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over a year ago
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LGBT has been oppressed for quite some time now, it’s always a risk for anyone being open about their true sexuality, I’ve seen stories of people being abused/assaulted just because of their sexuality.
A lot of people find it comfortable to keep it to themselves I believe |
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A casual glance at any of the other 'Bi Male's' Threads should give you some idea.
Apparently we're all HIV ridden, multi STI infested, high risk, lying, untrustworthy, effeminate slags.
Fortunately.. I don't give a fuck what morons think of me. |
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"LGBT has been oppressed for quite some time now, it’s always a risk for anyone being open about their true sexuality, I’ve seen stories of people being abused/assaulted just because of their sexuality.
A lot of people find it comfortable to keep it to themselves I believe "
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"LGBT has been oppressed for quite some time now, it’s always a risk for anyone being open about their true sexuality, I’ve seen stories of people being abused/assaulted just because of their sexuality.
A lot of people find it comfortable to keep it to themselves I believe
Pity the fool who tried to assault me "
Haha im sure no one is messing with you but I’ve definitely seen it in the past, homophobic people are still everywhere which is disgusting in this day and age  |
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A guy tells his mates my girlfriend is bi all the mates wow can we watch you lucky thing.
A guy says he's bi his mates get very worried he's going to try chat them up etc.
problem is we have given every one a label gay straight bi .or anything else you can think of.
It's just sex a man kisses his friend in a bar a lot of people go that's sick.
A girl kisses her friend no one thinks nothing about it |
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"A guy tells his mates my girlfriend is bi all the mates wow can we watch you lucky thing.
A guy says he's bi his mates get very worried he's going to try chat them up etc.
problem is we have given every one a label gay straight bi .or anything else you can think of.
It's just sex a man kisses his friend in a bar a lot of people go that's sick.
A girl kisses her friend no one thinks nothing about it"
Depending on location a girl kissing a girl is still very very offensive to some and some men will make their voice heard on the situation |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"LGBT has been oppressed for quite some time now, it’s always a risk for anyone being open about their true sexuality, I’ve seen stories of people being abused/assaulted just because of their sexuality.
A lot of people find it comfortable to keep it to themselves I believe
Pity the fool who tried to assault me
Haha im sure no one is messing with you but I’ve definitely seen it in the past, homophobic people are still everywhere which is disgusting in this day and age "
I have friends who've dealt with this behaviour. I'm not 100% open about my sexuality in daily life, but it's not hidden either.
Ok.. there are women who wont sleep with us and men who dont know how to talk to us.. All of which I think is pretty sad, but I'm an understanding guy and it doesn't bother me.
To beat someone up or bully them mentally for something theyve no power over.. Whole different kind of low person. |
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Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is."
It's better being honest I think. At least you know who your friends are. |
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By *adet OP Man
over a year ago
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is."
Hmm. Seems the first rule of bi club is 'you do not talk about bi club' |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
Hmm. Seems the first rule of bi club is 'you do not talk about bi club'"
Quite the opposite. If more and more masculine, selective and honest men came forward as examples on here, in other media.. Then maybe all the nasty, stupid, little whisperous rumours could be countered?
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
It's better being honest I think. At least you know who your friends are. "
I agree. I’m openly bi on here because that’s my orientation, even though I haven’t had sexual contact with a man for 9 years. Only one person outside of Fab knows I’m bi. The repercussions of explaining that it took me 50 years to admit I was bi to myself to the rest of my family and friends are unthinkable. I haven’t got the emotional energy or courage for that kind of shit. |
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By *adet OP Man
over a year ago
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
It's better being honest I think. At least you know who your friends are.
I agree. I’m openly bi on here because that’s my orientation, even though I haven’t had sexual contact with a man for 9 years. Only one person outside of Fab knows I’m bi. The repercussions of explaining that it took me 50 years to admit I was bi to myself to the rest of my family and friends are unthinkable. I haven’t got the emotional energy or courage for that kind of shit. "
I was really only referring to fab. I get messages from couples where the guy is straight but the message says he's actually bi |
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Being bi-sexual is seen as higher risk for guys due to the gay stigma.
