. |
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"We never message anyone first.
Any perticular reason or just have enough choice?
We prefer to meet people at a club.
It’s far less hassle."
That's fair enough, I think I'd end up going a bit shy in a club scenario if I was by myself |
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"I happily message first - I don't do searches, but if someone has caught my interest with forum posts and I've got a feel for their personality, and would like to find out more about them"
I must say I am enjoying using the site much more now I started using forums, i enjoy seeing what people are thinking about and fhings like this post, where people can help me with things I get curious about! |
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"I do message first, usually about a status update, a new photo or if they've winked at me & I like their profile.
So if you see something you like then you will take the lead on that?"
Yes why not? I'm on here to meet & that'll only happen after an initial message. |
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"I do message first, usually about a status update, a new photo or if they've winked at me & I like their profile.
So if you see something you like then you will take the lead on that?
Yes why not? I'm on here to meet & that'll only happen after an initial message. "
I agree whole heartidly with that, but there are people that see it different, quite interesting to see how different people act differently on the site |
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"If someone catches my eye, with something they’ve said or an update, I will message first. Why wouldn’t we ? "
I was just curious is all, with the amount of guys that seemingly struggle I just wondered whether there would be an abundance of choice for guys messaging or of people work differently |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone catches my eye, with something they’ve said or an update, I will message first. Why wouldn’t we ?
I was just curious is all, with the amount of guys that seemingly struggle I just wondered whether there would be an abundance of choice for guys messaging or of people work differently"
Personally, I don’t think there’s many high Quality guys that match for me. More men needed  |
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"We never message anyone first.
Any perticular reason or just have enough choice?
We prefer to meet people at a club.
It’s far less hassle.n
That's fair enough, I think I'd end up going a bit shy in a club scenario if I was by myself"
You should go and try it.
We always said it wasn’t for us until 3 years ago.
Tried it, loved it, now prefer it.
It’s not what you think  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes we have messaged first, if sapphire likes the look of a guys profile, I get my order's to message him and after I've gave him a grilling she will message and arrange plus there's always some naughty flirting 
It's all good fun really
So the answer is yes absolutely we do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We message first most of the times .
Some people are hesitant or reluctant to make the first contact ,so we take the initiative after all Fab is to connect rather than just showing off your pics lol |
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Just catchingnup with the posts, seems my original thought that the abundance of single guys would dictate that most people wouldn't have the time or effort to put into this is wrong! Nice to see though, I must admit I'm enjoying using the site a lot more in the forums, seems people are much more inclines to leave comments and chat about different things which is nice for someone like me who's fairly new to the scene! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, many times. More so on my single profile though.
Our couples profile we tend to just turn up ar clubs and see what happens rather than try to arrange anything.
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"Yep, many times. More so on my single profile though.
Our couples profile we tend to just turn up ar clubs and see what happens rather than try to arrange anything.
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Thats a bit different to what I've seen, do you find you get plenty of attention on your couples profile? Or do you get more attention on a single profile, as a single lady I'm sure you probably get plenty of messages on there as well but is it a case of you seek out people you want to meet or let them seek you out as well? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep, many times. More so on my single profile though.
Our couples profile we tend to just turn up ar clubs and see what happens rather than try to arrange anything.
Thats a bit different to what I've seen, do you find you get plenty of attention on your couples profile? Or do you get more attention on a single profile, as a single lady I'm sure you probably get plenty of messages on there as well but is it a case of you seek out people you want to meet or let them seek you out as well?"
My single profile I had all the filters on, so if I didnt message first then I probably wouldn't have met half the people I did. Not surprisingly my single profile got far more attention than our couple one does.
We dont seek anyone out on our couples. People are free to send us messages on our couple account but we dont get that many and from memory I think theres only 2 messages that have ever led to a meet. Our preferred way of meeting people is just to turn up somewhere and see what happens as I find it really hard to gauge off pics if we will find them attractive (and them us)and personality and tone of conversation dont always translate well in an online conversation.
Much easier to meet someone in person and decide after a chat. |
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