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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have been extremly fortunate to meet some fantastic people on here, however I have noticed recently that the standard and number of single women on the site is falling . This doesn't seem to apply to couples , is this site more suitable for couples? And is the quality of single men also getting worse? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Standard as in physical appearance ?"
That's part of it, also intellect and general personality. When I first joined there were loads of good looking women on here, now they are very scarce, is the site scaring people off?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Standard as in physical appearance ?
That's part of it, also intellect and general personality. When I first joined there were loads of good looking women on here, now they are very scarce, is the site scaring people off?? "
No but the dick heads might be  |
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"Standard as in physical appearance ?
That's part of it, also intellect and general personality. When I first joined there were loads of good looking women on here, now they are very scarce, is the site scaring people off?? "
Thats a nice thing to say about all the single women on the site.
Maybe rude people are scaring them off |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Standard as in physical appearance ?
That's part of it, also intellect and general personality. When I first joined there were loads of good looking women on here, now they are very scarce, is the site scaring people off??
No but the dick heads might be "
Your probably right, or maybe I am just not looking hard enough  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Standard as in physical appearance ?
That's part of it, also intellect and general personality. When I first joined there were loads of good looking women on here, now they are very scarce, is the site scaring people off?? "
so you mean to say, when you joined there were lots of good looking women and now they left ?... have you ever thought that you could be a reason ??... just kidding dont take it personaly...
nah, we didnt notice any change in single female or cpls...but do notice number of fakers have increased a lot...
even, yesterday we got a email from a guy with face pictures of a famous punjabi bhangra singer, claiming as his pictures.... its like someone using justin timberlake's pictures ..all i would say to that idiot is, if you want to fake, atleast have the inteligence not to use any famous ones...
.ridiculous joker |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Standard as in physical appearance ?
That's part of it, also intellect and general personality. When I first joined there were loads of good looking women on here, now they are very scarce, is the site scaring people off??
Thats a nice thing to say about all the single women on the site.
Maybe rude people are scaring them off"
All single women?? I never said that, the peopke i have met have been great, but in my opinion standards have fallen over the last year or so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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all i know is the site has changed a lot over the years, i joined as a single man in 06 when it started, now as a couple, it's harder to find meets now than a few years ago, people do change |
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"Standard as in physical appearance ?
That's part of it, also intellect and general personality. When I first joined there were loads of good looking women on here, now they are very scarce, is the site scaring people off??
Thats a nice thing to say about all the single women on the site.
Maybe rude people are scaring them off
All single women?? I never said that, the peopke i have met have been great, but in my opinion standards have fallen over the last year or so "
stndards must be falling for someone with such an arrogant outlook to be still getting meets.
its the women i feel more sorry for.
maybe the standards havent slipped, its just wpmen have a different look than what you are after, horses for courses, and all that.
and lets be honest, even the 'muntiest munter' will still get more action than yourself. harsh but true |
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"I have been extremly fortunate to meet some fantastic people on here, however I have noticed recently that the standard and number of single women on the site is falling . This doesn't seem to apply to couples , is this site more suitable for couples? And is the quality of single men also getting worse?"
Is a swinging site more suitable for couples....mmmm let me go away and think about that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Standard as in physical appearance ?
That's part of it, also intellect and general personality. When I first joined there were loads of good looking women on here, now they are very scarce, is the site scaring people off?? "
im hurt!! .... wheres the paper bag |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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O dear, there are some sensitive people on theses forums,either that or you can't read. If your offended by a simple observation you need to ask yourself why? |
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"Standard as in physical appearance ?
That's part of it, also intellect and general personality. When I first joined there were loads of good looking women on here, now they are very scarce, is the site scaring people off??
im hurt!! .... wheres the paper bag "
Sorry, I'm using it just now... I'll pass it on when I'm out of sight of the public  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I guess the answer, in part, is yes.
If you've noticed a drop in the number of people who meet your standards, then standards have dropped.
Not everyone has the same ideals though, so it's difficult to measure and judge a whole websites standards. |
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"Standard as in physical appearance ?
That's part of it, also intellect and general personality. When I first joined there were loads of good looking women on here, now they are very scarce, is the site scaring people off??
Thats a nice thing to say about all the single women on the site.
Maybe rude people are scaring them off
All single women?? I never said that, the peopke i have met have been great, but in my opinion standards have fallen over the last year or so
stndards must be falling for someone with such an arrogant outlook to be still getting meets....
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Well he did sort of imply there are a lot more stupid women now. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well I guess the answer, in part, is yes.
If you've noticed a drop in the number of people who meet your standards, then standards have dropped.
Not everyone has the same ideals though, so it's difficult to measure and judge a whole websites standards. "
Very true, it's subjective . I only posted the thread to see if other people had noticed the same, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I guess the answer, in part, is yes.
If you've noticed a drop in the number of people who meet your standards, then standards have dropped.
Not everyone has the same ideals though, so it's difficult to measure and judge a whole websites standards.
Very true, it's subjective . I only posted the thread to see if other people had noticed the same, "
I haven't been on here long enough to answer that |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Yes, there has been a drop in standards! I mean, to me it looks like people can't even read now a days! Let alone have the basic skills of a being able to hold a conversation (yes, intellect is quite high on my requirements) the amount of messages I receive asking for a meet today....sheesh!!!!! |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Snobbery in swinging hmmm well I never would have thought that!  "
Why may I ask? Just because it is a swinging site does not mean it wont exist? Standards/Preference, whatever you want to call it will always be there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Standard as in physical appearance ?
That's part of it, also intellect and general personality. When I first joined there were loads of good looking women on here, now they are very scarce, is the site scaring people off??
No but the dick heads might be "
i thought of saying thus x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok heres what we see. This is a swinging site and not a dating site so yes there will be more couples here, even singles who found that special someone. When we joined this site 2 years ago we had our impression of what we was looking for, over the two years things have changed. So take from that what you will and maybe if us sexy peeps here a fabs anit good enough for you then jog on......lol..... I think eharmony maybe more for you...
Happy swinging to the rest of us sexy people.
Aint the sunny weather the nuts...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't been on here long enough to answer that"
us too... let ya know in another ten years!
I'd say they have actually improved, but then I'm looking at things in a different way probably...
