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"Do others get inundated by guys who say they are bi when their profile says straight and our profile is clear that we are not interested in straight guys?"
As a single bi guy on here I know that I get the fab straights messaging me. I imagine it must be frustrating for couples though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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a lot of guys will put they are straight on there profile incase some they know sees them and they dont want people to know they are bi
me i dont give a fuck thats why i have face pics
but a lot of people dont like me cause i have facial hair in some pics but i have a thing called a razor  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldn’t say I got inundated but have had my share including couples who have the male listed as straight.
I do know from some couples I have met when we have been chatting they’ve also had guys list as bi or bi curious who then show no interest in bi fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get the opposite. Bi and curious men tell me they are straight even though their profile, interests and veris prove otherwise.."
Yeah this lie wears me down.
I just assume most men are telling lies now - it makes me not want to meet anymore  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get the opposite. Bi and curious men tell me they are straight even though their profile, interests and veris prove otherwise..
Yeah this lie wears me down.
I just assume most men are telling lies now - it makes me not want to meet anymore "
Same here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do others get inundated by guys who say they are bi when their profile says straight and our profile is clear that we are not interested in straight guys?"
All the time, the block button is tired  |
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By *adetMan
over a year ago
South of Ipswich |
"It's a very tricky issue.
Most men can be orally bi without being curious or bisexual . So it's difficult to put them under some label."
I've found exactly this. Most guys that contact me are essentially straight and that's how they identify themselves. I just think sometimes hormones get the better of them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a single guy on here I’m never inundated with messages from anyone lol
But this is the problem with labels, they’re inadequate generalisations. Some guys are genuinely attracted to guys and women but some don’t need to feel any attraction, they just want the sex.
It’s a mine field, tread carefully  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a single guy on here I’m never inundated with messages from anyone lol
But this is the problem with labels, they’re inadequate generalisations. Some guys are genuinely attracted to guys and women but some don’t need to feel any attraction, they just want the sex.
It’s a mine field, tread carefully "
Its an intricate world we live in, however i find "straight" guys just want to sneek round in the dark get what they want and leave never to be seen again, as im not into 1 offs and prefer quality over quantity i just block them, openly bi people tend to be much more relaxed and happy to go for a coffee or a pint either before or after. |
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I wish FAB had an extra choice...”Fluidic”.
I think there is a certain finality and expectation in some folks minds that defining a “Bi” means you are guaranteed to be Bi on a meet. It may set up false expectations sometimes.
I know that on a meet folks can set out boundaries, and then proceed accordingly, but prior to meet and when searching I think a more flexible and ambiguous label could be more helpful on the site.
What are other’s thoughts ?
Mr. DS |
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By *adetMan
over a year ago
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"I wish FAB had an extra choice...”Fluidic”.
I think there is a certain finality and expectation in some folks minds that defining a “Bi” means you are guaranteed to be Bi on a meet. It may set up false expectations sometimes.
I know that on a meet folks can set out boundaries, and then proceed accordingly, but prior to meet and when searching I think a more flexible and ambiguous label could be more helpful on the site.
What are other’s thoughts ?
Mr. DS"
I think the finer details can be discussed in messages as some straight guys may only be situationally bi.
I've a found that some straight guys are just happy to be sucked and nothing more |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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The problem invariably comes down to the misconception of a lot of guys that by identifying as straight it increases their chances of a meet on here because they are looking to get round the "problem" of those that won't meet bi guys.
What they don't realise is by doing so they are closing the door on the far far bigger number of people that either actively seek bi guys or aren't bothered by someones sexuality.
Yes, there are some guys who may be situationally bi, or who are coming to terms with their bisexuality, or worried they might be "outed" but they are the minority - in my experience the overwhelming majority hide it for the reasons I described above. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
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Bi.. Orally bi.. Fab straight.. Its all bollox.
It's really simple.. Your a guy and you like playing with cock and pussy.. Your bi!
Whether you just meet for a wank, a suck, a fuck.. Your a guy playing with cock.. Your bi..
Just admit it!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bi.. Orally bi.. Fab straight.. Its all bollox.
It's really simple.. Your a guy and you like playing with cock and pussy.. Your bi!
Whether you just meet for a wank, a suck, a fuck.. Your a guy playing with cock.. Your bi..
Just admit it!! "
There is nothing wrong in it .
But some ppl play bi during the fun and not specifically look for bi.
There are more cpls here who have females as bicurious but many of them never played with another female. It's just used to get more meets and eventually they all become bi,whether they like it or not . |
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"The problem invariably comes down to the misconception of a lot of guys that by identifying as straight it increases their chances of a meet on here because they are looking to get round the "problem" of those that won't meet bi guys.
What they don't realise is by doing so they are closing the door on the far far bigger number of people that either actively seek bi guys or aren't bothered by someones sexuality.
Yes, there are some guys who may be situationally bi, or who are coming to terms with their bisexuality, or worried they might be "outed" but they are the minority - in my experience the overwhelming majority hide it for the reasons I described above."
I completely agree with you. I understand the reasoning but feel that the reasoning is so flawed that I find myself shaking my head.
The way I see it this is a swinging site where one is supposed to feel free to indulge in the pleasures one wouldn't normally admit to.
I have been swinging for years and only realised I had a bi side about five years ago. I was advised by friends on here to keep it quiet but I thought to myself hell no!! I enjoy meeting straight, bi and cuckold couples.
Yes as single guys number wise the odds are stacked against us but to me when I weigh up potentially alienating some straight couples and missing out on having fun with a cuck or bi couple?....well for me its a no brainer |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Yes as single guys number wise the odds are stacked against us but to me when I weigh up potentially alienating some straight couples and missing out on having fun with a cuck or bi couple?....well for me its a no brainer"
And that's another misconception right there - the numbers game thing - yes, taken at face value the ratio of men to women/couples is completely imbalanced - but take out of that the number of men who have the wrong approach, attitude and expectations of the site and the balance is a lot more even, and certainly makes the notion of hiding a particular side of your sexuality even more ridiculous.
I take the view that if someone doesn't want to meet me because of my sexuality, or the colour of my hair, my age, or the shinyness of my shoes then that is their preference and to be respected - not something for me to lie about, dye my hair and shine my shoes in an attempt to get round it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, most guys that message us are "straight". When we point out we are looking for bi guys/couples they usually come back with "I'm bi, but just have straight on my profile".
