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Meeting same people regularly
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Since joining in on the forums it has been clear that we all do this for different reasons and enjoy the experiences in different ways.
We have rarely visited the same couple more than once or twice because we get the buzz from not knowing what to expect from a meet .
Reading through various threads and chatting with fellow swingers we realise so many other couples enjoy regular fun with 'good friends' who seem to make the experience even better ?
Isn't this a bit dangerous in respect of the familiarity becoming a strain on the relationship ?
And how does meeting the same people keep things exciting ?
Are we a bit naive ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the good thing about meetin the same couple again & again is that you know they arn't gonna let you down, if the sex is good why not go back again, if someone thinks this is goin to put a strain on thier own relationship maybe they shouldn't be doin this in the 1st place |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"the good thing about meetin the same couple again & again is that you know they arn't gonna let you down, if the sex is good why not go back again, if someone thinks this is goin to put a strain on thier own relationship maybe they shouldn't be doin this in the 1st place "
Good point about not getting let down !
Not so sure about shouldn't be doing it in the first place as we guess that as one gets to know play partners really well it could cause a bit of bother if one party wants to meet more than the other and that's why we wondered?
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By (user no longer on site)
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i think its beter to see people two or three times, you can get bored with each other, start taking each other for granted, too much like being married. you may like someone at first, then you see another side to them. you can miss out on something better, new and exciting by just seeing the same people. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i think its beter to see people two or three times, you can get bored with each other, start taking each other for granted, too much like being married. you may like someone at first, then you see another side to them. you can miss out on something better, new and exciting by just seeing the same people."
That's what we think too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We meet the same people and new too. We meet new people for the excitement and variety we get.
What we like about the regular couples is that we dont have any insecurities anymore and can enjoy the meet from the very start, chatting and sex, we can laugh more and experiment more as we have that friendship now.
Sarah xx |
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I have never wanted to try and shag the world or gain notches on my bed post, so I much prefer to meet a few people regularly.
It makes meets so much more relaxed and you can talk and discuss, expand and explore more!
Familiarity dosnt breed contempt it leads to mad hot crazy fun!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have never wanted to try and shag the world or gain notches on my bed post, so I much prefer to meet a few people regularly.
It makes meets so much more relaxed and you can talk and discuss, expand and explore more!
Familiarity dosnt breed contempt it leads to mad hot crazy fun! "
It's not notches or wanting to shag the world that we are after at all !
And we know that familiarity leads to mad hot crazy fun as we have that with each other !
Thanks for your insight though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i totally agree with the last two comments, mix it up a bit by all means with new couples and then when you have enough friends say 7 or 8, which is what we're after, you know that it's gonna be 6-8 weeks between meeting them again which still keeps it fresh |
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"i totally agree with the last two comments, mix it up a bit by all means with new couples and then when you have enough friends say 7 or 8, which is what we're after, you know that it's gonna be 6-8 weeks between meeting them again which still keeps it fresh"
That's exactly it, a few friends who I like to meet,
Every new meet that I go on its always with the view that it could turn into something more regular. |
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We do both...its great to catch up have a laugh and have filthy fun, its also good to meet new people, we rarely meet single men more than once, but thats because there can be problems with them getting attached or possesive. So many singles are on here as a stop gap that it is just simpler that way. There are of course exceptions and some singles who we are more than willing to see again.We tend to have got to know them well though, and know we share attitudes towards sex.
If a couple were on here and had problems with getting involved, i doubt we would have met them anyway, we have pretty good radar and its quite easy to spot those people who are not really cut out for the openness and lack of jealousy successful swinging demands. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i totally agree with the last two comments, mix it up a bit by all means with new couples and then when you have enough friends say 7 or 8, which is what we're after, you know that it's gonna be 6-8 weeks between meeting them again which still keeps it fresh
That's exactly it, a few friends who I like to meet,
Every new meet that I go on its always with the view that it could turn into something more regular. "
This is how I play. So far it's worked well for me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Good point Jemima , about the single guys and getting attached , we have had the same . Perhaps you are right about whether insecurity is an issue and you can spot it - not sure if we are totally secure or not !
We have been swinging for over a year and have enjoyed clubs more than private meets when it comes to couples , but love meeting single guys at their homes more than meeting them at clubs.