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"Yes, there has been a drop in standards! I mean, to me it looks like people can't even read now a days! Let alone have the basic skills of a being able to hold a conversation (yes, intellect is quite high on my requirements) the amount of messages I receive asking for a meet today....sheesh!!!!! "
Did they ask you to meet because of your superior intellect and written communication skills ? |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes, there has been a drop in standards! I mean, to me it looks like people can't even read now a days! Let alone have the basic skills of a being able to hold a conversation (yes, intellect is quite high on my requirements) the amount of messages I receive asking for a meet today....sheesh!!!!!
Did they ask you to meet because of your superior intellect and written communication skills ? "
No! They asked after looking at my pics, without reading my profile!
Need I say more??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Standard as in physical appearance ?
That's part of it, also intellect and general personality. When I first joined there were loads of good looking women on here, now they are very scarce, is the site scaring people off?? "
This has got to be one of the most creative ways to insult an entire gender on a website I have seen!
To write that the women that are left on the site (after an apparent mass exodus of gorgeous, super intelligent women with amazing personalities) are now ugly, stupid and with a lack of personality is..erm...possibly not the brightest thing to put (IMHO) I have to say...unless you genuinely believe that of course in which case you would presumedly not wish to avail yourself of their allegedly dubious charms in any event?
I haven't noticed any deterioration of standards in people to be perfectly honest  |
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The "standard" of women? How charming. Not that you view them as objects or anything, right?
And who's to judge the "standard"? People's types vary. Just because you have found less women you're interested in means nothing. |
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To be fair to the guy... if he'd said he had no standards and would fuck anything he'd have got a bashing for having the attitude of 'any hole is a goal'.
It is a fair comment that after a while, when you have skimmed the cream, the barrel doesn't look so bountiful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't really see the problem with his posts .. I like people who know there standards and stick to them, just like I don't like people backing down and lowering their standards just to make their lives easier.
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"I don't really see the problem with his posts .. I like people who know there standards and stick to them, just like I don't like people backing down and lowering their standards just to make their lives easier.
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thats appreciative, but to post a thread which pretty uch says 'compared to when i started on here, all you women are dogs' isnt really that good.
why state the opinion?
why not just move on to another site if OP feels there is better options elsewhere, or rather the barrel is empty here.
one has to ask, where are these fantastic ladies OP met since then? has he scared them off? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have been extremly fortunate to meet some fantastic people on here, however I have noticed recently that the standard and number of single women on the site is falling . This doesn't seem to apply to couples , is this site more suitable for couples? And is the quality of single men also getting worse?"
Sounds like you are getting a lot of rejection to me. The standard of men in general is getting better in my book. |
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"I don't really see the problem with his posts .. I like people who know there standards and stick to them, just like I don't like people backing down and lowering their standards just to make their lives easier.
thats appreciative, but to post a thread which pretty uch says 'compared to when i started on here, all you women are dogs' isnt really that good.
why state the opinion?
why not just move on to another site if OP feels there is better options elsewhere, or rather the barrel is empty here.
one has to ask, where are these fantastic ladies OP met since then? has he scared them off?"
Yet it is generally OK for women to moan about men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't really see the problem with his posts .. I like people who know there standards and stick to them, just like I don't like people backing down and lowering their standards just to make their lives easier.
thats appreciative, but to post a thread which pretty uch says 'compared to when i started on here, all you women are dogs' isnt really that good.
why state the opinion?
why not just move on to another site if OP feels there is better options elsewhere, or rather the barrel is empty here.
one has to ask, where are these fantastic ladies OP met since then? has he scared them off?"
It's his opinion, and this is a (pretty) open forum .. he can voice it if he wants.
Maybe he is leaving and wanted to have a slight rant before he left?
Maybe he wanted to see if anyone else had similar views to him?
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't really see the problem with his posts .. I like people who know there standards and stick to them, just like I don't like people backing down and lowering their standards just to make their lives easier.
thats appreciative, but to post a thread which pretty uch says 'compared to when i started on here, all you women are dogs' isnt really that good.
why state the opinion?
why not just move on to another site if OP feels there is better options elsewhere, or rather the barrel is empty here.
one has to ask, where are these fantastic ladies OP met since then? has he scared them off?
Yet it is generally OK for women to moan about men."
Double standards I think Polo, you are quite right! Even my reply was shot down in flames (or tried to be, but I think I had made my point)
Sometimes you are just damned if you do and damned if you don't! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Standard as in physical appearance ?
That's part of it, also intellect and general personality. When I first joined there were loads of good looking women on here, now they are very scarce, is the site scaring people off??
im hurt!! .... wheres the paper bag
when i resort to the plastic bag its time to worry!! lol
Sorry, I'm using it just now... I'll pass it on when I'm out of sight of the public "
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"I don't really see the problem with his posts .. I like people who know there standards and stick to them, just like I don't like people backing down and lowering their standards just to make their lives easier.
thats appreciative, but to post a thread which pretty uch says 'compared to when i started on here, all you women are dogs' isnt really that good.
why state the opinion?
why not just move on to another site if OP feels there is better options elsewhere, or rather the barrel is empty here.
one has to ask, where are these fantastic ladies OP met since then? has he scared them off?
Yet it is generally OK for women to moan about men."
where have i wrote that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have been extremly fortunate to meet some fantastic people on here, however I have noticed recently that the standard and number of single women on the site is falling . This doesn't seem to apply to couples , is this site more suitable for couples? And is the quality of single men also getting worse?"
nah its cause us ugly fookers cant find a man thats why all the single ones are below standard |
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"I don't really see the problem with his posts .. I like people who know there standards and stick to them, just like I don't like people backing down and lowering their standards just to make their lives easier.
thats appreciative, but to post a thread which pretty uch says 'compared to when i started on here, all you women are dogs' isnt really that good.
why state the opinion?
why not just move on to another site if OP feels there is better options elsewhere, or rather the barrel is empty here.
one has to ask, where are these fantastic ladies OP met since then? has he scared them off?
Yet it is generally OK for women to moan about men.
where have i wrote that?"
Where did I say you wrote it.... it was just a 'general' observation relevant to the point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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what a load of crap
there are far more ordinary looking people in this world than than there are good looking
why would fab be any different ?
it's a swingers site, not the bar in star wars ! |
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"I don't really see the problem with his posts .. I like people who know there standards and stick to them, just like I don't like people backing down and lowering their standards just to make their lives easier.
thats appreciative, but to post a thread which pretty uch says 'compared to when i started on here, all you women are dogs' isnt really that good.
why state the opinion?
why not just move on to another site if OP feels there is better options elsewhere, or rather the barrel is empty here.
one has to ask, where are these fantastic ladies OP met since then? has he scared them off?