I guess that means they aren't bi, but are willing to close their eyes and let a guy suck their dick provided they can fuck the Mrs? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Yep, most guys that message us are "straight". When we point out we are looking for bi guys/couples they usually come back with "I'm bi, but just have straight on my profile".
I guess that means they aren't bi, but are willing to close their eyes and let a guy suck their dick provided they can fuck the Mrs?"
They're easily outed though if you tell them the Mrs "thing" is to watch the guys play together for a while before she joins in |
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"There needs to be a title called bi-kinky.
That mixing might be interesting."
Think bi or bi-cu suggests that you are gay or thinking of being gay, which is fine of course. But if you arnt gay but want to do bi stuff because it was in the moment of having fun. For example Mrs P loves watching a guy suck Mr P. Mr P only does it because he knows how much its going to turn her on. Or Mr and Mrs P like combined sucking a guy because its naughty and kinky. And visa versa for a female. Bi-kinky |
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"Yes as single guys number wise the odds are stacked against us but to me when I weigh up potentially alienating some straight couples and missing out on having fun with a cuck or bi couple?....well for me its a no brainer
And that's another misconception right there - the numbers game thing - yes, taken at face value the ratio of men to women/couples is completely imbalanced - but take out of that the number of men who have the wrong approach, attitude and expectations of the site and the balance is a lot more even, and certainly makes the notion of hiding a particular side of your sexuality even more ridiculous.
I take the view that if someone doesn't want to meet me because of my sexuality, or the colour of my hair, my age, or the shinyness of my shoes then that is their preference and to be respected - not something for me to lie about, dye my hair and shine my shoes in an attempt to get round it."
Yes but first the couples have to wade though the ......(insert your own term) to get to the decent guys and they don't always have the time for that. When I chat with couples I can almost hear the relief when they see that I seem normal lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There needs to be a title called bi-kinky.
That mixing might be interesting.
Think bi or bi-cu suggests that you are gay or thinking of being gay, which is fine of course. But if you arnt gay but want to do bi stuff because it was in the moment of having fun. For example Mrs P loves watching a guy suck Mr P. Mr P only does it because he knows how much its going to turn her on. Or Mr and Mrs P like combined sucking a guy because its naughty and kinky. And visa versa for a female. Bi-kinky "
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"Think bi or bi-cu suggests that you are gay or thinking of being gay, which is fine of course."
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Don't agree with this bit, believe it's more fun to have no limitations. The rest of the quote totally yes. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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From all the posts I've seen, this is unfortunately a regular occurrence.
Do people think it would help if the option to select what your bi preferences are..bi top, btm, both, oral only etc..was available? Would it make finding the type of bi people you want easier? |
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"There needs to be a title called bi-kinky.
That mixing might be interesting.
Think bi or bi-cu suggests that you are gay or thinking of being gay, which is fine of course. But if you arnt gay but want to do bi stuff because it was in the moment of having fun. For example Mrs P loves watching a guy suck Mr P. Mr P only does it because he knows how much its going to turn her on. Or Mr and Mrs P like combined sucking a guy because its naughty and kinky. And visa versa for a female. Bi-kinky
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Think bi or bi-cu suggests that you are gay or thinking of being gay, which is fine of course.
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Don't agree with this bit, believe it's more fun to have no limitations. The rest of the quote totally yes."
Agree with you fully, just thought it might be the reason why some guys who might be bi kinky won't say they are bi - cu |
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"From all the posts I've seen, this is unfortunately a regular occurrence.
Do people think it would help if the option to select what your bi preferences are..bi top, btm, both, oral only etc..was available? Would it make finding the type of bi people you want easier? "
Yes it would help to be more specific. We do tend to ask guys what their bi limits are. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"From all the posts I've seen, this is unfortunately a regular occurrence.
Do people think it would help if the option to select what your bi preferences are..bi top, btm, both, oral only etc..was available? Would it make finding the type of bi people you want easier?
Yes it would help to be more specific. We do tend to ask guys what their bi limits are. "
Peoole will still lie but I agree it should make it easier searching. |
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"From all the posts I've seen, this is unfortunately a regular occurrence.
Do people think it would help if the option to select what your bi preferences are..bi top, btm, both, oral only etc..was available? Would it make finding the type of bi people you want easier? "
I don't think it would make a difference. Yes it would help with clarification among those who are open about it but those in fear of being outed will still keep hiding. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From all the posts I've seen, this is unfortunately a regular occurrence.
Do people think it would help if the option to select what your bi preferences are..bi top, btm, both, oral only etc..was available? Would it make finding the type of bi people you want easier? "
Definately. But wont stop the hiding as they think it limits their chances. (In some cases it does) the old adage of "you can please some of the people some of the time but never please all of the people all of the time" springs to mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get the opposite. Bi and curious men tell me they are straight even though their profile, interests and veris prove otherwise..
Yeah this lie wears me down.
I just assume most men are telling lies now - it makes me not want to meet anymore
Same here. "
bang on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep, most guys that message us are "straight". When we point out we are looking for bi guys/couples they usually come back with "I'm bi, but just have straight on my profile".
I guess that means they aren't bi, but are willing to close their eyes and let a guy suck their dick provided they can fuck the Mrs?"
so very true |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
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"There needs to be a title called bi-kinky.
That mixing might be interesting.
Think bi or bi-cu suggests that you are gay or thinking of being gay, which is fine of course. But if you arnt gay but want to do bi stuff because it was in the moment of having fun. For example Mrs P loves watching a guy suck Mr P. Mr P only does it because he knows how much its going to turn her on. Or Mr and Mrs P like combined sucking a guy because its naughty and kinky. And visa versa for a female. Bi-kinky
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Think bi or bi-cu suggests that you are gay or thinking of being gay, which is fine of course.
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Don't agree with this bit, believe it's more fun to have no limitations. The rest of the quote totally yes.
Agree with you fully, just thought it might be the reason why some guys who might be bi kinky won't say they are bi - cu"
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Bi playful is a term we've heard being used quite often. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"Yep, most guys that message us are "straight". When we point out we are looking for bi guys/couples they usually come back with "I'm bi, but just have straight on my profile".
I guess that means they aren't bi, but are willing to close their eyes and let a guy suck their dick provided they can fuck the Mrs?
so very true"
I'd take the approach of suggesting they do the sucking first on the meet as the wife watches.. you might suddenly see them disappear.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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getting to the point now of no interest in guys who only play bi if the female is there or if they have not after single guys on their profile .if they are not after single guys then neither are we |
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"getting to the point now of no interest in guys who only play bi if the female is there or if they have not after single guys on their profile .if they are not after single guys then neither are we "
Agree to it .
