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Rise in prostitution on this site?
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By *mmwitty OP Man
over a year ago
Nottingham |
Hi, I’ve been a member of the site for a while and mainly use it for meeting likeminded people online rather than in person.
I’ve recently had some free time and tried to set up a few meets and after some initially promising chats been informed of someone’s “prices”.
I love swinging because I enjoy feeling wanted by and giving pleasure to someone “new”, so the idea of paying for their company turns me right off.
Is this becoming more common or have I just avoided it until now? |
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"Hi, I’ve been a member of the site for a while and mainly use it for meeting likeminded people online rather than in person.
I’ve recently had some free time and tried to set up a few meets and after some initially promising chats been informed of someone’s “prices”.
I love swinging because I enjoy feeling wanted by and giving pleasure to someone “new”, so the idea of paying for their company turns me right off.
Is this becoming more common or have I just avoided it until now?"
You will start to read the profiles and spot them at a thousand yards so won't enter into conversation with them. It's all about phrases and euphemisms.
You'll learn. We all do.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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plenty of men on here offer money for services, I would never indulge but I'm sure plenty do. Both women and men are at it in here. Some of the offers are hilarious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi, I’ve been a member of the site for a while and mainly use it for meeting likeminded people online rather than in person.
I’ve recently had some free time and tried to set up a few meets and after some initially promising chats been informed of someone’s “prices”.
I love swinging because I enjoy feeling wanted by and giving pleasure to someone “new”, so the idea of paying for their company turns me right off.
Is this becoming more common or have I just avoided it until now?"
If you see it report it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As much as its called a swingers site it isnt and hasnt been for a while. Its a free sex site so expect plenty of unsavory things to happen."
agree it needs a firm tug back to the realms of swinging |
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I do use various other sites to find paid for sex and over the years I've seen a few women on here that I know escort as well.
They tend to keep this hobby and escorting separate though, I've never been made an offer on here but would be open to listening  |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
There does seem to be more events that are in a hotel that require a contribution you pay your £40 - £50 starts off with 2-3 guys then with in a hour about 10 - 12 guys come and go.The room in the travelodge cost about £100 the organiser takes about £500 in contributions would this be considered a form of prostitution |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fucking hell.
I didn't I should have but didn't expect this. Miiind bloooown.
In answer to the question yes it is prostitution. Well it becomes prostitution when the room is paid for.
But from a legal stand point a contribution would not hide the fact you are paying for sex not the room.
Personally I would have just bought a bottle then d*unk it disappointed on my ones.
And yes they should not be on here so if I found one I'd report them everyday for a month then decide whether to rejoin at the end of that month.
If I wanted a hooker I would sign to Hookers are us or a similar site. This is fab swingers for fab swingers.
Mate. I'm so pissed at this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had men offer me money for sex and used underwear
I just ignore them.
I've also had the site accuse me of being an escort . I am NOT, I never had a answer to why.
I've seen models who are on only fans and similar |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As much as its called a swingers site it isnt and hasnt been for a while. Its a free sex site so expect plenty of unsavory things to happen."
That's correct
There are singles on here who meet singles. That's not swinging.
Couples meeting others is swinging , It's just sex with others . |
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I’ve become wise to it over the last few months the typical thing now seems to be amazon vouchers or the like.
I’m sure it’s as bad for both male and females but the reason I joined the site was to find like minded people who enjoy the lifestyle not make a living from it.
I have and will report this sort of thing whether your a single or a couple the emphasis should be about the swinging. |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands |
"Seen a lot of profiles wanting well off older gents, or ‘gifts’. Always report them and they don’t last long."
We "supposedly" well off older gents are often referred to as Sugar Daddies in some profiles. |
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By *linyMan
over a year ago
Manchester/London |
I was told by one couple that when I turned up to play that I had to bring L’ancome make up for the wife and a specific bottle of wine for the husband and share hotel costs. We didn’t meet!
I have no problem at all sharing hotel costs but there does seem to be a trend of couples not willing to share costs as they’re “allowing” me to play with the wife. Errrrrr no thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had quite a few members offer me money for sex.
It is incredibly flattering(to think I could warrant payment) but I never accept:
I’m not a gigolo or an escort.
Accepting it would be prostituting myself.
I’m here for fun,not monetary reward.
