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Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago
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Judging by comments from other threads, lots are having the same problem. There are lots of opinions given as to why that would be, from quality and subject of your pics to how much you've written in your profile and how much time you spend cultivating. Personally, i think alot of profiles are just lollygaggers and have no intention of playing the game. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
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From reading your profile and browsing your pics I can't see why you are having trouble. The only point I would add is maybe add some pics of Mr, as any couples who look at your profile when you advertise a meet can't see what he looks like. Good luck.  |
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Yep for the years we’ve been on here, it’s getting harder and harder few years back it was a hotbed of meets parties etc etc now god only knows because we’ve all but given up, we just go to a club, it’s straight forward, everyone is there for the same reason. Fab has become a place for fantasising and dreamers. Almost a social platform for sex with out the sex!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been on here over a year and it is so so hard to arrange meets, for various reasons and excuses and have been let down a few times , to the point I've stopped trying and just talk on the forums with people |
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over a year ago
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
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you look pretty hot to me maybe its your area  |
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
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Can’t see why you aren’t getting meets OP? |
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I think it's got pretty slow on here to be honest, meets certainly don't seem to be on offer as much as they used to be.
I get alot of chat these days but not many wanting to go through with a meet  |
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
From reading your profile and browsing your pics I can't see why you are having trouble. The only point I would add is maybe add some pics of Mr, as any couples who look at your profile when you advertise a meet can't see what he looks like. Good luck. "
Good point thank you X |
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Getting harder all-round. Back in the day I could spend some time on fab and have a chat and arrange some fun most weekends even though there was loads of guys.
Now it is literally like finding a needle in a haystack.
That goes for finding ladies and couples. |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
The South Near That London |
"I think it's got pretty slow on here to be honest, meets certainly don't seem to be on offer as much as they used to be.
I get alot of chat these days but not many wanting to go through with a meet "
I'd happily go on club nights with you  If you ever get stuck for a +1 |
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"I think it's got pretty slow on here to be honest, meets certainly don't seem to be on offer as much as they used to be.
I get alot of chat these days but not many wanting to go through with a meet "
This is what we are finding. Then after chatting for weeks you arrange a meet and on the day of the meet it has to be cancelled for one thing or another.............. |
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Is it maybe that there are just so many folk on Fab now. I’ve not found it too hard and have some lovely friends here now, but on the occasions when I am looking and send some messages the percentage of them that even get opened is quite low, so I assume that ladies and couples are simply inundated with messages.
Long live good Fab friends! |
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"Is it maybe that there are just so many folk on Fab now. I’ve not found it too hard and have some lovely friends here now, but on the occasions when I am looking and send some messages the percentage of them that even get opened is quite low, so I assume that ladies and couples are simply inundated with messages.
Long live good Fab friends!"
Will raise my glass to that one......... Cheers!
We have also made some great friends along the way X |
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"I think it's got pretty slow on here to be honest, meets certainly don't seem to be on offer as much as they used to be.
I get alot of chat these days but not many wanting to go through with a meet
I'd happily go on club nights with you If you ever get stuck for a +1 "
I always need a +1 totally solo chick over here lol |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
The South Near That London |
"I think it's got pretty slow on here to be honest, meets certainly don't seem to be on offer as much as they used to be.
I get alot of chat these days but not many wanting to go through with a meet
I'd happily go on club nights with you If you ever get stuck for a +1
I always need a +1 totally solo chick over here lol"
Be sure to add me to your little black book then |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
The South Near That London |
"I think it's got pretty slow on here to be honest, meets certainly don't seem to be on offer as much as they used to be.
I get alot of chat these days but not many wanting to go through with a meet
I'd happily go on club nights with you If you ever get stuck for a +1
I always need a +1 totally solo chick over here lol
Be sure to add me to your little black book then "
That was supposed to be a |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When you come on this kind of site, people do a sort of "window shopping".
They have an ideal imagine of who they want to meet. Unless is like that, scarcely a meeting happen.
In real life you come to know somebody, hence you tend to weight the less physical features.
The "in person" dynamics makes it easier.