But we also have cpls who want their woman to be bi to get other girls too.
It's all around . We met so many cpls and every one was like we only play if it's a bifem . Fuck it .blocked |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"getting to the point now of no interest in guys who only play bi if the female is there or if they have not after single guys on their profile .if they are not after single guys then neither are we "
That's one way of doing it but probably does rule some genome bi guys who do prefer to play with bi couples..it would rule me out and I've played with males on couples meets and with TV's .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From all the posts I've seen, this is unfortunately a regular occurrence.
Do people think it would help if the option to select what your bi preferences are..bi top, btm, both, oral only etc..was available? Would it make finding the type of bi people you want easier?
Yes it would help to be more specific. We do tend to ask guys what their bi limits are. "
Why don't people just talk to each other?! I'd get rid of all the tick boxes if I could. People aren't pieces of meat. We always discuss anything that is important to us, and ask what is important to them. |
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"getting to the point now of no interest in guys who only play bi if the female is there or if they have not after single guys on their profile .if they are not after single guys then neither are we
Agree to it .
But we also have cpls who want their woman to be bi to get other girls too.
It's all around . We met so many cpls and every one was like we only play if it's a bifem . Fuck it .blocked "
so hard finding the right bi guy,mrs isnt bi and says so on info but that dont stop couples with a bi fem messaging us" sit and watch the 2 girls at it" hows about no never going to happen,she is straight.people just dont read profiles right do they 
apart from that our perfect bi guy would be a top bi guy who isnt married and has mm experience and is available saturday nights(thats us fucked or rather not) lol |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"From all the posts I've seen, this is unfortunately a regular occurrence.
Do people think it would help if the option to select what your bi preferences are..bi top, btm, both, oral only etc..was available? Would it make finding the type of bi people you want easier?
Yes it would help to be more specific. We do tend to ask guys what their bi limits are.
Why don't people just talk to each other?! I'd get rid of all the tick boxes if I could. People aren't pieces of meat. We always discuss anything that is important to us, and ask what is important to them. "
But you do need some filtering system or you'd be starting with chatting to the whole site. |
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"getting to the point now of no interest in guys who only play bi if the female is there or if they have not after single guys on their profile .if they are not after single guys then neither are we
Agree to it .
But we also have cpls who want their woman to be bi to get other girls too.
It's all around . We met so many cpls and every one was like we only play if it's a bifem . Fuck it .blocked "
Bi fem play is different from this subject thread. We have some opinions on this but will save it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The last 3 messages from new people I have had were from 'straight' guys... You will be blocked; don't know hard it is to understand, but I have no interest in straight guys, unless, of course you want a second guy to entertain your wife! |
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over a year ago
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Why is it only men that deny being interested in other men and want to re name being bi to suit them?
I'm bi and I own it.
I'm not calling myself orally bi or bi playful or bi blah blah... snore 
Its the denial and lies that are unattractive to me - not the fact that the man I'm meeting wants to suck someone elses cock.
This subject gets on my nerves!
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"Why is it only men that deny being interested in other men and want to re name being bi to suit them?
I'm bi and I own it.
I'm not calling myself orally bi or bi playful or bi blah blah... snore
Its the denial and lies that are unattractive to me - not the fact that the man I'm meeting wants to suck someone elses cock.
This subject gets on my nerves!
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Its because on here there is no stigma attached to being bi and female. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why is it only men that deny being interested in other men and want to re name being bi to suit them?
I'm bi and I own it.
I'm not calling myself orally bi or bi playful or bi blah blah... snore
Its the denial and lies that are unattractive to me - not the fact that the man I'm meeting wants to suck someone elses cock.
This subject gets on my nerves!
Its because on here there is no stigma attached to being bi and female."
open minded enought to be on such a site and swing but not open enought to stand up and own the sexuality |
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"Why is it only men that deny being interested in other men and want to re name being bi to suit them?
I'm bi and I own it.
I'm not calling myself orally bi or bi playful or bi blah blah... snore
Its the denial and lies that are unattractive to me - not the fact that the man I'm meeting wants to suck someone elses cock.
This subject gets on my nerves!
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Because there are some prudes look down upon bi males like they have some nasty habit or something .lol
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"Why is it only men that deny being interested in other men and want to re name being bi to suit them?
I'm bi and I own it.
I'm not calling myself orally bi or bi playful or bi blah blah... snore
Its the denial and lies that are unattractive to me - not the fact that the man I'm meeting wants to suck someone elses cock.
This subject gets on my nerves!
Because there are some prudes look down upon bi males like they have some nasty habit or something .lol
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those prudes can pass us by |
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"Why is it only men that deny being interested in other men and want to re name being bi to suit them?
I'm bi and I own it.
I'm not calling myself orally bi or bi playful or bi blah blah... snore
Its the denial and lies that are unattractive to me - not the fact that the man I'm meeting wants to suck someone elses cock.
This subject gets on my nerves!
Because there are some prudes look down upon bi males like they have some nasty habit or something .lol
those prudes can pass us by"
Amen lol |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"From all the posts I've seen, this is unfortunately a regular occurrence.
Do people think it would help if the option to select what your bi preferences are..bi top, btm, both, oral only etc..was available? Would it make finding the type of bi people you want easier?
Yes it would help to be more specific. We do tend to ask guys what their bi limits are.
Why don't people just talk to each other?! I'd get rid of all the tick boxes if I could. People aren't pieces of meat. We always discuss anything that is important to us, and ask what is important to them. "
Because the site would be flooded with threads like this from outraged people saying they were contacted by someone asking about something they weren't into - can you imagine the reaction of some of the more alpha straight men to being asked if they liked cock?!
And to be honest without the sexuality and like fields people would be treated more like pieces of meat than ever with assumptions being made across the board.
At least with sexuality there it allows those that are honest about their sexuality to find others that share their interests at a high level and can then potentially discuss in more detail from there. |
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"Why is it only men that deny being interested in other men and want to re name being bi to suit them?
I'm bi and I own it.
I'm not calling myself orally bi or bi playful or bi blah blah... snore
Its the denial and lies that are unattractive to me - not the fact that the man I'm meeting wants to suck someone elses cock.
This subject gets on my nerves!