Thats my opinion but if you are only playing safe i don't see how that matters tbh.
It does seem to be a taboo otherwise aswell which i do find a bit bizarre... Bisexual people do generally respect someone if they are straight and have made that clear. |
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
It's better being honest I think. At least you know who your friends are.
I agree. I’m openly bi on here because that’s my orientation, even though I haven’t had sexual contact with a man for 9 years. Only one person outside of Fab knows I’m bi. The repercussions of explaining that it took me 50 years to admit I was bi to myself to the rest of my family and friends are unthinkable. I haven’t got the emotional energy or courage for that kind of shit.
I was really only referring to fab. I get messages from couples where the guy is straight but the message says he's actually bi"
It’s not surprising, but doesn’t allow people who really don’t wish to meet bi men the choice, when he pretends he’s straight. I understand it too as I am predominantly heterosexual, played straight for the whole of my life except for a handful of occasions throughout my life, and wish I wasn’t marginalised because of my sexuality. But as Genghis says ‘At least you know who your friends are’.
Also I am perfectly happy for people to have a preference too, I’m less happy if that preference is rooted in homophobia. Sometimes that is the case. |
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
It's better being honest I think. At least you know who your friends are.
I agree. I’m openly bi on here because that’s my orientation, even though I haven’t had sexual contact with a man for 9 years. Only one person outside of Fab knows I’m bi. The repercussions of explaining that it took me 50 years to admit I was bi to myself to the rest of my family and friends are unthinkable. I haven’t got the emotional energy or courage for that kind of shit.
I was really only referring to fab. I get messages from couples where the guy is straight but the message says he's actually bi
It’s not surprising, but doesn’t allow people who really don’t wish to meet bi men the choice, when he pretends he’s straight. I understand it too as I am predominantly heterosexual, played straight for the whole of my life except for a handful of occasions throughout my life, and wish I wasn’t marginalised because of my sexuality. But as Genghis says ‘At least you know who your friends are’.
Also I am perfectly happy for people to have a preference too, I’m less happy if that preference is rooted in homophobia. Sometimes that is the case."
I'm fine with preferences.. less fine with absolutes rooted in homophobia and misinformation.
I also too used a straight profile.. scared of how people would view me. Worried its effect what little female attention I got.
I may even of lies to my first few Fab meets in past profiles. However, I never felt comfy doing it, especially given the strength of feeling I've seen in some women who are utterly against the idea. I'd not want to sleep with a racist and find out afterwards. So I shouldn't subject a woman to sleeping with a 'poofter' if she feels super strongly.
Honesty.. That's the key for me. That's what has improved my sex life no end. Being brave enough to be myself, gives you the courage to be yourself.. to the point that's all you are. Relationships blossom. Confidence blooms. For me, part of that is embracing my bi side, not repressing it.
Be you whatever.
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Biphobia is rampant for both men and women but from my experience biphobia towards men is often more hateful.
For bisexual women your sexuality is mostly either dismissed or fetishised. I've dated bisexual men in the past though and been questioned on whether he was really just gay or if I was worried he would leave me for a man. That question I always found bizarre as nobody ever asks if he was worried I'd leave him for a woman. |
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How I see it I'm open and honest about who I am if some don't want to shag me because I'm bi it's there loss lol,
But yes I know what u mean the world we live it still accepts 2 women as natural but 2 men is still taboo |
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
Hmm. Seems the first rule of bi club is 'you do not talk about bi club'
Quite the opposite. If more and more masculine, selective and honest men came forward as examples on here, in other media.. Then maybe all the nasty, stupid, little whisperous rumours could be countered?
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Absolutely agree but also get why it's not easy for many to be out. |
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"It seems that female bisexuality is far more acceptable than male bisexuality
Why are guys still so worried about being open?"
Think that's probably right. Women admitting they are bi are not seen as less feminine, but bi men are often seen as less masculine. Also, male bi activity was illegal while female bi activity never was.
