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Friends or NSA sex?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Since recently joining in on the forums we notice a definate trend toward how so many folk are in the scene for the social and making friends side of swinging .
How many are like us though ?
We see the swinging as a welcome addition to our sex life and generally prefer to meet folk just the once as it keeps things exciting . Is this a rarity ?
We have tried to change our attitude but find the whole friendship thing an unnecessary encumbrance to why we do what we do when people expect that we wanna chat endlessly about their vanilla life !
Anyway we welcome your thoughts  |
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By *r-MissCouple
over a year ago
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Although we only meet single guys we prefer one off meets. We have little interest in becoming friends or doing endless meets afterwards.
We don't mind meeting for a drink to see if there is an initial attraction before play.
But we tend to find one off meets more exciting, although this seems very much in the minority. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a mix of one offs.. and a few friends.. lol
I also have friends that I wouldnt play with that I have met on here.
as long as your honest about what you want, what does it matter.
Cali |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have a mix of one offs.. and a few friends.. lol
I also have friends that I wouldnt play with that I have met on here.
as long as your honest about what you want, what does it matter.
Cali "
Very true it doesn't matter at all , just felt we were very much in the minority ! |
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Surely it depends on the couple / guy/ fem you're meeting? It is possible to find someone sexually attractive enough to do the deed but not have an awful lot in common, so chatting endlessly about your vanilla life would seem pointless. On the other hand you might get on well with them sexually, but you might really like them as people too, and actually want to meet them again for something other than just sex?
I think it really depends, and we've mixed long term friends with one-off's for that very reason. |
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"I have a mix of one offs.. and a few friends.. lol
I also have friends that I wouldnt play with that I have met on here.
as long as your honest about what you want, what does it matter.
Cali
Very true it doesn't matter at all , just felt we were very much in the minority !"
We do both,
i think some ppl feel wary of those not interested in the socail side because it suggests good enough to fuck but not good enough to talk too...no one wants to feel like a piece of meat.(not saying this is your attitude but it is some ppls)
Whilst i love nameless fucking i also love the social side, which is good cos kev wont fuck someone he doesnt have a mental connection with. Sex with friends has its own wonderful side, and i am looking forward to an easter of partying with friends old and new.
There is no twue way, just what works for you, but it might be worth considering why you don't want to get to know ppl better ...if you get on with someone why does it matter how you met 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I guess that the fact that we both work in retail and spend all day chatting with people , listening to the same old stuff makes us a bit less willing to engage in long winded chat .
We also have a wide circle of vanilla friends so the swinging is really just for sex - we truly don't see anyone as good enough to fuck but not for anything else !  |
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"I guess that the fact that we both work in retail and spend all day chatting with people , listening to the same old stuff makes us a bit less willing to engage in long winded chat .
We also have a wide circle of vanilla friends so the swinging is really just for sex - we truly don't see anyone as good enough to fuck but not for anything else ! "
Then clubs are probably the way forward, but people are still going to want to chat there.
AS for having a wide circle of friends, who doesnt, but there are only some i can tell about being spit roasted lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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a bit of both really, some are there to scratch an itch then gone and forgotten, others just become friends. Just to totally contrary we also have some friends who are into different aspects of swinging to us, but we like them just as friends. |
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"a bit of both really, some are there to scratch an itch then gone and forgotten, others just become friends. Just to totally contrary we also have some friends who are into different aspects of swinging to us, but we like them just as friends."
Very true, we have friends who would never think of doing a GG night or mmf, but we get on with really well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We like to chat with people we r thinking of meeting and do become friendly bit it's never going to go further than on here Cus if the type if relationship we have! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Since recently joining in on the forums we notice a definate trend toward how so many folk are in the scene for the social and making friends side of swinging .
How many are like us though ?
We see the swinging as a welcome addition to our sex life and generally prefer to meet folk just the once as it keeps things exciting . Is this a rarity ?
We have tried to change our attitude but find the whole friendship thing an unnecessary encumbrance to why we do what we do when people expect that we wanna chat endlessly about their vanilla life !
