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By *jb773 OP Man
over a year ago
Bishops Stortford |
So far i have had no luck so here finding women to meet with.
I have edited my profile so many times and messaged so many, but either get no reply or my messages immediately deleted, i am running out of options and hope. |
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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago
A box at end of your bed |
Yep not easy but as lots on the site will bet happy to tell you its not dial a shag and just because it's a sex site your not guaranteed sex.
We are so many and ladies so few they can pick and choose. But ladies have hard time to all them messages they get to read. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep not easy but as lots on the site will bet happy to tell you its not dial a shag and just because it's a sex site your not guaranteed sex.
We are so many and ladies so few they can pick and choose. But ladies have hard time to all them messages they get to read."
Think you’ve covered it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sadly it’s not going to be for everyone. The majority of guys will get no luck, as we have huge amounts to pick from. So only the best are going to get anything. Get yourself out in town and meet actual people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is massive mistrust of men on here. Most people will only meet guys that will actually venture out to a club, they seem to be the ones that understand how to swing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, you cannot accommodate (I'm my 8 years of swinging this usually means married or playing away) and you smoke which is an absolute no-no for me. Those are my only reasons for not wanting to meet. |
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"So far i have had no luck so here finding women to meet with.
I have edited my profile so many times and messaged so many, but either get no reply or my messages immediately deleted, i am running out of options and hope."
Keep at it as it’s like one person likes that and another doesn’t, be true and wait.....smokies like me are in favour one minute and then not, wish we could say ‘only smoke if someone else does’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You've only been here 4 months.
What exactly were you expecting?
Did you think that after knocking up a profile you'd be beating them off with a stick within hours?
Sorry to burst your bubble, but single men massively outnumber the ladies here, so they really are spoilt for choice.
Most single men don't get their first meet until they've been here at least six months. Some fair better, others worse.
Have a look around the forum and you'll find a plethora of similar threads of single guys complaining about their lack of success and the advice given to all of them is much the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is massive mistrust of men on here. Most people will only meet guys that will actually venture out to a club, they seem to be the ones that understand how to swing"
Not true for the many, clubs are few and far between for most. If you counted total club goers each day it would probably be 1500 so can't be for the masses! Decent guys are around everywhere but it's the effort of finding them that's demoralizing |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"You've only been here 4 months.
What exactly were you expecting?
Did you think that after knocking up a profile you'd be beating them off with a stick within hours?
Sorry to burst your bubble, but single men massively outnumber the ladies here, so they really are spoilt for choice.
Most single men don't get their first meet until they've been here at least six months. Some fair better, others worse.
Have a look around the forum and you'll find a plethora of similar threads of single guys complaining about their lack of success and the advice given to all of them is much the same."
have to say.... i was pretty much going to say the same as this fella.....
it took me about 6 months to get my first meet... but i just sat back, watched all the mistakes that other people made, and learnt accordingly....
I didn't close off avenues to get meets, i went to socials and to clubs and as much as some don't like them, if you want to stand out, there is no better way than doing it in person!!!
time, patience, basic common sense.... they rest you have to work out the best way to sell you!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So far i have had no luck so here finding women to meet with.
I have edited my profile so many times and messaged so many, but either get no reply or my messages immediately deleted, i am running out of options and hope."
Can I just say it’s not all plain sailing for us couples either as some may expect.. we have our own challenges, including some of the above!
As some have advised, what did you expect!? Stick with it... |
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"There is massive mistrust of men on here. Most people will only meet guys that will actually venture out to a club, they seem to be the ones that understand how to swing"
That may be your experience but there’s lots of guys on here doing very well without going to clubs, they’re the ones who understand how to swing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You've only been here 4 months.
What exactly were you expecting?
Did you think that after knocking up a profile you'd be beating them off with a stick within hours?
Sorry to burst your bubble, but single men massively outnumber the ladies here, so they really are spoilt for choice.
Most single men don't get their first meet until they've been here at least six months. Some fair better, others worse.
Have a look around the forum and you'll find a plethora of similar threads of single guys complaining about their lack of success and the advice given to all of them is much the same."
Nail on the head fella
single men on here are like a single raindrop in a thunderstorm.
Be patient, go to clubs, you get out of this site what you put in.