In our swinging experience, it's almost standard for the women to do some kissing and fingering but the men mostly don't interact. Which is a pity. |
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
It's better being honest I think. At least you know who your friends are.
I agree. I’m openly bi on here because that’s my orientation, even though I haven’t had sexual contact with a man for 9 years. Only one person outside of Fab knows I’m bi. The repercussions of explaining that it took me 50 years to admit I was bi to myself to the rest of my family and friends are unthinkable. I haven’t got the emotional energy or courage for that kind of shit. "
This is so sad. Big hugs! It is those who make it so hard who are the ones who should really be ashamed of themselves. |
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By *adet OP Man
over a year ago
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
It's better being honest I think. At least you know who your friends are.
I agree. I’m openly bi on here because that’s my orientation, even though I haven’t had sexual contact with a man for 9 years. Only one person outside of Fab knows I’m bi. The repercussions of explaining that it took me 50 years to admit I was bi to myself to the rest of my family and friends are unthinkable. I haven’t got the emotional energy or courage for that kind of shit.
This is so sad. Big hugs! It is those who make it so hard who are the ones who should really be ashamed of themselves."
It's almost more acceptable for two guys to be beating the shit out of each other. No wonder guys are losing the race right now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
It's better being honest I think. At least you know who your friends are.
I agree. I’m openly bi on here because that’s my orientation, even though I haven’t had sexual contact with a man for 9 years. Only one person outside of Fab knows I’m bi. The repercussions of explaining that it took me 50 years to admit I was bi to myself to the rest of my family and friends are unthinkable. I haven’t got the emotional energy or courage for that kind of shit.
This is so sad. Big hugs! It is those who make it so hard who are the ones who should really be ashamed of themselves.
It's almost more acceptable for two guys to be beating the shit out of each other. No wonder guys are losing the race right now"
Sad thing is.. there is no race. |
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By *adet OP Man
over a year ago
South of Ipswich |
"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
It's better being honest I think. At least you know who your friends are.
I agree. I’m openly bi on here because that’s my orientation, even though I haven’t had sexual contact with a man for 9 years. Only one person outside of Fab knows I’m bi. The repercussions of explaining that it took me 50 years to admit I was bi to myself to the rest of my family and friends are unthinkable. I haven’t got the emotional energy or courage for that kind of shit.
This is so sad. Big hugs! It is those who make it so hard who are the ones who should really be ashamed of themselves.
It's almost more acceptable for two guys to be beating the shit out of each other. No wonder guys are losing the race right now
Sad thing is.. there is no race."
Guys just seem to be so quick to dislike each other where as women seem to support each other |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
It's better being honest I think. At least you know who your friends are.
I agree. I’m openly bi on here because that’s my orientation, even though I haven’t had sexual contact with a man for 9 years. Only one person outside of Fab knows I’m bi. The repercussions of explaining that it took me 50 years to admit I was bi to myself to the rest of my family and friends are unthinkable. I haven’t got the emotional energy or courage for that kind of shit.
This is so sad. Big hugs! It is those who make it so hard who are the ones who should really be ashamed of themselves.
It's almost more acceptable for two guys to be beating the shit out of each other. No wonder guys are losing the race right now
Sad thing is.. there is no race.
Guys just seem to be so quick to dislike each other where as women seem to support each other "
I dunno.. Geminiman, Witchdoctor and myself are pretty supportive guys. Even Tame was sticking up for the batty boys earlier this week.
My very best mate is my only close on-swinging friend who knows about my bi side. We're both hairy knuckled, typical bloke blokes in most things we do and enjoy. I was totally devastated when my ex told him.. without warning me first.
I envisaged being ostracized by my ex army friends, ousted and ridiculed.
He treats me exactly as he always did. Accepts my explanation of things as they are.. Are each others shoulders to lean on when his mrs or my ex are getting us down. He's not told a soul, because he's a fucking legend of a friend.
Guys can be equally as warm as women I find. I think we just like to make sure it's a real problem that someone is suffering with. Before we offer the support someone might be craving.