Personal experience I struggle finding someone who replays my messages whereas in real life I have no problem meeting a woman |
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"When you come on this kind of site, people do a sort of "window shopping".
They have an ideal imagine of who they want to meet. Unless is like that, scarcely a meeting happen.
In real life you come to know somebody, hence you tend to weight the less physical features.
The "in person" dynamics makes it easier.
Personal experience I struggle finding someone who replays my messages whereas in real life I have no problem meeting a woman"
This is why we now end up going to clubs so we can get to know people face to face. We do like being spontaneous. |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
The South Near That London |
"I’m happy that my thread of finding it difficult to meet has actually given two single pringles the opportunity to meet. A warm satisfying glow has been ignited..... so thank you both X "
I’ll happily +1 you two as well if it helps  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Judging by comments from other threads, lots are having the same problem. There are lots of opinions given as to why that would be, from quality and subject of your pics to how much you've written in your profile and how much time you spend cultivating. Personally, i think alot of profiles are just lollygaggers and have no intention of playing the game."
Lollygaggers!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you come on this kind of site, people do a sort of "window shopping".
They have an ideal imagine of who they want to meet. Unless is like that, scarcely a meeting happen.
In real life you come to know somebody, hence you tend to weight the less physical features.
The "in person" dynamics makes it easier.
Personal experience I struggle finding someone who replays my messages whereas in real life I have no problem meeting a woman
This is why we now end up going to clubs so we can get to know people face to face. We do like being spontaneous."
We find clubs easier but hit n miss. We mail people when we're looking. Usually 50+ messages, results in 1 or 2 possibilities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you come on this kind of site, people do a sort of "window shopping".
They have an ideal imagine of who they want to meet. Unless is like that, scarcely a meeting happen.
In real life you come to know somebody, hence you tend to weight the less physical features.
The "in person" dynamics makes it easier.
Personal experience I struggle finding someone who replays my messages whereas in real life I have no problem meeting a woman
This is why we now end up going to clubs so we can get to know people face to face. We do like being spontaneous.
We find clubs easier but hit n miss. We mail people when we're looking. Usually 50+ messages, results in 1 or 2 possibilities. "
You still lucky. Out of 50 messages I send, maybe I get 0 replay :D |
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"I’m happy that my thread of finding it difficult to meet has actually given two single pringles the opportunity to meet. A warm satisfying glow has been ignited..... so thank you both X
I’ll happily +1 you two as well if it helps "
So smooth....... like Galaxy chocolate lol X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me, with similar experience here as you and on fetlife: it seems that there are clicks & groups whom know one another from various ways, and those there-in have no interest in those without. There's the constant sense of being on the outside looking in on here, as with fetlife. I've found this site is largely used as a social arena for those that know one another from the real-world. My experience anyway. I'm back after a year + away.. And things have not changed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont knoe why you're finding it so difficult.. When you taste so delicious 
Mmmmmmmmmm as do you my lovely lady X"
If only i was free... Id certainly take you up on your offer... Round 2 is most definitely called for  |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
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"I’m happy that my thread of finding it difficult to meet has actually given two single pringles the opportunity to meet. A warm satisfying glow has been ignited..... so thank you both X
I’ll happily +1 you two as well if it helps
So smooth....... like Galaxy chocolate lol X"
Godiva chocolate! One has to have some standards! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
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Very hot, not sure why, but yeah male pics probably needed. I'm at the point of leaving the site because I'm fed up with time wasters. |
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The law of sod always seems to be in play on here. When I was part of a couple I was quite regularly approached by couples interested in meeting me for a threesome.
Now that I'm single again I have this little voice in my head saying the offers are going to dry up lolol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We get lots of guys wanting to meet if we post for a couples meet but rarely will a couple respond, strange, don’t think many meet anymore "
youre extremely hot though they are maybe intimidated by your pics |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you come on this kind of site, people do a sort of "window shopping".
They have an ideal imagine of who they want to meet. Unless is like that, scarcely a meeting happen.
In real life you come to know somebody, hence you tend to weight the less physical features.