I have a job that pays my bills. |
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference."
not really. As they can do both without them offering it via fab.
Plenty are on both... which is allowed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The amount of messages I get from men who seem to think I am instantly available to keep them company in their hotel rooms, it's no surprise!
While it's not what the site is intended for and I don't think anyone should be on here advertising themselves, I also don't see the issue if men are doing that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference."
Can these people not have a private life too? |
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By *igfun911Man
over a year ago
East Lancashire |
"Hi, I’ve been a member of the site for a while and mainly use it for meeting likeminded people online rather than in person.
I’ve recently had some free time and tried to set up a few meets and after some initially promising chats been informed of someone’s “prices”.
I love swinging because I enjoy feeling wanted by and giving pleasure to someone “new”, so the idea of paying for their company turns me right off.
Is this becoming more common or have I just avoided it until now?"
Been getting worse for sometime now, goes hand in hand with all the fake accounts and time wasters. |
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I had a young lady ask me to send her £20 PayPal “friends + Family” payment to get a taxi to my hotel for fun as she didn’t drive and had no money.
I checked behind my ears and they were done dry
Like a good news of the world reporter, I made my excuses and left ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been offered money several times for a few hours with Nickey £350 was the last offer. Never gonna happen shame that this sort of thing is happening more and more lately |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference.
Can these people not have a private life too? "
Yes they can but I would rather not be involved. |
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Got chatting to a couple who supposedly were staying at a hotel in Torquay day before meet she messaged me to say can I transfer £70 to “their “ account towards cost of the room I replied saying I will hand it personally to either her or hubby on the day she replied saying it made her feel like a prostitue however next time I got on Fab the account had been deleted just had a hunch would have been stood in a hotel foyer £70 poorer and a couple no one had ever heard of |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference.
Can these people not have a private life too?
Yes they can but I would rather not be involved."
Why? |
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference.
Can these people not have a private life too?
Yes they can but I would rather not be involved."
so you would judge someone who swung but was also an escort... why |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As much as its called a swingers site it isnt and hasnt been for a while. Its a free sex site so expect plenty of unsavory things to happen."
I'm sure some swingers are unsavoury too |
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"There does seem to be more events that are in a hotel that require a contribution you pay your £40 - £50 starts off with 2-3 guys then with in a hour about 10 - 12 guys come and go.The room in the travelodge cost about £100 the organiser takes about £500 in contributions would this be considered a form of prostitution"
It can be. Or not. Or teetering on the fine line. Unfortunately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What /where  I’m clearly giving out the do not contact me vibe .. haven’t experienced it yet but it’s an adult site so it’s expected.
Tinder used to be riddled with it "
It still is ..They're a pain in the arse tbh  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference.
Can these people not have a private life too?
Yes they can but I would rather not be involved.
so you would judge someone who swung but was also an escort... why"
I had a feeling saying why might get some pushback. As I said it is a useful cross reference and my original post was suggesting a way of being more informed about who on here (singles and couples) are also escorts. It is for any individual to then decide if that is of interest or not.
As you are asking why for me then personally I would choose not to get involved purely from the point of view of sexual health risk. I would take the same exactly approach to someone who was not an escort who was showing say multiple different verifications a week on their profile. This is just my personal feeling on how comfortable I am with swinging with people who have a high number of sexual partners (escort or not). There is no moral judgement involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see a problem if someone offers to pay someone, that's their choice. Not really bothered about escorts, although I don't see the point. If you wanted an escort there are sites specifically for that.
Interesting that some define swinging as strictly something for couples to do. How busy would the site be if that was case? |
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By *opite_xWoman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Rise in prostitution ?? or just a rise in guys offering money ?? "
This! I got offered £30 for a blowjob a few days ago... if a girl wanted to go down that route it’s not hard and this isn’t the site for it, but guys seem to think they can just price up girls on here |
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I know nothing about the increase but I'm curious about that being treated as an open wallet turns you off. Would that be similar to treating women as a commodity the equivalent for women. Would it be (can't find the symbol for hashtag) but hashtag metoo/loadsamoney!!!! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"There does seem to be more events that are in a hotel that require a contribution you pay your £40 - £50 starts off with 2-3 guys then with in a hour about 10 - 12 guys come and go.The room in the travelodge cost about £100 the organiser takes about £500 in contributions would this be considered a form of prostitution
It can be. Or not. Or teetering on the fine line. Unfortunately."
