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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Is it a short leash or just being respectful of a primary relationship?
Assuming the person concerned is playing in the full knowledge of a partner then surely if they have boundaries around contact with others that wouldn't necessarily mean being on a short leash?
Just because someone is dominant doesn't mean they walk all over other people - in fact any dominant that felt they could do that wouldn't be for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I reckon most married men would find it difficult to make private phone calls in the evening "
Interesting. I would never have struggled to make private calls in the evening and neither would my ex-husband. I wouldn’t have thought twice about him or any partner popping out for an hour. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I reckon most married men would find it difficult to make private phone calls in the evening
Interesting. I would never have struggled to make private calls in the evening and neither would my ex-husband. I wouldn’t have thought twice about him or any partner popping out for an hour. "
He might just be sexually dominant. Or, simply being respectful of his wife. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I reckon most married men would find it difficult to make private phone calls in the evening
Interesting. I would never have struggled to make private calls in the evening and neither would my ex-husband. I wouldn’t have thought twice about him or any partner popping out for an hour. "
some couples are that afraid of their partner leaving them they keep an eye on them 24/7 |
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"If your Mrs keeps you on such a short leash that you can’t make private phone calls in the evening?"
Yes
Can you happily fuck married men whose partners aren't on with it?
A Dom is a specific dynamic between 2 people involving power exchange. If you think that extends, non consensually to everyone in a persons life, you aren't looking for a dominant, and anyone who behaves that way is not a safe person to submit to
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"I reckon most married men would find it difficult to make private phone calls in the evening
Interesting. I would never have struggled to make private calls in the evening and neither would my ex-husband. I wouldn’t have thought twice about him or any partner popping out for an hour.
He might just be sexually dominant. Or, simply being respectful of his wife."
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"I reckon most married men would find it difficult to make private phone calls in the evening
Interesting. I would never have struggled to make private calls in the evening and neither would my ex-husband. I wouldn’t have thought twice about him or any partner popping out for an hour. "
That doesn't mean every relationship is the same. If a partner isn't in the habit of just popping out then suddenly doing so will provoke awkward questions. It doesn't mean they're on a tight leash it means their partner doesn't know that they have another relationship. Or it means that they simply put their marriage before the person they said they'd phone. |
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"I reckon most married men would find it difficult to make private phone calls in the evening
Interesting. I would never have struggled to make private calls in the evening and neither would my ex-husband. I wouldn’t have thought twice about him or any partner popping out for an hour. some couples are that afraid of their partner leaving them they keep an eye on them 24/7"
Some people are so afraid of their partner kicking them out that they don't do anything to arouse suspicion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If your Mrs keeps you on such a short leash that you can’t make private phone calls in the evening?"
A bit more info is required to try to answer that OP. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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And to those busily assuming and judging, I’m not, to my knowledge, fucking anyone whose partner doesn’t know about it.
Weirdly I’ve found many of the attacks quite heartening. It’s important to have morals. I just don’t think that single women should be the only one with them. |
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"And to those busily assuming and judging, I’m not, to my knowledge, fucking anyone whose partner doesn’t know about it.
Weirdly I’ve found many of the attacks quite heartening. It’s important to have morals. I just don’t think that single women should be the only one with them."
You're actually asking for assumptions to be made in your op. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"And to those busily assuming and judging, I’m not, to my knowledge, fucking anyone whose partner doesn’t know about it.
Weirdly I’ve found many of the attacks quite heartening. It’s important to have morals. I just don’t think that single women should be the only one with them.
You're actually asking for assumptions to be made in your op."
Weird huh? Putting a deliberately provocative post as the start of a discussion.. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"And to those busily assuming and judging, I’m not, to my knowledge, fucking anyone whose partner doesn’t know about it.
Weirdly I’ve found many of the attacks quite heartening. It’s important to have morals. I just don’t think that single women should be the only one with them.
You're actually asking for assumptions to be made in your op.