The "in person" dynamics makes it easier.
Same in real life it’s mad easy, I would even say I can be on POF and mess with someone in a day, hell a couple hours
Personal experience I struggle finding someone who replays my messages whereas in real life I have no problem meeting a woman"
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
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We've only been on here a few weeks but get the same feeling xxx because we are looking for a lady to play with me they are hard to meet but more than happy to wait for my first experience xxx |
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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago
Filthy Desires Upon Trent |
Op
We are finding exactly the same.
Before meeting each other, we had previously Swung with other partners. Then it was so much easier to meet couples. Sexy House Parties etc.
Now, it’s so hard to meet couples where all 4 have an attraction.
Then there’s the numerous fake couples. The couples where it’s just the male playing and who wants to meet the Fem separately.
Even the Single Guys are all mouth and no action, who much prefer a quick thrill on Kik etc.
So like the Op, we go to Chams but even that is very hit and miss. Also, many couples just play in the open rooms with their own partners. God forbid if anyone touches. Lol.
We are beginning to think we are butt ugly and not sexually attractive 
Here’s hoping we are not? Lol.
S&N xxxxxxxxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always need a +1 totally solo chick over here lol"
I feel your pain.....I’m mulling over my first ever club visit but I’ll almost certainly be flying solo. Daunting and intriguing in equal measure! |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
We're having the same issue at present meetings are hard to come by!! But then Mr is marked as bi curious though this is something he's never even done, we're down in cornwall and we're slightly larger |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep same problem, but I get the excuse I'm not meet varified,I won't be unless someone actually agrees to meet up, vicious circle unfortunately, but I'm trying |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You Can have my offers that I get..
2 marriage proposals and lots of wine n dine.
Currently I have no free time.
So food drinks n frolics are going spare... Lol |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
"We get lots of guys wanting to meet if we post for a couples meet but rarely will a couple respond, strange, don’t think many meet anymore youre extremely hot though they are maybe intimidated by your pics "
Thank you for the compliment, certainly hope that’s not the case on being intimidated, we really are a fun friendly couple, if people read our veris they will see that. |
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Oh nooooo, please don't say that. We are a couple who have just joined here, we are hoping for lots of fun!
We are being proactive by going to organised socials and clubs, so fingers crossed people will like us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We get lots of guys wanting to meet if we post for a couples meet but rarely will a couple respond, strange, don’t think many meet anymore youre extremely hot though they are maybe intimidated by your pics
Thank you for the compliment, certainly hope that’s not the case on being intimidated, we really are a fun friendly couple, if people read our veris they will see that."
To be fair, I’d probably assume I wouldn’t stand a chance with you, as unfairly assumptive against you as that would be (as you’ve pointed out).
There are probably a lot of people here coming from a place of diminished self-confidence and/or sexual confidence, hoping to rebuild by ‘baptism of fire’ or without the weight of emotional commitment. I’ve had both knocked previously so I can understand the trepidation.
That said, I’m sure you’re both as lovely as you say! |
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We had a great night at Chams. Met lots of lovely folk. Not a lot of play going on in general so we ended up playing with each other lol
No complaints playing with each other...... ha ha
We just like mingling our minds and bodies with others................ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
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You have males blocked from.messaging you that will make it difficult to meet a man |
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
You have males blocked from.messaging you that will make it difficult to meet a man "
Apologies my lovely. I should have said we are finding it difficult to meet other couples. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most couples just want bi women to play and be their thing of amusement it seems."
It's a ploy to get the girl but not the man. We faced it several times .
Anyway , we are off Fab now from December . |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"Most couples just want bi women to play and be their thing of amusement it seems.
It's a ploy to get the girl but not the man. We faced it several times .