How can we help? If nobody asks us to.. Especially when most of us men grow up hearing horny frustrated man chatter around all of our mates. |
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I think it is awful that people cannot accept other people for who they are. People. Thankfully, my input on my kids attitude towards sexuality has come good. None of my 3 are 'bothered' by peoples orientation. Just accept them for who they are. Maybe, if we try we can get the next generation to feel this way too. Big hugs to all you bi people who have had some bad experiences . |
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By *adet OP Man
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"I think it is awful that people cannot accept other people for who they are. People. Thankfully, my input on my kids attitude towards sexuality has come good. None of my 3 are 'bothered' by peoples orientation. Just accept them for who they are. Maybe, if we try we can get the next generation to feel this way too. Big hugs to all you bi people who have had some bad experiences ."
This gives me hope. Thank you so much |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it is awful that people cannot accept other people for who they are. People. Thankfully, my input on my kids attitude towards sexuality has come good. None of my 3 are 'bothered' by peoples orientation. Just accept them for who they are. Maybe, if we try we can get the next generation to feel this way too. Big hugs to all you bi people who have had some bad experiences .
This gives me hope. Thank you so much"
Not that you need to thank me, but you're welcome  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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It's true that bi male activity is still very much stigmatized even in this so called "liberated" world, you only have to look at most clubs on non-bi nights to see evidence of that where bi male activity is frowned upon yet bi female activity is almost a spectator sport and certainly expected for/by many.
That said in my time here I've not experienced a great deal of disgust or difficulty because of my sexuality - and on the rare (two) occasions when I have it's actually been from women being particularly vile about it - mostly people have been either accepting of who I am, or in some instances welcoming of it.
In fact most of the discussion I have seen around male bisexuality has been that raised by bisexual guys, usually in a very generalised way without providing specific examples, which leads me to wonder how much the "non-acceptance" is as much a perception based thing in the heads of bisexual men (perhaps driven by another perception of the shame factor society has historically made us feel) as much as it is an actuality.
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"A guy tells his mates my girlfriend is bi all the mates wow can we watch you lucky thing.
A guy says he's bi his mates get very worried he's going to try chat them up etc.
problem is we have given every one a label gay straight bi .or anything else you can think of.
It's just sex a man kisses his friend in a bar a lot of people go that's sick.
A girl kisses her friend no one thinks nothing about it"
Tell that to the two girls who were recently savagely beaten up after kissing on a bus |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"A guy tells his mates my girlfriend is bi all the mates wow can we watch you lucky thing.
A guy says he's bi his mates get very worried he's going to try chat them up etc.
problem is we have given every one a label gay straight bi .or anything else you can think of.
It's just sex a man kisses his friend in a bar a lot of people go that's sick.
A girl kisses her friend no one thinks nothing about it
Tell that to the two girls who were recently savagely beaten up after kissing on a bus"
Very good point!!  |
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The minute I was caught as a teenager dressing up in my mother's nightie. I was immediately labelled, at first it was great when my dad was screaming at me that I was a #£&+## (can't remember the swear words he used) little Transvestite, as I realised I wasn't alone with these feelings. However after he decided to beat these feelings out of me and obviously turn me into a real man I decided labels can hurt.
Me and my Dad aren't close
I wasn't in any way gay or bi with these initial experiences, I pleasured myself with images of women wearing the type of clothing I found sexy (still do  ) and it took time for erotic fiction, that I'm still a massive fan of, to open my mind to having sex with guys whilst dressed.
My bisexuality is fully connected to my transvestism I can't have sex, unless I'm in that mindset and the clothes, makeup and wig transform my personality to express a more feminine side to myself. Which in turn allows me to want to experience sex with guys. If I confess my Transvestism to a friend or partner it doesn't take long for the bisexuality side to be discussed as well.
Should it matter ? Hopefully in the future once we are open enough to accept sexuality is fluid, no it won't. My oldest son (9) is with me today, he's wearing a dress (it must be in the genes) his choice, never seen or knows about my crossdressing, for his sake I truly hope attitudes change. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is."