Its because on here there is no stigma attached to being bi and female.
open minded enought to be on such a site and swing but not open enought to stand up and own the sexuality"
Exactly!
Fucking own it - no one cares - its 2019.
People are perfectly within their rights to decide not to meet you if you're bi.
Like people are perfectly within their rights not to meet me because I'm black.
I'm not offended - people meet the people they find attractive.
Theres a stigma attached to liars as well - but these men dont seem to care about that - just as long as they're getting their dick wet.
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"From all the posts I've seen, this is unfortunately a regular occurrence.
Do people think it would help if the option to select what your bi preferences are..bi top, btm, both, oral only etc..was available? Would it make finding the type of bi people you want easier?
Yes it would help to be more specific. We do tend to ask guys what their bi limits are.
Why don't people just talk to each other?! I'd get rid of all the tick boxes if I could. People aren't pieces of meat. We always discuss anything that is important to us, and ask what is important to them.
But you do need some filtering system or you'd be starting with chatting to the whole site. "
The filtering system is pointless because people lie. |
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"From all the posts I've seen, this is unfortunately a regular occurrence.
Do people think it would help if the option to select what your bi preferences are..bi top, btm, both, oral only etc..was available? Would it make finding the type of bi people you want easier? "
Yeah like that idea! |
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"From all the posts I've seen, this is unfortunately a regular occurrence.
Do people think it would help if the option to select what your bi preferences are..bi top, btm, both, oral only etc..was available? Would it make finding the type of bi people you want easier?
Yes it would help to be more specific. We do tend to ask guys what their bi limits are.
Why don't people just talk to each other?! I'd get rid of all the tick boxes if I could. People aren't pieces of meat. We always discuss anything that is important to us, and ask what is important to them.
Because the site would be flooded with threads like this from outraged people saying they were contacted by someone asking about something they weren't into - can you imagine the reaction of some of the more alpha straight men to being asked if they liked cock?!
And to be honest without the sexuality and like fields people would be treated more like pieces of meat than ever with assumptions being made across the board.
At least with sexuality there it allows those that are honest about their sexuality to find others that share their interests at a high level and can then potentially discuss in more detail from there."
Your first paragraph... the happens now! 
The amount of people who lie, makes the sexuality tick box pointless.
Even if a person is bisexual, that doesn't mean they will want to fuck. We have met couples where both are bi but both did not play bi on the meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A real shame so many lie on here about sexuality, I have been surprised at the scale of it since being on Fab. A lot of gay men pretending to be bi on here too, not just bi men pretending to be straight. Many of them lying in order to get sex, not just because they want fo be discrete. Says a lot about someone if they have to lie their way into someone’s bed, I would rather go without |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No, because we don't want bi males so we block them when they message us.
Likewise if bi men on here message us pretending to be str8 when their profile clearly shows they ain't.
No time for dishonesty or time wasters. |
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"Do others get inundated by guys who say they are bi when their profile says straight and our profile is clear that we are not interested in straight guys?"
Great post OP ....This is a constant problem for us especially as we have very limited "meet" windows.
We have found that the Block option works very well and sorts the sheep out from the goats, so to speak !
Keep on persevering as there are some lovely, genuine Bi Guys out there as our Verifications testify.
P.S. Wonderful Profile you have xx |
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I class myself as bi curious, reason being is that I dont find myself being attracted to men. I, however, have and do enjoy 3way 3sums with couples just as much as straight 3sums with couples and and fun with single ladies.
I dont and will not have a 1.2.1 with a male..
So I will wink or message single fems and couples that are straight as much as those that are bi. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"From all the posts I've seen, this is unfortunately a regular occurrence.
Do people think it would help if the option to select what your bi preferences are..bi top, btm, both, oral only etc..was available? Would it make finding the type of bi people you want easier?
Yes it would help to be more specific. We do tend to ask guys what their bi limits are.
Why don't people just talk to each other?! I'd get rid of all the tick boxes if I could. People aren't pieces of meat. We always discuss anything that is important to us, and ask what is important to them.
Because the site would be flooded with threads like this from outraged people saying they were contacted by someone asking about something they weren't into - can you imagine the reaction of some of the more alpha straight men to being asked if they liked cock?!
And to be honest without the sexuality and like fields people would be treated more like pieces of meat than ever with assumptions being made across the board.
At least with sexuality there it allows those that are honest about their sexuality to find others that share their interests at a high level and can then potentially discuss in more detail from there.
Your first paragraph... the happens now!
The amount of people who lie, makes the sexuality tick box pointless.
Even if a person is bisexual, that doesn't mean they will want to fuck. We have met couples where both are bi but both did not play bi on the meet. "
My point exactly - would happen a heck of a lot more if sexuality wasn't an option!!
It's not pointless to me - allows me to identify and be identified by, people that are potentially a good match for what I am looking for, as well as spot those that lie - so is very valid.
And talking of pointless - your last paragraph is exactly that as no-one has suggested that bi play is "expected" just because they are bisexual. |
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"Do others get inundated by guys who say they are bi when their profile says straight and our profile is clear that we are not interested in straight guys?"
ALLLLLLLLLL the time!
And they even insist they've read our profile when it says 2 or 3 times not to msg if your profile says straight. |
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I cannot really see it changing for a long long time...
Lots of Men and some Women will bend the truth in order to get laid, whether it be sexuality or age etc..
Fortunately I dont have any problem with it. |
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By *rof_cplCouple
over a year ago
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It's just not as simple as some people make out. I've always considered myself straight as I've only ever fancied women. I've always been "curious" about playing with and possibly sucking another dick, but I'm totally turned off by the idea of kissing or shagging another guy. So I guess I should describe myself as "orally bi-curious" but there isn't an option for that on Fab.
The second reason I'm down as straight on our profile is because even in this community there are plenty of people who are funny about it, borderline homophobic sometimes, so why would we voluntarily put up that barrier? There are plenty of gay people who haven't come out yet, we don't call them "liars" and villify them for that.
We've only ever had straight meets and we're 90% straight so very happy with that, but if the opportunity arose for a 4 some where we could all play with each other (orally) then we'd both love that, but it isn't a priority. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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The second reason I'm down as straight on our profile is because even in this community there are plenty of people who are funny about it, borderline homophobic sometimes, so why would we voluntarily put up that barrier? There are plenty of gay people who haven't come out yet, we don't call them "liars" and villify them for that."