Anyway , we are off Fab now from December . "
We used to have on our profile that I the female would meet couples solo but then we only ever got messages from couples who wanted to meet just me. C wants a chance to play too I don't want to just meet couples on my own all the time! |
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"Yep for the years we’ve been on here, it’s getting harder and harder few years back it was a hotbed of meets parties etc etc now god only knows because we’ve all but given up, we just go to a club, it’s straight forward, everyone is there for the same reason. Fab has become a place for fantasising and dreamers. Almost a social platform for sex with out the sex!! "
This! 100% |
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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago
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"We had a great night at Chams. Met lots of lovely folk. Not a lot of play going on in general so we ended up playing with each other lol
No complaints playing with each other...... ha ha
We just like mingling our minds and bodies with others................"
We are finding Chams more and more like this lately. More of a social club and not much swinging xxx |
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"Yep for the years we’ve been on here, it’s getting harder and harder few years back it was a hotbed of meets parties etc etc now god only knows because we’ve all but given up, we just go to a club, it’s straight forward, everyone is there for the same reason. Fab has become a place for fantasising and dreamers. Almost a social platform for sex with out the sex!!
This! 100%"
Hm... Who are all those people on my friend list then? |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"We had a great night at Chams. Met lots of lovely folk. Not a lot of play going on in general so we ended up playing with each other lol
No complaints playing with each other...... ha ha
We just like mingling our minds and bodies with others................
We are finding Chams more and more like this lately. More of a social club and not much swinging xxx"
Our experience of xtasia was the same!! Our local party is a bit more swapping we like to swap that's what we're the for!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
From reading your profile and browsing your pics I can't see why you are having trouble. The only point I would add is maybe add some pics of Mr, as any couples who look at your profile when you advertise a meet can't see what he looks like. Good luck. "
I second this. If we were looking the lack of pics of the male half would put me straight off. I want to see what he looks like aswell as the lady half of a couple. |
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We always find the more chat goes on (messages back and forward between us and the 3rd person) the less a meet is likely to happen.
Those messages that are short and too the point usually follow through to an actual meet H
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
Other than being single and over your age range, I could be ideal. Get more then my share of meets, and already chatting to others in your area. Within driving range for me. Perhaps others would disagree.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We always find the more chat goes on (messages back and forward between us and the 3rd person) the less a meet is likely to happen.
Those messages that are short and too the point usually follow through to an actual meet H
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Weird juxtaposition between DMs and chat rooms then, it seems!
In chat it’s always encouraged to talk and engage more; for DMs.....crack on with it! |
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When I first joined the site I managed two meets in the first fortnight but that was because I was in Essex which is obviously more swingin' than Devon, because once I was back on home turf there was nothing doing! I've got my first local(ish) one in over a year planned for tomorrow, which I am certainly looking forward to! But yeah by and large it is a challenge to meet people on here anyway. I echo the advice to get out in the clubs, it was a bit of a challenge to overcome initial anxiety over what to expect, and would people like me etc etc - after many months of being ignored on here I was starting to wonder if anyone other than gay men and TV/CDs were at all interested in me anyway - but on my first foray into my local club, I was invited to play with the most attractive (to me) couple in there without really having to ask/hint/stand around looking hopeful, which was a great confidence booster, as I will admit I was starting to feel a bit unattractive and worthless thanks to all the being ignored online. In general though I think even online dating isn't what it used to be, I am single at the moment but was in my last relationship for about seven years - before then I also used online dating but had far more 'luck'/success even though back then I was nearly 5 stone heavier and generally less of a catch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looking at your profile can’t see why but like others have said it’s sad but seems to be harder to find genuine people . I guess over the years as we get older we are not what people are looking for |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you come on this kind of site, people do a sort of "window shopping".
They have an ideal imagine of who they want to meet. Unless is like that, scarcely a meeting happen.
In real life you come to know somebody, hence you tend to weight the less physical features.
The "in person" dynamics makes it easier.
Personal experience I struggle finding someone who replays my messages whereas in real life I have no problem meeting a woman"
Totally agree with this. Messaging on Fab is the most ineffective way of meeting people. It’s a shame that people seem to view clubs and socials as too ‘lifestyle’. They can genuinely be good fun meeting like minded people and clubs can be intimate - there are private rooms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We do too it's a minefield and working out who's fake or not or a timewaster..