Yet it is generally OK for women to moan about men.
where have i wrote that?
Where did I say you wrote it.... it was just a 'general' observation relevant to the point."
where is the fact you base that opinion on.
i havent read many posts where women have been bemoaning the fact there are too many below standard men on here.
moronic or ignorant, yes, but not generally below standard |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what a load of crap
there are far more ordinary looking people in this world than than there are good looking
why would fab be any different ?
it's a swingers site, not the bar in star wars !"
Didn't they have a beer called loob?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't really see the problem with his posts .. I like people who know there standards and stick to them, just like I don't like people backing down and lowering their standards just to make their lives easier.
thats appreciative, but to post a thread which pretty uch says 'compared to when i started on here, all you women are dogs' isnt really that good.
why state the opinion?
why not just move on to another site if OP feels there is better options elsewhere, or rather the barrel is empty here.
one has to ask, where are these fantastic ladies OP met since then? has he scared them off?
Yet it is generally OK for women to moan about men.
where have i wrote that?
Where did I say you wrote it.... it was just a 'general' observation relevant to the point.
where is the fact you base that opinion on.
i havent read many posts where women have been bemoaning the fact there are too many below standard men on here.
moronic or ignorant, yes, but not generally below standard"
Dont put ya self down m8 I think ur a nice lad at times! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i havent read many posts where women have been bemoaning the fact there are too many below standard men on here.
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but why would you? i get loads of mail every day from guys i dont fancy, personally it makes more sence to send back a polite no thanks and move on rather than opening threads about how people arent good enough for me
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"I don't really see the problem with his posts .. I like people who know there standards and stick to them, just like I don't like people backing down and lowering their standards just to make their lives easier.
thats appreciative, but to post a thread which pretty uch says 'compared to when i started on here, all you women are dogs' isnt really that good.
why state the opinion?
why not just move on to another site if OP feels there is better options elsewhere, or rather the barrel is empty here.
one has to ask, where are these fantastic ladies OP met since then? has he scared them off?
Yet it is generally OK for women to moan about men.
where have i wrote that?
Where did I say you wrote it.... it was just a 'general' observation relevant to the point.
where is the fact you base that opinion on.
i havent read many posts where women have been bemoaning the fact there are too many below standard men on here.
moronic or ignorant, yes, but not generally below standard"
How many threads would you like me to bump which are about men being unmeetworthy dickheads for one reason or another and the female OP gets loads of support?
All this guy is saying really is he is finding it harder to find women he is attracted to against his criteria... and he's right about a lot more of the women on here being sarcey... fuck it, I'll go one step further......... a lot of the women on cam in the chatrooms would turn milk if they pointed the camera 10 inches higher than their tits, yet they expect to be treated like the golden goose whilst talking down to any poor sap who doesn't say the right thing. |
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"I don't really see the problem with his posts .. I like people who know there standards and stick to them, just like I don't like people backing down and lowering their standards just to make their lives easier.
thats appreciative, but to post a thread which pretty uch says 'compared to when i started on here, all you women are dogs' isnt really that good.
why state the opinion?
why not just move on to another site if OP feels there is better options elsewhere, or rather the barrel is empty here.
one has to ask, where are these fantastic ladies OP met since then? has he scared them off?
Yet it is generally OK for women to moan about men.
where have i wrote that?
Where did I say you wrote it.... it was just a 'general' observation relevant to the point.
where is the fact you base that opinion on.
i havent read many posts where women have been bemoaning the fact there are too many below standard men on here.
moronic or ignorant, yes, but not generally below standard
How many threads would you like me to bump which are about men being unmeetworthy dickheads for one reason or another and the female OP gets loads of support?
All this guy is saying really is he is finding it harder to find women he is attracted to against his criteria... and he's right about a lot more of the women on here being sarcey... fuck it, I'll go one step further......... a lot of the women on cam in the chatrooms would turn milk if they pointed the camera 10 inches higher than their tits, yet they expect to be treated like the golden goose whilst talking down to any poor sap who doesn't say the right thing."
lol fuckin true tho im afraid to say lol well said you.
I fuckin hate the chat rooms for that very reason. The few times I been in directing rooms in chat I have talked about everything else but there bodies etc. Have asked many a question regards the wall paper and are there any dirty pots in that kitchen sink etc etc. Dont half fuckin wind them up ill tell ya haha |
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"I don't really see the problem with his posts .. I like people who know there standards and stick to them, just like I don't like people backing down and lowering their standards just to make their lives easier.
thats appreciative, but to post a thread which pretty uch says 'compared to when i started on here, all you women are dogs' isnt really that good.
why state the opinion?
why not just move on to another site if OP feels there is better options elsewhere, or rather the barrel is empty here.
one has to ask, where are these fantastic ladies OP met since then? has he scared them off?
Yet it is generally OK for women to moan about men.
where have i wrote that?
Where did I say you wrote it.... it was just a 'general' observation relevant to the point.
where is the fact you base that opinion on.
i havent read many posts where women have been bemoaning the fact there are too many below standard men on here.
moronic or ignorant, yes, but not generally below standard
How many threads would you like me to bump which are about men being unmeetworthy dickheads for one reason or another and the female OP gets loads of support?
All this guy is saying really is he is finding it harder to find women he is attracted to against his criteria... and he's right about a lot more of the women on here being sarcey... fuck it, I'll go one step further......... a lot of the women on cam in the chatrooms would turn milk if they pointed the camera 10 inches higher than their tits, yet they expect to be treated like the golden goose whilst talking down to any poor sap who doesn't say the right thing."
There is a lot more to this thread than the innocence it seems. Lets just say think of a famous Yorkshire batsman of a bygone era. |
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"There is a lot more to this thread than the innocence it seems. Lets just say think of a famous Yorkshire batsman of a bygone era. "
Could you just say what you mean? I'm not a cricket fan or old. |
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"There is a lot more to this thread than the innocence it seems. Lets just say think of a famous Yorkshire batsman of a bygone era.
Could you just say what you mean? I'm not a cricket fan or old. "
I think someone is gettihg the Geoff |
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"I'd like to know what these standards are myself as I just don't have any
Wolf
In that case you are soooo off my wish list   "
I'd rather count people as friends than 'conquests' or 'look what I dids'... y'know....
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I think the woman get better looking... the men get better looking and if you put the two together the couples are double the better looking, cant comment on intellect as I just look at the pics  |
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"I'd like to know what these standards are myself as I just don't have any
Wolf
In that case you are soooo off my wish list
I'd rather count people as friends than 'conquests' or 'look what I dids'... y'know....