Not sure what that means but so far so good ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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we are meeting with the same couple on monday which makes it 3 times in 4 months (not to much we think anyway) the last time we played for 6 hours in total, havin a drink, havin snacks, havin a laugh and havin great sex when we wanted to even if the other couple were just watchin takin a break and i know that all four of us can't wait for monday, thats the good thing about meetin them again & again |
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"I have never wanted to try and shag the world or gain notches on my bed post, so I much prefer to meet a few people regularly.
It makes meets so much more relaxed and you can talk and discuss, expand and explore more!
Familiarity dosnt breed contempt it leads to mad hot crazy fun!
It's not notches or wanting to shag the world that we are after at all !
And we know that familiarity leads to mad hot crazy fun as we have that with each other !
Thanks for your insight though "
Sorry guy I honestly wasn't trying to judge you with the notches, I was saying it about me. |
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"Good point Jemima , about the single guys and getting attached , we have had the same . Perhaps you are right about whether insecurity is an issue and you can spot it - not sure if we are totally secure or not !
We have been swinging for over a year and have enjoyed clubs more than private meets when it comes to couples , but love meeting single guys at their homes more than meeting them at clubs.
Not sure what that means but so far so good ! "
i think the secret, and its not really a secret is to talk and be honest with each other, which you clearly do.
No one starts of with the same rules and worries that someone will have after doing this for 22 years ...dont worry if u are not comfy with things others are...the only thing to worry about is if you cover up your worries. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"the good thing about meetin the same couple again & again is that you know they arn't gonna let you down, if the sex is good why not go back again, if someone thinks this is goin to put a strain on thier own relationship maybe they shouldn't be doin this in the 1st place "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like a bit of both.. but to be fair prefer people we have met before as we know that they know the rules.. and are happy with the cam etc..
A proper regular may in time become more like a b/f without the commitments so that always has bonuses.. I wont kiss most meets.. but over time may on occassion kiss a regular.. certainly not something I would do on a 1st, 2nd or 3rd meet.
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"We meet the same people and new too. We meet new people for the excitement and variety we get.
What we like about the regular couples is that we dont have any insecurities anymore and can enjoy the meet from the very start, chatting and sex, we can laugh more and experiment more as we have that friendship now.
Sarah xx"
Same for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer one off meets i just find the sex is so much better, ive done regular meets and i have found that sex gets boring and guys tend to make less of an effort with you after they have met you a few times |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Good point Jemima , about the single guys and getting attached , we have had the same . Perhaps you are right about whether insecurity is an issue and you can spot it - not sure if we are totally secure or not !
We have been swinging for over a year and have enjoyed clubs more than private meets when it comes to couples , but love meeting single guys at their homes more than meeting them at clubs.
Not sure what that means but so far so good !
i think the secret, and its not really a secret is to talk and be honest with each other, which you clearly do.
No one starts of with the same rules and worries that someone will have after doing this for 22 years ...dont worry if u are not comfy with things others are...the only thing to worry about is if you cover up your worries."
Thanks for the wise words |
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By (user no longer on site)
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the main thing to remember if it be with regulars or with one-offs is just get out there and have some fun while it lasts, you only live once so you may as well go out with a smile on your face and a bucketful of great memories |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"the main thing to remember if it be with regulars or with one-offs is just get out there and have some fun while it lasts, you only live once so you may as well go out with a smile on your face and a bucketful of great memories"
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We prefer to meet new people,for us swinging is about sex,shagging the same people all the time can be boring.Not only that do we really want to be freinds with everyone we have sex with?
Can work to ways for us the more we get to know someone the less we want to shag them because you end up knowing to much about them and their lifes,also we find the couples we have become good freinds with you go beyond the sex stage as the friendship is more important.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We prefer to meet new people,for us swinging is about sex,shagging the same people all the time can be boring.Not only that do we really want to be freinds with everyone we have sex with?
Can work to ways for us the more we get to know someone the less we want to shag them because you end up knowing to much about them and their lifes,also we find the couples we have become good freinds with you go beyond the sex stage as the friendship is more important.."
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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago
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"the good thing about meetin the same couple again & again is that you know they arn't gonna let you down, if the sex is good why not go back again, if someone thinks this is goin to put a strain on thier own relationship maybe they shouldn't be doin this in the 1st place "
Totally agree, we find the best plays ate with friends, and if it strains a relationship then you should not even be doing it x |
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