Our times precious like everyone on heres is but get let down so much it's very frustrating xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We do too it's a minefield and working out who's fake or not or a timewaster..
Our times precious like everyone on heres is but get let down so much it's very frustrating xx"
This is so true, I've been let down a few times |
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
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Yes ! I had a break from meeting and now I’m dipping my toes in I’m finding it really hard to find that meet that is going to actually happen ! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not much fun is it ?"
Nope especially when you've worked your self up ( literally ) to meet them only for them to cancel that morning or an hour before the Meet is due, and you're left hot and bothered or all dressed up after making an effort for that person or couple |
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
Yes ! I had a break from meeting and now I’m dipping my toes in I’m finding it really hard to find that meet that is going to actually happen ! X "
Well if you are after reliability and fun just send us me a PM. It’s great to see you back on here. You still tick my boxes X |
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By *ister195Man
over a year ago
Stoke-on-Trent |
In two years I've had several no shows, an actual successful meet with a lovely couple and then a further 10+ no shows.
Half the time blocked just after the time of the meet or an apology followed by we will reschedule and a block in the next few days. |
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Tbh I find it the opposite, clubs seem to be super clicky - ok i’m aware as a single guy it can be tricky not to be associated with the wanking dead walking the hallways, but even trying to initiate a simple conversation with a smile is so hard as the “regulars” seem to clump together.
The who is near function of the site has been a lot more responsive to messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So many time waters or people that don’t like your profile text. If your honest and say it how it is in your profile people expect more.
I’mHere for couples and single lady sex only
I drive and willing to accommodate but still no luck.
Message me please before I end up loosing it and deleting app |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never get meets, have plenty of chats and it's friendly, sexy and descriptive but when push comes to shove nothing comes if it. Subject is swerved etc etc.
Hence why now I'm happy just being in the forums, chatting to decent folk, if a meet happens then bonus. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
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Yep same here. I was getting quite regular meets when I first joined. But now it's becoming really difficult. I've noticed a few regular users now unlos from the site. |
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Try being a new single guy on here
I have already spoken to some amazing people to be fair but have had 2 no shows when it comes to meeting, seems some like the thought of meeting more than actually meeting !!
It’s all about honesty for me, even if it was just chat they wanted just be honest about it  |
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Its comming up for 10 years i've been on the site. Had 3 meets,the first 2 in the early days and the other a few years later. Theres been quite a few messages back and forth over time that have come to nothing. Had 2 no shows from the same girl and once drove 50 miles to meet another, but it turned out she just wanted a lift to a friends houses a few miles away. I cant see me ever getting anymore meets, so you could say it aint easy. |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"Try being a new single guy on here
I have already spoken to some amazing people to be fair but have had 2 no shows when it comes to meeting, seems some like the thought of meeting more than actually meeting !!
It’s all about honesty for me, even if it was just chat they wanted just be honest about it "
It sound like you've been unlucky, but tbh you make your own luck on here. Quite a few 'new guys' disappear, change their names then moan about how hard it is to get a meet! |
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"Deffinitly having this same struggle seems to be plenty online yet none actually backing it up... "
We can’t really complain. And looking at the people who are I can’t understand why you are having trouble. The only thing I can think is your area |
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"Deffinitly having this same struggle seems to be plenty online yet none actually backing it up...
We can’t really complain. And looking at the people who are I can’t understand why you are having trouble. The only thing I can think is your area"
Yeah maybe it is the area.. it seems to be 1000’s online but I’m wondering if a lot are fake... like the previous guy said I’ll have to move tourquay! |
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"Deffinitly having this same struggle seems to be plenty online yet none actually backing it up...