Wolf
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Oops... I'd better scrub you off mine too |
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"There is a lot more to this thread than the innocence it seems. Lets just say think of a famous Yorkshire batsman of a bygone era.
Could you just say what you mean? I'm not a cricket fan or old. "
Ok ... i've had it explained to my simple brain... carry on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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people come and go here maybe the singles was not really single and maybe now of with a boy-friend and happy. New people come on here all the time and so i dont think it change really . |
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This is our second time on fab , and we have been here fir about 15 months - we totally agree that he has the right to have his opinion - and think he just wanted to see if anyone else agreed with him .
Like most things that get a little stale after a time , perhaps his view is that the women he checks out may not be up to the standard he felt they were when it was all exciting and fresh ?
The fact that they are just as vivacious and desirable to most of us doesn't mean they are to him and that's his opinion - perhaps a break may be in order ?
As to whether it's better as a couple on a swingers site ? Pretty obvious isn't it ? |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
Since that isn't the point of the website, you can't moan about it not being up to your false expectations"
You know what? I thought it was Fab SWINGERS! And if as you say singles aren't swingers, then perhaps they shouldn't be here? This is not casual sex, it's recreational sex! A world of difference to us... (and yes, we do meet singles!) |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
Since that isn't the point of the website, you can't moan about it not being up to your false expectations"
would you say that to the single women you are also apparently looking for to ????? I am sure that attitude is going to help that mission....... |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
with regards to the opening post.... i think it is something akin to throwing a "hand grenade" into the middle of a crowd and waiting to see how much damage can be inflicted whilst laughing from the sideline.....
incoming and tin helmet springs to mind.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The "standard" of women? How charming. Not that you view them as objects or anything, right?
And who's to judge the "standard"? People's types vary. Just because you have found less women you're interested in means nothing."
That's your opinion, mine differs. I judge the standard of people for my benefit, are you telling me you dint have standards!! The fact that my
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You say you judge the standard of people for your benefit. This is my take on your original post. So here goes. Standards or preferences as I prefercto call them do change in time. We have used sites for 5 years. I may also had I don't judge anyone people on looks alone. Their are many shallow people on these sites again this is not the majority.so you may need to re evaluate what you are looking for on this site. Happy swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
Since that isn't the point of the website, you can't moan about it not being up to your false expectations"
we all look for sex .. thats why we are here ... whats in a name . its a sex site for everyone. |
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over a year ago
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
Since that isn't the point of the website, you can't moan about it not being up to your false expectations we all look for sex .. thats why we are here ... whats in a name . its a sex site for everyone."
And the couple who posted that comment meet single women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
Since that isn't the point of the website, you can't moan about it not being up to your false expectations we all look for sex .. thats why we are here ... whats in a name . its a sex site for everyone.
And the couple who posted that comment meet single women "
and single men , lol xx swingings for all x x |
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"all i know is the site has changed a lot over the years, i joined as a single man in 06 when it started, now as a couple, it's harder to find meets now than a few years ago, people do change"
Really, I would definitely meet you lot at the drop of a hat! Surely it can't be that difficult for you!! |
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"I don't really see the problem with his posts .. I like people who know there standards and stick to them, just like I don't like people backing down and lowering their standards just to make their lives easier.
thats appreciative, but to post a thread which pretty uch says 'compared to when i started on here, all you women are dogs' isnt really that good.
why state the opinion?
why not just move on to another site if OP feels there is better options elsewhere, or rather the barrel is empty here.
one has to ask, where are these fantastic ladies OP met since then? has he scared them off?
Yet it is generally OK for women to moan about men.
where have i wrote that?
Where did I say you wrote it.... it was just a 'general' observation relevant to the point.
where is the fact you base that opinion on.
i havent read many posts where women have been bemoaning the fact there are too many below standard men on here.
moronic or ignorant, yes, but not generally below standard
How many threads would you like me to bump which are about men being unmeetworthy dickheads for one reason or another and the female OP gets loads of support?
All this guy is saying really is he is finding it harder to find women he is attracted to against his criteria... and he's right about a lot more of the women on here being sarcey... fuck it, I'll go one step further......... a lot of the women on cam in the chatrooms would turn milk if they pointed the camera 10 inches higher than their tits, yet they expect to be treated like the golden goose whilst talking down to any poor sap who doesn't say the right thing."
You are very right!! Everyone has an opinion and he voiced his! Freedom of speech. If you know that's not you, why be bothered?!
There are far too many people who ask for what they can't give back themselves. |
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
Since that isn't the point of the website, you can't moan about it not being up to your false expectations"
Oooh, back to the "you are not a swinger if you are single" topic. What a hornet's nest!
Wonder who has the right to decide who's a swinger? Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
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so just out of interest what are you looking for?
isnt everyoine on here just looking for sex, single or couple? or is there some sort of secret swinging society for couples only where you go to look for other things that us single arnt allowed to know about?
Inface seeing as your supposed to already have the person you want id say couples was MORE so 'just looking for sex' than singles
are singles not allowed to join to enhance their sex lifes? try new things, makes frineds, enjoy the social side etc or do you think we all just run round havinf quickies with randoms strangers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You say you judge the standard of people for your benefit. This is my take on your original post. So here goes. Standards or preferences as I prefercto call them do change in time. We have used sites for 5 years. I may also had I don't judge anyone people on looks alone. Their are many shallow people on these sites again this is not the majority.so you may need to re evaluate what you are looking for on this site. Happy swinging "
I'm shallow on here, what's wrong with being shallow on a swinging site? I'm not on here looking for a wife (not my own anyway), it's about fantasy isn't it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
Since that isn't the point of the website, you can't moan about it not being up to your false expectations"
You infere that couples are looking for more than sex, what are you looking for other than sex, friendship or fantasy? Each of those can be ticked off by singles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm shallow on here, what's wrong with being shallow on a swinging site? I'm not on here looking for a wife (not my own anyway), it's about fantasy isn't it?"
me too, i openly admit when it comes to sex on here i go for looks first, but that does not mean i feel the need to moan if i havnt found anyone i likes for a few weeks
If i opened a thread to moan i cant find anyone i fancy will all of a sudden 10 fit guys join for me? no..so why bother?