I think that anything above the cost if the room is profit and should be classed as prostitution surely? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I,ve (Hev) been offered money on my single profile several times, but declined. One bloke in Wellington is quite persistent, setting up new profile to get around blocks. So its definitely not just women asking for money, its men offering it to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I,ve (Hev) been offered money on my single profile several times, but declined. One bloke in Wellington is quite persistent, setting up new profile to get around blocks. So its definitely not just women asking for money, its men offering it to.
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men asking for money to shag them...... really....... so the absolute fact that men struggle to get meets here anyway must put them in the lowest of the low percentage wise lol |
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference.
Can these people not have a private life too?
Yes they can but I would rather not be involved.
so you would judge someone who swung but was also an escort... why
I had a feeling saying why might get some pushback. As I said it is a useful cross reference and my original post was suggesting a way of being more informed about who on here (singles and couples) are also escorts. It is for any individual to then decide if that is of interest or not.
As you are asking why for me then personally I would choose not to get involved purely from the point of view of sexual health risk. I would take the same exactly approach to someone who was not an escort who was showing say multiple different verifications a week on their profile. This is just my personal feeling on how comfortable I am with swinging with people who have a high number of sexual partners (escort or not). There is no moral judgement involved."
What's the differance with someone who has lots of veri's and gets reg checks and is always clear. To someone whos meet 5 people oved a year and never been checked? It only takes one encounter to pick something up. Plus you don't mention if they are safe sex or not.
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As some have already said, either My profile is that poor or I’ve been extremely lucky not to encounter the ‘sex for cash’ scenario.
I have heard others mention it though, is it as bad as some say or is it just restricted to one or certain areas and the same people encounter the same problems, it’s a tough one to manage |
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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago
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"Rise in prostitution ?? or just a rise in guys offering money ??
This! I got offered £30 for a blowjob a few days ago... if a girl wanted to go down that route it’s not hard and this isn’t the site for it, but guys seem to think they can just price up girls on here"
Not condoning this at all, but isn’t the simple answer just to block men from contacting you? You can then just find the ones you are interested in yourself.
This approach would seem to take care of 95% of the complaints about single men and their attitudes on this forum. There must be a reason why people don’t do this yet continue to complain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It all needs reporting and it would be good if admin got off their arse and did something about it. Not just the women but the men offering money. There seems to be a reluctance from the site to kick people offering money off expecialy if they are a site supporter.
Kill the supply of people offering and let it get back to a pure swinging site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference.
Can these people not have a private life too?
Yes they can but I would rather not be involved.
so you would judge someone who swung but was also an escort... why
I had a feeling saying why might get some pushback. As I said it is a useful cross reference and my original post was suggesting a way of being more informed about who on here (singles and couples) are also escorts. It is for any individual to then decide if that is of interest or not.
As you are asking why for me then personally I would choose not to get involved purely from the point of view of sexual health risk. I would take the same exactly approach to someone who was not an escort who was showing say multiple different verifications a week on their profile. This is just my personal feeling on how comfortable I am with swinging with people who have a high number of sexual partners (escort or not). There is no moral judgement involved.
What's the differance with someone who has lots of veri's and gets reg checks and is always clear. To someone whos meet 5 people oved a year and never been checked? It only takes one encounter to pick something up. Plus you don't mention if they are safe sex or not.
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I completely agree with your points. Sexual health is about using a combination of ways of de-risking yourself. Safe sex, how regular you are screened, understanding the risks of each sexual activity and the number of sexual partners involved in your sexual network (and how transparent it is) all feed into that. Sex is only 100% risk free in a monogamous relationship.
You ask what is the risk profile between the two examples you quote. The answer for each is the number involved in their sexual network between being tested clear and having sex with you (plus how safe sex was practiced within that network). |
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"If you check out a well known adult worker site for the same area you notice how often people appear both on there and on fabs. Applies to couples profiles too. Can be a useful cross reference."
I've met several ladies who work on that site, but never been charged as we met through fab.
Sex workers can be swingers too. |
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"It all needs reporting and it would be good if admin got off their arse and did something about it. Not just the women but the men offering money. There seems to be a reluctance from the site to kick people offering money off expecialy if they are a site supporter.
