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So after chatting to the male of a couple, getting very close to arrange a meeting , he then tells us they would need a phone call off my wife, after explaining she is a bit reserved to go on the phone he then tells us wrong site to be reserved on . We apologise and unreservedly and explain that if you ever meet up with us as we both head to Blackpool quite a lot they will see we are genuine, we have nice verifications which show this, then he blocks us which we think was a very rude action without accepting our apology, all our meets have not required a lady phone call, we understand theres fakes but surely our profile is genuine enough .
Are we wrong to feel like they were very rude, or is it a requirement if yours,, rant over , x
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over a year ago
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"So after chatting to the male of a couple, getting very close to arrange a meeting , he then tells us they would need a phone call off my wife, after explaining she is a bit reserved to go on the phone he then tells us wrong site to be reserved on . We apologise and unreservedly and explain that if you ever meet up with us as we both head to Blackpool quite a lot they will see we are genuine, we have nice verifications which show this, then he blocks us which we think was a very rude action without accepting our apology, all our meets have not required a lady phone call, we understand theres fakes but surely our profile is genuine enough .
Are we wrong to feel like they were very rude, or is it a requirement if yours,, rant over , x
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Wow that's crazy, but unfortunately there is a lot of " couple " profiles that are fake and just single males, so a lot of people have lots of doubts with couples, me personally I've never ever asked for a lady phone call though , usually you can get a good idea of who's fake and who is genuine x |
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over a year ago
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To be fair to the couple concerned, maybe they've been burned before where a male made the arrangements only to find the female was unwilling or reluctant come the day. |
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"To be fair to the couple concerned, maybe they've been burned before where a male made the arrangements only to find the female was unwilling or reluctant come the day. "
true,,, but thought they would of accepted apologies and nit blocked us x
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sadly the fakes on here are numerous and increasing all the time..
I have experienced on a few occasions where the woman miraculously cannot make the meet on the day..
I think its a little harsh for a straight block though, there are other ways to le out the fakes I would have thought.. |
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"sadly the fakes on here are numerous and increasing all the time..
I have experienced on a few occasions where the woman miraculously cannot make the meet on the day..
I think its a little harsh for a straight block though, there are other ways to le out the fakes I would have thought.. "
but our profile is ok ? |
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The whole fake argument only really carries water if the couple isn’t verified. You have numerous recent verifications mentioning both of you as a couple. The people that verified you also have numerous legit veris...
Some people make a lot about nothing and maybe he had a bad experience but it’s the risk you take being on here. There are no guarantees either way |
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"The whole fake argument only really carries water if the couple isn’t verified. You have numerous recent verifications mentioning both of you as a couple. The people that verified you also have numerous legit veris...
Some people make a lot about nothing and maybe he had a bad experience but it’s the risk you take being on here. There are no guarantees either way "
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"The whole fake argument only really carries water if the couple isn’t verified. You have numerous recent verifications mentioning both of you as a couple. The people that verified you also have numerous legit veris...
Some people make a lot about nothing and maybe he had a bad experience but it’s the risk you take being on here. There are no guarantees either way "
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"The whole fake argument only really carries water if the couple isn’t verified. You have numerous recent verifications mentioning both of you as a couple. The people that verified you also have numerous legit veris...
Some people make a lot about nothing and maybe he had a bad experience but it’s the risk you take being on here. There are no guarantees either way
Very true x"
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"The whole fake argument only really carries water if the couple isn’t verified. You have numerous recent verifications mentioning both of you as a couple. The people that verified you also have numerous legit veris...
Some people make a lot about nothing and maybe he had a bad experience but it’s the risk you take being on here. There are no guarantees either way
Very true x "
Hopefully things work out better for you x |
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"The whole fake argument only really carries water if the couple isn’t verified. You have numerous recent verifications mentioning both of you as a couple. The people that verified you also have numerous legit veris...