And if the site ever did get that bad i had to tell the whole site i couldnt get a meet cause noone was good enough of me then i would just start looking elsewhere
im not sure what some think people on these sites are, 99% of the site are just normal every day people looking for a little bit of fun, if normal every day people arnt for you then whats the point of being here? |
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over a year ago
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There have been lots of posts on threads in the past where women have said that one of the best things about Fab and the swinging scene is that they get approached by guys who possibly wouldn't look twice at them in the 'real' world. That suggests that a fair few guys drop their standards on Fab (whether they admit it or not).
Maybe they drop their standards because they get caught up in the whole idea and fantasy of easy swinging sex.
I would imagine that once they've been on here a while and that initial buzz of excitement has past or been satisfied, their true standards return, a little bit like beer goggles.
I don't believe the actual standard on here ever really changes, but maybe some peoples perception of it does depending how horny and new to it all they are. |
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over a year ago
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"There have been lots of posts on threads in the past where women have said that one of the best things about Fab and the swinging scene is that they get approached by guys who possibly wouldn't look twice at them in the 'real' world. That suggests that a fair few guys drop their standards on Fab (whether they admit it or not).
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very true, i get mail from some very good looking guys asking me to meet, but if im going to be honest these are the guys i tend to turn down. if i look at a guy and know that he can do better than me i wont meet him simply because i wouldnt feel confy having sex with someone i knew wasnt really attracted to me
nobody mails you and tells you your just a make do shag do they? so i think you have to use a little of your own inishative and be realistic to yourself  |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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"There have been lots of posts on threads in the past where women have said that one of the best things about Fab and the swinging scene is that they get approached by guys who possibly wouldn't look twice at them in the 'real' world. That suggests that a fair few guys drop their standards on Fab (whether they admit it or not).
Maybe they drop their standards because they get caught up in the whole idea and fantasy of easy swinging sex.
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Have to agree with this. Have had a couple of meets and thought hmmm this guy would never look at me in the street, but still went for it
As someone else mentioned some of the women in chat do need a reality check sometimes.
I know Im no oil painting and only get spoken to in chat because I am one of the few ladies who go on cam, but I would never have the arrogance to say they are talking to me cos Im hot and the best they have ever seen like some others I have seen do 
As for standards slipping in the last year, maybe they have I dont know, but so long as your own standards dont slip, who gives a rats ass?! |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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nobody mails you and tells you your just a make do shag do they? so i think you have to use a little of your own inishative and be realistic to yourself "
Spot on with this.
I have previously looked through someones veri's to see if it is just women with great figures and realised nah Im not a make do shag at all.
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over a year ago
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nobody mails you and tells you your just a make do shag do they? so i think you have to use a little of your own inishative and be realistic to yourself
Spot on with this.
I have previously looked through someones veri's to see if it is just women with great figures and realised nah Im not a make do shag at all.
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lol i do that all the time, very offen i decide who im meeting based on what the other women they have met looks like
one guy mailed me and he had 3 veries all of them was women under 25 and much slimmer than me and i just thought....no way
i find verifications handy in more ways than one |
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Stupid phone not allowing me to quote blackspice but I mostly agree. Some single women do seem to like this site as a way of punching above their weight... As they see it. A lot of couples are on here for other reasons.... the main explanation for the ops feeling IMO is that when you are new you are bombarded with choice in your area however once you meet or discount a lot (bearing in mind that surely most attractive women have no prob finding men for sex and aren't on sites) the pool of available women is logically going to lessen to a trickle of new members. Of these many won't be what the op is looking for either... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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in the 16 odd years i have been swinging on and off i have always gone on gut instint and my standards never slip
i know my type my taste and its rarely changed |
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over a year ago
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"There have been lots of posts on threads in the past where women have said that one of the best things about Fab and the swinging scene is that they get approached by guys who possibly wouldn't look twice at them in the 'real' world. That suggests that a fair few guys drop their standards on Fab (whether they admit it or not).
Maybe they drop their standards because they get caught up in the whole idea and fantasy of easy swinging sex.
I would imagine that once they've been on here a while and that initial buzz of excitement has past or been satisfied, their true standards return, a little bit like beer goggles.
I don't believe the actual standard on here ever really changes, but maybe some peoples perception of it does depending how horny and new to it all they are. "
I do agree with this. I have said a similar thing really. I have played with absolutely gorgeous men, male model types, in the blackman fan club parties I've attended.
Whilst I do believe they wouldn't look at me in the real world, I don't ever think its because I'm below their standards. I wouldn't look at them either. I'm too old for them, they're too young for me and I believe that my OH knocks spots off them in the sexiness department.
But swinging to me is about trying all the different flavours just because you can, but you're favourite remaining vanilla.
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over a year ago
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"I have been extremly fortunate to meet some fantastic people on here, however I have noticed recently that the standard and number of single women on the site is falling . This doesn't seem to apply to couples , is this site more suitable for couples? And is the quality of single men also getting worse?"
I've not been here for long but I've been confronted by some rude, arrogant and ignorant individuals; so I would suggest that the quality is probably low, as you suspect. However, it's a swinging site, what do we expect.
Single women are always going to be in short supply on a site like this - because most of the antics are male driven (although that is not to say women don't enjoy them just as much). |
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"Stupid phone not allowing me to quote blackspice but I mostly agree. Some single women do seem to like this site as a way of punching above their weight... As they see it. A lot of couples are on here for other reasons.... the main explanation for the ops feeling IMO is that when you are new you are bombarded with choice in your area however once you meet or discount a lot (bearing in mind that surely most attractive women have no prob finding men for sex and aren't on sites) the pool of available women is logically going to lessen to a trickle of new members. Of these many won't be what the op is looking for either... "
yet another post that suggests couples are here for different reasons to single? anyone care to explain what this is?
I swung with my ex for 7 years, i have met alone as a single for the past 3, as a couple and as a single i am here for the same reasons, i meet different people being single but i still meet them for the same thing
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"Stupid phone not allowing me to quote blackspice but I mostly agree. Some single women do seem to like this site as a way of punching above their weight... As they see it. A lot of couples are on here for other reasons.... the main explanation for the ops feeling IMO is that when you are new you are bombarded with choice in your area however once you meet or discount a lot (bearing in mind that surely most attractive women have no prob finding men for sex and aren't on sites) the pool of available women is logically going to lessen to a trickle of new members. Of these many won't be what the op is looking for either...
yet another post that suggests couples are here for different reasons to single? anyone care to explain what this is?