Weird huh? Putting a deliberately provocative post as the start of a discussion.."
If you're trying to provoke people, don't be surprised if people have opinions you don't like  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"And to those busily assuming and judging, I’m not, to my knowledge, fucking anyone whose partner doesn’t know about it.
Weirdly I’ve found many of the attacks quite heartening. It’s important to have morals. I just don’t think that single women should be the only one with them.
You're actually asking for assumptions to be made in your op.
Weird huh? Putting a deliberately provocative post as the start of a discussion..
If you're trying to provoke people, don't be surprised if people have opinions you don't like "
I like the opinions. As I said, I found them quite heartening. It’s kind of central to having a discussion that there are a range of ideas expressed I find.. |
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"And to those busily assuming and judging, I’m not, to my knowledge, fucking anyone whose partner doesn’t know about it.
Weirdly I’ve found many of the attacks quite heartening. It’s important to have morals. I just don’t think that single women should be the only one with them.
You're actually asking for assumptions to be made in your op.
Weird huh? Putting a deliberately provocative post as the start of a discussion.."
No its quite sensible if discussion is what you want to provoke. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"And to those busily assuming and judging, I’m not, to my knowledge, fucking anyone whose partner doesn’t know about it.
Weirdly I’ve found many of the attacks quite heartening. It’s important to have morals. I just don’t think that single women should be the only one with them.
You're actually asking for assumptions to be made in your op.
Weird huh? Putting a deliberately provocative post as the start of a discussion..
No its quite sensible if discussion is what you want to provoke. "
I’m generally a pretty sensible person, but well played. |
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"If your Mrs keeps you on such a short leash that you can’t make private phone calls in the evening?"
I don't understand the question? Who would be Dom? If your refering to your wife she would be Domme, not a Dom. Do you have a Ds relationship? If not then, no Shes not a Domme, for the purpose of the answer. |
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"Is it a short leash or just being respectful of a primary relationship?
Assuming the person concerned is playing in the full knowledge of a partner then surely if they have boundaries around contact with others that wouldn't necessarily mean being on a short leash?
This
Just because someone is dominant doesn't mean they walk all over other people - in fact any dominant that felt they could do that wouldn't be for me."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. I can call myself a pencil, but that doesn't make it true.
2B or not 2B "
That made me laugh  But no more, please, one must draw the line somewhere. |
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"I reckon most married men would find it difficult to make private phone calls in the evening
Interesting. I would never have struggled to make private calls in the evening and neither would my ex-husband. I wouldn’t have thought twice about him or any partner popping out for an hour. some couples are that afraid of their partner leaving them they keep an eye on them 24/7
Some people are so afraid of their partner kicking them out that they don't do anything to arouse suspicion."
Omg yes I mean telling someone you are mono and then lying and fucking behind their back is totally about being afraid of being kicked out
Does anyone here actually know what ethical non monogamy is?
If you fuck ppl without your partners consent you should be afraid of being kicked out- it's non consensual behaviour |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can you call yourself a dom If your Mrs keeps you on such a short leash that you can’t make private phone calls in the evening?"
It depends on the dynamic that they are in together. A Dom is a specific dynamic between two people. Your dynamic with this person may be different than with their Mrs. Relationship aside the role as dom may not be 24/7 no matter who they practice it with.
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"Is it a short leash or just being respectful of a primary relationship?
Assuming the person concerned is playing in the full knowledge of a partner then surely if they have boundaries around contact with others that wouldn't necessarily mean being on a short leash?
Just because someone is dominant doesn't mean they walk all over other people - in fact any dominant that felt they could do that wouldn't be for me."
This 
Also, anyone who's ever actually been in an BDSM play knows the sub holds the power. |
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"If your Mrs keeps you on such a short leash that you can’t make private phone calls in the evening?
I don't understand the question? Who would be Dom? If your refering to your wife she would be Domme, not a Dom. Do you have a Ds relationship? If not then, no Shes not a Domme, for the purpose of the answer. "
I'm a female dominant but I don't refer to myself as Domme.
