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"Yes if you think not your in the wrong place..
Agreed, but after reading so many profiles it seems not to be the case. More reading for me! "
You telling me we actually have a guy how reids profile.. lol
Just kidding..
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Don't confuse a connection with feelings! They're totally different ..."
 Wanting to have a good connection doesn't have to mean being madly in love with someone. The best sex for me on here is the sort where I can relax with the other and there's this *spark* for want of a better word. It doesn't mean serious feelings but it does mean laughter and pleasure which is how ideal meets go for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes if you think not your in the wrong place..
Agreed, but after reading so many profiles it seems not to be the case. More reading for me!
You telling me we actually have a guy how reids profile.. lol
Just kidding..
We play at clubs not had problems getting great nsa sex.. "
Hahahaha I do indeed 
Clubs I think I must try |
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"Don't confuse a connection with feelings! They're totally different ...
Wanting to have a good connection doesn't have to mean being madly in love with someone. The best sex for me on here is the sort where I can relax with the other and there's this *spark* for want of a better word. It doesn't mean serious feelings but it does mean laughter and pleasure which is how ideal meets go for me."
Totally agree with this. |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
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"Good sex is possible without emotional feelings, it's possible without even knowing a person's name...but not for everyone."
Good sex yes.. I aim a lot higher, and for that I have to at least like, be comfortable with and click with the other person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can see where younare coming from and early doors it definitly feels like that could be the case,but no! Friends that play together stay together lol!
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"Good sex is possible without emotional feelings, it's possible without even knowing a person's name...but not for everyone.
Good sex yes.. I aim a lot higher, and for that I have to at least like, be comfortable with and click with the other person."
Yes, lots of people say that.
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"Great sex without feelings possible? "
It depends on what feelings you're talking about, there are many. Possibly feelings that are somewhat different in males and females during swinging/casual sex.
Being a person of deep feelings I'd say no. I need to feel a connection, build a friendship, kiss passionately, lots of oral. Of course feelings get involved. Falling in love is of course a big no-no.
Sex WITH feelings is soooo much better. Otherwise they are akin to a piece of meat, the sex is cold and mechanical.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't confuse a connection with feelings! They're totally different ...
Wanting to have a good connection doesn't have to mean being madly in love with someone. The best sex for me on here is the sort where I can relax with the other and there's this *spark* for want of a better word. It doesn't mean serious feelings but it does mean laughter and pleasure which is how ideal meets go for me."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve always been passionate and involved with my partners until last year. I met a woman a year older than me that wanted just sex, I found it weird at first sex was great but attracted to each other. Then feelings developed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't want to have feelings for anybody I meet off here but I do want a friendship, a connection and definitely more than a "bend over love".
I've been struggling with meets lately and feeling totally disposable with temporary fixes here and there. I've tried sticking to just having sex with good friends with whom I have a good connection, rather than random strangers but even that is leaving me feeling empty, like they are just a blip in my life.
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"Great sex without feelings possible? "
is this because you met single female and fallen or her for you. or is the question to cpls ? ,most time my mrs zones out enjoys the sex and quite a few times didn't even recognize a man shes already had sex with say a few weeks later,
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"Great sex without feelings possible? "
Depends what you mean by without feelings?
With me there always has to be a connection and physical chemistry - and if it’s someone I meet more than once - a fondness! However - I can certainly separate love and sex - if I couldn’t I think I’d have gone mad after over five years on here! |
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Humans experience a huge range of emotions, including those that some associate with relationship commitment. No strings attached sex is what most people here want, via several partners - though not in the same session. We may become friends but typically not romantically involved, though may meet frequently for years. There's a mindset needed, to ensure that we don't become emotionally attached, allowing ourselves and our partners to fully enjoy the sex with the freedom to walk away with satisfaction minus the responsibilities that romantic relationships often involve.
It's fine to be open to relationship potential with anybody that we encounter anywhere in life but it's wise to have realistic expectations and to engage appropriately when you are using Fab and meeting for casual sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely possible, but if it’s regular and carries on over several months I start to feel a bit weird about it. Like it’s a good imitation of something but has now exceeded its ‘use by’ date.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Great sex without feelings possible? "
the best sex comes from a connection and a compassion for the person youre with sex without feeling is just sex for the sake of sex you may as well have a wank  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Great sex without feelings possible? "
It can’t happen with single women in the lifestyle..... they tend to start getting feelings and want more......
Great sex without feelings can be possible for a single guy when playing with couple....
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Great sex without feelings possible?
It can’t happen with single women in the lifestyle..... they tend to start getting feelings and want more......
Great sex without feelings can be possible for a single guy when playing with couple....
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I've never got feelings for a guy from fab beyond a decent connection and occasionally friendship (not even with my regulars). Either you're confusing connection and feelings or are terrible at picking ladies! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Great sex without feelings possible? "
Depends on the feelings you're talking about. If it's absolutely nothing then no. But add attraction and lust - hell yes. |
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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago
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It's impossible not to have any feelings, it just depends what you mean.
Feelings of attachment, no, not for me. I do enjoy getting completely absorbed in the moment though; enjoying everything my senses are stimulated by, then urged, compelled to act upon and respond on those feelings |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Great sex without feelings possible?
It can’t happen with single women in the lifestyle..... they tend to start getting feelings and want more......