I swung with my ex for 7 years, i have met alone as a single for the past 3, as a couple and as a single i am here for the same reasons, i meet different people being single but i still meet them for the same thing
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also another post saying the single women on here are not able to attract men in everyday life. I have never had any trouble attracting men and I'm on here for the same reason I was on here as part of a couple. |
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
Since that isn't the point of the website, you can't moan about it not being up to your false expectations
would you say that to the single women you are also apparently looking for to ????? I am sure that attitude is going to help that mission....... "
Yes, if a single woman complained to us that the site is more suited to couples than singles then we would indeed point out that it's a swinging site. Makes sense? |
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
Since that isn't the point of the website, you can't moan about it not being up to your false expectations we all look for sex .. thats why we are here ... whats in a name . its a sex site for everyone.
And the couple who posted that comment meet single women "
Yes we do, we have no problem with singles using the site. We just find it silly that singles would complain that the site is more suited to swingers |
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over a year ago
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
Since that isn't the point of the website, you can't moan about it not being up to your false expectations we all look for sex .. thats why we are here ... whats in a name . its a sex site for everyone.
And the couple who posted that comment meet single women
Yes we do, we have no problem with singles using the site. We just find it silly that singles would complain that the site is more suited to swingers"
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
Since that isn't the point of the website, you can't moan about it not being up to your false expectations we all look for sex .. thats why we are here ... whats in a name . its a sex site for everyone.
And the couple who posted that comment meet single women
Yes we do, we have no problem with singles using the site. We just find it silly that singles would complain that the site is more suited to swingers
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over a year ago
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
Since that isn't the point of the website, you can't moan about it not being up to your false expectations
would you say that to the single women you are also apparently looking for to ????? I am sure that attitude is going to help that mission.......
Yes, if a single woman complained to us that the site is more suited to couples than singles then we would indeed point out that it's a swinging site. Makes sense?"
So to be a swinger you have to be part of a couple?????????????????????
How on earth do you manage to type this shit with your head so far up your arse??????????!!!!!!
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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If swinging was for just couples, why have the single sex option?
Same as for swinging clubs, why let single females in for a cut rate?
If couples dont think of singles then why not take the looking for a single m/f from their profile?
It just makes me wonder as to why those couples who say singles arent swingers but they are looking for singles |
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over a year ago
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i have to say that i dont find the site more suited to couples, being someone who has swung with my ex husband and as a single since we split i can honestly say the site suits me much better as a single female that it did as a couple
You cant brand everyone the same, you use the site to your own advantage and get out of it what your looking for, ive never had any problems finding people to meet and i find it MUCH easier getting meets as a single female than i did as a couple nor have i ever had to settle for someone i didnt really like |
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
Since that isn't the point of the website, you can't moan about it not being up to your false expectations we all look for sex .. thats why we are here ... whats in a name . its a sex site for everyone.
And the couple who posted that comment meet single women
Yes we do, we have no problem with singles using the site. We just find it silly that singles would complain that the site is more suited to swingers
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I don't think this site is better suited to couples rather than singles. I was originally on here as part of a couple and believe me it's much better on here being single! |
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"If swinging was for just couples, why have the single sex option?
Same as for swinging clubs, why let single females in for a cut rate?
If couples dont think of singles then why not take the looking for a single m/f from their profile?
It just makes me wonder as to why those couples who say singles arent swingers but they are looking for singles "
i think a lot of couples dont see single females as equal on a meet, lots just want them as a sex toy for their own pleasure not mutual pleasure
Ive had far more problems with couples on meets than i ever have with single men, mainly because i feel a lot think they are higher up the 'swinging ladder' than you and can call the shots where as other single treat you as an equal
Not saying all couples are like that i also know a fair few great couples
But a lot do see you as below then in this game you only have to read these forums to pick that yp |
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whoops aplogies stockings, i thought u quoted the couple saying it was a silly complaint and so have deleted my original reply...of course swinging can be for singles...its a mindset not a relationship, however the op is daft to say he thinks the site has changed to become better for couples than singles.
We have only been online for 3 years and there are far more singles around...compare it to the contact mag days it was 95% couples.
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"If swinging was for just couples, why have the single sex option?
Same as for swinging clubs, why let single females in for a cut rate?
If couples dont think of singles then why not take the looking for a single m/f from their profile?
It just makes me wonder as to why those couples who say singles arent swingers but they are looking for singles
i think a lot of couples dont see single females as equal on a meet, lots just want them as a sex toy for their own pleasure not mutual pleasure
Ive had far more problems with couples on meets than i ever have with single men, mainly because i feel a lot think they are higher up the 'swinging ladder' than you and can call the shots where as other single treat you as an equal
Not saying all couples are like that i also know a fair few great couples
But a lot do see you as below then in this game you only have to read these forums to pick that yp"
As someone who meets bi fem couples i sadly have to agree, and i like being a sex toy
However most seem unwilling to make any effort or accept my home life comes first. |
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"being used as a sex toy and being spoken to like a object isnt the same tho is it, i think some need to learn people skills "
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"I don't think this site is better suited to couples rather than singles. I was originally on here as part of a couple and believe me it's much better on here being single! "
I don't think that is a fair comparison. As has been said by many on other threads, you could have two heads and the body of Jabba the Hut and still get a meet as a single fem! This site is gradually but surely becoming a singles dating site and that is very sad. Of course it is allowed, but then the more members, the better the advert revenue!
This is supposed to be a swingers site and that means to us, couples! Yeah, I know all you singles bleat on about “but it has changed now” but that is only really true on free sites. We are members of pay sites and we certainly don’t get the saturation of singles that we do on Fab.. Fab is still a good site, but one day it will evolve a bit too far..
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"I don't think this site is better suited to couples rather than singles. I was originally on here as part of a couple and believe me it's much better on here being single!
I don't think that is a fair comparison. As has been said by many on other threads, you could have two heads and the body of Jabba the Hut and still get a meet as a single fem! "
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thats what makes it so much better as a single female
i didnt say i was good looking i just said the site suits me beter as a single female |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"So to be a swinger you have to be part of a couple?????????????????????
How on earth do you manage to type this shit with your head so far up your arse??????????!!!!!!
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So, as I have said before, if singles are swingers just because they are on a swingers site, if I lift the bonnet on my car, does that make me a mechanic? NO!
If singles are swingers, then that means that all the singles on the pull, on a Saturday night are swingers too...
Whether singles like it or not and no matter how many couples say it's not true.. Singles in the scene are playthings when they meet couples! Why do couples advertise that they want a woman so that their fem can "try her Bi side"?
