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Fab vs. Real World

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I just wondered if people on here (mainly guys) find they typically have more success in the real world in terms of getting laid?

I know for me, fab is great for certain types of meets but most of my best times have come from meeting people out and about in the real world - there are some amazing looking girls in pretty much most pubs / clubs etc.

I say this because so many people seem to get hung up on the fact that they can't find an easy lay on here.

My advice is always the same: just get out more and away from here.

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By *punkloverCouple over a year ago

hatfield

Maybe that is because mainly single guys think you will get an easy shag on here without any effort and most couples or girls on here know what they do and don't want and that the attitude of "oh i can get an easy shag on here" seems to be the problem for them.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"I just wondered if people on here (mainly guys) find they typically have more success in the real world in terms of getting laid?

I say this because so many people seem to get hung up on the fact that they can't find an easy lay on here.

My advice is always the same: just get out more and away from here."

Yup...if you are single and just want a quick easy fuck, this is not the place to be looking...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we never get laid in the real world or on fab, pffftttt

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The last time I had sex with someone from the real world it was pretty crap. I think I will stick to fab world, the men I have met were very much into mutual satisfaction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The last time I had sex with someone from the real world it was pretty crap. I think I will stick to fab world, the men I have met were very much into mutual satisfaction."

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"The last time I had sex with someone from the real world it was pretty crap. I think I will stick to fab world, the men I have met were very much into mutual satisfaction."

i tend to find that the ppl who are not just here cos they joined d*unk one night thinking it was easy sex are looking for great sex...and sexual people.

Anyone can get a fuck on a friday night in the bigg market, doesnt mean it will be any good though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The last time I had sex with someone from the real world it was pretty crap. I think I will stick to fab world, the men I have met were very much into mutual satisfaction.

i tend to find that the ppl who are not just here cos they joined d*unk one night thinking it was easy sex are looking for great sex...and sexual people.

Anyone can get a fuck on a friday night in the bigg market, doesnt mean it will be any good though."

Bigg market? is that a pub then? hmmm where abouts is it please im goin there next Friday me deffo thinks

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"The last time I had sex with someone from the real world it was pretty crap. I think I will stick to fab world, the men I have met were very much into mutual satisfaction.

i tend to find that the ppl who are not just here cos they joined d*unk one night thinking it was easy sex are looking for great sex...and sexual people.

Anyone can get a fuck on a friday night in the bigg market, doesnt mean it will be any good though.

Bigg market? is that a pub then? hmmm where abouts is it please im goin there next Friday me deffo thinks "

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The last time I had sex with someone from the real world it was pretty crap. I think I will stick to fab world, the men I have met were very much into mutual satisfaction.

i tend to find that the ppl who are not just here cos they joined d*unk one night thinking it was easy sex are looking for great sex...and sexual people.

Anyone can get a fuck on a friday night in the bigg market, doesnt mean it will be any good though.

Bigg market? is that a pub then? hmmm where abouts is it please im goin there next Friday me deffo thinks

Have fun

I always doo hun

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By *oupleup4funCouple over a year ago

Ashton

Is Fab and the like here to have that bit of fun that you would not normally find in the "Real World" what we love about sites like this is you can pick who you want to meet, knowing they are looking for the same thing..

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By *hetalkingstoveMan over a year ago

London

"I just wondered if people on here (mainly guys) find they typically have more success in the real world in terms of getting laid?

The thing is, if you pull in a club or pub then there's the awkward "Yeah, I'm not actually interested in anything serious" conversation next day. If you're on here, that's not an issue.

Sure, it's an option to go out trying to get laid (and I do admit to doing it) but this place has the bonus of everything being out in the open.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You mean fab isnt the real world???? Ohhh nooooo mass hysteria.....dont go letting on fgs..pffft.....fab is for fun not just for christmas,its a way to meet like minded people who share the same concept regarding sex,if your here to find a quick shag then in all honesty swinging isnt for you...and before i get pounced on...this is MY OPPINION......not everyone elses just mine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

your always going to find it easier pulling in a pub or club it full of pissed up people

Personally id sooner make the effort on here than have some jack the lad with his mates or d*unk drooling over me at a bar

Each to their own tho

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

true that mate. i struggle onhere but it doesnt really get to me like it seems to do others

i think those that struggle off and then join and struggle on here get the most frustrated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just wondered if people on here (mainly guys) find they typically have more success in the real world in terms of getting laid?