Great sex without feelings can be possible for a single guy when playing with couple....
I've never got feelings for a guy from fab beyond a decent connection and occasionally friendship (not even with my regulars). Either you're confusing connection and feelings or are terrible at picking ladies! "
i never confuse anything and I'm great at picking ladies |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
Totally. I love great anonymous sex, have had loads of it in the past, still do when the mood strikes me. But everyone is different.
I have a partner who has had some great meets, but even with the most gorgeous woman in front of him, if they can't hold a conversation, they don't click, he doesn't stay hard, great sex for him starts with that, doesn't mean he falls for them or has feelings. |
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Personally speaking, there has to be feelings.
That doesn't mean, being head over in love with someone, but I do have to like someone, a mental connection, a physical spark.
The better the connection the better the sex.
Random anonymous sex might scratch a physical itch but it wouldn't stimulate my brain, it's only when that is switched on that I would class it as great sex, with mind blowing body breaking orgasms. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Great sex without feelings possible?
Specify feelings?
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That's for you to determine. I left it like this for people to think about what feelings mean to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't confuse a connection with feelings! They're totally different ...
Wanting to have a good connection doesn't have to mean being madly in love with someone. The best sex for me on here is the sort where I can relax with the other and there's this *spark* for want of a better word. It doesn't mean serious feelings but it does mean laughter and pleasure which is how ideal meets go for me."
Exactly this! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Great sex without feelings possible?
Lust or love is the question"
For you I left the question rather vague to see how people view/interpret feelings. |
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It's absolutely possible. As others have said - there is a big difference between a connection & meeting of minds, and other feelings getting involved.
There is an assumption that women are unable to separate one from the other which annoys the hell out of me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes if you think not your in the wrong place..
Agreed, but after reading so many profiles it seems not to be the case. More reading for me! "
What have you read on profiles thats led you to this conclusion? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Great sex without feelings possible?
It can’t happen with single women in the lifestyle..... they tend to start getting feelings and want more......
Great sex without feelings can be possible for a single guy when playing with couple....
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Sweeping generalisation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't confuse a connection with feelings! They're totally different ...
Wanting to have a good connection doesn't have to mean being madly in love with someone. The best sex for me on here is the sort where I can relax with the other and there's this *spark* for want of a better word. It doesn't mean serious feelings but it does mean laughter and pleasure which is how ideal meets go for me."
This exactly. - Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes if you think not your in the wrong place..
Agreed, but after reading so many profiles it seems not to be the case. More reading for me!
What have you read on profiles thats led you to this conclusion?"
I agree based upon my view on what feelings are. Everyone has a different understanding of it, which is why I wrote the question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely. For me, all it requires is for both of us to be relaxed enough to "go with the flow" when that happens, you get lost in the moment, which in turn, leads to amazing sex. In my opinion anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes if you think not your in the wrong place..
Agreed, but after reading so many profiles it seems not to be the case. More reading for me!
What have you read on profiles thats led you to this conclusion?
I agree based upon my view on what feelings are. Everyone has a different understanding of it, which is why I wrote the question. "
What have you read on profiles though?
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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"Great sex without feelings possible? "
Feelings, such as liking the person do you mean, or something deeper?
I think you have to at least like them but it's definitely possible to keep it at that.
What has made you think that it's not possible? |
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Not often the case ..
When I used to be active in here I had to hide verifications and summaries, because of the the reaction from previous meets ..
Messages like :
Why are you meeting others when you could of met me..
Thought we clicked and had a good time so why meet others.
Don’t bother asking to meet me after you’ve met such and such ..
It’s endless..
So many are not emotionally equipped for swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't confuse a connection with feelings! They're totally different ...
Wanting to have a good connection doesn't have to mean being madly in love with someone. The best sex for me on here is the sort where I can relax with the other and there's this *spark* for want of a better word. It doesn't mean serious feelings but it does mean laughter and pleasure which is how ideal meets go for me.
Exactly this! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not often the case ..
When I used to be active in here I had to hide verifications and summaries, because of the the reaction from previous meets ..
Messages like :
Why are you meeting others when you could of met me..
Thought we clicked and had a good time so why meet others.
Don’t bother asking to meet me after you’ve met such and such ..
It’s endless..
So many are not emotionally equipped for swinging "
This 1,000 %..... Couples tend to see a verification and will ask you to bring the women/couple to meet with them also...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes if you think not your in the wrong place..
Agreed, but after reading so many profiles it seems not to be the case. More reading for me!
What have you read on profiles thats led you to this conclusion?
I agree based upon my view on what feelings are. Everyone has a different understanding of it, which is why I wrote the question.
What have you read on profiles though?
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Forgive me if I am wrong, but can't help but think your fishing for an answer from me to pounce on and say "you are wrong", when my topic is meant to be open. Even in the comments here there is a diverse view and none are wrong as it's what feelings mean to them. I think it's a strong argument that our want for sexual satisfaction (a feeling) is universal on here, but we all have our own unique set of other feelings we package together to come up with our ideal meets. My set of feelings does not include love, jealousy etc that you would normal associate with BF/GF material and does not comprise of much out side of physical attraction, thus leaning me to agree more with the comment above that you seek an answer for. I think that answers your question without actually having to refer to specific profile on here. |
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