Some people make a lot about nothing and maybe he had a bad experience but it’s the risk you take being on here. There are no guarantees either way
Very true x thanks I'm sure we will survive it lol
Hopefully things work out better for you x"
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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We never understand why someone will potentially have sex with you but they can't speak on the phone. If we meet a couple, we like a phone chat with both parties, it gives a little idea if you are all compatible. We wouldn't meet a couple without that chat and explain that to them. |
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I do sympathise Op, but I also don't think it was unreasonable for the other couple to want the women to speak on the phone. In our experience over the years this has been standard practice, and we probably wouldn't go ahead with a couple meet without it. Would we block? Probably not, but then we're not prolific blockers. |
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The blocking bit is the harsh part, I dont think it is unreasonable to have that chat first though because even with verifications, you can still get a sense of someone and the likely chemistry before meeting. See it as their loss, not yours. |
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Yes I'm gathering the understanding of a phone now a few people have cleared it,, but not the blocking and not accepting apology, we feel like you can still meet up and have a laugh and get to know each other even if not compatible to play a good night can still be had, we dint believe you can find if compatible with a phone call call as other person said,, but each to there own and we take all notes what people said on board , thank you x |
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I've been part of a couple, unfortunately my other half would arrange meets with couples, knowing its not my scene, sometimes not even inviting me to the meet OR he'd invite them to mine, without notice.
I would expect to have a conversation with the woman to make sure the meet was genuine and that the woman was enthused |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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OP, we certainly wouldn't think you are fake, it's quite obvious you aren't, but it's surprising what you can pick up from a phone conversation. An example for us was a couple, where we initially were talking to the lady, when I (fem) spoke to the man, he was trying to push us to play in separate rooms and became quite aggressive when we declined. That saved us a wasted journey! Works for us. |
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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago
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I can empathize with you op because I have real anxiety about speaking on the phone. I haven't had to do this yet but figured if it was asked I would put the phone on speaker so everyone could talk together. That way it might not seem so scary. Maybe that could be an option for you if this happens again? I agree the blocking was a bit harsh, but all you can do is learn from this experience and move on.
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"I can empathize with you op because I have real anxiety about speaking on the phone. I haven't had to do this yet but figured if it was asked I would put the phone on speaker so everyone could talk together. That way it might not seem so scary. Maybe that could be an option for you if this happens again? I agree the blocking was a bit harsh, but all you can do is learn from this experience and move on.
Gem"
Yes, that's a great idea, less daunting |
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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago
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"I can empathize with you op because I have real anxiety about speaking on the phone. I haven't had to do this yet but figured if it was asked I would put the phone on speaker so everyone could talk together. That way it might not seem so scary. Maybe that could be an option for you if this happens again? I agree the blocking was a bit harsh, but all you can do is learn from this experience and move on.
Gem
Yes, that's a great idea, less daunting "
It's really scary isn't it. And not many people understand. I would much rather meet someone face to face for a chat than speak to them on the phone. I will literally only answer the phone to my mother, husband or the kids school. Otherwise I just stare at my phone in horror until it stops ringing!
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"OP, we certainly wouldn't think you are fake, it's quite obvious you aren't, but it's surprising what you can pick up from a phone conversation. An example for us was a couple, where we initially were talking to the lady, when I (fem) spoke to the man, he was trying to push us to play in separate rooms and became quite aggressive when we declined. That saved us a wasted journey! Works for us."
thank you ,, well explained,, would you block us , theres a chance we may come across these as they frequent our clubs in Blackpool were we go to, so potentially that's a meet that could if happened still x
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"I've been part of a couple, unfortunately my other half would arrange meets with couples, knowing its not my scene, sometimes not even inviting me to the meet OR he'd invite them to mine, without notice.