The thing is, if you pull in a club or pub then there's the awkward "Yeah, I'm not actually interested in anything serious" conversation next day. If you're on here, that's not an issue.

Sure, it's an option to go out trying to get laid (and I do admit to doing it) but this place has the bonus of everything being out in the open. "

actually see that depends as me and oreo had a said meet all be it social first and i thought fuck i like this one best not take it further as he will just want sex it will get fucked up, as it turn out he like me so a few very awkward convosations followed plus a lot of privacy away from fab were noone know for a while as we were both very social and active members of site

quite a few cancelled meets on both side (sorry to said people) while we tried to firgure it out. so my thing would be u can not asmume anything on here and i think many guys do asmume the girls on here will just drop there knickers and forget that most couples on here have really strong relationships this is not about women whose husbands cannot satifsy them this is for there mutual sexual pleasure they find from enjoying sex with others. i think if respect was given a lot of single guys would in fact get meets and a bit more effort than the one line messages with cock pictures attached

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By *oonytoonMan over a year ago

derby

"The last time I had sex with someone from the real world it was pretty crap. I think I will stick to fab world, the men I have met were very much into mutual satisfaction.

i tend to find that the ppl who are not just here cos they joined d*unk one night thinking it was easy sex are looking for great sex...and sexual people.

Anyone can get a fuck on a friday night in the bigg market, doesnt mean it will be any good though."

I totally agree if you haver the every holes a goal attitude then your local town centre at ten to two is where you need to be but I like mind blowing eye popping sex hence why I'm here although I've still not met anyone from fab but I will change that I tell thee lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just wondered if people on here (mainly guys) find they typically have more success in the real world in terms of getting laid?

I say this because so many people seem to get hung up on the fact that they can't find an easy lay on here.

My advice is always the same: just get out more and away from here."

Much much easier for me in the 'real world' but the challenge on here makes it far more fun; it's no challenge for women on here because of the abundance of single men but for us guys the race is on - until we get to the bedroom of course

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By *dysseeMan over a year ago

Brighton

Totally agree. It is easier in the real world. I think it is mainly down to the large numbers of single guys and couples mainly prefer to met couples or fems. I like the chat and the openness on here, but its not a balanced place for single guys. I think fems and couples may be very surprised if they experienced being a single guy in here. I used to think the cples and fems were rude not to reply to civil/polite messages - but now I think they are overwhelmed with messages. Obviously I dont include the rude pointless "wana fuck" messages. They dont deserve any answer.I would say most single guys get none or very few unsolicited mails from couples and fems - whereas it seems couples and fems mailboxes are overflowing. I get more messages from hopeful bi guys - and I am straight - dont they read profiles ! lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Totally agree. It is easier in the real world. I think it is mainly down to the large numbers of single guys and couples mainly prefer to met couples or fems. I like the chat and the openness on here, but its not a balanced place for single guys. I think fems and couples may be very surprised if they experienced being a single guy in here. I used to think the cples and fems were rude not to reply to civil/polite messages - but now I think they are overwhelmed with messages. Obviously I dont include the rude pointless "wana fuck" messages. They dont deserve any answer.I would say most single guys get none or very few unsolicited mails from couples and fems - whereas it seems couples and fems mailboxes are overflowing. I get more messages from hopeful bi guys - and I am straight - dont they read profiles ! lol"

You can block mail from single guys - I get emails from females but not so that my mailbox is over flowing - however, most of the time they live too far away and just want to say somethiing about

My pics - it also becomes easier when you're verified - that way people know you're nt a time waster

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bit of both.

Prefer the real world overall because we are more than profiles on a website.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just wondered if people on here (mainly guys) find they typically have more success in the real world in terms of getting laid?