Totally agree. When I had straight on my profile I got alot more response. Now I'm lucky if I get any. But I have a female fwb shes bi and we could be at it every night. |
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By *adet OP Man
over a year ago
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"It seems that female bisexuality is far more acceptable than male bisexuality
Why are guys still so worried about being open?
Can you supply the statistics for that? "
Just from observations. And the PMs I receive |
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"It seems that female bisexuality is far more acceptable than male bisexuality
Why are guys still so worried about being open?
Can you supply the statistics for that?
Just from observations. And the PMs I receive "
And you have a female profile too? |
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By *adet OP Man
over a year ago
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
Totally agree. When I had straight on my profile I got alot more response. Now I'm lucky if I get any. But I have a female fwb shes bi and we could be at it every night. "
Oh dear. And much as suspected. Good on ya for staying true though |
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
Totally agree. When I had straight on my profile I got alot more response. Now I'm lucky if I get any. But I have a female fwb shes bi and we could be at it every night.
Oh dear. And much as suspected. Good on ya for staying true though "
I changed mine to bi for a few days just to put all these threads to the test, just to see was there bias because before I was only guessing, and I certainly didn’t get any less replies from messages than before, slightly more but certainly not less..soooooo |
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
It's better being honest I think. At least you know who your friends are.
I agree. I’m openly bi on here because that’s my orientation, even though I haven’t had sexual contact with a man for 9 years. Only one person outside of Fab knows I’m bi. The repercussions of explaining that it took me 50 years to admit I was bi to myself to the rest of my family and friends are unthinkable. I haven’t got the emotional energy or courage for that kind of shit.
This is so sad. Big hugs! It is those who make it so hard who are the ones who should really be ashamed of themselves.
It's almost more acceptable for two guys to be beating the shit out of each other. No wonder guys are losing the race right now
Sad thing is.. there is no race.
Guys just seem to be so quick to dislike each other where as women seem to support each other
I dunno.. Geminiman, Witchdoctor and myself are pretty supportive guys. Even Tame was sticking up for the batty boys earlier this week.
My very best mate is my only close on-swinging friend who knows about my bi side. We're both hairy knuckled, typical bloke blokes in most things we do and enjoy. I was totally devastated when my ex told him.. without warning me first.
I envisaged being ostracized by my ex army friends, ousted and ridiculed.
He treats me exactly as he always did. Accepts my explanation of things as they are.. Are each others shoulders to lean on when his mrs or my ex are getting us down. He's not told a soul, because he's a fucking legend of a friend.
Guys can be equally as warm as women I find. I think we just like to make sure it's a real problem that someone is suffering with. Before we offer the support someone might be craving.
How can we help? If nobody asks us to.. Especially when most of us men grow up hearing horny frustrated man chatter around all of our mates. "
I had a similar experience with my ex partner. While we were together we had great sex and she was fully supportive of me being bi. In fact she asked me a couple of times to get a bi mate round and play with him in front of her, she was really into seeing bi guys fuck and also being fucked by both of us at the same time.
When we split, she said my secret bi side would stay secret with her. After a while she messaged me to say some awful stuff plus to say she was going to destroy me and I'd have no friends left by the time she'd finished. She did tell all and sundry about my bisexuality BUT that backfired on her because a lot of our friends are LBGT people.
Some people who are straight and other bi people have said to me they hadn't a clue about me being bi until she outed me but they weren't bothered and wished me well and good luck.
We live in supposedly enlightened times but as a bi male I'm not openly bi out in the community because I know that quite a few people are not enlightened in their attitude towards bi guys. It's a shame but that's human nature I suppose. It's an odd contradiction though that bi ladies are far more accepted in society.
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By *adet OP Man
over a year ago
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
It's better being honest I think. At least you know who your friends are.
I agree. I’m openly bi on here because that’s my orientation, even though I haven’t had sexual contact with a man for 9 years. Only one person outside of Fab knows I’m bi. The repercussions of explaining that it took me 50 years to admit I was bi to myself to the rest of my family and friends are unthinkable. I haven’t got the emotional energy or courage for that kind of shit.