We can’t really complain. And looking at the people who are I can’t understand why you are having trouble. The only thing I can think is your area
Yeah maybe it is the area.. it seems to be 1000’s online but I’m wondering if a lot are
fake... like the previous guy said I’ll have to
move tourquay! "
I think everyone on here has had a no show. But isent that just part of the lifestyle. We have had 2 no shows we don’t dwell on it we just put it down as a bad one block them and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have terrible difficulty finding a meet and like OP often resort to clubs and are happy to entertain ourselves there. We know E is extremely selective but when you think about it she’s going to have sex with the guy so really has to be. Our problem seems to be once a date is mentioned guys go quiet and we don’t hear from them again. We know we’re not everyone’s cup of tea but live in hope that things will improve. |
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"We have terrible difficulty finding a meet and like OP often resort to clubs and are happy to entertain ourselves there. We know E is extremely selective but when you think about it she’s going to have sex with the guy so really has to be. Our problem seems to be once a date is mentioned guys go quiet and we don’t hear from them again. We know we’re not everyone’s cup of tea but live in hope that things will improve. "
I really can’t understand how you would have any trouble at all just been looking through your pics I seriously can’t understand it |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
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What were ypur expectations when you post your meet requests ?
From reading your profile you have recent verifications.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve found it difficult to meet. I think it’s the initial making contact, first impressions is the struggle.
What do you say to people who are looking for the same thing but want something different in an introduction? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think.. The problems are,
1/ Too many fakes and dreamers.
2/ Couples and Fems are very dismissive and have an awful lot of unreal and unreachable standards and rules..especially when it comes to males.
3/ Males themselves are their own worst enemies on here.
4/ Reluctance to communicate on the site, despite the fact that it really is quite a safe site to chat on. |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve found it difficult to meet. I think it’s the initial making contact, first impressions is the struggle.
What do you say to people who are looking for the same thing but want something different in an introduction?"
Exactly.. You're never going to win on that one.
I've contacted people on here because I fit their description exactly..
And still got nowhere. |
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"I think.. The problems are,
1/ Too many fakes and dreamers.
2/ Couples and Fems are very dismissive and have an awful lot of unreal and unreachable standards and rules..especially when it comes to males.
3/ Males themselves are their own worst enemies on here.
4/ Reluctance to communicate on the site, despite the fact that it really is quite a safe site
to chat on. "
All we ask for is protected sex but I have heard from people who we have met that the male of the couples do lay down to many rules |
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"I think.. The problems are,
1/ Too many fakes and dreamers.
2/ Couples and Fems are very dismissive and have an awful lot of unreal and unreachable standards and rules..especially when it comes to males.
3/ Males themselves are their own worst enemies on here.
4/ Reluctance to communicate on the site, despite the fact that it really is quite a safe site to chat on. "
That's a fair observation |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
We have no problem with guys wanting to meet it’s couples that are rare, think there’s a shortage north of Birmingham and think those that are here are more for the social than naughty fun, even at clubs there are more people in the smoking areas than inside lol and as we don’t smoke not much chance to get chatting |
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"We have no problem with guys wanting to meet it’s couples that are rare, think there’s a shortage north of Birmingham and think those that are here are more for the social than naughty fun, even at clubs there are more people in the smoking areas than inside lol and as we don’t smoke not much chance to get chatting "
I thought you could of had a pick up there in a big city like birmingham to be honest males,females or couples surprising really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just struggle to arrange the meet. I can accommodate however I have chatted to a few very nice people and couples for a while, it's just never seems to lead to a meet. However I have made a few good friends on here who live too far away to meet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was on here a few years a go and had no problems, nowadays though it’s almost impossible to meet .from fake profiles to letting you down at the last minute.what has happened to this site . |
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By *hine100Man
over a year ago
Milton Keynes |
"we have been on here a while and hardly have any meets or contacts off this site,we know we are a bit older but she has no prob when she goes to a club which isn't often."
I can believe this but she does look great. I got close to a couple of meets but both ended with being ignored after several messages back and forth.
BTW if you want a lift to the attic I could be your chauffeur? Fancy giving it a try myself and some company would be good. |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
"We have no problem with guys wanting to meet it’s couples that are rare, think there’s a shortage north of Birmingham and think those that are here are more for the social than naughty fun, even at clubs there are more people in the smoking areas than inside lol and as we don’t smoke not much chance to get chatting
I thought you could of had a pick up there in a big city like birmingham to be honest
males,females or couples surprising really"
We are about 80 miles above it I’m afraid all seems pretty quiet in our area, although we do have friends in Torquay lol |
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These threads always seem bazaar. I can relate to the guy who said he exactly matches the requirements and gets no response. Couples struggling to find suitable matches seems so ironic. Maybe we're all bots created to generate site memberships ?? |
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
What were ypur expectations when you post your meet requests ?