Most guys would be happy with being a plaything, but the women on here baulk against it, even though some men are obviously shagging anything cos it's better than a wank! |
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"Whether singles like it or not and no matter how many couples say it's not true.. Singles in the scene are playthings when they meet couples!"
have to agree with that and thats why i will not meet couples
when i meet someone i want mutual pleasure for all involved, be that 2 people, a 3sum or a group situation, all because its 'swinging' that does not mean we should loose respect for others and human beings or think its ok to just use people |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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"Whether singles like it or not and no matter how many couples say it's not true.. Singles in the scene are playthings when they meet couples!
have to agree with that and thats why i will not meet couples
when i meet someone i want mutual pleasure for all involved, be that 2 people, a 3sum or a group situation, all because its 'swinging' that does not mean we should loose respect for others and human beings or think its ok to just use people"
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rarely generalise, and we don't keep a record for evaluation purposes. We just meet peeps we fancy.
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So, as I have said before, if singles are swingers just because they are on a swingers site, if I lift the bonnet on my car, does that make me a mechanic? NO!
If singles are swingers, then that means that all the singles on the pull, on a Saturday night are swingers too...
Whether singles like it or not and no matter how many couples say it's not true.. Singles in the scene are playthings when they meet couples! Why do couples advertise that they want a woman so that their fem can "try her Bi side"?
Most guys would be happy with being a plaything, but the women on here baulk against it, even though some men are obviously shagging anything cos it's better than a wank!"
Slightly confused by your point, are you suggesting couples are not 'playthings' as far as a single person is concerned? I understand that the female of a couple may want to try her bi side, but equally a single women may want to try a 3 sum.
Please clarify the differentiation your trying to make because I can't see it. |
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My comments were general as was the op. I can only speak from my view point and enjoy fab as part of a couple. Would I be on here as a single... No it wouldn't even have occured to me. It's interesting that in fact a lot of single fems say they joined first as. a couple which I think makes sence. I wasn't meaning to infer that they shouldn't be here.... We only meet single guys!!! Whilst we have discussed the excitement of meeting and playing with a guy on a normal night out I find the senario worrying. We like to have.a social and take our time getting it right. One thing for singles to hook up whilst one of them is in a group of mates, another entirely to be poss discussed and identified as swingers. We have family etc in the town and think the risk isn't one we are willing to take. Some single women on here do talk about meeting guys who wouldn't look twice at them in the vanilla world and I agreed with another poster who mentioned this. Everyone has a different view point of course which is why the forums are interesting to read. I'm not offended if someones view and circumstances differ from mine... Surely that's the point. I don't care whether singles call themselves swingers are Herbert the clown. their choices are theirs. I think my main point about the choice lessening due to already meeting or eliminating those available is accurate prob but interestingly it was ignored in favour of people looking to be offended when this was not the intention. However, that is their right I guess. Plenty of guys we have met leave due to lack of choice even though they want to continue to meet us (and maybe others they know?) So I'm guessing they would agree with op. We don't meet single fems so can't say... |
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"You aren't a swinger at all if you're single, you're just looking for sex.
Since that isn't the point of the website, you can't moan about it not being up to your false expectations
would you say that to the single women you are also apparently looking for to ????? I am sure that attitude is going to help that mission.......
Yes, if a single woman complained to us that the site is more suited to couples than singles then we would indeed point out that it's a swinging site. Makes sense?
So to be a swinger you have to be part of a couple?????????????????????
How on earth do you manage to type this shit with your head so far up your arse??????????!!!!!!
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"Slightly confused by your point, are you suggesting couples are not 'playthings' as far as a single person is concerned? I understand that the female of a couple may want to try her bi side, but equally a single women may want to try a 3 sum.
Please clarify the differentiation your trying to make because I can't see it. "
Obviously not that hard to confuse some people! I never mentioned couples because the gist of the thread is about singles! But as you ask, of course they are playthings! Why would it be any different?
The only qualification I would make is that at least when we meet couples, I don't have to either take a back seat or find space! That said, sometimes that is all I want to do..
Another point from a good friend of mine who swings with his wife.. He says most single guys are just a dildo with a pulse! Couples, he says and a social gathering who can chat amongst themselves and no one is left out! Guys tend to chat about guy stuff and the lady gets to make the tea... Actually, I think that is a plus point!
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Obviously not that hard to confuse some people! I never mentioned couples because the gist of the thread is about singles! But as you ask, of course they are playthings! Why would it be any different?
The only qualification I would make is that at least when we meet couples, I don't have to either take a back seat or find space! That said, sometimes that is all I want to do..
Another point from a good friend of mine who swings with his wife.. He says most single guys are just a dildo with a pulse! Couples, he says and a social gathering who can chat amongst themselves and no one is left out! Guys tend to chat about guy stuff and the lady gets to make the tea... Actually, I think that is a plus point!
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You did mention couples in your previous post and you appeared to differentiate singles as playthings, if not why did you mention it?
If you have to take a back seat or find space when your partner is playing then surely that's your or their choice, are you in any way suggesting that stops them being swingers?
As for what your friend has said, is that any different to the male half of some couples?
Your right it's not hard to confuse when posts are confusing. |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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Obviously not that hard to confuse some people! I never mentioned couples because the gist of the thread is about singles! But as you ask, of course they are playthings! Why would it be any different?
The only qualification I would make is that at least when we meet couples, I don't have to either take a back seat or find space! That said, sometimes that is all I want to do..
Another point from a good friend of mine who swings with his wife.. He says most single guys are just a dildo with a pulse! Couples, he says and a social gathering who can chat amongst themselves and no one is left out! Guys tend to chat about guy stuff and the lady gets to make the tea... Actually, I think that is a plus point!
You did mention couples in your previous post and you appeared to differentiate singles as playthings, if not why did you mention it?
If you have to take a back seat or find space when your partner is playing then surely that's your or their choice, are you in any way suggesting that stops them being swingers?
As for what your friend has said, is that any different to the male half of some couples?
Your right it's not hard to confuse when posts are confusing. "
I dont believe I am a swinger. I was initially here to experiment etc and no I wasnt after a quick shag.
Being a single on here has made me realise some couples do have 'standards' but others dont.
All I am saying if you think this site is for JUST couples then remove singles from your profile.
If you are after JUST couples fairy snuff, but why go on about singles not being swingers when there are loads looking for that so-called 'elusive bi fem' and why there is a single option on profiles???
Speak to admin if you dont like singles 'invading' your turf.