Kill the supply of people offering and let it get back to a pure swinging site."
Going by those rules all single people seeking other single people would need to be kicked off this site as well as we're not swinging either.
Am I any worse in seeking single women to meet for sex, than another man who is wanting to pay a woman for sex? |
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"It all needs reporting and it would be good if admin got off their arse and did something about it. Not just the women but the men offering money. There seems to be a reluctance from the site to kick people offering money off expecialy if they are a site supporter.
Kill the supply of people offering and let it get back to a pure swinging site.
Going by those rules all single people seeking other single people would need to be kicked off this site as well as we're not swinging either.
Am I any worse in seeking single women to meet for sex, than another man who is wanting to pay a woman for sex?"
It depends on how you treat those women. If you see them as free replacement for prostitutes, then you are indeed worse. If you treat them with respect and make sure they are satisfied both physically and emotionally, then there is nothing to compare. |
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"It all needs reporting and it would be good if admin got off their arse and did something about it. Not just the women but the men offering money. There seems to be a reluctance from the site to kick people offering money off expecialy if they are a site supporter.
Kill the supply of people offering and let it get back to a pure swinging site.
Going by those rules all single people seeking other single people would need to be kicked off this site as well as we're not swinging either.
Am I any worse in seeking single women to meet for sex, than another man who is wanting to pay a woman for sex?
It depends on how you treat those women. If you see them as free replacement for prostitutes, then you are indeed worse. If you treat them with respect and make sure they are satisfied both physically and emotionally, then there is nothing to compare."
I treat all the people I meet with respect and definitely prefer a mutually satisfying time.
The downside to meeting with prostitutes is that you pay for their time and when that is up you leave, whether your both satisfied or not. |
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"It all needs reporting and it would be good if admin got off their arse and did something about it. Not just the women but the men offering money. There seems to be a reluctance from the site to kick people offering money off expecialy if they are a site supporter.
Kill the supply of people offering and let it get back to a pure swinging site.
Going by those rules all single people seeking other single people would need to be kicked off this site as well as we're not swinging either.
Am I any worse in seeking single women to meet for sex, than another man who is wanting to pay a woman for sex?
It depends on how you treat those women. If you see them as free replacement for prostitutes, then you are indeed worse. If you treat them with respect and make sure they are satisfied both physically and emotionally, then there is nothing to compare.
I treat all the people I meet with respect and definitely prefer a mutually satisfying time.
The downside to meeting with prostitutes is that you pay for their time and when that is up you leave, whether your both satisfied or not."
See? You are still comparing. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"It all needs reporting and it would be good if admin got off their arse and did something about it. Not just the women but the men offering money. There seems to be a reluctance from the site to kick people offering money off expecialy if they are a site supporter.
Kill the supply of people offering and let it get back to a pure swinging site.
Going by those rules all single people seeking other single people would need to be kicked off this site as well as we're not swinging either.
Am I any worse in seeking single women to meet for sex, than another man who is wanting to pay a woman for sex?
It depends on how you treat those women. If you see them as free replacement for prostitutes, then you are indeed worse. If you treat them with respect and make sure they are satisfied both physically and emotionally, then there is nothing to compare."
Unfortunately, being seen and treated as a free prostitute is a far too common occurance. |
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It's likely that they have a target market and communicate well with those in it. The world won't ever be free of that service, despite moves to outlaw it in some countries, including the UK - it's already got legal constraints in Northern Ireland somehow, I think.
Fab relies on user monitoring and reporting of inappropriate behaviour and content, to control what's against site rules in the quickest way. Report all types of site problems to admin.
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"It all needs reporting and it would be good if admin got off their arse and did something about it. Not just the women but the men offering money. There seems to be a reluctance from the site to kick people offering money off expecialy if they are a site supporter.
Kill the supply of people offering and let it get back to a pure swinging site.
Going by those rules all single people seeking other single people would need to be kicked off this site as well as we're not swinging either.
Am I any worse in seeking single women to meet for sex, than another man who is wanting to pay a woman for sex?
It depends on how you treat those women. If you see them as free replacement for prostitutes, then you are indeed worse. If you treat them with respect and make sure they are satisfied both physically and emotionally, then there is nothing to compare.
Unfortunately, being seen and treated as a free prostitute is a far too common occurance. "
And that is why we are free to use common sense and the block button.  |
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