I say this because so many people seem to get hung up on the fact that they can't find an easy lay on here.

My advice is always the same: just get out more and away from here."

I agree with most of what the Op has said here, certainly valid points.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The last time I had sex with someone from the real world it was pretty crap. I think I will stick to fab world, the men I have met were very much into mutual satisfaction.

i tend to find that the ppl who are not just here cos they joined d*unk one night thinking it was easy sex are looking for great sex...and sexual people.

Anyone can get a fuck on a friday night in the bigg market, doesnt mean it will be any good though."

It's just as easy to find great sex in the 'real world' as it is on Fab, swingers who state otherwise should really get out more.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"The last time I had sex with someone from the real world it was pretty crap. I think I will stick to fab world, the men I have met were very much into mutual satisfaction.

i tend to find that the ppl who are not just here cos they joined d*unk one night thinking it was easy sex are looking for great sex...and sexual people.

Anyone can get a fuck on a friday night in the bigg market, doesnt mean it will be any good though.

It's just as easy to find great sex in the 'real world' as it is on Fab, swingers who state otherwise should really get out more. "

Thats the difference though between being a couple with kids and a single bloke on here. Of course you can get great sex without a swinging site, what do u think we did before the net...but we cant get out more...which is why we joined.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

j have no complaints with fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The O.P just seems to have underlined the difference between swingers and chancers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I have been swinging for a couple of months and my partner a bit longer I enjoy it but I do like real world too it's like being in two different worlds but I like getting dressed up and dancing

This website is jus to meet new people in a different way and see what leads it brings not jus all about sex and how many people u can sleep with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's just as easy to find great sex in the 'real world' as it is on Fab, swingers who state otherwise should really get out more.

Fair comment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's much, MUCH easier in the real world. I joined the site originally because a woman I met in a bar was a member and she said it was great.

A simple example is when I message couples or single women on here I rarely get a reply. If I meet them in a club it's a completely different story. sex isn't always the outcome but a good conversation ensues.

I tend to just Use the forums in here. I haven't browsed profiles in an age.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The suggestion that most sex away from Fab is based around pissed up people in bars and pulling ten minutes before closing is nonsense. It is like suggesting that all swinging is based around dogging!

Men who struggle in the 'real world' will probably struggle on here simply because you still need the basics like good communication skills.

Some women who struggle in the 'real world' will do better on here because they're in the minority, supply and demand means they don't need to be as attractive to compete.

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"The suggestion that most sex away from Fab is based around pissed up people in bars and pulling ten minutes before closing is nonsense. It is like suggesting that all swinging is based around dogging!

Men who struggle in the 'real world' will probably struggle on here simply because you still need the basics like good communication skills.

Some women who struggle in the 'real world' will do better on here because they're in the minority, supply and demand means they don't need to be as attractive to compete.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i get more off fab if im honest,

its what you put into the site that reaps the rewards, if you look and act like the rest then you get left on the shelf and treated like the rest just sat there waiting for your raffle ticket to be picked by being in the right place at the right time

if you make the most of every meet and do your upmost to impress people in and out the bedroom, make friends, be good at talking and social skills then you will do very well if your an attractive guy once you get the ball rolling.

can sit there and say no one gives you the chance but they quite alot of things you can do to make the chances happen.

what turned things around for me when i come here i'd already sussed these sites out, how to present yourself, how to conduct your self with messages and on the meet as well as making sure the sex is better than anyones expecting too. if you dont work things out then your going to make the same old mistakes again.

being on a dating site and seeing rants and moans and talking to a few finding out what everyone else was like really and seeing how much success i had on there compared to sex sites made me re-think and reconise everything i was doing wrong.

no one really wants to take chances on annonymous or unattractive unverified profiles. if your profiles something special though someone will meet and verifiy you if your not an ass on your messages or come accross pushy.

try to make friends as friends fuck alot more than random strangers do and you get repeate meets with friends.

and i think they something special about sexy friends without boundaries which you can make on here. often can be fun relationships that are hard to ruin as your above many things that get in the way of friendships where on here they are what brings us together in the first place!