Anyway we welcome your thoughts "
 Ive a split personality and my other half is scitzaphrenic. If that then makes me a couple we would love to meeeeeeeeet you guys   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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finding no strings sex on this site hard to find? Too many profiles have we want pics.we want phone calls then maybe a drink. Then maybe just maybe then wel shag you? Jeeze! Im all for the friends thing AFTER iv had sex with your man! Lol. This is fabSWINGERS people.not facebook! Auds. X  |
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Just like with life generally, I don't want nor need to be bezzy-mate friends with everyone I encounter. We encounter people in day to day life and may indeed enjoy their company once or from time to time, without the need to become 'friends' with all and sundry. However, once in a while someone comes along and friendships are formed naturally with no pre-planning of this being a requisit for the initial encounter...... I see no reason why sex should be any different.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just like with life generally, I don't want nor need to be bezzy-mate friends with everyone I encounter. We encounter people in day to day life and may indeed enjoy their company once or from time to time, without the need to become 'friends' with all and sundry. However, once in a while someone comes along and friendships are formed naturally with no pre-planning of this being a requisit for the initial encounter...... I see no reason why sex should be any different.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"finding no strings sex on this site hard to find? Too many profiles have we want pics.we want phone calls then maybe a drink. Then maybe just maybe then wel shag you? Jeeze! Im all for the friends thing AFTER iv had sex with your man! Lol. This is fabSWINGERS people.not facebook! Auds. X "
Couldn't agree more !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people don't need to be friends to shag others, some don't even have to be attracted to you to want to bone you senseless.
We're all different and you'll find someone on here to suit you if you look hard enough.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Some people don't need to be friends to shag others, some don't even have to be attracted to you to want to bone you senseless.
We're all different and you'll find someone on here to suit you if you look hard enough.
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Dunno if that was directed to us ?
No problems here finding fun !  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There is no twue way, just what works for you, but it might be worth considering why you don't want to get to know ppl better ...if you get on with someone why does it matter how you met
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to be honest I would never fuck a friend... so if we are friends first.. then i wouldnt. Lost a friend that way before. wont ever do it again.
and I use clubs for the social and have meets for the random fucks lol
Cali |
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you shouldn't have to try and be some one your not.
we all like what we like.
I think if we met couples over and over (only if we played) i think i would feel a little uncomfy and a tiny bit jealous. but we would love to meet other couples to play and be friends with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we have a mix of one offs and long term playmate/friends and to be honest the more you get to know some folk the more fun you can have with them"
see thats where we are diffrent i find the more we play with the same folk the less fun it is. Actually agree a bit with cali...theres a 1st lol. Shagn friends is a bit weird lol. I think you can become ton friendly with folk on here that sex would be a bit weird lol. We have done it with good friends from on here played once and it just didnt feel right? X
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"finding no strings sex on this site hard to find? Too many profiles have we want pics.we want phone calls then maybe a drink. Then maybe just maybe then wel shag you? Jeeze! Im all for the friends thing AFTER iv had sex with your man! Lol. This is fabSWINGERS people.not facebook! Auds. X "
to many the difference bewtween swinging and nsa is the relationships they build |
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"we have a mix of one offs and long term playmate/friends and to be honest the more you get to know some folk the more fun you can have with themsee thats where we are diffrent i find the more we play with the same folk the less fun it is. Actually agree a bit with cali...theres a 1st lol. Shagn friends is a bit weird lol. I think you can become ton friendly with folk on here that sex would be a bit weird lol. We have done it with good friends from on here played once and it just didnt feel right? X"
you see before been married i had sex with a hell of a lot of friends (male/femaile) and sadly it ruined a fair few friendships |
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I've got to admit, we got in to the scene thinking it would be easier with one time meets. Having met a few people more than once though, it's just easier. The first time is fine, you suss out what everyone likes, the dynamics and how it'll work.
The second time - pure filth!  .
We'll update you when we/i've met someone more than twice as to how it pans out . |
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"I've got to admit, we got in to the scene thinking it would be easier with one time meets. Having met a few people more than once though, it's just easier. The first time is fine, you suss out what everyone likes, the dynamics and how it'll work.
The second time - pure filth! .
We'll update you when we/i've met someone more than twice as to how it pans out . "
imo...just gets better...but then the number of people like us who truly know what nsa means is small...if u find them, i know you will have a fab time |
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