From reading your profile you have recent verifications.
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Our expectation is to find other couples who want to fully swap so everyone has sexy fun at the same time........... we are a couple and do prefer for both of us to see each other giving and receiving pleasure at the same time. |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"These threads always seem bazaar. I can relate to the guy who said he exactly matches the requirements and gets no response. Couples struggling to find suitable matches seems so ironic. Maybe we're all bots created to generate site memberships ??"
Exact matches are surely subjective, the only people that can say one matches their preferences exactly are those stating them! |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"We have no problem with guys wanting to meet it’s couples that are rare, think there’s a shortage north of Birmingham and think those that are here are more for the social than naughty fun, even at clubs there are more people in the smoking areas than inside lol and as we don’t smoke not much chance to get chatting "
We found xtasia like this!! Barely any couples spoke and most spent the whole night outside. We didnt really enjoy it at all!! We don't really have clubs in cornwall. And the one time we went to the one in torquay barely anyone spoke!!
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"Our most recent verification is me having a little fem fem fun in The Starlight Room at Chams. Although extremely pleasurable and fun, hubby was not involved..............."
We find most couples just want to meet me the female because I'm bi. We had I would meet couples on our profile but took it off because C wants to play as well!! I don't mind the odd meet on my own if I know them but every meet?? No thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
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We are known to come down ironbridge a few times a year. You definitely look to be our type |
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As a single bloke yes have problems getting meets but people put that down to the number of guys on here, but as was said further up in the post to many fantasisers and dreamers and people letting others down. As someone that doesn't like failing to do what I say is a let down and I'll travel if its an arranged meet since I normally travel for clubs anyway, but some couples only meet with women and other couples which there is only a certain amount of women |
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Yes, I find it difficult. I know it tends to be men that are time wasters and get a bad reputation but I also find there are a lot of women that contact you, then play so hard to get that it just feels like they’re messing you around on purpose. Then when you confront them, they just disappear. Men pretending to be women sometimes I think! |
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"We have no problem with guys wanting to meet it’s couples that are rare, think there’s a shortage north of Birmingham and think those that are here are more for the social than naughty fun, even at clubs there are more people in the smoking areas than inside lol and as we don’t smoke not much chance to get chatting
We found xtasia like this!! Barely any couples spoke and most spent the whole night outside. We didnt really enjoy it at all!! We don't really have clubs in cornwall. And the one time we went to the one in torquay barely anyone spoke!!
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I suggest doing a weekend in blackpool sx is full of talkative people and couples |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"We have no problem with guys wanting to meet it’s couples that are rare, think there’s a shortage north of Birmingham and think those that are here are more for the social than naughty fun, even at clubs there are more people in the smoking areas than inside lol and as we don’t smoke not much chance to get chatting
We found xtasia like this!! Barely any couples spoke and most spent the whole night outside. We didnt really enjoy it at all!! We don't really have clubs in cornwall. And the one time we went to the one in torquay barely anyone spoke!!
I suggest doing a weekend in blackpool sx is full of talkative people and couples"
Blackpool is like 8 hours away haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others have said and I agree after checking out your profile I don’t see why you would be having an issue x F is gorgeous and M body is great too nothing untoward in your profile text either x
I’ve been on and off here a bit too and have found it harder recently but that’s Probally more a reflection on me than anything else |
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"Does anybody else find it difficult finding a meet?
The last few times we have posted we are available to meet and get no response so we always end up going to a club for ourselves.
I know we’re not going to be everyone’s preference but we are finding it increasingly difficult. Any fabbers out there facing the same thing?
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Shame we’re not closer as you’d get a genuine couple showing an interest xx
Think it’s just the way this site is as your profile is good and your pics are lovely. |
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