This is so sad. Big hugs! It is those who make it so hard who are the ones who should really be ashamed of themselves.
It's almost more acceptable for two guys to be beating the shit out of each other. No wonder guys are losing the race right now
Sad thing is.. there is no race.
Guys just seem to be so quick to dislike each other where as women seem to support each other
I dunno.. Geminiman, Witchdoctor and myself are pretty supportive guys. Even Tame was sticking up for the batty boys earlier this week.
My very best mate is my only close on-swinging friend who knows about my bi side. We're both hairy knuckled, typical bloke blokes in most things we do and enjoy. I was totally devastated when my ex told him.. without warning me first.
I envisaged being ostracized by my ex army friends, ousted and ridiculed.
He treats me exactly as he always did. Accepts my explanation of things as they are.. Are each others shoulders to lean on when his mrs or my ex are getting us down. He's not told a soul, because he's a fucking legend of a friend.
Guys can be equally as warm as women I find. I think we just like to make sure it's a real problem that someone is suffering with. Before we offer the support someone might be craving.
How can we help? If nobody asks us to.. Especially when most of us men grow up hearing horny frustrated man chatter around all of our mates.
I had a similar experience with my ex partner. While we were together we had great sex and she was fully supportive of me being bi. In fact she asked me a couple of times to get a bi mate round and play with him in front of her, she was really into seeing bi guys fuck and also being fucked by both of us at the same time.
When we split, she said my secret bi side would stay secret with her. After a while she messaged me to say some awful stuff plus to say she was going to destroy me and I'd have no friends left by the time she'd finished. She did tell all and sundry about my bisexuality BUT that backfired on her because a lot of our friends are LBGT people.
Some people who are straight and other bi people have said to me they hadn't a clue about me being bi until she outed me but they weren't bothered and wished me well and good luck.
We live in supposedly enlightened times but as a bi male I'm not openly bi out in the community because I know that quite a few people are not enlightened in their attitude towards bi guys. It's a shame but that's human nature I suppose. It's an odd contradiction though that bi ladies are far more accepted in society.
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"Since changing Mr Playful’s sexual orientation to ‘Bi-curious’ our messages from couples has dropped dramatically, so that might be an answer right there. But as we believe in being open an honest, it will remain as is.
Totally agree. When I had straight on my profile I got alot more response. Now I'm lucky if I get any. But I have a female fwb shes bi and we could be at it every night.
Oh dear. And much as suspected. Good on ya for staying true though
I changed mine to bi for a few days just to put all these threads to the test, just to see was there bias because before I was only guessing, and I certainly didn’t get any less replies from messages than before, slightly more but certainly not less..soooooo"
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I am a bi male and feel that I have the best of both worlds, and am no way concerned or worried about. I am not attracted to men, but enjoy sex with them as much as with ladies.
Great fun and life is too short to deny my sexuality.
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"It seems that female bisexuality is far more acceptable than male bisexuality
Why are guys still so worried about being open?"
Unfortunately there's still a stigma about males being bi or gay. There shouldn't be on this site of all places but there is and we just have to ignore any prejudice or confront it politely.
It's not exactly 100% acceptable for women to be openly sexual but it's a lot nearer becoming so than with men.
If guys want to keep their sexual desires and preferences private, that's fine by me.
I think I'm lucky in being able to enjoy the best of both worlds.
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"A casual glance at any of the other 'Bi Male's' Threads should give you some idea.
Apparently we're all HIV ridden, multi STI infested, high risk, lying, untrustworthy, effeminate slags.
Fortunately.. I don't give a fuck what morons think of me."
Absolutely! Just be who you are and fuck the rest of them. Literally if you have to.
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"It seems that female bisexuality is far more acceptable than male bisexuality
Why are guys still so worried about being open?"
No idea..
I personally dont find men attractive women are so much more appealing. However I class myself as bicurious but only play bi with couples. For me it's about every body enjoying the sex together, its about giving and receiving sexual pleasure with no inhibitions or fear..
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