I'm not saying you should or shouldn't change - your profile your choice, however to pick up on your point here - while it's true that there are *some* here who are homophobic would you really want to meet someone who was? Regardless of how you identify yourself? I know I wouldn't and welcome the filter from people that are like that that identifying as my true sexuality brings. If I hid it I'd potentially never know. |
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By *rof_cplCouple
over a year ago
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The second reason I'm down as straight on our profile is because even in this community there are plenty of people who are funny about it, borderline homophobic sometimes, so why would we voluntarily put up that barrier? There are plenty of gay people who haven't come out yet, we don't call them "liars" and villify them for that.
I'm not saying you should or shouldn't change - your profile your choice, however to pick up on your point here - while it's true that there are *some* here who are homophobic would you really want to meet someone who was?"
That is a very good point and the answer is that we wouldn't really if we knew, but if we delved too much into people's views then we'd never sleep with anybody who was homophobic, racist, ableist etc. or anybody who's politics we disagreed with (which would statistically be at least 52% of Fabbers) so it seems easier to just play straight and not ask too many questions about other people's views.
I don't think that makes us "liars" as done people think, it just means that there are some things we'd prefer to keep back and not make public. |
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"Do others get inundated by guys who say they are bi when their profile says straight and our profile is clear that we are not interested in straight guys?"
Oh yes. THe star in recent days has been the guy who says he has to be discrete because he has a lass and people think he's straight....
I should know better in terms of what I expect - as a young man in the cottaging scene I almost fetisheized the wedding rings of guys who sucked me off or bent over for me, but on a site where guys have a chance to read the flipping profile before they send a message, do they really expect a positive response?
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
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Is hate the right word here for how you feel about some sexual orientations? |
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"getting to the point now of no interest in guys who only play bi if the female is there or if they have not after single guys on their profile .if they are not after single guys then neither are we
Agree to it .
But we also have cpls who want their woman to be bi to get other girls too.
It's all around . We met so many cpls and every one was like we only play if it's a bifem . Fuck it .blocked
so hard finding the right bi guy,mrs isnt bi and says so on info but that dont stop couples with a bi fem messaging us" sit and watch the 2 girls at it" hows about no never going to happen,she is straight.people just dont read profiles right do they
apart from that our perfect bi guy would be a top bi guy who isnt married and has mm experience and is available saturday nights(thats us fucked or rather not) lol"
Before I met Ms Icebreaker and decided to spend my available fuckplay time with them I would probably have been an option for the guy you were looking for, albeit a few motorways away from you. A huge part of our antipathy towards the timewasters who can't be bothered reading profiles or listening to what we try to tell them about sex is that time is limited - wading through messages from guys who decide not to spend the time reading profiles is really annoying.
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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Best to be honest imho and ignore those that are less than that... i agree it ain’t easy and some people just lie, but it is what it is and if you keep mining you will find diamonds xx |
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"I know someone who is happy to get a bj from a guy in certain situations, but isn't attracted to guys. Does this make him bi?"
Who needs to know? Well, probably me. I have given and received lots of BJs from guys, some of whom believed they were straight desite the fact that their tonsils were covered in my come or that their balls had been bouncing off my stubble as I sucked them.
In my expereince, the more a guy insisted that being either a cock sucker or liking having me suck their cock didn't make them bi or gay, the higher their risk of turning violent if questioned or challenged on this obvious inconsistency in their thinking.
There are lots of things my life doesn't need - people who don't recognise themselves in the mirror is one of them.
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
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You hate bi fems??
Blimey, bit over the top!
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
Is hate the right word here for how you feel about some sexual orientations?"
Exactly my thoughts as a genuinely bi female
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"I know someone who is happy to get a bj from a guy in certain situations, but isn't attracted to guys. Does this make him bi?Who needs to know? Well, probably me. I have given and received lots of BJs from guys, some of whom believed they were straight desite the fact that their tonsils were covered in my come or that their balls had been bouncing off my stubble as I sucked them.
In my expereince, the more a guy insisted that being either a cock sucker or liking having me suck their cock didn't make them bi or gay, the higher their risk of turning violent if questioned or challenged on this obvious inconsistency in their thinking.
There are lots of things my life doesn't need - people who don't recognise themselves in the mirror is one of them.
Mr icebreaker"
He would never give a bj to a guy, and he's the least violent guy i know.
I just think he is open minded. |
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Very very very true...…..
"The problem invariably comes down to the misconception of a lot of guys that by identifying as straight it increases their chances of a meet on here because they are looking to get round the "problem" of those that won't meet bi guys.
What they don't realise is by doing so they are closing the door on the far far bigger number of people that either actively seek bi guys or aren't bothered by someones sexuality.
Yes, there are some guys who may be situationally bi, or who are coming to terms with their bisexuality, or worried they might be "outed" but they are the minority - in my experience the overwhelming majority hide it for the reasons I described above."
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"I know someone who is happy to get a bj from a guy in certain situations, but isn't attracted to guys. Does this make him bi?Who needs to know? Well, probably me. I have given and received lots of BJs from guys, some of whom believed they were straight desite the fact that their tonsils were covered in my come or that their balls had been bouncing off my stubble as I sucked them.
In my expereince, the more a guy insisted that being either a cock sucker or liking having me suck their cock didn't make them bi or gay, the higher their risk of turning violent if questioned or challenged on this obvious inconsistency in their thinking.
There are lots of things my life doesn't need - people who don't recognise themselves in the mirror is one of them.
Mr icebreaker
He would never give a bj to a guy, and he's the least violent guy i know.
I just think he is open minded."
There may be other words to describe them, but you know them best. You'll just have to understand if I avoid them like the plague.
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By *adetMan
over a year ago
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Just wow! Nothing seems to get folk wound up like a bi guy thread
Is it really any wonder why some guys choose to show themselves as straight on their profile
Quite frankly I don't bloody well blame them |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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"Just wow! Nothing seems to get folk wound up like a bi guy thread
Is it really any wonder why some guys choose to show themselves as straight on their profile
Quite frankly I don't bloody well blame them"
Well said |
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By *rof_cplCouple
over a year ago
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"Just wow! Nothing seems to get folk wound up like a bi guy thread
Is it really any wonder why some guys choose to show themselves as straight on their profile
Quite frankly I don't bloody well blame them"
Completely agree, I'm even more sure after reading this thread that I'm right to mark myself as straight, unless they introduce a "possibly orally bi but not sure until I try it" option  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"To be honest, I think fab should remove that check box and people should just go by the 'looking to meet' options. Categories these days are becoming redundant. Sexualities are more fluid. "
But how would the "looking to meet" options work for a couple? It wouldn't distinguish between the male half of a couple looking to meet men being bi or that couple looking for someone just to play with the wife.