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NO need blaming yourself.All said.myself talking I don't have many veification apart from one I kept. I don't do verifications. Some people think I am not real just because I have one verifications.l don't believe in verifications. I ve met alot of good females and couples here on fab.But l prefer to keep my profile with one verification.I don't like publicity.
My advice for you.Try club and party scene.that may enhance your chances of meeting someone from fab. That may break the jinx. Good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t say I,ve struggled to get responses I chat with many and meet but a few . I’ve never had any expectations to meet up though . Just persevere be polite respectful and I,m sure it will happen for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got a message from a lady saying she had read my profile and that she liked what she saw and she would really like to meet me - if I wasn't bi! Oh well, can't win 'em all I suppose. Nil desperandum.
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By *jb773 OP Man
over a year ago
Bishops Stortford |
"It’s all about that first message. Many guys think they are being polite but the approach just isn’t quite right. "
what is the right approach? I have always tried to be polite in my messages to people
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By *jb773 OP Man
over a year ago
Bishops Stortford |
"Not sure why you single guy do not us multiple website seem a bit narrow-minded putting all your eggs in one basket...  "
Most are just fake profiles and the messages are premade one that the sites automatically send, this is the only one that has legit accounts on it |
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"It’s all about that first message. Many guys think they are being polite but the approach just isn’t quite right. what is the right approach? I have always tried to be polite in my messages to people"
You are probably do nothing wrong just being a bit dull jaz it up ..
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By *jb773 OP Man
over a year ago
Bishops Stortford |
"It’s all about that first message. Many guys think they are being polite but the approach just isn’t quite right. what is the right approach? I have always tried to be polite in my messages to people
You are probably do nothing wrong just being a bit dull jaz it up ..
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Wish i knew how, always feel like if i try to be funny, it just makes it worse |
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"So far i have had no luck so here finding women to meet with.
I have edited my profile so many times and messaged so many, but either get no reply or my messages immediately deleted, i am running out of options and hope."
Can't accommodate, can't punctuate, can't use spellcheck. Can't get meets. |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"So far i have had no luck so here finding women to meet with.
I have edited my profile so many times and messaged so many, but either get no reply or my messages immediately deleted, i am running out of options and hope.
Can't accommodate, can't punctuate, can't use spellcheck. Can't get meets."
OP women ask less questions on POF it's a dating site for most women just want to have some fun summer looking for love someone looking for good times and it's a lot less questions asked and asked and I want you to be taken to close to them and they're in itself is the answer enjoy   |
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By *jb773 OP Man
over a year ago
Bishops Stortford |
"So far i have had no luck so here finding women to meet with.
I have edited my profile so many times and messaged so many, but either get no reply or my messages immediately deleted, i am running out of options and hope.
Can't accommodate, can't punctuate, can't use spellcheck. Can't get meets.OP women ask less questions on POF it's a dating site for most women just want to have some fun summer looking for love someone looking for good times and it's a lot less questions asked and asked and I want you to be taken to close to them and they're in itself is the answer enjoy "
will give pof a try then, thought it was just people looking for relationships |
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As a couple we get so many messages it feels like a full time job going through them all!
Smokers, can’t accommodate and bi men are a definite no for us!
Looking through profiles and pics something usually just makes us reply!
Also no verifications we aren’t interested! |
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"As a couple we get so many messages it feels like a full time job going through them all!
Smokers, can’t accommodate and bi men are a definite no for us!
Looking through profiles and pics something usually just makes us reply!
Also no verifications we aren’t interested!"
Totally agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is massive mistrust of men on here. Most people will only meet guys that will actually venture out to a club, they seem to be the ones that understand how to swing
That may be your experience but there’s lots of guys on here doing very well without going to clubs, they’re the ones who understand how to swing."
That's exactly it. There is a common misconception that only the "hung, six pack, 6fters" do well on here but actually it's the guys with the right attitude that do well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Filly’s favourite guy here has a shaved head, slightly overweight. But she likes him because he is so much fun. We laugh from when we meet up until the leave to go back home. It’s nothing about looks, it’s knowing how to conduct yourself. |
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"So far i have had no luck so here finding women to meet with.
I have edited my profile so many times and messaged so many, but either get no reply or my messages immediately deleted, i am running out of options and hope."
Why worry about it ..it looks so you're having fun anyway without women.. |
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