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I want to play/meet with a woman,but not bi enough to flirt with one.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m the same, I’ve had a few bi experiences when I was younger and single but find it difficult to flirt with women 
That being said I’m not very good at flirting with men either and not a fan of cheesy chat up lines 
-C
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"Any other girl with this dilemma lol
I’m the same, well I’m bi but I just don’t know how to flirt with girls! "
Why don’t you 2 ladies just meet up? Sheffield and Leicestershire aren’t so far apart (and you are both gorgeous). No flirting necessary |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like women, consider myself bi. No hesitation in playing but unless a woman ( or man) is very obvious I have no clue they’re interested or flirting. I don’t know how to flirt at all. It’s awkward and all I do is talk rubbish haha - Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good place to start is message them on here or some.
If you are in hotel, restaurant, bar/pub. Lady will come in and scan the area.
Try to make eye contact with a smile if she is interested then first she'll stay you'll be exchanging glancing looks...
Think of yourself in that scenario, what would you do.. messages welcome  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ladies - come and join us at the all female event at The Townhouse on 17th Oct and practise those flirtin skills in a safe space
Mrs R xx"
A club I’ve got my eye on   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I’m into someone I make it obvious just look smile & keep doing it till you connect
Don’t over think it!! Keep it natural ,
I’ve had few girls who I’ve not connected with or scared em off haha yes I’m a terrible flirt when I want to be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I’m into someone I make it obvious just look smile & keep doing it till you connect
Don’t over think it!! Keep it natural ,
I’ve had few girls who I’ve not connected with or scared em off haha yes I’m a terrible flirt when I want to be "
Is that username after the Skylar grey singer? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm very bi fair bit of experience but I struggle to flirt and play can be tough of we both shy have to really push myself to make a move.
Once it's started though it's great  |
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I can flirt, my trouble is how to go from flirting to playing ! and understanding if the people I am flirting with are flirting or want to move to playing (not that the thread is about guys, but I bet some ladies have the same issue). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have exchange glances and smiles, she knows you're with your partner but have made a connection.
You have her interest now she may find a table near you and in view of you, hopefully slightly move your chair until you're at an angle to her, it's all about body language. Then you make your way to the ladies she may ask partner to watch her drink or her coat and heads for the ladies also. There you can make verbal contact, touch up your makeup rearrange yourself in front of the mirror and her. Ice broken. Next is when the real flirting fun starts...
When people talk about flirting they also forget body language.
So bi ladies would this work for do you think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not really no.
Are you sure you're just not confident around women? Lots of women seem to be passive or even submissive when it comes to same sex.
My issue is a lot of women mistake my flirting for being polite and complimentary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can flirt, my trouble is how to go from flirting to playing ! and understanding if the people I am flirting with are flirting or want to move to playing (not that the thread is about guys, but I bet some ladies have the same issue)."
Ladies have a different way of expressing themselves, it is how to read their body language. Eyes are very expressive, good starting point and not their boobs, look observe
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same for me I’m afraid. Although I’m also the worst kind as I could definitely accept oral but am unsure in the situation if I’d reciprocate. This is why I’m yet to take the plunge. It wouldn’t be fair lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really no.
Are you sure you're just not confident around women? Lots of women seem to be passive or even submissive when it comes to same sex.
My issue is a lot of women mistake my flirting for being polite and complimentary."
Good point. Maybe women are used to being flirted at by men and have never initiated the flirting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really no.
Are you sure you're just not confident around women? Lots of women seem to be passive or even submissive when it comes to same sex.
My issue is a lot of women mistake my flirting for being polite and complimentary.
Good point. Maybe women are used to being flirted at by men and have never initiated the flirting. "
Guys tend to be a lot more brazen. But also its MF thing, FF tend to be more subtle but also our upbringing. |
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"I'm very bi fair bit of experience but I struggle to flirt and play can be tough of we both shy have to really push myself to make a move.
Once it's started though it's great "
This is my problem, I’m too shy! I haven’t been with a girl before but know I’m definitely bi, it’s just getting over the shyness to actually do something! X |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"I always feel like a seedy bloke when I flirt with women. Come out with the worst leery lines."
This! And I'm certainly bi... I'm still not sure how I've ended up with the girlfriends I have... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really no.
Are you sure you're just not confident around women? Lots of women seem to be passive or even submissive when it comes to same sex.
My issue is a lot of women mistake my flirting for being polite and complimentary.
Good point. Maybe women are used to being flirted at by men and have never initiated the flirting. "
I definitely feel this is a huge part of the issue.
For me when I'm alone it's obvious if I like a girl but with my partner I hang back alot because I don't want to make women uncomfortable.
If we met a couple with a bi fem though I'd be a lot more upfront with my advances.
I have always known of my sexuality though. My first kiss and first time having sex was with a woman So my confidence is probably down to comfortability.
I have also been the first bi experience for a few women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really no.
Are you sure you're just not confident around women? Lots of women seem to be passive or even submissive when it comes to same sex.
My issue is a lot of women mistake my flirting for being polite and complimentary.