Besides, putting that quandary to one side, it would just move the "sexuality" marker from one field to another, so would be no different from what we have now really.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From all the posts I've seen, this is unfortunately a regular occurrence.
Do people think it would help if the option to select what your bi preferences are..bi top, btm, both, oral only etc..was available? Would it make finding the type of bi people you want easier?
Yes it would help to be more specific. We do tend to ask guys what their bi limits are.
Why don't people just talk to each other?! I'd get rid of all the tick boxes if I could. People aren't pieces of meat. We always discuss anything that is important to us, and ask what is important to them.
Because the site would be flooded with threads like this from outraged people saying they were contacted by someone asking about something they weren't into - can you imagine the reaction of some of the more alpha straight men to being asked if they liked cock?!
And to be honest without the sexuality and like fields people would be treated more like pieces of meat than ever with assumptions being made across the board.
At least with sexuality there it allows those that are honest about their sexuality to find others that share their interests at a high level and can then potentially discuss in more detail from there.
Your first paragraph... the happens now!
The amount of people who lie, makes the sexuality tick box pointless.
Even if a person is bisexual, that doesn't mean they will want to fuck. We have met couples where both are bi but both did not play bi on the meet.
My point exactly - would happen a heck of a lot more if sexuality wasn't an option!!
It's not pointless to me - allows me to identify and be identified by, people that are potentially a good match for what I am looking for, as well as spot those that lie - so is very valid.
And talking of pointless - your last paragraph is exactly that as no-one has suggested that bi play is "expected" just because they are bisexual."
There's a world outside the forums. Just because it hasn't been said on this thread doesn't mean it never happens.
I find pedants pointless. |
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"To be honest, I think fab should remove that check box and people should just go by the 'looking to meet' options. Categories these days are becoming redundant. Sexualities are more fluid. "
People could talk to each other like human beings. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
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Why do you hate them? |
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"To be honest, I think fab should remove that check box and people should just go by the 'looking to meet' options. Categories these days are becoming redundant. Sexualities are more fluid.
But how would the "looking to meet" options work for a couple? It wouldn't distinguish between the male half of a couple looking to meet men being bi or that couple looking for someone just to play with the wife.
Besides, putting that quandary to one side, it would just move the "sexuality" marker from one field to another, so would be no different from what we have now really.
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It doesn't work at the moment anyway, if you're a bi guy looking for a couple with a bi guy, there's no way to stipulate that unless you want to filter couples where both the guy and the female are bi.
Those couples who are just looking to meet a guy to play with the wife could just have a conversation. And ust because the guy is bi doesn't mean he's gonna pounce on the husband anyway.
But I see your point. There's no easy fix for this unless people just chill out a bit!
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
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Mods this is hate speech - and as such completely unacceptable. To hate an entire sexuality is petty small minded and shows you to be quite unpleasant bigots
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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago
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"I get the opposite. Bi and curious men tell me they are straight even though their profile, interests and veris prove otherwise.."
I get this alot too and when I ask they always reply back with the usual excuse of
"I've only put that to meet couples as I've got more chance if I say I'm bi than straight"  |
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Have you actually looked at the Status of those who you have met
"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
Mods this is hate speech - and as such completely unacceptable. To hate an entire sexuality is petty small minded and shows you to be quite unpleasant bigots
Ms Icebreaker "
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
Mods this is hate speech - and as such completely unacceptable. To hate an entire sexuality is petty small minded and shows you to be quite unpleasant bigots
Ms Icebreaker exactly is fab India and man put the labels on us we are all human beings as the romans said lend me your ear and if you other things it might be coming useful lol ,That said am straight and bi for no one
Oh good grief! It's not hate speech. "
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"I get the opposite. Bi and curious men tell me they are straight even though their profile, interests and veris prove otherwise..
I get this alot too and when I ask they always reply back with the usual excuse of
"I've only put that to meet couples as I've got more chance if I say I'm bi than straight" "
Oh yes. Or they tell me "I didn't know it was in my profile.."
You had a profile for over a year. Try to bullshit someone else.
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"I get the opposite. Bi and curious men tell me they are straight even though their profile, interests and veris prove otherwise..
I get this alot too and when I ask they always reply back with the usual excuse of
"I've only put that to meet couples as I've got more chance if I say I'm bi than straight"
Oh yes. Or they tell me "I didn't know it was in my profile.."
You had a profile for over a year. Try to bullshit someone else.
Some men will do literally anything hoping to get their cock wet "
Im gonna stand outside with my pants down today thatll get it wet |
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"I get the opposite. Bi and curious men tell me they are straight even though their profile, interests and veris prove otherwise..
I get this alot too and when I ask they always reply back with the usual excuse of
"I've only put that to meet couples as I've got more chance if I say I'm bi than straight"
Oh yes. Or they tell me "I didn't know it was in my profile.."
You had a profile for over a year. Try to bullshit someone else.
Some men will do literally anything hoping to get their cock wet
Im gonna stand outside with my pants down today thatll get it wet "
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"Just wow! Nothing seems to get folk wound up like a bi guy thread
Is it really any wonder why some guys choose to show themselves as straight on their profile
Quite frankly I don't bloody well blame them"
I think you are missing the point here, it's NOT about a man being bi! it is about the liars, not being truthful and talking bullshit to get meets. Differentiate between the two! |
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By *adetMan
over a year ago
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"Just wow! Nothing seems to get folk wound up like a bi guy thread
Is it really any wonder why some guys choose to show themselves as straight on their profile
Quite frankly I don't bloody well blame them
I think you are missing the point here, it's NOT about a man being bi! it is about the liars, not being truthful and talking bullshit to get meets. Differentiate between the two! "
I understand perfectly well what the point is
I was merely highlighting the reaction these types of threads receive
Can you imagine anyone being so 'outraged' if it was discovered that a female was actually bi and not straight |
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"Just wow! Nothing seems to get folk wound up like a bi guy thread
Is it really any wonder why some guys choose to show themselves as straight on their profile
Quite frankly I don't bloody well blame them"
The reason men lie about being bi is because a lot of women don't want to meet bi men.