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By *umourCouple over a year ago

Rushden

Men who struggle in the 'real world' will probably struggle on here simply because you still need the basics like good communication skills.

Some women who struggle in the 'real world' will do better on here because they're in the minority, supply and demand means they don't need to be as attractive to compete. "

Spot on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

like i'll say for example today ive probally found a new meet for later in the week,

how? waited till she was online before messaging, then just friendly chat- starting with a friendly greeting introducing myself and asking how she is,

then talking about mainly about what she likes to do, what work she is in etc,

Think how many people probally messaged her after friendly hellos and took a genuine interest in her without bringing up sex or asking for a meet,

a hour later she's changing the subject to sex so obviousily interested and quite good too as she seems into all the same things as myself.

seems like im on a winner to make a decent friend there with a potential for a bit of fun.

so if your not having luck and all you go on about to people who reply is sex and meets well your just confirming your like the rest of the people they probally just ignore, and this why they probs make an excuse or stop talking!

sure dirty chat and being forward works for some people, but its right place right time or a hell of a profile that they are totally into anyways (so let them off!) to make up for the crap messages etc

women dont want to meet weridos or pushy people, on fab or in real life. where in a club theres a time limit, they more people about so might enjoy the attention especially if its only you giving it and they got a time limit on the night if they looking for sex too.

on here they have choice and no time limit, so pushy isnt going to get you very far unless you were already in with them before the message and they dont care!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Men who struggle in the 'real world' will probably struggle on here simply because you still need the basics like good communication skills.

Some women who struggle in the 'real world' will do better on here because they're in the minority, supply and demand means they don't need to be as attractive to compete.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely easier in the real world as I think people tend to have no or less expectations. On a swingers site you kind of expect it to be easier or to definitely get something out of it. Then you hopefully realise you need to make an effort

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a real world?

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"There's a real world?

no its just fantasy, caught in a landslide, no escape from reality

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a real world?

no its just fantasy, caught in a landslide, no escape from reality

Thought as much

slips saftly back into the world of fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Firstly, just want to say that I love these forums! *newbie*

And with my *newbie* hat in here, I'd say this: normal looking single guys - use the site to find out what's happening where in the real world (spas, clubs, parties), put your pants on and leave the house. As long as you've got a personality, you'll make some "real world" friends that are also on here!

...that's my plan anyway. I'll let you know how I get on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh yes, much more meets and fun in the real world.

Here, your more likely to meet people who understand the NSA or friendship with benefits.

Having said that there does seem to be a few females looking for a relationship rather than NSA or friendship with benefits.

I want NSA friendship with benefits.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get offers in the real world . Weird some think woman over 40 can only pull on swing sites if married , lol i could pull today and tomorrow alot if i liked but thay would not just see it like i do sex ................ and thats all i am after friends with sex not looking to run of into the sun -set , lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh yes, much more meets and fun in the real world.

Here, your more likely to meet people who understand the NSA or friendship with benefits.

Having said that there does seem to be a few females looking for a relationship rather than NSA or friendship with benefits.

I want NSA friendship with benefits."

i find finding regulary fuck buddys just as easy outside the site as in the site, i think its more to do with having great sex between each other but both knowing thats all that can work that and being friends, and keeping that fun up inbetween relationships

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whether 'real world' or Fab you are still you, and the quality of sex will depend mostly on your choices and what you bring to the table.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I just wondered if people on here (mainly guys) find they typically have more success in the real world in terms of getting laid?

I say this because so many people seem to get hung up on the fact that they can't find an easy lay on here.

My advice is always the same: just get out more and away from here."

This is a genuine thought and query and not a dig at all. I'm not surprised you pull so easily as you say you are good looking and fit and i've no reason to disbelieve that. You talk about really good looking girls in clubs yet all your verifications are from men. Is that what you mean? The men here are easy meat - the women are not ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

im far from easy granny!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

Firstly, just want to say that I love these forums! *newbie*

...that's my plan anyway. I'll let you know how I get on

a great plan...as i have said before, the site is just a netwoking tool...

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