Good point. Maybe women are used to being flirted at by men and have never initiated the flirting.
I definitely feel this is a huge part of the issue.
For me when I'm alone it's obvious if I like a girl but with my partner I hang back alot because I don't want to make women uncomfortable.
If we met a couple with a bi fem though I'd be a lot more upfront with my advances.
I have always known of my sexuality though. My first kiss and first time having sex was with a woman So my confidence is probably down to comfortability.
I have also been the first bi experience for a few women."
Is it your partner you don't want to make uncomfortable? Not sure why you think you would make another bi female uncomfortable with your partner. Certainly that being with my partner certainly I wouldn't hang back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really no.
Are you sure you're just not confident around women? Lots of women seem to be passive or even submissive when it comes to same sex.
My issue is a lot of women mistake my flirting for being polite and complimentary.
Good point. Maybe women are used to being flirted at by men and have never initiated the flirting.
I definitely feel this is a huge part of the issue.
For me when I'm alone it's obvious if I like a girl but with my partner I hang back alot because I don't want to make women uncomfortable.
If we met a couple with a bi fem though I'd be a lot more upfront with my advances.
I have always known of my sexuality though. My first kiss and first time having sex was with a woman So my confidence is probably down to comfortability.
I have also been the first bi experience for a few women.
Is it your partner you don't want to make uncomfortable? Not sure why you think you would make another bi female uncomfortable with your partner. Certainly that being with my partner certainly I wouldn't hang back. "
Some women seem intimidated by a couple pouncing on them. So I just let them come to us mostly haha it's just my way of being respectful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really no.
Are you sure you're just not confident around women? Lots of women seem to be passive or even submissive when it comes to same sex.
My issue is a lot of women mistake my flirting for being polite and complimentary.
Good point. Maybe women are used to being flirted at by men and have never initiated the flirting.
I definitely feel this is a huge part of the issue.
For me when I'm alone it's obvious if I like a girl but with my partner I hang back alot because I don't want to make women uncomfortable.
If we met a couple with a bi fem though I'd be a lot more upfront with my advances.
I have always known of my sexuality though. My first kiss and first time having sex was with a woman So my confidence is probably down to comfortability.
I have also been the first bi experience for a few women.
Is it your partner you don't want to make uncomfortable? Not sure why you think you would make another bi female uncomfortable with your partner. Certainly that being with my partner certainly I wouldn't hang back.
Some women seem intimidated by a couple pouncing on them. So I just let them come to us mostly haha it's just my way of being respectful"
I guess yes though my partner would take a backwards step mist of the interaction would be the 2 ladies. I guess he's seen it all before certainly wouldn't be trying to get into her pants that's just me lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really no.
Are you sure you're just not confident around women? Lots of women seem to be passive or even submissive when it comes to same sex.
My issue is a lot of women mistake my flirting for being polite and complimentary.
Good point. Maybe women are used to being flirted at by men and have never initiated the flirting.
I definitely feel this is a huge part of the issue.
For me when I'm alone it's obvious if I like a girl but with my partner I hang back alot because I don't want to make women uncomfortable.
If we met a couple with a bi fem though I'd be a lot more upfront with my advances.
I have always known of my sexuality though. My first kiss and first time having sex was with a woman So my confidence is probably down to comfortability.
I have also been the first bi experience for a few women.
Is it your partner you don't want to make uncomfortable? Not sure why you think you would make another bi female uncomfortable with your partner. Certainly that being with my partner certainly I wouldn't hang back.
Some women seem intimidated by a couple pouncing on them. So I just let them come to us mostly haha it's just my way of being respectful"
Sorry daft question... Do you mean in clubs?
I feel the same. I never know if they are straight so wouldn't flirt for fear of offending them.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really no.
Are you sure you're just not confident around women? Lots of women seem to be passive or even submissive when it comes to same sex.
My issue is a lot of women mistake my flirting for being polite and complimentary.
Good point. Maybe women are used to being flirted at by men and have never initiated the flirting.
I definitely feel this is a huge part of the issue.
For me when I'm alone it's obvious if I like a girl but with my partner I hang back alot because I don't want to make women uncomfortable.
If we met a couple with a bi fem though I'd be a lot more upfront with my advances.
I have always known of my sexuality though. My first kiss and first time having sex was with a woman So my confidence is probably down to comfortability.
I have also been the first bi experience for a few women.
Is it your partner you don't want to make uncomfortable? Not sure why you think you would make another bi female uncomfortable with your partner. Certainly that being with my partner certainly I wouldn't hang back.
Some women seem intimidated by a couple pouncing on them. So I just let them come to us mostly haha it's just my way of being respectful
Sorry daft question... Do you mean in clubs?
I feel the same. I never know if they are straight so wouldn't flirt for fear of offending them. "
Yes in the club this applies. As for arranged meets and socials you already know they are interested in you to a degree so the flow should be a lot easier! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think it's a lack of confidence with my body,and a lack of experience,I'd be more comfortable with a woman with experience of a similar age that would take full control. X |
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