This site if full of liars.
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I got confused on what to put on here because I do things with men when women are about to turn them on and the shock and Oooooo factor, but don't play if there isn't a woman about to enjoy it so I went with bi curious |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"To be honest, I think fab should remove that check box and people should just go by the 'looking to meet' options. Categories these days are becoming redundant. Sexualities are more fluid.
But how would the "looking to meet" options work for a couple? It wouldn't distinguish between the male half of a couple looking to meet men being bi or that couple looking for someone just to play with the wife.
Besides, putting that quandary to one side, it would just move the "sexuality" marker from one field to another, so would be no different from what we have now really.
It doesn't work at the moment anyway, if you're a bi guy looking for a couple with a bi guy, there's no way to stipulate that unless you want to filter couples where both the guy and the female are bi.
Those couples who are just looking to meet a guy to play with the wife could just have a conversation. And ust because the guy is bi doesn't mean he's gonna pounce on the husband anyway.
But I see your point. There's no easy fix for this unless people just chill out a bit!
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There is no easy fix for sure but removing the sexuality option isn't one of them and will just lead to more confusion and angst amongst those that get angsty about it.
Personally I prefer to focus on my use of the site rather than worry about how others choose to use it - yes it's irksome when someone has lied on their profile about anything but if that doesn't match the recipients expectations then it's quite simple to delete and ignore.
And to your first point yes the current system doesn't allow you to search couples based on just one half's sexuality but it does allow you to see immediately on looking at a profile and then decide whether to contact them whereas changing it to just using the "looking for" option wouldn't allow that and would result in having to message to find out if someone is bisexual (if they haven't included it in their text) and the potential outrage that would cause. |
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Alas this is a regular thing,I blocked guys in the end as got so many from ST8 guys.
On another site contacted by ST8 guy for meet asked him why didn't put Bi on his profile his answer didn't want to ruin his chances of meeting ST8 females or couples and he was also meeting 2 Females who didn't know he was BI.
Stopped going to "so Called BI club Nights" as it was full of ST8 guys looking to play with the Fem whilst hubby was playing with Guy.
The reality is sad to say it but some not all guys will say anything to get laid.
"Do others get inundated by guys who say they are bi when their profile says straight and our profile is clear that we are not interested in straight guys?"
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"Do others get inundated by guys who say they are bi when their profile says straight and our profile is clear that we are not interested in straight guys?"
Yep!
Or they say oh but I am bi I just don’t list it!
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Its a shame guys that like bi fun cant be honest on here. I know a lot of couples dont like the idea. But a lot of couples i have chatted to say they dont meet bi guys. I dont like to point out some of there veris are from guys who have approached me |
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
Mods this is hate speech - and as such completely unacceptable. To hate an entire sexuality is petty small minded and shows you to be quite unpleasant bigots
Ms Icebreaker
Oh good grief! It's not hate speech. "
how many times do they have to say they hate people for being bi before it qualifies as hate speech? Or is there a secret way of saying you hate people that means you're exempt from being criticised?
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
Mods this is hate speech - and as such completely unacceptable. To hate an entire sexuality is petty small minded and shows you to be quite unpleasant bigots
Ms Icebreaker
Oh good grief! It's not hate speech.
how many times do they have to say they hate people for being bi before it qualifies as hate speech? Or is there a secret way of saying you hate people that means you're exempt from being criticised?
Mr icebreaker "
Where did they say they hate them for being bi?
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All the time gets very frustrating especially when it’s on our profile and then when we say sorry your straight we only play with bi guys they come back with ohhh but I play bi what’s all that about.... |
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
Mods this is hate speech - and as such completely unacceptable. To hate an entire sexuality is petty small minded and shows you to be quite unpleasant bigots
Ms Icebreaker
Oh good grief! It's not hate speech.
how many times do they have to say they hate people for being bi before it qualifies as hate speech? Or is there a secret way of saying you hate people that means you're exempt from being criticised?
Mr icebreaker
Where did they say they hate them for being bi?
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“In fact we hate bi fems more than anything else on Fab”
Quoted word for word from their comment. As a bi fem I find that offensive.
Hate is a strong word to be used in that context. People should think before they post.
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
Mods this is hate speech - and as such completely unacceptable. To hate an entire sexuality is petty small minded and shows you to be quite unpleasant bigots
Ms Icebreaker
Oh good grief! It's not hate speech.
how many times do they have to say they hate people for being bi before it qualifies as hate speech? Or is there a secret way of saying you hate people that means you're exempt from being criticised?
Mr icebreaker
Where did they say they hate them for being bi?
“In fact we hate bi fems more than anything else on Fab”
Quoted word for word from their comment. As a bi fem I find that offensive.
Hate is a strong word to be used in that context. People should think before they post.
V"
They didn't say they hate them for being bi. They may hate them for being pushy/ disrespectful of straight women. Same as some people say they hate single men.
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My profile says bi curious but it should say I love to suck cock and may let a hubby and his wife take my anal cherry but I don't understand why straight guys lie to just get to the wife so sad |
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"All the time gets very frustrating especially when it’s on our profile and then when we say sorry your straight we only play with bi guys they come back with ohhh but I play bi what’s all that about...."
thats what they do |
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
Mods this is hate speech - and as such completely unacceptable. To hate an entire sexuality is petty small minded and shows you to be quite unpleasant bigots
Ms Icebreaker
Oh good grief! It's not hate speech.
how many times do they have to say they hate people for being bi before it qualifies as hate speech? Or is there a secret way of saying you hate people that means you're exempt from being criticised?
Mr icebreaker
Where did they say they hate them for being bi?
“In fact we hate bi fems more than anything else on Fab”
Quoted word for word from their comment. As a bi fem I find that offensive.
Hate is a strong word to be used in that context. People should think before they post.
V
They didn't say they hate them for being bi. They may hate them for being pushy/ disrespectful of straight women. Same as some people say they hate single men.
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For whatever reason ‘dislike’ would have been a better choice of word. In general I’ve always found bi women, myself included, to be very respectful of other women's sexual orientation but that’s another thread lol! |
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
Mods this is hate speech - and as such completely unacceptable. To hate an entire sexuality is petty small minded and shows you to be quite unpleasant bigots
Ms Icebreaker
Oh good grief! It's not hate speech.
how many times do they have to say they hate people for being bi before it qualifies as hate speech? Or is there a secret way of saying you hate people that means you're exempt from being criticised?