I simply use Dom.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it a short leash or just being respectful of a primary relationship?
Assuming the person concerned is playing in the full knowledge of a partner then surely if they have boundaries around contact with others that wouldn't necessarily mean being on a short leash?
Just because someone is dominant doesn't mean they walk all over other people - in fact any dominant that felt they could do that wouldn't be for me."
I couldn’t have said it better.
Being sexually dominant has nothing to do with a primary relationship and the ability to make a telephone call. It has everything to do with respect, trust, understand open and honest communication.
Fab is a small part of most people’s lives, the fact that a person puts their personal and private life above Fab means nothing more than than that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it a short leash or just being respectful of a primary relationship?
Assuming the person concerned is playing in the full knowledge of a partner then surely if they have boundaries around contact with others that wouldn't necessarily mean being on a short leash?
Just because someone is dominant doesn't mean they walk all over other people - in fact any dominant that felt they could do that wouldn't be for me.
I couldn’t have said it better.
Being sexually dominant has nothing to do with a primary relationship and the ability to make a telephone call. It has everything to do with respect, trust, understand open and honest communication.
Fab is a small part of most people’s lives, the fact that a person puts their personal and private life above Fab means nothing more than than that. "
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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"Is it a short leash or just being respectful of a primary relationship?
Assuming the person concerned is playing in the full knowledge of a partner then surely if they have boundaries around contact with others that wouldn't necessarily mean being on a short leash?
Just because someone is dominant doesn't mean they walk all over other people - in fact any dominant that felt they could do that wouldn't be for me.
I couldn’t have said it better.
Being sexually dominant has nothing to do with a primary relationship and the ability to make a telephone call. It has everything to do with respect, trust, understand open and honest communication.
Fab is a small part of most people’s lives, the fact that a person puts their personal and private life above Fab means nothing more than than that. "
With respect I think you confuse a D/S relationship with sexual elements and sexual dominance. These are overlapping but separate types of relationship.
The information that we do not have is whether this was relationshionship of sexual dominance in the bedroom or a D/S relationship with sexual elements. If the latter we do not know the basis of the D/S relationship. If it had been based on the dom's availability for free communication and that also the dom's primary partner being in agreement with the dom having a submissive, then there was clearly a failure by the dom.
However we do not have all the information.
I would suggest that a D/S relationship is not necessarily the same as sexual dominance the former having wider mutual obligations.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it a short leash or just being respectful of a primary relationship?
Assuming the person concerned is playing in the full knowledge of a partner then surely if they have boundaries around contact with others that wouldn't necessarily mean being on a short leash?
Just because someone is dominant doesn't mean they walk all over other people - in fact any dominant that felt they could do that wouldn't be for me.
I couldn’t have said it better.
Being sexually dominant has nothing to do with a primary relationship and the ability to make a telephone call. It has everything to do with respect, trust, understand open and honest communication.
Fab is a small part of most people’s lives, the fact that a person puts their personal and private life above Fab means nothing more than than that.
With respect I think you confuse a D/S relationship with sexual elements and sexual dominance. These are overlapping but separate types of relationship.
The information that we do not have is whether this was relationshionship of sexual dominance in the bedroom or a D/S relationship with sexual elements. If the latter we do not know the basis of the D/S relationship. If it had been based on the dom's availability for free communication and that also the dom's primary partner being in agreement with the dom having a submissive, then there was clearly a failure by the dom.
However we do not have all the information.
I would suggest that a D/S relationship is not necessarily the same as sexual dominance the former having wider mutual obligations.
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You are totally correct - please re-read that with Dominant instead of sexual dominance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can call yourself anything you want
if people believe you thats up to them
wether its right or wrong is up to the individual
Me I call myself a Billionaire these days |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is this actually a question ? Or an unveiled opportunity to have a pop at someone who can't or won't speak on the phone ? "
I was thinking that! All very metaphorical |
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