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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
Out of 16 arranged meets, we've actually met with five and postponed one ourselves. So we now work on there being only a 1:3 chance that someone's going to turn up.
If they let us know beforehand then they'll get a second chance. But almost all just go silent and don't reply to messages or let us know. So they don't get another chance.
Bry (and Char) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fabsteroos
How many chances would you give someone to meet if they have let you down already but with seemingly some ‘genuine’ reasons?
Asking for a friend.....
Bhubaysi "
It depends on the person/people and the reasons why to how we would respond..
Each to their own I guess.  |
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Ive only ever cancelled twice, one was when i came off my motorbike on the way to meet them, and even sent pics of my bike, and the other was when my cat drank antifreeze and had to rush to emergency vet and still lost him, and that was with a few hours notice. Got blocked by both |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"Ive only ever cancelled twice, one was when i came off my motorbike on the way to meet them, and even sent pics of my bike, and the other was when my cat drank antifreeze and had to rush to emergency vet and still lost him, and that was with a few hours notice. Got blocked by both"
Was it the same person you were meeting? My friend has been let down 3 times by the same man....she is pretty fed up bless her..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, it depends who it is, whether we met before and whether they had a genuine reason. Usually- 1 chance if the reason seemed genuine and/or they let me know beforehand. If just total silence- immediate block. |
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"Ive only ever cancelled twice, one was when i came off my motorbike on the way to meet them, and even sent pics of my bike, and the other was when my cat drank antifreeze and had to rush to emergency vet and still lost him, and that was with a few hours notice. Got blocked by both
Was it the same person you were meeting? My friend has been let down 3 times by the same man....she is pretty fed up bless her....."
No. One was a few years ago when i crashed, and other was 7 months ago, which i was gutted about as theyd been on my hotlist since i joined, so gutted i missed meeting, but more gutted i lost my boy over my stupidity |
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Two is too many, in my experience! However I may be persuaded to give them a second chance, but only if they have a very good reason for blowing be out the first time.
This site has too many pretenders for me to think otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fabsteroos
How many chances would you give someone to meet if they have let you down already but with seemingly some ‘genuine’ reasons?
Asking for a friend.....
Bhubaysi "
None , had it a couple of times, arranged to meet then pathetic excuses, block and move on.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fabsteroos
How many chances would you give someone to meet if they have let you down already but with seemingly some ‘genuine’ reasons?
Asking for a friend.....
Bhubaysi "
Never had any not turn up
We have been postponed a couple of times. We have had a few guys turn up without accompaniment  .
Walked away from a few.
One
Two rarely but that would depend if we believed them |
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A couple of tomes I’ve had meets cancel on me last minute, and only one no show, but I always to say to a potential meet, anything could happen so whilst I’ll do my absolute best to be there, there is always the unforeseen circumstances something drastic could happen, ie children, parents or loved one falling ill....
So I would always give someone at least a second chance, I like to think I’m a fair judge of character and I know if someone is keen on meeting or not.
Just don’t get the no shows and then blocking you, all very odd!?!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Speaking as someone who cancelled yesterday I’d say one. And only if you REALLY think they are genuine. Every time I’ve foolishly stretched to more they have just messed me about again.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m a trusting kinda guy so I understand that cars break down , people get the shits and people die so I’d give you a lot of chances with the correct excuse "
I have had all those "reasons" for cancellation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When i was meeting, i would always give another chance, if the reason seeked genuing. I know emergencies creep up. I've had to cancel myself. Luckily they understood and gave me another chance. If they then did it again, that's when i pulled the plug
Holly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When i was meeting, i would always give another chance, if the reason seeked genuing. I know emergencies creep up. I've had to cancel myself. Luckily they understood and gave me another chance. If they then did it again, that's when i pulled the plug
Holly"
Seemed genuine* |
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"One. We don't expect chances to be given to us either.
We we had to cancel a social once, the guy went to all the trouble of arranging another social so that he could revenge cancel. "
We had this too, couldn't believe someone would be so childish.
we have given 2nd chances a few times but honesty they have rarely paid off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends how far out it is. With my work it is possible that future plans may need to be cancelled. I would expect that for others too. If I need to cancel I give as much notice as possible and would expect the same in return. I wouldn’t mess anyone around at short notice, but recognise emergencies happen. In all likelihood I will have spent a considerable time getting to know the person I’m meeting so I treat them as I would any friend. |
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I give 2nd chances as I would like to have them as well, life has twists and turns and if they are not prepared to give me a second chance when I speak to them everyday then they are a cockwomble and I am decidedly better off
P.s if you are reading this and joke cancel on me tomorrow there will be trouble  |
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