Mr icebreaker
Where did they say they hate them for being bi?
“In fact we hate bi fems more than anything else on Fab”
Quoted word for word from their comment. As a bi fem I find that offensive.
Hate is a strong word to be used in that context. People should think before they post.
V
They didn't say they hate them for being bi. They may hate them for being pushy/ disrespectful of straight women. Same as some people say they hate single men.
For whatever reason ‘dislike’ would have been a better choice of word. In general I’ve always found bi women, myself included, to be very respectful of other women's sexual orientation but that’s another thread lol! "
That is another thread.
But there have been threads before where people have had issues with bi women, especially in clubs. It does happen. |
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
Mods this is hate speech - and as such completely unacceptable. To hate an entire sexuality is petty small minded and shows you to be quite unpleasant bigots
Ms Icebreaker
Oh good grief! It's not hate speech.
how many times do they have to say they hate people for being bi before it qualifies as hate speech? Or is there a secret way of saying you hate people that means you're exempt from being criticised?
Mr icebreaker
Where did they say they hate them for being bi?
“In fact we hate bi fems more than anything else on Fab”
Quoted word for word from their comment. As a bi fem I find that offensive.
Hate is a strong word to be used in that context. People should think before they post.
V
They didn't say they hate them for being bi. They may hate them for being pushy/ disrespectful of straight women. Same as some people say they hate single men.
For whatever reason ‘dislike’ would have been a better choice of word. In general I’ve always found bi women, myself included, to be very respectful of other women's sexual orientation but that’s another thread lol!
That is another thread.
But there have been threads before where people have had issues with bi women, especially in clubs. It does happen. "
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"Yep, most guys that message us are "straight". When we point out we are looking for bi guys/couples they usually come back with "I'm bi, but just have straight on my profile".
I guess that means they aren't bi, but are willing to close their eyes and let a guy suck their dick provided they can fuck the Mrs?"
We get a lot of this ,just want to get to me so will grin and bear it with hubby ,THATS not we are on here for ,so the more open bi guys are the ones who doe what we need  |
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"Do others get inundated by guys who say they are bi when their profile says straight and our profile is clear that we are not interested in straight guys?"
Some people make life very complicated here, don’t they! I prefer to say who I am and what I like. I’m sure the people I chat with appreciate and prefer that too. |
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Got to say I'm bi and it doesn't bother me, got to like the people I meet as to me I'm looking for people I get on with and can trust. There's a lot of bi bashing in here so can understand why some don't disclose it, on the other hand some guys will say anything to get sex |
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Gotta say as a bi guy I have a blocked list a mile long, there's a lot of bi bashing and I've had some vile and threatening messages, one in particular automatically presume I have STDs because I'm bi. Then on the other end messages from married straight guys wanting to experiment without the wife knowing, no thanks |
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Everyone has their likes and preferences and can give an opinion but I do agree that the word “hate” should not be used, but at least we all know their viewpoint now!
I can understand why folk get sceptical of bi guys, maybe there needs to be additional search criteria like top only or tick boxes for say oral only!
When I’ve met couples I’ve never had any issues with us guys playing while she watches! Don’t feel I have anything to prove but then if it makes people comfortable then I know it’s going to be a better meet.
Thanks for tuning in folks |
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
Mods this is hate speech - and as such completely unacceptable. To hate an entire sexuality is petty small minded and shows you to be quite unpleasant bigots
Ms Icebreaker
Oh good grief! It's not hate speech.
how many times do they have to say they hate people for being bi before it qualifies as hate speech? Or is there a secret way of saying you hate people that means you're exempt from being criticised?
Mr icebreaker
Where did they say they hate them for being bi?
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Probably in the bit where they said "we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab" |
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
Mods this is hate speech - and as such completely unacceptable. To hate an entire sexuality is petty small minded and shows you to be quite unpleasant bigots
Ms Icebreaker
Oh good grief! It's not hate speech.
how many times do they have to say they hate people for being bi before it qualifies as hate speech? Or is there a secret way of saying you hate people that means you're exempt from being criticised?
Mr icebreaker
Where did they say they hate them for being bi?
“In fact we hate bi fems more than anything else on Fab”
Quoted word for word from their comment. As a bi fem I find that offensive.
Hate is a strong word to be used in that context. People should think before they post.
V
They didn't say they hate them for being bi. They may hate them for being pushy/ disrespectful of straight women. Same as some people say they hate single men.
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If you stigmatize an entire group of people, defined by their sexuality, because you assume they all behave in the same way, you're indulging in hate speech. YOU might prefer not to address that reality, but he, that's just how it is. |
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
Mods this is hate speech - and as such completely unacceptable. To hate an entire sexuality is petty small minded and shows you to be quite unpleasant bigots
Ms Icebreaker
Oh good grief! It's not hate speech.
how many times do they have to say they hate people for being bi before it qualifies as hate speech? Or is there a secret way of saying you hate people that means you're exempt from being criticised?
Mr icebreaker
Where did they say they hate them for being bi?
Probably in the bit where they said "we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab""
They didn't say WHY they hate them. |
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"We don't look down upon bi men. It's their preference. Infact we hate bifems more than anything else here on Fab. As far as meets are concerned, unless you want to sleep with the whole site, a few regulars are fine .
Mods this is hate speech - and as such completely unacceptable. To hate an entire sexuality is petty small minded and shows you to be quite unpleasant bigots
Ms Icebreaker
Oh good grief! It's not hate speech.
how many times do they have to say they hate people for being bi before it qualifies as hate speech? Or is there a secret way of saying you hate people that means you're exempt from being criticised?
Mr icebreaker
Where did they say they hate them for being bi?
“In fact we hate bi fems more than anything else on Fab”
Quoted word for word from their comment. As a bi fem I find that offensive.
Hate is a strong word to be used in that context. People should think before they post.
V
They didn't say they hate them for being bi. They may hate them for being pushy/ disrespectful of straight women. Same as some people say they hate single men.
If you stigmatize an entire group of people, defined by their sexuality, because you assume they all behave in the same way, you're indulging in hate speech. YOU might prefer not to address that reality, but he, that's just how it is."
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By *rof_cplCouple
over a year ago
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Have now changed myself to Bi-Curious on our profile.
Just because we were curious (no pun intended) we switched off the message filter from single men for 24 hours first and we've got the same number of messages today as we did yesterday, so it's made absolutely no difference. |
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