Pisses me off the posts when singles et al are penalised for not having a swinging partner but receive plenty of mails.
If you dont like singles on here then block them!
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We'd describe ourselves as traditional swingers, in as much as we only meet couples.
We had a brief.....very brief.....spell of singles meets with both sexes but soon realised the error of our ways.
As most of us are aware, swinging as its known today, was originally called 'wife swapping' or to be more P.C 'partner swapping'.
Whichever term is used they both have one thing in common......the word 'swapping'.
Therefore, the fact that singles don't bring anything to the party is the reason we don't class them as swingers.
As for single guys saying they're having no luck and they feel the site is geared to couples (swingers), that's easily remedied, find yourselves a like minded partner.
Or maybe they wouldn't want to swing with their partner, many guys have intimated as much in the past.
Of course it goes without saying that single women will always be more successful than men on the site because of the ratio if nothing else.
When we started using sites we were surprised that singles of either sex used them, probably because we always associated swinging with couples.
Well......that's our take on it.
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"You did mention couples in your previous post and you appeared to differentiate singles as playthings, if not why did you mention it?"
“Singles in the scene are playthings when they meet couples! “
I referred to singles as plaything when they meet couples, I did not say the same didn’t apply to couples. I was talking about singles.. There, not confusing at all..
" If you have to take a back seat or find space when your partner is playing then surely that's your or their choice, are you in any way suggesting that stops them being swingers?"
Did I not say it was my choice? And I didn’t say that was why they are not swingers!
" As for what your friend has said, is that any different to the male half of some couples?"
I think that by saying that of course couples are playthings makes this question a bit superfluous!
Trace & Rick have hit the nail on the head.. That to proper swingers is in our opinion, correct! We like to play with singles when we feel like it and will continue to do so, but if they think they are anything more than a plaything, they should think long and hard as to whether this is right for them!
BTW! I mean no offence to anyone, it’s just how we see it! If it really is too hard to take, stop mailing us hoping to get the delightful Innuendo into the sack! (and emptying it!)
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hahahah this post is funny as hell...
Standards are not falling;
firstly as they beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there are many many great looking women on this site.
secondly, it is probably due to most of the men that think every woman on this site wants to sleep with everyman
finally, there are alot more single men on this site so women have a right and deserve to be more selective |
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"So to be a swinger you have to be part of a couple?????????????????????
How on earth do you manage to type this shit with your head so far up your arse??????????!!!!!!
So, as I have said before, if singles are swingers just because they are on a swingers site, if I lift the bonnet on my car, does that make me a mechanic? NO!
If singles are swingers, then that means that all the singles on the pull, on a Saturday night are swingers too...
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Exactly our point. When couples meet couples, everyone swings; when couples meet a single, the couple swings and the single pulls; when two singles meet, they each pull.
So yes to the lovely gentleman who's now left the site, you do. As for how important the terminology is, I'll leave that to you to decide. |
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"hahahah this post is funny as hell...
Standards are not falling;
firstly as they beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there are many many great looking women on this site.
secondly, it is probably due to most of the men that think every woman on this site wants to sleep with everyman
finally, there are alot more single men on this site so women have a right and deserve to be more selective "
Excellent thread! Excellent discussion. And also a fantastic way to allow us to see the couples that for some reason think they are 'above' singles... So we can avoid them like the pretentious idiots that they are!!
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"hahahah this post is funny as hell...
Standards are not falling;
firstly as they beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there are many many great looking women on this site.
secondly, it is probably due to most of the men that think every woman on this site wants to sleep with everyman
finally, there are alot more single men on this site so women have a right and deserve to be more selective
Excellent thread! Excellent discussion. And also a fantastic way to allow us to see the couples that for some reason think they are 'above' singles... So we can avoid them like the pretentious idiots that they are!!
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It is believed by many that the origin of swinging is not 'wife swapping' (in the 'sixties' sense). Like everything that evolves and changes people will always latch onto the branch or element along the way that suits them and cling to it.
They're the owners of the one true religion!
Some who preach this idea of 'real swingers' should wake up and realise it's evolved. |
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"It is believed by many that the origin of swinging is not 'wife swapping' (in the 'sixties' sense). Like everything that evolves and changes people will always latch onto the branch or element along the way that suits them and cling to it.
They're the owners of the one true religion!
Some who preach this idea of 'real swingers' should wake up and realise it's evolved. "
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"I don't really see the problem with his posts .. I like people who know there standards and stick to them, just like I don't like people backing down and lowering their standards just to make their lives easier.
thats appreciative, but to post a thread which pretty uch says 'compared to when i started on here, all you women are dogs' isnt really that good.
why state the opinion?
why not just move on to another site if OP feels there is better options elsewhere, or rather the barrel is empty here.
one has to ask, where are these fantastic ladies OP met since then? has he scared them off?
Yet it is generally OK for women to moan about men.
where have i wrote that?
Where did I say you wrote it.... it was just a 'general' observation relevant to the point.
where is the fact you base that opinion on.
i havent read many posts where women have been bemoaning the fact there are too many below standard men on here.
moronic or ignorant, yes, but not generally below standard
How many threads would you like me to bump which are about men being unmeetworthy dickheads for one reason or another and the female OP gets loads of support?
All this guy is saying really is he is finding it harder to find women he is attracted to against his criteria... and he's right about a lot more of the women on here being sarcey... fuck it, I'll go one step further......... a lot of the women on cam in the chatrooms would turn milk if they pointed the camera 10 inches higher than their tits, yet they expect to be treated like the golden goose whilst talking down to any poor sap who doesn't say the right thing."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"hahahah this post is funny as hell...
Standards are not falling;
firstly as they beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there are many many great looking women on this site.
secondly, it is probably due to most of the men that think every woman on this site wants to
sleep with everyman
finally, there are alot more single men on this site so women have a right and deserve to be more selective "
You have just contradicted yourself mate, if beauty is on the eye of the beholder and I am therefore the beholder of what I see and from my personal opinion standards have fallen |
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"hahahah this post is funny as hell...
Standards are not falling;
firstly as they beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there are many many great looking women on this site.
secondly, it is probably due to most of the men that think every woman on this site wants to
sleep with everyman
finally, there are alot more single men on this site so women have a right and deserve to be more selective
You have just contradicted yourself mate, if beauty is on the eye of the beholder and I am therefore the beholder of what I see and from my personal opinion standards have fallen "
Two opposing views but both absolutely correct because of the subjective nature of the topic, that's why the forums can be so interesting at times. |
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