I would expect to have a conversation with the woman to make sure the meet was genuine and that the woman was enthused"
oh dear , very naughty boy lol |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"OP, we certainly wouldn't think you are fake, it's quite obvious you aren't, but it's surprising what you can pick up from a phone conversation. An example for us was a couple, where we initially were talking to the lady, when I (fem) spoke to the man, he was trying to push us to play in separate rooms and became quite aggressive when we declined. That saved us a wasted journey! Works for us.thank you ,, well explained,, would you block us , theres a chance we may come across these as they frequent our clubs in Blackpool were we go to, so potentially that's a meet that could if happened still x "
We would block so that we knew not to contact that couple again and thus waste each other's time |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"I can empathize with you op because I have real anxiety about speaking on the phone. I haven't had to do this yet but figured if it was asked I would put the phone on speaker so everyone could talk together. That way it might not seem so scary. Maybe that could be an option for you if this happens again? I agree the blocking was a bit harsh, but all you can do is learn from this experience and move on.
Gem
Yes, that's a great idea, less daunting
It's really scary isn't it. And not many people understand. I would much rather meet someone face to face for a chat than speak to them on the phone. I will literally only answer the phone to my mother, husband or the kids school. Otherwise I just stare at my phone in horror until it stops ringing!
Gem"
I understand that is a real fear for some
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over a year ago
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Can understand the request if you had no verifications but you have
Find it an insult being asked to prove we are real with the amount of veris we have
One way to out those without verification is to arrange a meet in a cpls only club then if it’s a single male he can’t get in lol |
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To be fair unless we could talk to both of you on the phone we would have blocked you as well . We have been burned loads of times and like most people who have been on and off the site for years we have zero tolerance for anyone who will not either chat on phone or video chat with us .
It’s usually only the fakes or time wasters who don’t want to do that and for you to say she doesn’t like talking on the phone would have set alarm bells ringing .
So yeah we would have blocked you as well as very suspect despite the fact you have good veris . |
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"Discussing private messages is not permitted, no matter how annoying
It was to help the OP understand the concept of the phone conversations and was not a quote. "
The OP was discussing the content of their message. I wasn't highlighting you. Just trying to avert a naughty step |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Discussing private messages is not permitted, no matter how annoying
It was to help the OP understand the concept of the phone conversations and was not a quote.
The OP was discussing the content of their message. I wasn't highlighting you. Just trying to avert a naughty step "
Thank you Sophee |
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In fairness different people do have different levels of what they’re comfortable with. We would have to speak to the lady in person, or see a quick video hello at least.
An example of why is a couple with good verifications messaged us saying just the wife wanted to meet, this then evolved into them both being present for a social for safety (completely fair), then could husband watch, then could we just meet husband so he could verify we are real and report back for a future meet with wife. Unfortunately a lot of honesty seems to have gone from here at the moment which leads to everybody being very careful. |
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"Discussing private messages is not permitted, no matter how annoying
It was to help the OP understand the concept of the phone conversations and was not a quote.
The OP was discussing the content of their message. I wasn't highlighting you. Just trying to avert a naughty step
Thank you Sophee "
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"Discussing private messages is not permitted, no matter how annoying
It was to help the OP understand the concept of the phone conversations and was not a quote. "
And as I reposted. The OP did discuss contents of private messages, which is not allowed |
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"Discussing private messages is not permitted, no matter how annoying
It was to help the OP understand the concept of the phone conversations and was not a quote.
And as I reposted. The OP did discuss contents of private messages, which is not allowed "
Oops, which was you. I was trying to prevent a two day forum ban |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Discussing private messages is not permitted, no matter how annoying
It was to help the OP understand the concept of the phone conversations and was not a quote.
And as I reposted. The OP did discuss contents of private messages, which is not allowed "
Quite right. It is sometimes difficult to ask advice without talking about a conversation they have had, but point taken, I'm sure it was done in all innocence |
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"So after chatting to the male of a couple, getting very close to arrange a meeting , he then tells us they would need a phone call off my wife, after explaining she is a bit reserved to go on the phone he then tells us wrong site to be reserved on . We apologise and unreservedly and explain that if you ever meet up with us as we both head to Blackpool quite a lot they will see we are genuine, we have nice verifications which show this, then he blocks us which we think was a very rude action without accepting our apology, all our meets have not required a lady phone call, we understand theres fakes but surely our profile is genuine enough .
