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By *nkedMilf OP Woman
over a year ago
Colchester |
Morning!
Just after some advice, I'm heading to my first solo club night tomorrow; what's the etiquette with single girls and couples?
I've generally only done clubs as a couple, and never actually played with a couple solo.....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Conversation in the club, whether in the bar or play areas is the best way. Simply say hello!
In terms of etiquette, just ask if there are any do’s or dont’s before play starts. Most people are upfront. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why! "
We don’t because we are so afraid of being pushy or initiating. We really struggle with it. We don’t want to be like the creeps so we are working on finding the balance. I know just a hello would be a good start! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!
Oh dear, that's what I was afraid of  "
Don’t let it put you off, I may just scare people away with resting bitch face!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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On a side note, you are gorgeous! You will have no trouble grabbing attention. People will probably ask about that tattoos as an ice-breaker. Would gladly accompany you to a club if I was free   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!
We don’t because we are so afraid of being pushy or initiating. We really struggle with it. We don’t want to be like the creeps so we are working on finding the balance. I know just a hello would be a good start! "
I find it’s less creepy (from a receiving end) if it’s the female half that initiates the chat. It is much easier for a girl to chat to a girl. But that might just be me |
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"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!
Oh dear, that's what I was afraid of "
I really admire your independence. I would shit myself going solo and im a bloke. Im sure you can find a swinging partner to chaperone you. |
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I was really lucky as my first club visit as a single female I was chaperoned by an amazing lady who introduced me to many of her friends. I have now built up a little social network in my ‘local club’ 9 times out of 10 I will already know a couple there (even if it is just for a social) I find more couples will chat with me if they have seen me talking to others. I love going as a single female now. Enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!
Oh dear, that's what I was afraid of "
I find this too but just be social say hi I find nights when single guys allowed much more social but you do have to be clear with a few lol
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!
Oh dear, that's what I was afraid of
Don’t let it put you off, I may just scare people away with resting bitch face! "
Pmsl I was told I have one of those so maybe the case |
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By *nkedMilf OP Woman
over a year ago
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"On a side note, you are gorgeous! You will have no trouble grabbing attention. People will probably ask about that tattoos as an ice-breaker. Would gladly accompany you to a club if I was free "
If you want company at a club definitely shout me anytime, I'm always up for a club night |
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By *nkedMilf OP Woman
over a year ago
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"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!
Oh dear, that's what I was afraid of
I really admire your independence. I would shit myself going solo and im a bloke. Im sure you can find a swinging partner to chaperone you. "
Sadly they are extremely hard to come by, plenty say yes but then won't go through with actually going, I've struggled to find one on the 18months I've been here! |
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"Morning!
Just after some advice, I'm heading to my first solo club night tomorrow; what's the etiquette with single girls and couples?
I've generally only done clubs as a couple, and never actually played with a couple solo.....
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Well expect waaaaay more attention going as a single girl haha
You will be in high demand  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On a side note, you are gorgeous! You will have no trouble grabbing attention. People will probably ask about that tattoos as an ice-breaker. Would gladly accompany you to a club if I was free
If you want company at a club definitely shout me anytime, I'm always up for a club night "
I tend to go during the day rather than night due to commitments but i may be able to find time in my schedule for a night club visit sometime |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!
We don’t because we are so afraid of being pushy or initiating. We really struggle with it. We don’t want to be like the creeps so we are working on finding the balance. I know just a hello would be a good start! "
Good to know we’re not the only ones who thinks this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I go on my own but only go to mixed night (couples and singles). Pull a stool up at the bar and smile, you’ll be fine. Definitely make it clear when you’re not interested, a polite ‘no thank you’ should be enough. I explain to couples that I do play with couples but generally like to get to know them first. Some walk off 
Ive met some great people and it’s rare I go and don’t know someone now, which makes the club scene more fun.
If you’re ever in the north east drop me a message  |
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Keeping an eye on this one as its something I will be doing in the near future. Though i have broken the ice already by going to the club previously with fwb. Lots of chat and getting to know people for me. I actually wasnt even asked to play once but think id made it clear that i only wanted social as was first ever visit |
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"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!
Oh dear, that's what I was afraid of
I really admire your independence. I would shit myself going solo and im a bloke. Im sure you can find a swinging partner to chaperone you.
Sadly they are extremely hard to come by, plenty say yes but then won't go through with actually going, I've struggled to find one on the 18months I've been here!"
I hope you have a great time. I tend to find you always build up ideas in your head if you are unsure about things. I would suggest just go with the flow and enjoy yourself. Would be great to read up about it after your visit. Ggood luck. |
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By *nkedMilf OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I go on my own but only go to mixed night (couples and singles). Pull a stool up at the bar and smile, you’ll be fine. Definitely make it clear when you’re not interested, a polite ‘no thank you’ should be enough. I explain to couples that I do play with couples but generally like to get to know them first. Some walk off
Ive met some great people and it’s rare I go and don’t know someone now, which makes the club scene more fun.
If you’re ever in the north east drop me a message "
Shame I was up in Bradford last week! But I'll certainly give you a shout if I'm up that way again! |
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"From experience, most couples/women wont talk to you unless you initiate conversation. Unsure why!
We don’t because we are so afraid of being pushy or initiating. We really struggle with it. We don’t want to be like the creeps so we are working on finding the balance. I know just a hello would be a good start!
Good to know we’re not the only ones who thinks this "
My experience of scene as a couple and a single is that the atmosphere is often school disco like. In the sense that folk are there, available and wanting to hook up, but no know one is. Instead lots of people keeping them self to them self or just no making any kind of move. Personally I think a lot of it is people worried about breaking their comfort zone and fearing possible rejection. In a way I think its couples that tend to be the less outgoing and less likely to make a first move. Maybe because they are a couple, they have the comfort of each other. But a single on their own its do or die because the option is either socialise or be Billy no mates. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I go on my own but only go to mixed night (couples and singles). Pull a stool up at the bar and smile, you’ll be fine. Definitely make it clear when you’re not interested, a polite ‘no thank you’ should be enough. I explain to couples that I do play with couples but generally like to get to know them first. Some walk off
Ive met some great people and it’s rare I go and don’t know someone now, which makes the club scene more fun.
If you’re ever in the north east drop me a message
Shame I was up in Bradford last week! But I'll certainly give you a shout if I'm up that way again!"
Definitely message next time x
Let us all know how much fun you have |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally I wouldn't go on a couple's single lady night I would only go on a mixed with guys too. The one time I went on a non mixed night with my female bi friend we were made to feel awkward. We only had intention of playing with each other but found some woman of couples positively scowled at us for being there and the guys were looking at us like pieces of meat. It made us laugh because we had no intention of playing with anyone else but I don't think I would have liked it had that not been the case. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Again, from experience, as a single female you have to work really hard at chatting and engaging with other people at clubs or parties. Couples are usually very distrustful. BUT having said that, I met a really lovely, kind, affectionate man at a club with his wife, and we were mates for years. So it can happen! |
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