Are we wrong to feel like they were very rude, or is it a requirement if yours,, rant over , x
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I wouldn’t worry about it too much there are lovely people on here and some absolute numpties as there is in the world |
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"So after chatting to the male of a couple, getting very close to arrange a meeting , he then tells us they would need a phone call off my wife, after explaining she is a bit reserved to go on the phone he then tells us wrong site to be reserved on . We apologise and unreservedly and explain that if you ever meet up with us as we both head to Blackpool quite a lot they will see we are genuine, we have nice verifications which show this, then he blocks us which we think was a very rude action without accepting our apology, all our meets have not required a lady phone call, we understand theres fakes but surely our profile is genuine enough .
Are we wrong to feel like they were very rude, or is it a requirement if yours,, rant over , x????
I wouldn’t worry about it too much there are lovely people on here and some absolute numpties as there is in the world "
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By *igfun911Man
over a year ago
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"So after chatting to the male of a couple, getting very close to arrange a meeting , he then tells us they would need a phone call off my wife, after explaining she is a bit reserved to go on the phone he then tells us wrong site to be reserved on . We apologise and unreservedly and explain that if you ever meet up with us as we both head to Blackpool quite a lot they will see we are genuine, we have nice verifications which show this, then he blocks us which we think was a very rude action without accepting our apology, all our meets have not required a lady phone call, we understand theres fakes but surely our profile is genuine enough .
Are we wrong to feel like they were very rude, or is it a requirement if yours,, rant over , x
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Completely understand it. Unfortunately there are so many time wasters and fake profiles on here.
The least they could expect was a quick hello, didn't need to have phone sex !
Blocking was a bit harsh though. |
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By *igfun911Man
over a year ago
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"To be fair unless we could talk to both of you on the phone we would have blocked you as well . We have been burned loads of times and like most people who have been on and off the site for years we have zero tolerance for anyone who will not either chat on phone or video chat with us .
It’s usually only the fakes or time wasters who don’t want to do that and for you to say she doesn’t like talking on the phone would have set alarm bells ringing .
So yeah we would have blocked you as well as very suspect despite the fact you have good veris . "
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I wouldn't chat on the phone as i hate it
I am however verified on this profile and my couple profile
If this isn't enough for someone that's fine,we wouldn't meet.
You did nothing wrong op,you have lots of verifications as a couple. |
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"I wouldn't chat on the phone as i hate it
I am however verified on this profile and my couple profile
If this isn't enough for someone that's fine,we wouldn't meet.
You did nothing wrong op,you have lots of verifications as a couple."
aw thank you so much,, sges not confident on the phone never has been so it totally threw us as in person shes a happy confident funny lady , but the phone is not for us, thank you for your kind post x |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't chat on the phone as i hate it
I am however verified on this profile and my couple profile
If this isn't enough for someone that's fine,we wouldn't meet.
You did nothing wrong op,you have lots of verifications as a couple.aw thank you so much,, sges not confident on the phone never has been so it totally threw us as in person shes a happy confident funny lady , but the phone is not for us, thank you for your kind post x"
Do whatever is comfortable for you two, one size does not fit all |
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"I wouldn't chat on the phone as i hate it
I am however verified on this profile and my couple profile
If this isn't enough for someone that's fine,we wouldn't meet.
You did nothing wrong op,you have lots of verifications as a couple.aw thank you so much,, sges not confident on the phone never has been so it totally threw us as in person shes a happy confident funny lady , but the phone is not for us, thank you for your kind post x
Do whatever is comfortable for you two, one size does not fit all "
agreed , now we see both sides as it's a divided opinion x |
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